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Relationships matter. Do you want to know the nitty gritty of what makes a relationship work? Get your answers to relationship questions. Learn how to keep respect alive & well, because lack of respect is why people get divorced.  Learn what builds trust & how to recover from infidelity, drama or codependency. Advice from psychotherapist Rhoda Sommer based on over 35 years of working with couples. www.therapyideas.net

What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't Rhoda Sommer on Relationships

    • Relationships
    • 4.7, 72 Ratings

Relationships matter. Do you want to know the nitty gritty of what makes a relationship work? Get your answers to relationship questions. Learn how to keep respect alive & well, because lack of respect is why people get divorced.  Learn what builds trust & how to recover from infidelity, drama or codependency. Advice from psychotherapist Rhoda Sommer based on over 35 years of working with couples. www.therapyideas.net

    Attachment Theory & Relationships

    Attachment Theory & Relationships

    Attachment theory is important because it's going to help you to understand your own relationships. Information is power and recognizing yourself in one of these attachment styles could really improve your future. If your parenting was unpredictable in childhood you might develop into an anxious attacher. If you were ignored early in life you become an avoider because they learned they have to depend on themselves. Interview with Annie Chen.

    • 30 min
    Codependency, Let's Think About It As Self Love Deficiency

    Codependency, Let's Think About It As Self Love Deficiency

    Ross Rosenberg is important because he gave us a new way to think about codependency as self love deficient. He also explains why so many codependent people are addicted to being with the wrong partner, are afraid to be alone & often hook up with narcissists. He offers observe/ don't absorb as a technique to change & grow. 

    • 35 min
    Quarantine Life & Solving Relationship Struggles

    Quarantine Life & Solving Relationship Struggles

    When you are trapped together it can be easy to get stuck in obsessing about all the negatives that annoy you. Our brains love to hang onto negativity. Sometimes people miss that heady excitement of being in love which is different from actually living with love. Living with love means the work of acceptance. Acceptance of the annoyances because you are well aware of how annoying you are as well.

    • 12 min
    Relationships Require The Benefit Of The Doubt

    Relationships Require The Benefit Of The Doubt

    Relationships so easily end up in feeling critical of your partner or annoyed, that’s because living together exposes us to the other person’s dark side. Our brains encourage us to indulge our negativity. Add to that any resentments that have silently piled up which will feed stinginess. The resentments lie waiting in the dark to whack your partner off at the knees. 

    • 11 min
    Partners Who Take Up Too Much Space in a Relationship & A Marriage Story (The Movie)

    Partners Who Take Up Too Much Space in a Relationship & A Marriage Story (The Movie)

    Marriage is work because it’s a very tricky business for a marriage to get things right for BOTH people. That’s why marriage is hard work. The movie A Marriage Story gets a lot of things right. You watch how both Charlie & Nicole have responsibility for the demise of the marriage. Charlie is someone who takes up most of the space & Nicole allows it to happen.

    • 14 min
    Safety Has Exaggerated Importance In Relationships

    Safety Has Exaggerated Importance In Relationships

    Safety is a way we lie to ourselves about what will work to have a better life & better relationships. We clutch at believing it is safer to avoid talking about problems with our partners. Choices made for safety are always choices made out of fear. Safety is about the false comfort that false beliefs offer.

    • 15 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
72 Ratings

72 Ratings

Clarisse Gomez ,

Awesome Podcast!!!

Rhoda, host of the What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't podcast, highlight all aspects of relationships, wellness and more in this can’t miss podcast! The host and expert guests offer insightful advice and information that is helpful to anyone that listens!

cmsm0040 ,

Regular Listener Here!

She has fabulous guests! I wish they could talk longer. The host has great insight, as well. I wish she had the show better produced because the sound isn’t fabulous.

San Diego 007 ,

Love this podcast

I have worked with transitioning veterans in higher education for 15 years and am a veteran myself. After going through a divorce and seeing all the problems my students were facing with relationships I began really researching this topic. Rhoda's advice is priceless and my wife and I refer to it all the time. I have finally built a couples enrichment course and often refer clients to this podcast. Take a listen you will get a lot out of it.

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