When High=Functioning Meets Avoidance | Why Successful Women Attract Avoidant Partners

In episode 3 of The HERIS Edit, Brittany and Kristen explore why high-functioning, successful women often find themselves drawn to avoidant partners - and what avoidance can actually look like inside a relationship.

They unpack patterns like discomfort with emotional closeness, shifts in consistency, conflict avoidance, and responses shaped by early attachment experiences. The conversation explores how competence can feel regulating to an avoidant partner, while high-achieving women may unconsciously treat mixed signals, emotional distance, or "I'm not ready" as something to solve, prove, or overcome.

Through personal reflection, they discuss how abandonment wounds, performance conditioning, and the desire to be "chosen" can keep women stuck in confusing, disorienting cycles.

This episode is an honest conversation about hard conversations, behavioral change, emotional safety, and learning to soften without abandoning yourself. Brittany and Kristen invite listeners to get clear on what they want, what they no longer want, and what it actually takes to build a relationship where both people can feel safe, seen, and met.