When Roles Reverse: Navigating Evolving Relationship Dynamics in Caregiving

What happens when a loved one's cognitive health starts to decline and you don't know how to help?

When families begin navigating a dementia diagnosis, the challenge isn't just memory loss - it's confusion, personality changes, frustration and the emotional weight of watching someone you love struggle in real time. In this episode, Jill Ladaa, Alzheimer's and dementia care gerontologist at Brookdale Senior Living, joins hosts MB and Roy to break down what's actually happening and how to respond.

Jill shares how dementia often shows up before memory loss, why a diagnosis can bring both fear and relief and how caregivers can shift from reacting emotionally to responding with clarity. Drawing from her years of expertise and her own dementia caregiving experience, she explains how education reduces fear for both the caregiver and the person living with dementia.

If you're caring for an aging parent, spouse or loved one, this episode can help you navigate dementia with more clarity, confidence and control.

CHAPTERS 00:00 - Dementia & caregiving: what this episode will actually help you understand 01:30 - Introducing Jill Ladaa + her role at Brookdale Senior Living 03:00 - What a dementia specialist actually does (and why it matters) 05:00 - Why Jill chose dementia care 08:30 - Why education reduces fear for caregivers and patients 10:00 - The emotional reality of diagnosis (fear + relief) 12:30 - Dementia doesn't always start with memory loss (personality changes) 14:30 - Caregiver frustration vs patient confusion 16:00 - Why early diagnosis is critical (and often missed) 17:00 - Conditions that can mimic dementia (UTI, dehydration, etc.) 19:00 - Why people with dementia resist help (identity + independence) 29:00 - What to say when someone says "I want to go home" 41:00 - Real example: Moving a loved one into care (without forcing it) 45:00 - Why you need to have these conversations early 53:00 - Why some patients don't know they have dementia (anosognosia) 01:02:00 - Final takeaway: What caregivers need to remember most

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