When You Don’t Know

Joy and Mathieu Rossignol
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When You Don’t Know is the faith-based podcast for Christians navigating dating while having relationship anxiety. Hosted by Joy & Mathieu, a married couple and therapist duo, we get real about the doubts, fears, and questions that often come with love. Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and powerful guest interviews, we’ll help you date with confidence, overcome anxiety, and build a marriage that lasts. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this podcast is your safe space to discover what it means to love well—even "when you dont know".

  1. 1D AGO

    138. If It's Not 100% Yes, Does It Have to Be a No?

    “If it’s not a 100% yes, then it’s a no.” It sounds like solid relationship advice, until you’re someone with an anxious, analytical brain. In this episode, we’re talking about why that mindset can be so harmful for people who struggle with relationship anxiety. If your mind is always searching for certainty, analyzing your feelings, and looking for signs that you’re making the “right” choice, you may never feel the kind of 100% clarity you think you need. That doesn’t automatically mean you’re in the wrong relationship. In this episode, we dive into what it looks like to stop chasing certainty, accept how your brain may be wired, and let go of the belief that doubt always means something is off. We also talk about what it can look like to choose your relationship in the midst of uncertainty and move forward without needing your mind to fully calm down first. If you’ve ever felt stuck because you’re waiting to feel completely sure before moving forward, this episode is for you. ✨ Links: Get our Silence the Noise Course: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout Join our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout Other resources: https://stan.store/joyrossignol 👉🏾 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol

    28 min

  2. MAR 17

    137. You May Be Underestimating the Good Traits

    So many people with relationship anxiety are focused on the wrong things in their relationship. We can get so caught up in chemistry, certainty, and whether we feel “enough” all the time… that we overlook the traits that actually matter most. And honestly, I think we assume the good traits we’re seeing are more common than they really are. Kindness. Safety. Consistency. Good character. We can treat those things like they are just the bare minimum, when in reality, they are not as common as we think. If you are with someone who is kind, good, and safe, that matters more than your anxious mind may want to admit. In this episode, we are talking about why relationship anxiety can cause you to focus on the wrong things and how to start valuing what actually matters in a healthy relationship. ✨ Links: Get our Silence the Noise Course: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout Join our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout Other resources: https://stan.store/joyrossignol 👉🏾 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol

    23 min

  3. MAR 3

    136. Is God really telling you to break up with your partner?

    If you’ve ever felt a sudden “voice” telling you to break up, and it came with guilt, fear, or shame, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we’re responding to a message that deeply moved us. A man shared that after hearing a sermon, he felt what seemed like conviction telling him he was in the wrong relationship and needed to leave, even though he loves his girlfriend and wants to serve Christ with her. So how do you know if something is truly from God? In this episode, we talk about the difference between conviction and anxiety. We unpack how God actually leads His children. And we share why we do not believe He randomly asks someone to leave a relationship as a test of obedience or trust. If a thought feels urgent, condemning, and heavy, it may not be the Holy Spirit. God’s voice brings clarity and peace, even when it challenges us. It does not trap you in shame or constant second-guessing. If you struggle with relationship anxiety or constantly question whether you should stay or go, this episode will help you slow down and discern what is really happening beneath the fear. Links- Podcast EXCLUSIVE 3-Masterclass Bundle: https://stan.store/joyrossignol/p/3masterclass-bundle If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. Join Silence the Noise Course: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout Want to dive deeper? 1:1 Relationship Anxiety Intensive: https://stan.store/joyrossignol/p/11-relationship-anxiety-intensive Payment plan for 1:1 Intensive: https://stan.store/joyrossignol/p/11-relationship-anxiety-intensive-payment-plan Most intimate way to work with me-1:1 Coaching Mentorship (3-months): https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy Other resources: https://stan.store/joyrossignol 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol

    31 min

  4. FEB 17

    135. How to Talk to Your Partner About Relationship Anxiety

    👉 If you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD, one of the hardest questions is: “How do I tell my partner what’s going on in my head… without scaring them, hurting them, or damaging the relationship?” In this episode, we’re talking about how to have the conversation and how to know when you’re actually ready to have it. Because sharing your anxiety isn’t about confessing every intrusive thought. And it’s definitely not about offloading your anxiety onto them. In this conversation, we cover:     •    How to explain relationship anxiety to a partner who doesn’t experience it     •    What your partner actually needs to know — and what they don’t     ​    How to talk about anxiety without making your partner responsible for managing it    •    Common mistakes that accidentally fuel more anxiety in the relationshipIf you’ve ever worried that being honest about your anxiety might push your partner away, this episode is for you. 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://stan.store/joyrossignol 👉 Relationship Anxiety Academy: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout 👉 1:1 Coaching: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=lnk.bio

    34 min

  5. FEB 3

    134. When the Prophetic Becomes Harmful in Relationships

    The prophetic is often presented as a reliable way to discern relationships — but for many people, it becomes a source of fear, control, and harm. In this episode, we talk about spiritual abuse that took place in the context of prophetic language and relationships, and why relying on prophetic words to make dating or marriage decisions can be deeply unsafe. We unpack how “God told me” has been used to override consent, silence discernment, and create anxiety — and why this approach doesn’t reflect how God actually leads His people. This conversation is honest, grounded, and necessary for anyone who has been hurt or confused by spiritual authority in relationships. 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

    45 min

  6. JAN 20

    133. When Spiritual Authority Replaces Discernment

    What do you do when spiritual advice about your relationship leaves you feeling anxious, confused, or afraid of getting it wrong? In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we talk about the tension many Christians experience when church leadership doesn’t support their relationship — not for biblical reasons, but because of feelings, preferences, or a perceived “lack of peace.” For many, this creates deep relationship anxiety and the fear that disagreeing with leaders means disobeying God. We explore: • The difference between spiritual guidance and spiritual control • Why anxiety often shows up when obedience to leaders is confused with obedience to God • How God actually leads His people — and why fear, pressure, and urgency aren’t part of His voice • What healthy spiritual leadership looks like in dating and relationships If you’ve ever felt torn between your faith, your relationship, and your own discernment, this conversation is for you. You’re not rebellious. You’re not faithless. And you’re not broken for wanting clarity and peace. 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

    27 min

  7. JAN 6

    132. When You Don’t Know If Your Callings Align

    You’re in a relationship, but you’re unsure if your callings align. “What if this means we’re not meant to be together?” “What if I’m missing God’s will?” In this episode, we talk about why uncertainty around calling creates so much anxiety in Christian relationships, and why not having clarity doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. We also discuss how fear can disguise itself as discernment, and how to approach questions about calling without spiraling into overthinking. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. And you didn’t ruin God’s plan. Hope you enjoy! 👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol 👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

    38 min

  8. 12/02/2025

    131. The Cost of Anxiety: What It Steals From You and Your Relationship

    Relationship anxiety doesn’t just make you overthink — it takes things from you. Your confidence. Your peace. Your ability to enjoy your relationship. And for so many people, the anxiety becomes so overwhelming that ending the relationship feels like the only way to get relief. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the real cost of anxiety and how it silently impacts your relationship even when nothing is actually wrong. We’re talking about: ✨ How anxiety steals your confidence ✨ Why it’s so hard to feel peace around someone you love ✨ How fear becomes the lens you see your partner through ✨ Why so many people consider breaking up just to feel “normal” again ✨ And most importantly… how to silence the internal noise so you can finally breathe If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I just feel secure?” or “Why does my mind always spiral?”, this episode will make you feel deeply understood — and give you hope for a calmer, more grounded relationship. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And there is a path back to peace. Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now! And as an extended Black Friday gift, you can get $200 off from today until December 6th. If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout

    37 min
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When You Don’t Know is the faith-based podcast for Christians navigating dating while having relationship anxiety. Hosted by Joy & Mathieu, a married couple and therapist duo, we get real about the doubts, fears, and questions that often come with love. Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and powerful guest interviews, we’ll help you date with confidence, overcome anxiety, and build a marriage that lasts. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this podcast is your safe space to discover what it means to love well—even "when you dont know".

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  • Creator
    Joy and Mathieu Rossignol
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    140
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Joy and Mathieu Rossignol
  • Show Website
    When You Don’t Know

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