Why Am I Like This?!

Mental Breakdown
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We are a therapist and a psychiatric nurse practitioner and we want to share a simplified view of these complex concepts that are often misunderstood, avoided, and even feared. This is a podcast about being human, adapting to life, and learning from our unique experience. We try to provide the answers to question: Why am I like this?

  1. 29 de jun.

    Why Does My Body React Before My Brain?!

    We talk about why the body can react before the brain, and how trauma gets stored as sensations and states instead of a clean story. We redefine trauma as overwhelm, connect it to adverse childhood experiences and chronic stress, and share ways to get grounded so you can respond with more choice.   • body-first reactions in real life, from blushing to going blank   • “flipping your lid” and why the prefrontal cortex goes offline   • cognitive, emotional, and sensory processing channels and what they are for   • emotional shutdown, dissociation, and the electric fence metaphor   • sensory numbing, athletic push-through culture, and survival responses   • ACEs study links between childhood stress and adult mental and physical health   • trauma as overwhelm beyond “big events,” including neglect and parentification   • fragmented memory, triggers, and why the hippocampus loses time context  • grounding and orientation skills to return to the present   • progressive muscle relaxation as a safety signal   • therapy as relational safety, plus EMDR reprocessing and “name it to tame it”  • practicing regulation daily, wise mind, and building self-compassion   If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends. Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    41 min

  2. 20 de mai.

    Getting Help That Actually Fits!

    We break down how to choose the right kind of mental health support when you’re not sure where to start and you’re tired of guessing. We explain how therapy, medication management, and functional or integrative psychiatry can work together to reduce symptoms and get closer to root causes.   • common barriers to getting help and why “who do I go to” is a real problem   • the difference between therapists, counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychiatric nurse practitioners   • why most people need separate providers for therapy and meds and what it looks like when one clinic coordinates care   • how CBT and DBT support stabilization before deeper trauma work like EMDR or ART   • using medication to lower symptom severity so you can actually do the work in therapy   • whole person mental health foundations including sleep, nutrition, movement, and inflammation   • functional psychiatry vs integrative psychiatry and what labs can and cannot tell you   • cost and insurance realities plus tips for choosing a plan that covers behavioral health   • genetic testing basics including CYP metabolism and how results can guide dosing   • what to expect in an intake, how treatment plans and goals get set, and why early sessions can feel technical   • how to use a free 15-minute consult to test fit and reduce fear of wasting energy   If you like our show, rate it on your favorite platform. Follow the show.   Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    40 min

  3. 5 de mai.

    Normal People With Normal Problems

    We get personal about what it feels like to be sick, stressed, and dysregulated while still believing we have to keep performing. We unpack how the nervous system shapes our reactions and how self-compassion, repair, and a few practical tools can help us act more like the people we want to be.  • the belief that being sick means being weak or lazy  • naming the “story we’re telling ourselves” and how meaning-making drives shame  • apologising to get ahead of judgment and why it backfires  • parenting without making kids responsible for our regulation  • dissociation as a coping skill and when it helps or harms  • co-regulation basics like inviting instead of demanding and using consistent language  • the window of tolerance and why capacity drops under stress  • using simple body tools to come back into regulation  • recognising body-first reactions like flushing or gut responses  • people pleasing, rumination, and the “ice cream” overthinking spiral  • balancing repair with over-apologising and avoiding  • giving ourselves grace when we fall out of our values  we would love it if you could leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends. Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    42 min

  4. 25 de mar.

    Why Am I Stuck in A Loop?!

    We unpack why OCD makes the brain feel stuck in a loop and why intrusive thoughts can create a real sense of impending doom. We explain what is happening in the brain and share practical steps for responding with more clarity and compassion.  • defining obsessive compulsive disorder as obsessions plus compulsions and how compulsions can be mental  • common OCD patterns like contamination fears checking symmetry rituals and reassurance seeking  • why intrusive thoughts feel like proof you are bad and how OCD assigns false meaning  • the danger detector loop and why it feels involuntary rather than a self-control issue  • the sledding groove metaphor for habit pathways and how awareness starts to weaken the groove  • how shame and fear fuel the cycle and why naming OCD reduces threat  • when trauma family patterns autism or PANS PANDAS can shape OCD symptoms  • Brain Lock by Dr Jeffrey Schwartz and the four steps relabel reattribute refocus revalue  • refocusing with a replacement behavior and building distress tolerance over time  • support options like therapy medication supplements and TMS to reduce symptom intensity  If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends.  The book we referenced can be found here: https://jeffreymschwartz.com/brain-lock/ Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    40 min

  5. 11 de mar.

    Why Do I Struggle with Executive Dysfunction

    We reframe ADHD in teens and young adults as a developmental nervous system issue rather than a character flaw, then unpack why independence can feel impossible when executive functioning lags. We share practical ways to reduce shame and power struggles while building autonomy, skills, and real readiness for adult life.  • executive dysfunction and why task initiation stalls  • prefrontal cortex development and the role of attachment and attunement  • how stress, trauma, and misattunement can shape ADHD symptoms  • shame, negative self-talk, and lower self-esteem in ADHD  • why teens can act younger than their age emotionally  • how pushing independence too hard can trigger shutdown and “failure to launch”  • moving from command and control to a teaching mindset  • autonomy, choice language, and letting natural consequences teach  • scaffolding independence with realistic home agreements and supports  • progress over perfection and the importance of rupture and repair  • flexible pathways to mastery through step-by-step goals and quick wins  If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends.  We referenced the book, Scattered Minds, by Dr. Gabor Mate during this episode. You can find the book here: https://drgabormate.com/book/scattered-minds/ Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    47 min

  6. 28 de jan.

    Why Do I Have a Fixed Mindset?!

    We unpack why struggle feels like a verdict on who we are and show how to move from fixed beliefs to a growth mindset grounded in safety, regulation, and honest reframing. Lived stories, research touchpoints, and simple tools make learning feel safer than staying the same. • defining mindset as a learned framework, not a label • how childhood roles and tests harden identity • states versus traits and why context changes us • fixed mindset as ego protection and shame • safety before strategy and body-up regulation • practical reframes including adding yet • praising effort over outcome to unlock growth • proving versus improving as an antidote to perfectionism • redefining failure as data you can use • uneven mindsets across life domains and how to spot them If you like our show, please leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform Follow the show and share with your friends To read more about Mindset, check out Carol Dwek's book that we discussed here: https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322 Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    51 min

  7. 13 de jan.

    Why Am I Struggling with Addiction?!

    We map addiction across three lenses—brain changes, attachment trauma, and choice—and show how they fit together without shame. Practical tools, meds, and nervous system skills make healing doable, from habit loops to co-regulation to TMS. • defining addiction as impaired control despite harm • substance and process addictions sharing brain mechanics • dopamine spikes, downregulation and anhedonia • prefrontal cortex as brakes and how it weakens • attachment wounds and substitute relationships • co‑regulation, safety cues and nervous system repair • the “beast” voice vs agency without shame • habit loops, delay windows and urge surfing • Pavlovian reversal and neural pruning • medications, TMS, NAC and GLP‑1 research • building adult secure attachment and daily practices • reframing recovery as reconnection and consistency If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with friends. Here are the links to the books we referenced in this episode:  Rational Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Recovery-Cure-Substance-Addiction/dp/0671528580 Addiction, Attachment, Trauma, and Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Addiction-Attachment-Trauma-Recovery-Interpersonal/dp/0393713172 Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    51 min

  8. 30/12/2025

    Why Am I Stuck in Old Paradigms?!

    We unpack how childhood emotional survival maps become adult paradigms that shape choices, risk tolerance, and self-worth. We share CBT tools, new agreements, and practical steps to shift identity, reduce rejection sensitivity, and build lasting change through repetition and compassion. • defining paradigms as learned lenses and habit loops • emotional survival maps from childhood shaping adult behavior • CBT’s think–feel–do model applied to stuck goals • rejection as difficult not dangerous and why emotions lack time • shame, self-talk, and compassionate inner parenting • scarcity mindset, clutter, and money habits • don’t take it personally and don’t make assumptions agreements • why chains to trace behaviors to root beliefs • moving from autopilot to intention with tiny reps • EMDR’s role in reframing responsibility and worth If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with friends. You can find the book, The Four Agreements Here: https://www.thefouragreements.com/ Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/ This show is sponsored by:  Core Self  www.coreself.org Benavieri Counseling & Coaching www.benavieri.com Active Healing Psychiatric Services www.activehealingpsych.com

    49 min
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We are a therapist and a psychiatric nurse practitioner and we want to share a simplified view of these complex concepts that are often misunderstood, avoided, and even feared. This is a podcast about being human, adapting to life, and learning from our unique experience. We try to provide the answers to question: Why am I like this?

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    Mental Breakdown
  • Anos de atividade
    2023 - 2026
  • Episódios
    41
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