Wise Yourself Up

Carla McGreevy

Everyone wants to find themselves but so many of us are drowning in the rat race. Suffering from burnout, battling self sabotage, desperate for change. My aim is to inspire you to take the scary steps towards the life you deeply desire.I'm Carla and I'm done censoring my voice. I have “taboo” topics to discuss that aren’t welcome elsewhere. I believe that sharing is the first step to healing. This is the unfiltered truth.Expect a raw insight into my experiences, and those of my guests, on topics such as trauma, shame, relationships, mindset, abuse, addiction, confidence, self love and more

  1. Ep. 61- Healing Your Relationship with Anger

    SEP 5

    Ep. 61- Healing Your Relationship with Anger

    JOIN THE 21-DAY BREATHWORK CHALLENGE STARTING ON MONDAY! Whether you never express the emotion of anger or you are angry all the time, this is a powerful emotion that is sending you a signal as to what your needs are. This is the final episode of this season. Carla is chatting about the very misunderstood power of anger and explains how breathwork helps us process it instead of suppressing it. She uses real examples from clients to look at the different ways people respond to anger and why those responses matter for our health and our relationships. You will learn how childhood experiences and gender norms shape the way we express or repress anger, and why acknowledging anger is essential for setting boundaries, identifying needs, and preventing long-term emotional and physical consequences. This is the final episode of this season, so please reach out and share your thoughts with Carla on whether you would like another season and the topics to discuss. Timestamps: 00:00 Episode recording take 2 00:39 Why recent weeks have felt heavy for so many 02:48 Grief, anniversaries, and emotional healing 07:19 The emotions that show up most: anger, anxiety, shame 08:33 How suppressed anger impacts health and illness 09:42 Anger in relationships: healthy vs unhealthy responses 14:27 The complexity of navigating difficult emotions 20:40 Childhood conditioning and suppressed anger 21:20 Belief systems formed in early childhood 24:05 Therapy and bringing awareness to your reactions 25:29 How unexpressed anger affects intimacy and boundaries 29:14 The challenges of vulnerability and hyper-independence 36:57 How breathwork supports emotional processing and healing 39:18 Join the Breathwork Challenge A huge thank you to the more than 1,000 of you who have subscribed to the podcast. Please reach out to Carla if you enjoy the podcast, as your feedback really helps. Connect with Carla: Instagram: ⁠⁠@CarlaMcGreevy1⁠⁠ Work with Carla: ⁠⁠Carla McGreevy⁠⁠ Join Carla’s mailing list: ⁠⁠Stay Connected⁠

    40 min
  2. Ep. 60-Why We Struggle to Feel Our Emotions and How Breathwork Can Help

    AUG 28

    Ep. 60-Why We Struggle to Feel Our Emotions and How Breathwork Can Help

    JOIN THE OCEAN HEALING COMMUNITY AT FOUNDER PRICING Carla is back with part 2, speaking about all things emotions. If you’ve ever wondered why sitting with emotions like sadness, anger, or grief feels so uncomfortable, Carla is going to explain it all in today’s episode and share how slowing down and breathwork can transform the way we heal. Carla shares what she’s learning through her Compassionate Inquiry training with Gabor Maté, alongside her own work in somatics and therapy. She explains why so many of us skip past feelings, rush to soothe, or get stuck in our heads rather than staying with what’s present. She also talks about implicit memory and highlights the role of the “super ego” in holding us back from healing. If this episode resonates with you and you’re ready to stop being so in your head and start connecting inwards, Carla’s new community is launching on the 8th of September with a 21-Day Breathwork Challenge! This is a chance to reconnect with your body, release emotional energy, and find more clarity and calm in daily life. Sign up here for founders’ pricing before it increases! Thank you so much for tuning into this week’s episode. Please make sure to rate the show and subscribe if you haven’t already, so we can keep growing the podcast! Connect with Carla: Instagram: ⁠⁠@CarlaMcGreevy1⁠⁠ Work with Carla: ⁠⁠Carla McGreevy⁠⁠ Join Carla’s mailing list: ⁠⁠Stay Connected⁠

    35 min
  3. Ep. 59- Stop Thinking and Doing & Start Feeling and Being

    AUG 13

    Ep. 59- Stop Thinking and Doing & Start Feeling and Being

    SIGN UP TO THE WAITLIST FOR CARLA’S NEW OCEAN HEALING COMMUNITY This week, Carla’s talking emotions- why they’re at the root of everything, how most of us either avoid them or get overwhelmed by them, and what can actually help. She shares what she’s learned from her Compassionate Inquiry training with Gabor Maté, plus years of breathwork and body-based work. There’s chat about how childhood shapes us, why we keep falling into the same patterns, and how slowing down to breathe (literally three minutes a day) can change your life. So whether you’re a numb potato or highly anxious, this episode will help you to stop thinking and doing so much and start to tap into living and being. Timestamps 00:00 Life updates 04:39 What Compassionate Inquiry is and how childhood shapes us 09:17 Why emotions are at the heart of everything 10:26 How breathwork can help you heal and feel more connected 12:36 Understanding trauma and how to start mending old wounds 19:28 False memories, body memory, and intergenerational trauma 21:01 Childhood experiences and the beliefs they leave behind 21:56 Emotional eating and what it’s really trying to tell you 22:30 Avoidant relationships and intimacy fears 23:49 How parents influence our ability to regulate emotions 26:39 Slowing down and creating space 28:24 Breathwork, movement, and practices to shift your energy 34:48 21-Day Breathwork Challenge Poem mentioned by Portia Nelson Share this episode with someone who needs to slow down, subscribe to the show, and leave a quick review if you enjoyed!! Connect with Carla: Instagram: ⁠⁠@CarlaMcGreevy1⁠⁠ Work with Carla: ⁠⁠Carla McGreevy⁠⁠ Join Carla’s mailing list: ⁠⁠Stay Connected⁠

    38 min
  4. Ep. 58- Retiring from Boxing, Finding Comedy, and Facing Racism with Tommy McCarthy

    JUL 30

    Ep. 58- Retiring from Boxing, Finding Comedy, and Facing Racism with Tommy McCarthy

    Carla sits down with professional boxer turned comedian, Tommy McCarthy. Tommy shares the highs and lows of his boxing career and what led him to hang up his gloves. He opens up about dealing with grief after the loss of his mother, growing up as one of the only Black kids in West Belfast, and living between London and Belfast. Tommy has now stepped into the Irish comedy scene and speaks about his creative process and his goal of becoming the number one comedian in Ireland. Timestamps 00:00 Joanne McNally and manifesting wealth 03:07 Intro to Tommy McCarthy 06:11 Transition from boxing to comedy 08:59 Challenges and reflections on boxing 13:31 Life in London and cultural differences 20:57 Losing his mum and growing up Black in Belfast 35:37 Experiences with racism and activism 39:47 Getting started with Boxing 41:19 Getting into comedy and live performances 51:24 Marriage and family life 58:47 Reflecting on getting through tough times growing up 01:07:49 Comedy goals and future plans 01:14:45 Connect with Tommy If you loved this episode, share it with a friend, subscribe to the podcast, and leave a review! A reminder that Carla’s new community is launching this month too, so keep an eye on her Instagram for more updates. Connect with Carla: Instagram: ⁠@CarlaMcGreevy1⁠ Work with Carla: ⁠Carla McGreevy⁠ Join Carla’s mailing list: ⁠Stay Connected Connect with Tommy and mentions: Instagram: @tommymac90 Podcast: Whiskey and White Support ACLAÍ Palestine: Donate here

    1h 14m
  5. Ep. 57- How to Heal After an Abusive Relationship

    JUL 23

    Ep. 57- How to Heal After an Abusive Relationship

    Abuse isn’t always obvious. It can show up in small everyday behaviours. This is part two of this topic so if you haven’t listened to part 1, head over to last week’s episode! Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of abuse, child trauma, and femicide. Helplines and resources are linked below. Today Carla is focusing on owning our own harmful patterns, and understanding how to heal from being in an abusive relationship. Carla chats about the societal conditioning that teaches women to internalise blame, the role of somatic and breath-based practices in healing trauma, and how we begin to recover from the deep grief that abuse leaves behind. She opens up about her own experiences and offers guidance for anyone currently navigating the shame, confusion, and complexity of abusive relationships. Timestamps: 00:00 – Trigger warning 00:51 – New moon energy and upcoming event 01:10 – The power of somatic movement 04:47 – The importance of breath work 12:26 – Recognising and addressing abusive behaviours 20:02 – Understanding emotional load and abuse 22:55 – Identifying covert abuse 24:29 – Setting boundaries in relationships 25:50 – The importance of accountability 26:53 – Healing from abusive relationships 29:41 – The role of emotional regulation 33:52 – Reconnecting with your body 34:40 – Changing patterns and beliefs Ireland Support Services Women’s Aid Supports women affected by domestic abuse. 24hr Helpline: 1800 341 900 ⁠www.womensaid.ie⁠ Rape Crisis Help For anyone affected by sexual violence. National Helpline: 1800 77 8888⁠ www.rapecrisishelp.ie⁠ Childline (ISPCC) For young people up to age 18.Freephone: 1800 66 66 66 ⁠www.childline.ie⁠ UK Support Services Refuge For women and children experiencing domestic violence.2 4hr Helpline: 0808 2000 247 ⁠www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk⁠ Women’s Aid UK Information, support, and resources for women. ⁠www.womensaid.org.uk⁠ Rape Crisis England & Wales Support for survivors of sexual violence.Helpline: 0808 500 2222 ⁠www.rapecrisis.org.uk⁠ NSPCC Protecting children from abuse.Helpline: 0808 800 5000 ⁠www.nspcc.org.uk

    36 min
  6. Ep. 56- Recognising Abusive Behaviour in Your Relationships

    JUL 16

    Ep. 56- Recognising Abusive Behaviour in Your Relationships

    Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of abuse, child trauma, and femicide. Helplines and resources are linked below. Carla is discussing the complexities of abusive relationships, exploring how abusive behaviours often go unnoticed and how we can begin to recognise them in our own lives. She reflects on the signs of abuse and how we can break free from these destructive patterns. Timestamps: 00:00 Heatwave and festival updates 02:55 Trigger warning and what to expect in this episode 03:14 How to fully relax during sex and why slowing down matters 07:11 The rush to soothe instead of feel emotions 13:37 Why we miss red flags and struggle to identify abuse 15:40 Listening to the body instead of intellectualising pain 16:40 Ireland’s history of violence, religion, and suffering 19:43 Carla’s memories of gender roles and fear in the family home 22:31 Recognising subtle abusive behaviours in ourselves and others 26:00 The fawn response, conflict avoidance, and healing patterns 29:00 Learned helplessness and why people stay 31:00 Support resources Ireland Support Services Women’s AidSupports women affected by domestic abuse. 24hr Helpline: 1800 341 900www.womensaid.ie Rape Crisis HelpFor anyone affected by sexual violence.National Helpline: 1800 77 8888 www.rapecrisishelp.ie Childline (ISPCC)For young people up to age 18. Freephone: 1800 66 66 66 www.childline.ie UK Support Services RefugeFor women and children experiencing domestic violence.24hr Helpline: 0808 2000 247 www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk Women’s Aid UKInformation, support, and resources for women. www.womensaid.org.uk Rape Crisis England & WalesSupport for survivors of sexual violence. Helpline: 0808 500 2222 www.rapecrisis.org.uk NSPCCProtecting children from abuse. Helpline: 0808 800 5000 www.nspcc.org.uk

    31 min
  7. Ep. 54- How to Read Body Language on a Date and Tell if They’re Into You

    JUN 11

    Ep. 54- How to Read Body Language on a Date and Tell if They’re Into You

    You can tell how someone is feeling just based on their body language, no words needed. Carla is going into the power of body language in this week’s episode and what your posture, gaze, and tone are revealing about what’s going on inside (and how to read these signs in others), particularly when it comes to dating! Your body is SO powerful. It will sense things before your mind does, so it’s time to learn to surrender and trust it. If you want to be more open when it comes to dating or see how your date feels about you, this episode will give you some of the signs to let you know whether they’re into you or not! Timestamps: 00:00 Life update 01:10 Donegal retreat update 02:05 Listener’s dilemma on casual sex and getting ghosted 07:06 The importance of body language in communication 09:27 Forward folds, backbends, and emotional wiring 13:49 What posture reveals about safety and trust 15:27 Eye contact 16:55 Covering your wrists 18:27 The position of the head 21:47 The role of body expansion in healing 25:44 The importance of voice in emotional healing 31:11 Carla’s new app! If you’re interested in signing up for Carla’s retreat in Donegal, there’s still time! You can sign up here! We’re taking a short break from the podcast but we’ll be back on 2nd July! In the meantime, make sure to listen to some older episodes. Thank you as always for the love and support on the pod! Connect with Carla: Instagram: @CarlaMcGreevy1Work with Carla: Carla McGreevyJoin Carla’s mailing list: Stay Connected

    33 min

About

Everyone wants to find themselves but so many of us are drowning in the rat race. Suffering from burnout, battling self sabotage, desperate for change. My aim is to inspire you to take the scary steps towards the life you deeply desire.I'm Carla and I'm done censoring my voice. I have “taboo” topics to discuss that aren’t welcome elsewhere. I believe that sharing is the first step to healing. This is the unfiltered truth.Expect a raw insight into my experiences, and those of my guests, on topics such as trauma, shame, relationships, mindset, abuse, addiction, confidence, self love and more