Yeah, That's My Dad

Yeah, That's My Dad

My name is Matthew Kruse, and I’ve known my dad my whole life. He’s your classic baby boomer: fought in Vietnam, worked a trade, married a cute girl from Puerto Rico, raised two sons, and even started a bookstore before moving from New York to Boston. At 50 he hit a midlife crisis that almost cost him everything, but was restored to his wife, and to God, and never looked back. He’s not a perfect man, but you ask anybody and they’ll tell you that to know my dad is to love my dad. Some months ago he was diagnosed with Stage 4 prostate cancer, and I promised him that before he went to be with Christ we’d talk about his life together. This podcast is me fulfilling that promise.

  1. Episode 10: Stage Four

    03/05/2023

    Episode 10: Stage Four

    We live in a broken world. It's broken in the sense that things don’t work the way they were meant to. It's broken because of our sin. The infinitely good and glorious God of holy love who created this world had to unleash his just judgment on it because in response to sin. Had to. And that means that our lives in this world are necessarily filled with sorrows and sickness and for all of us, eventually, death. But we also live in a redeemed world. Through the gospel, Christ has overcome sin, dealt with its curse in his body on the cross, and secured a bright and happy future for us where sin and its effects are gone forever.  What’s so cool is that world that has, in a sense, invaded this one. And so we can say with Christ’s Apostle Paul: “I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed.” That gospel truth informs how we think about and engage with sickness right now.  We know that our bodies are mortal and susceptible to all kinds of illnesses. Nobody skates free of that. But when we do get sick we don’t despair. We pray of course, rightly, for healing. God can do that if he wants. And we embrace by faith all the common grace of modern medicine. But deeper than all that, we know that God is sovereign over every cell in our bodies and that He superintends sickness to humble us and grow us and prune us and change us and loosen our grip on the garbage of this world.  That doesn’t make it easy to live with physical pain, but it does animate us with a hope that carries us through.  For my dad, this reality came fast and furious when in his 70s he was diagnosed with Stage Four prostate cancer. In this episode, he talked about walking through the ups and downs of illness.

    23 min
  2. Episode 9; Papa

    02/26/2023

    Episode 9; Papa

    Whether you call them Grandpa and Grandma or Nonno eh Nonna or Abuelo y Abuelita, every grandparent ever will tell you the same thing without hesitation: there is nothing happier than grandchildren.  This is a proverbial truth. And I mean literally. In Proverbs 17, super wise Solomon says it like this: “Children’s children are the crown of the aged.” You feel that? Grandchildren are the crowning joy and validation of a life well lived. A cherry on top of a killer sundae.  A Gatorade bath at the end of a super bowl win. A magnificent sunset culminating a happy beach day.  A crown. That is what grandchildren are in a man’s life. And not just because you get to buy them Richie’s Slush, or take them to see the fireworks, or let them watch two straight hours of SpongeBob, but because you are given another chance to model for and share with your own flesh and blood the goodness of God and grace of His gospel.  Don’t ever forget that when the Apostle Paul was encouaring young pastor Timothy to hold fast to gospel truth and throw himself with no fear into the difficult work of leading Christ’s church in Ephesus, he said to him, “Don’t forget that your confidence in Christ is not new, It dwelt first in your grandmother Lois.”  Isn’t that beautiful?  God works through generations, and if we live long enough to become grandparents, he lets us see that faithfulness all the way to the last chapters of our lives. - If there was a world championship belt for most fun, most involved, most present papa, my dad would have held it. Let’s just say that he fit right in with his grandchildren. In this episode, I asked him to talk about that, and about the unique relationship that he forged with each of his 8 grandchildren, oldest to youngest.

    32 min
  3. Episode 6: Parkway

    02/05/2023

    Episode 6: Parkway

    Episode 6: Parkway Every true and genuine Christian ever loves not only Christ, but His church. This should be obvious, right? When Christ saves us, He doesn’t save us by ourselves for ourselves.  He saves us into a family, the historical and global community of the saints. By grace, we become members of Christ’s body, not only dependent upon Him as our head, but intimately and necessarily connected to one another. This means that the Christian life is a “we” endeavor. You can’t live this thing out listening to your favorite preacher on your airpods while you walk the track. It's gotta be lived out in real-life, flesh-and-blood, face-to-face community. And so gospel-centered Christians always love their local church. They given themselves to knowing and being known by the people, submitting to the pastors, benefiting from the means of grace, and loving whoever Christ brings to them. Nothing could be more healing than that. And yet church can also be a place where harm is done. Of course, no church is ever going to be perfect. How can it be when it is filled with and led by sinners? So we should all have really patient, understanding hearts and really thick, humble skin when it comes to being a part of a church. But sometimes a church moves from spiritually imperfect to spiritually abusive. Its shepherds prove to be hirelings who are out for the advancement of themselves and their brands and their self actualizations at the expense of the people When that happens, inevitably, the people get hurt.  My dad’s experience of throwing himself fully into the life and mission of our church in Revere in the 80s was the ultimate mixed bag of church life: so much gospel healing in him and so much healing though him in others, but also some hurt.

    30 min
  4. Episode 4: Sons

    01/15/2023

    Episode 4: Sons

    Episode 4: Sons If you had to choose one relationship in Scripture that is the closest, who would you go with? Jacob and Rahcel? He worked 7 years for that girl! Isaac and Rebekah? Ah. Her humble posture when she is about to meet him. Priscilla and Aqulia? Totally in sync on the mission of God, sitting hand in hand on that couch, welcoming Apollos. Ruth abd Boaz? Breath-taking in the way he contends for and redeems her. Joesph and Mary? Traveling to Bethlehem, us against the world. Or maybe it’s not a marriage that comes to mind Maybe it's Jonathan and David, the tightest of friends. Or Paul and Timothy, pastor and protege. Those are all good choices, but I would go with Christ and His Father.  Their relationship is actually meant to be the archetype of love and affection and togetherness and trust that all holy human relationships are to be marked by. The way they love each other is how we will love them (and them us!) and each other forever. Jesus loved his Father. And the Father loved the Son.  We see that side of it on clearest display at Christ’s baptism. Who could ever forget it? Jesus wades into those Jordan waters and John goes, "Hold up, timeout, what are you doing here? This is backwards. I need you to baptize me." And Jesus goes, "I know, but do it ayway, it's the right thing. I don’t need cleaning from sin, but I do need identifying with the sinners I am here to save." And do you know who didn’t miss that baptism? His dad. The Father was there, as any good Father would be.  And as soon as Christ emerges from those waters, He loudly, exuberantly, joyfully lets everyone in earshot know: ‘This is my deeply loved son, and with Him I am so pleased.” Bostonian translation: "That’s my boy. I love this kid.”  Every man who ever becomes a dad to sons or daughters is invited onto that reality right there. A deep and close "I love you and would do anything for you" relationship of love and affection. So I talked with my dad about becoming and being a father.

    25 min

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My name is Matthew Kruse, and I’ve known my dad my whole life. He’s your classic baby boomer: fought in Vietnam, worked a trade, married a cute girl from Puerto Rico, raised two sons, and even started a bookstore before moving from New York to Boston. At 50 he hit a midlife crisis that almost cost him everything, but was restored to his wife, and to God, and never looked back. He’s not a perfect man, but you ask anybody and they’ll tell you that to know my dad is to love my dad. Some months ago he was diagnosed with Stage 4 prostate cancer, and I promised him that before he went to be with Christ we’d talk about his life together. This podcast is me fulfilling that promise.