Healing With YB

Yer Nina Xiong

This podcastโ€™s goal is to embrace Yer Nina Xiongโ€™s mission of ๐œ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š ๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐œ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐ž๐ซ ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž๐ง ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š ๐ฉ๐š๐ญ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐š๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฅ๐ค. As a CSA survivor of incest from her very own oldest brother, she shares her troubling journey and the ways in which she overcame them. Despite her adversity she is full of wisdom, empathy, positivity, kindness, and even a little bit of spice if she must. Come and dive into her world to watch her heal or heal along side with her boss. This is a safe space for everyone.โœจ

  1. 11/21/2025

    EP. 43 - What forgiveness means to me today after 4 years of initially finding it. เซฎโ‚ หถแต” แต• แต”หถ โ‚Žแƒ

    In this episode I share an updated version of my understanding of forgiveness. I share about the time when I initially found transformational forgiveness for my perpetrator back in November 21, 2021. I share the differences between conditional forgiveness and transformational forgiveness. I also share how even though I found transformational forgiveness I expanded my understanding of forgiveness even more. Here are a few top things Iโ€™ve learned in the last 4 yearsโ€” ๐Ÿญ. ๐™€๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™›๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™™๐™จ ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ž๐™ง ๐™ค๐™ฌ๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š. ๐Ÿฎ. ๐™๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฃ'๐™ฉ ๐™– ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™š ๐™™๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™™๐™š๐™–๐™ก ๐Ÿฏ. ๐™”๐™Š๐™ ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™™๐™š๐™›๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ข๐™š๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™”๐™Š๐™. ๐Ÿฐ. ๐™…๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™—๐™š๐™˜๐™–๐™ช๐™จ๐™š ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ข๐™š๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™™๐™ค๐™š๐™จ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™š๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™™๐™ž๐™™ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ง๐™ž๐™œ๐™๐™ฉ, ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ฃ, ๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™™๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™ฎ๐™ฅ๐™š ๐™ค๐™› ๐™—๐™š๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ง! ๐Ÿฑ. ๐™๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™™๐™ค๐™š๐™จ๐™ฃ'๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™š๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ง๐™š๐™ก๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™๐™ž๐™ฅ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ค๐™ง๐™™๐™š๐™ง ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™—๐™š ๐™ซ๐™–๐™ก๐™ž๐™™. Tune in to listen to the full details and events that helped me expand my understanding of forgiveness! If youโ€™d like to ๐Ÿ…ข๐Ÿ…ค๐Ÿ…Ÿ๐Ÿ…”๐Ÿ…ก support me here is an option to do so : โ™กโ˜•๏ธ https://buymeacoffee.com/healingwithyb โœจTHANK YOU FOR BEING HERE BOSS!โœจ As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ฬคฬฎ xoxo, Nina๐Ÿ’•

    24 min
  2. 10/16/2025

    EP. 40 - Using IFS therapy was a game changer for my healing journey ( เน‘ หƒฬตแด—ห‚ฬต)ูˆ โ™ก

    In this episode I share my understanding of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and how it has helped me in my healing journey as a CSA survivor. I also share some personal examples of how I used the therapy to overcome certain situations I have faced. It is one of the number one tools that has changed my life and advanced my healing. Due to the fact that it was a clinical study and experts use this today, I feel even more confident sharing with you bosses. This form of therapy works especially well for me because of my childhood trauma and understanding why I may feel/react the way I do today because of it. It doesn't mean that if you don't have childhood trauma that it won't work for you. Your "parts" (a vocab from IFS) just might not be as apparent or strong but everyone has parts. I hope you tune in to learn about IFS therapy to have a better understanding of why you are the way you are, how to overcome hard feelings, or simple understand those around you. If you want further information on IFS or you didn't understand what I talk about in my video, here are links for other resources from experts! *Watch All 5 Videos from Dr. Tori Olds for break down of IFS* Part 1 | https://youtu.be/tNA5qTTxFFA?si=EIxXikYGq1MN5eAe Part 2 | https://youtu.be/3bNHkg4ZPpA?si=gM532MvdB-7MSLQQ Part 3 | https://youtu.be/Vh4oiSIJhTE?si=RBuVyFE1ND7Zqgxj Part 4 | https://youtu.be/ThA1ojmekpI?si=ACt98IfjnxmnDHmQ Part 5 | https://youtu.be/Oy6lM8W363Q?si=vWxJcaBTZ_Lsqb2d *The Book on IFS (I read most of Part 1 only, it was so fasinating)* https://books.google.com/books?id=ScqYDwAAQBAJ&pg=PA93&source=gbs_toc_r&cad=2#v=onepage&q&f=false If youโ€™d like to ๐Ÿ…ข๐Ÿ…ค๐Ÿ…Ÿ๐Ÿ…”๐Ÿ…ก support me here is an option to do so : โ™กโ˜•๏ธ https://buymeacoffee.com/healingwithyb โœจTHANK YOU FOR BEING HERE BOSS!โœจ As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ฬคฬฎ xoxo, Nina๐Ÿ’•

    24 min
  3. 08/22/2025

    EP. 38 - my overall tools for a healthy relationship (all types). เดฆเตเดฆเดฟ ห‰อˆฬ€๊’ณห‰อˆฬ )โœง

    As I celebrate the anniversary of me becoming a wife to my partner, I share with you the generalized tools I use in my everyday relationships with my partner, friends, and family. These are great tools that I've gathered over the years and practice- to maintain and build healthy relationships in my life. I hope that you either get a refresher or find some great tools for you that maybe you never knew before and from here you expand your strength in being a better person. โ—กฬˆ Tools spoken in video (watch to receive in depth explanations)- 1. ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ ๐—™๐˜‚๐—น๐—น ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป so there isn't constant problems rising. 2. ๐—”๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ณ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜„๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜†'๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด. 3. ๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ "๐—ป๐—ผ" ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต "๐—ป๐—ผ" ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ (don't be a "yes" person all the time). 4. ๐—–๐—ผ๐—บ๐—บ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ป๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—น๐˜. You can always speak from how you FEEL so that it doesn't blame others. No one can tell you what you do or don't feel. 5. ๐—›๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ- 1. Being present to occasions or special events (meals, funerals, parties, showers etc.) 2. Listening as much as you talk and talk as much as you listen. 3. Spending money as evenly as possible or understanding each other's spending style and compromising. 6. ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป, ๐—ด๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ, ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ต๐˜‚๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜. สš You can find more about me at ๐˜„๐˜„๐˜„.๐—ฌ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜€๐˜†.๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ ษž If youโ€™d like to ๐Ÿ…ข๐Ÿ…ค๐Ÿ…Ÿ๐Ÿ…”๐Ÿ…ก support me here is an option to do so : โ™กโ˜•๏ธ https://buymeacoffee.com/healingwithyb โœจTHANK YOU FOR BEING HERE BOSS!โœจ As always, stay being the bad boss that you are! ฬคฬฎ xoxo, Nina๐Ÿ’•

    27 min

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This podcastโ€™s goal is to embrace Yer Nina Xiongโ€™s mission of ๐œ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š ๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐œ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐ž๐ซ ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž๐ง ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š ๐ฉ๐š๐ญ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐š๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฅ๐ค. As a CSA survivor of incest from her very own oldest brother, she shares her troubling journey and the ways in which she overcame them. Despite her adversity she is full of wisdom, empathy, positivity, kindness, and even a little bit of spice if she must. Come and dive into her world to watch her heal or heal along side with her boss. This is a safe space for everyone.โœจ