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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.

You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.

Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.

It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.

Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.

You Are Not A Frog Dr Rachel Morris

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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive.

You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards.

Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable.

It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again.

Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.

    Dealing With the Guilt of Not Being Okay

    Dealing With the Guilt of Not Being Okay

    Dr Nik Kendrew unravels why we experience overwhelming guilt when bad things happen to us. He also shares some tips, techniques, and resources to cope with difficult times and circumstances. Apart from this, Nik talks about the significance of scheduling our entire day to do important things. Finally, he discusses why setting boundaries is necessary to maintain our sense of self.
    If you want to learn how to stop feeling guilty when uncontrollable things happen to you, then stay tuned to this episode! 
    Episode Highlights
    [6:10] About the Boggle Docs
    Nik hosts the Boggle Docs. He gets to invite guests and talk about popular TV shows or movies portraying medical issues. [9:43] Dr Nik, the 100th Episode’s Guest
    Nik was invited over for the 100th episode because he was the podcast's first guest. 
    [13:16] Nik’s Heart Problem
    On his way to work, Nik suddenly had difficulty in breathing and experienced terrible chest pain. A paramedic immediately came to his aid and found he was experiencing Atrial Fibrillation. [16:56] After the Incident
    Nik just felt awful for letting people down even though they told him to rest. Guilt means feeling sorry for something we did or did not do. [18:31] The Feeling of Guilt Among Doctors
    Nik felt guilty for things he could control. What you feel during stressful situations is a normal physiological response. [19:41] Give Yourself a Break
    If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to do, you feel responsible for the people who are left to pick up the pieces. [20:51] Gaslighting in Health Care Service
    The health care service is already on its knees before the pandemic. When COVID-19 happened, primary care had to change drastically. [23:43] How To Cope With Stress and Pressure
    When times are tough, it helps to take it one step at a time and keep going. [27:03] Why Stay In the Present
    Staying in the present teaches that there is calm within you. [29:04] Substitute Stress for Happiness
    Others say they’ll only be happy if they get to complete their goals. However, there will always be something in our lives that will be unfinished. [29:55] Why Achieving Your Goals Would Not Make You Happy
    We are preparing ourselves for failure by setting unachievable goals. [34:08] Focus On What’s Important
    When you block off time to do something, it takes away stress because you know there’s a plan. [39:27] Set Your Boundaries
    When you are in stressful situations, focus on things you can change. Listen to your body. It will enforce its limits. Resources
    Check out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors.Find out more about the Shapes Toolkit training, talks and workshops.Sign up here for more free resources.Join the Shapes Collective FB group.Become a member of the Resilient Team Academy!Are you interested in joining our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 48 min
    How to Deal With Criticism When You've Reached Your Limit

    How to Deal With Criticism When You've Reached Your Limit

    Dr Sarah Coope joins me to talk about the workload of medical professionals and the benefits of setting boundaries while dealing with criticisms amidst the global pandemic. We discuss the three elements of the Drama Triangle and ways to navigate or avoid them reliably. As we dive deeper into their conversation, we emphasise the art of saying 'No' through acknowledging our limits. 
    If you want to take the first step in recognising your limits, handling criticism better and setting proper boundaries, tune in to this episode.
    Episode Highlights
    [04:43] The Overarching Challenges Brought by the Pandemic
    There was and still is much grief, trauma, guilt, and moral injury for doctors.[06:46] Most Impactful Messages from the Podcast Amidst COVID
    Dr Caroline Walker shared a fundamental key message: ‘It's okay not to be okay’.[09:55] Criticism and Over-responsibility
    [13:03] Setting Boundaries around Responsibilities
    We need to make peace with our limits. [17:23] Should-ing and Ought-ing
    We often take criticism personally because it targets our deepest insecurities.[20:26] Hippocratic Oath Shaming
    Overdoing your duties circles back to the saviour-rescuer.[22:29] Our Core Self-Beliefs
    Awareness allows us to introspect about the roots and rationale behind our self-beliefs.[25:29] Being in the Victim Mode
    We often try to control too much of what we can’t control.[27:08] On the Dangers of Resilience
    Resilience training is about learning what you can do for yourself.[28:21] Getting Out of the Victim Mentality
    We always have a choice, but every choice has unique consequences.[31:00] On Self-Sabotage
    Stay in your zone of power and leave the rest of the things you have no control over.[33:23] Tips on Saying ‘No’
    Give yourself a pause before deciding to say 'Yes' to something. [37:09] Say ‘No’ to the Task, Not the Person
    Set a boundary, but remain connected by saying ‘Yes’ to the person.[38:19] What Leaders Could Have Done Differently
    Tell teams that it’s okay to set boundaries and to look after themselves.[42:38] Having a Sense of Pace and Balance
    Recognise that the journey is a marathon, not a sprint.Enjoyed This Podcast?
    Write a review and share this with your friends.
    Sign up for a FREE workbook.
    Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.
    Find out more about our training here.
    Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.
    Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!
    Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. 
    Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!
    Are you interested to join our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!
    Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 44 min
    Why It’s Easier to Talk About Football Than Feelings with Dr Naren Senthil Nathan

    Why It’s Easier to Talk About Football Than Feelings with Dr Naren Senthil Nathan

    Dr Naren Senthil Nathan joins us to talk about what makes it hard for people to talk about their feelings. He shares that the first step is acknowledging your problems and knowing that there is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you know people who are struggling, remember that they need to feel comfortable with talking about their struggles first. 
    Episode Highlights
    [04:52] The State of Mental Health Today 
    Mental health is not widely discussed and is still considered taboo in many cultures. [08:12] Why People Find it Hard to Ask for Help 
    Many people are not taught to express and talk to people about their feelings.[10:01] What Happens When People Suppress Their Issues
    Suppression of issues can affect relationships and lead to unsafe practices at work. [12:54] Gender Differences When Asking for Help 
    Unfortunately, many men today are not open and don’t talk about their problems and mental health matters. [17:49] Why Men are More Vulnerable
    Men don’t open up because of pride and fear. [23:52] How to Practice Vulnerability 
    Opening up to others can lead to reciprocity and form tribes, where you support each other.[29:08] How to Help Others  
    Keep engaging with others and let them know it’s okay to talk. [33:31] Signs to Look Out For 
    Learning to spot signs of distress starts with knowing people’s baseline behaviours. [36:31] How to Help Others With Mental Health Matters Outside of Professional Help  
    Create safe environments for them to feel comfortable about sharing feelings. [39:13] Naren’s Top Three Tips For Encouraging Vulnerability 
    Acknowledge that you have an issue, and do not beat yourself up about it. Remember that it’s okay to ask for help. Learn to open up with others about your feelings.[40:07] Where to Get Help
    Loads of services are available for free in the UK. For example, GP-S is a free service by GPs for GPs. Enjoyed This Podcast?
    Write a review and share this with your friends.
    Sign up for a FREE workbook.
    Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.
    Find out more about our training here.
    Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.
    Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!
    Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. 
    Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!
    Are you interested to join our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!
    Become a member of the Resilient Team Academy! Sign-ups are open until the third of November.
    Check out the Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management if you want to attend the Leaders in Healthcare conference. 
    Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 43 min
    What to Do When Your Strengths Have Side Effects with Dr Joanna Bircher

    What to Do When Your Strengths Have Side Effects with Dr Joanna Bircher

    Dr Joanna Bircher talks about essential leadership skills and the impact of our personalities, motivations, and strengths on our teams. She explains why you need to act like a leader even if you think you are not one, and gives brilliant advice on becoming more self-aware. 
    Episode Highlights
    [05:54] You Are a Leader, Even if You Don’t Think You Are 
    Even if you're a trainee in a company,  you have an impact on your team. [08:56] Joanna’s Leadership Journey 
    Leadership is not about knowing everything. It’s about exploring new ideas together with your team.A leader listens, collaborates, and makes good decisions.[14:00] How to Recognise Collaboration
    As a leader, it is your job to bring out others' opinions during discussions. [15:21] How to Develop Self-Awareness
    You can build a much better team if you focus on your strengths and those of your members.We must develop our strengths rather than our weaknesses. [22:26] Finding Your Strengths 
    Being self-aware means that you recognise the good and bad effects of your strengths. Remember that the brighter you shine, the more shadow you cast.  [26:41] The Dilemma of Hierarchy
    No matter what kind of leader you are, power imbalance will always be there. When people are silent in meetings, the problem is often with your method, not with the people in the room.[35:51] The Importance of Knowing Your Team’s Personality Profile 
    Your team’s strengths and motivations affect their job satisfaction and joy in work. [38:41] Developing Active Listening 
    Real listening isn’t just about waiting for your turn to talk. [40:58] Being Genuinely Curious 
    It’s better if you actively engage with people and help them come up with an answer on their own. [42:35] Joanna’s Top 3 Tips to Be a Better Leader
    Genuinely believe that you're not the person with the best idea.Learn how to listen and continue to practise it.Everybody in the room with you has their own ideas. Enjoyed This Podcast?
    Write a review and share this with your friends.
    Sign up for a FREE workbook.
    Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.
    Find out more about our training here.
    Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.
    Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!
    Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.
    Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!
    Are you interested to join our You Are Not A Frog retreat? Or perhaps you have some questions about failure. Drop us an email at hello@youarenotafrog.com to let us know!
    Check out the Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management if you want to attend the Leaders in Healthcare conference. 
    Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 44 min
    How to Deal With Difficult Meetings with Jane Gunn

    How to Deal With Difficult Meetings with Jane Gunn

    In this episode, we hear from the expert in conflict management and mediation, Jane Gunn. She discusses important tips to keep in mind in order to host great meetings. Jane also shares some practical conflict management tips and how to make decisions that you and your team agree on. 
    Episode Highlights
    [04:14] Why You Avoid Conflict
    You may be afraid of your emotions or unconfident to navigate difficult conversations.[05:26] The Skill of Conflict Management
    There are four ways to deal with conflict: fight, flight, freeze, or appease.[08:03] Conflict Management Within Teams
    Conflict is necessary.  Some teams have too much, whereas others have too little.[09:46] The Power of Resolution Rethinking in Conflict Management
    Nemawashi is a process of digging deep into issues to determine their impact on all sides.[12:22] The Importance of Consultations in Conflict Management
    Consulting in conflict management others allows people to feel heard. [15:51] Uncovering Concerns
    A concern can be addressed during the meeting or through a personal follow-up with the concerned individual.  [17:04] Framing a Meeting
    Set rules and expectations for the flow of the meeting.[18:44] The Elephant in the Room
    An anonymous poll can help people overcome the fear of speaking up.[23:30] Uncovering Conflict and Conflict Management in a Meeting 
    Be clear on your criteria for making decisions within your team to avoid others from deciding based on their own viewpoint.[26:52] What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You
    Intuitive feelings serve to remind you to take the time to think rather than rushing a decision.[32:21] Hosting a Meeting Like a Dinner Party
    Try to make it both fun and functional.[38:44] Your Role as a Participant in Meetings and Conflict Management
    As a participant, you can use this structure: listen, don’t interrupt, and reflect back.[45:04] Our Responsibility as Professionals
    We have a responsibility to run effective meetings.[46:30] Top Three Tips for Making Meetings Better
    Think about the meeting as a dinner party, make the meeting fun and functional, and find ways to let everybody have a voice and participate.[47:29] The Power of Resolutionary Thinking
    The course focuses on creating a better understanding of how we can manage change, crisis and conflict.Enjoyed This Podcast?
    Write a review and share this with your friends.
    Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.
    Find out more about our training here.
    Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.
    Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!
    Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. 
    Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!
    Sign up here for more FREE resources.
    Become a member of the Resilience Team Academy! Sign-ups are open until the third of November.
    Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 50 min
    3 Conversations Which Will Get You Unstuck with Annie Hanekom

    3 Conversations Which Will Get You Unstuck with Annie Hanekom

    Annie Hanekom joins us to share the three important conversations you need to have — with yourself and with others — to help you get unstuck. We discuss the importance of having meaningful conversations and the weight it carries on your mindset and wellbeing.
    Episode Highlights
    [03:23] The Importance of Meaningful Conversations
    The conversation is the relationship and thus carries a lot of weight.[06:43] What People Are Going Through Now
    There seems to be a lag in people’s behaviours because of exhaustion.Physical fatigue can be fixed by rest, whereas depletion needs social connection.[11:56] What’s In Your Control?
    If you start focusing on the things you can control, that zone of power grows and helps you feel empowered.[18:41] The Power of Focusing on What You Can Control
    Focus on what you can really control and trust in the process.[20:26] Where Is Your Focus?
    Are the things you’re focusing on driving you towards the things that really matter?[23:34] The Danger of Being Addicted to Busyness
    Being busy does make people feel good about themselves, but only temporarily.It could easily lead to burnout and severe fatigue.[28:23] Focusing on the Long-Term
    How you achieve things might look different if you focus on your zone of power.[31:13] Thinking Partnerships
    Thinking partnerships is where you have meaningful conversations with a partner. These allow you to uncover a sustainable, useful solution to your conundrum.[36:10] What Story Are You Telling?
    By starting conversations with ‘The story I’m telling myself…’, you begin to address the fact that the story may not be true.[40:52] Determining Your Intentions
    Dig deeper into your intentions and reflect on what you want to achieve in your conversation.[44:09] Annie’s Three Top Tips
    Pause and catch yourself.Pay attention to your intentions.Focus on the long-term possibilities.Enjoyed This Podcast?
    Write a review and share this with your friends.
    Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.
    Find out more about our training here.
    Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.
    Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!
    Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout. 
    Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!
    Sign up here for more FREE resources.
    Are you a leader in health or social care? Know how to build a robust team through difficult times without burning out yourself by registering for our free webinar here! 
    Get simple tools that you can use to support your team for resilience, productivity, and wellbeing, help them deal with overwhelm, and get you a happy, thriving team without burning yourself out. Be a member of Resilient Team Academy now! Sign-ups are open until the third of November.
    Support the show (https://youarenotafrog.com)

    • 49 min

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