You Control You

ShaH Evans
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You Control You is a podcast hosted by Mark ShaH Evans, diving deep into personal growth, relationships, and the power of self-discipline. We explore cultural differences, gender perspectives, marriage, and much more. Join us for real conversations, practical advice, and motivational insights to help you take control of your life, one decision at a time. Tune in and discover the strength within—you control you. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

  1. 17h ago

    Four Months of Sacrifice Doesn't Guarantee a Championship | TBA Classic

    12 fighters. 14 fights. 4 belts. After four months of fight camp, Wolf Pack Combat Academy stepped into the 2026 TBA Muay Thai Classic. But this episode is about much more than championships, wins, and losses.I talk about leading without having all the answers, changing game plans during fights, questioning myself after a brutal run of losses, and pulling myself back together because more fighters still needed me. I also share the story of a 10-year-old fighter who lost his fight but showed more heart than most adults, and a 12-year-old champion who discovered that everything he needed was already inside him.Being a fighter can be selfish. Being a coach requires you to become selfless. Four months of sacrifice does not guarantee a championship. It only gives you an opportunity to knock on the door. The real victory is the confidence, discipline, faith, and identity you build while chasing it. Everything is within. You control you.If this episode speaks to you, like, subscribe, and tell me in the comments: What has losing taught you that winning never could?Chapters:0:00 A 10-Year-Old’s Incredible Heart1:36 Starting With Gratitude2:22 12 Fighters, 14 Fights, 4 Belts4:11 Four Months of Fight Camp7:27 Leading Without All the Answers10:15 Fighting Is Selfish, Coaching Is Selfless10:54 The 10-Year-Old Who Wouldn’t Quit20:50 Training Gives You an Opportunity23:20 Stories From the Fighters31:20 Doubting Myself After the Losses36:00 Growth Bigger Than Championships37:55 Everything You Need Is Inside You41:19 Show Up and Do the Work42:35 You Control YouLinktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    Four Months of Sacrifice Doesn't Guarantee a Championship | TBA Classic

  2. Aug 24

    Why You Feel Like You’re Failing (Even When You’re Not)

    Most men quietly battle a persistent fear of failure that keeps them up at night. Learn how to address the weight of expectations and stop doubting your own progress.It is common to feel like you are falling behind in life, especially when the lines between business success and family responsibilities blur. This conversation strips away the performance of masculinity to look directly at the internal panic that comes with constant self-evaluation. If you find yourself obsessively questioning if you are doing enough, you are not alone in that exhaustion. This video provides a space to confront the root of male anxiety without the pressure to just power through it.We examine why high-achieving men often experience imposter syndrome and how that narrative of not being enough distorts reality. By naming these intrusive thoughts, you can begin to separate your actual worth from your output. The goal is to move past the cycle of worry and start finding contentment in the work you are already doing. Real mental clarity starts when you stop running from the fear of failure and start understanding it.Subscribe for weekly insights on mens mental health and personal growth. Tell me in the comments: what is the heaviest expectation you feel right now?00:00 The Fear Men Carry Every Day01:34 Welcome to the You Control You Podcast02:49 Are Men Allowed to Need Emotional Support?05:04 Why Men Stop Being Vulnerable08:17 Listening, Empathy, and Feeling Dismissed14:14 When Silence Becomes a Man’s Protection15:56 Men and Women Want the Same Things21:31 What Happens When God Is Removed From Marriage?22:21 A Husband’s Responsibility to His Wife25:40 Solving the Problem vs. Proving Who Is Right30:16 Should You Apologize When You Did Nothing Wrong?33:32 Are Women Expected to Speak Kindly to Men?37:40 Why Men Feel Like They Can’t Take Off Their Armor41:30 Why Ask a Man to Lead and Then Fight for Control?45:16 Communication Is Still Your Responsibility47:05 Vulnerability Does Not Make a Man Weak49:26 She Let Go of Control—and Gained His Trust51:39 What Masculine Protection Looks Like54:02 If You Chose Him, Why Won’t You Trust Him?61:17 Accountability and Emotional Maturity63:56 A Man Must Be Allowed to Make Mistakes65:06 “I Don’t Have a Me”68:59 Why Kindness Matters More Than Women Realize72:21 The Fear Strong Men Rarely Admit76:44 Control vs. Vulnerability: The Gas Station Story82:56 Do You Want a Man—or an Employee?83:03 How Do You Speak to the King in Your Man?86:17 What Biblical Submission Actually Means89:58 Ladies, Speak Life Into Your Man91:26 Final Message to MenLinktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    Why You Feel Like You’re Failing (Even When You’re Not)

  3. Jul 31

    Your Reputation Means Nothing When You’re Alone—Don’t Learn This Too Late

    Self improvement is not only about building a successful business, making more money, or earning recognition. Real self improvement is about building your character, developing self discipline, strengthening your relationships, and becoming someone you are proud to see in the mirror.In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, Mark ShaH Evans explores personal growth, leadership, purpose, discipline, family, and the danger of becoming so focused on success that you forget why you started.Life is like a chessboard, but we do not all begin the game with the same pieces. Some people inherit confidence, stability, mentors, money, and opportunities. Others must build those pieces through adversity, accountability, hard work, and consistent personal development.You may believe you are building a business, a career, a reputation, or an empire. In reality, you are building yourself.A true success mindset is not only about winning. It is about building character, emotional intelligence, discipline, strong relationships, a meaningful purpose, and a life that serves the people you love.The building is not the dream.The money is not the dream.The reputation is not the dream.The people you serve, the family you return home to, and the person you become along the journey are the real dream.Never become so consumed with chasing success that you lose the life you were working to create.One choice at a time.One move at a time.One day at a time.Subscribe to the You Control You Podcast for conversations about self improvement, personal growth, motivation, leadership, discipline, relationships, faith, entrepreneurship, and becoming the strongest version of yourself.You Control You.#SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth #SuccessMindset0:00 What Are You Really Building?1:39 Gratitude and the Wolf Pack Grand Opening4:29 Life Is Chess, but We Don’t Start With the Same Pieces5:10 Nobody Is Coming to Save You8:00 Building What Life Didn’t Give Me10:00 Becoming the King11:53 Learning to Lead With Love Instead of Ego13:16 The Hardest Thing I Ever Built Was Myself15:44 A Message to Men: Build Yourself17:16 Understanding the Power of a Queen19:03 Become a King Before You Recognize a Queen20:06 Why the Pawns Matter21:05 Daily Habits Build the Dream22:42 Knights, Bishops, Castles, and Your Inner Circle24:31 The Mexican Fisherman Story30:18 Have You Forgotten Why You’re Building?31:36 Build the Dream Without Losing Your Life35:16 The Gym Is Not the Checkmate35:55 The People Inside the Building Are the Dream36:40 The Fisherman Story: Full Version41:33 You’re Not Building a Business—You’re Building Yourself43:54 Never Forget Who You’re Building It For44:57 You Control YouLinktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    Your Reputation Means Nothing When You’re Alone—Don’t Learn This Too Late

  4. Jul 10

    They Called Them Crazy Before They Won Championships

    Everyone tells you to "be realistic."But every champion, entrepreneur, and leader was called crazy before they were successful.Muhammad Ali. Kobe Bryant. Michael Jordan. Conor McGregor.They all believed long before anyone else did.The difference wasn't belief alone. It was relentless work.In this episode I break down why controlled delusion is one of the greatest advantages you can have if it's backed by discipline, sacrifice, consistency, and action. I also share personal stories from building Wolf Pack Combat Academy, coaching fighters, and why I believe your vision must be stronger than your current reality.If you're building a business, chasing a championship, or simply trying to become a better version of yourself, this episode is for you.Subscribe and join me on the journey to help 3 billion people with one simple message...You Control You.Chapters00:00 Wake Up and Believe in Your Vision01:22 Why Delusional Men Win04:28 Every Champion Was Called Crazy09:02 Every Great Dream Starts as a Delusion14:45 Reality Tries to Destroy Vision19:30 Delusion Without Work Is Fantasy24:58 Discipline, Sacrifice and Obsession35:12 The Fighter Who Chose Comfort45:41 Faith Without Work Is a Hallucination49:55 Pain Creates Purpose54:33 Confidence Is Built Through Action59:44 Healthy Delusion vs Blind Ego01:05:40 The Story Behind Wolf Pack Combat Academy01:15:52 Believe First. Work Until Reality Catches Up.Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    They Called Them Crazy Before They Won Championships

  5. Jul 10

    Your Brain Isn't Broken, Your Conditioning Is

    Most men think they have a discipline problem.They don't.The real problem is the patterns their brain has been repeating for years.In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, ShaH Evans breaks down the neuroscience behind discipline, trauma, fear, confidence, and why your emotions should never become your leader. Learn how your brain predicts your future based on your past, why most people stay trapped in old habits, and how to rewire your mind to create a completely different life.Whether you're a fighter, business owner, husband, father, athlete, or simply someone trying to become a better man, this episode gives you practical ways to change your conditioning instead of making more excuses.You'll learn:• Why discipline isn't your biggest problem• How trauma creates patterns that control your reactions• The neuroscience behind fear, confidence, and emotional control• Why your "why" changes everything• How fighters overcome panic and perform under pressure• How to replace negative self-talk with productive conditioning• Why repetition rewires the brain• Why you don't rise to your goals—you fall to your conditioningIf you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop making excuses and start taking control.You Control You.00:00 You Control Your Future, Not Your Past02:05 Gratitude & Coaching Update05:10 The Real Reason Men Struggle With Discipline09:00 Your Brain Runs on Predictions, Not Reactions14:15 Trauma, Conditioning & Why You Stay Stuck19:20 Rewiring Fear and Rejection23:30 Accountability vs. Excuses28:15 How I Rewired My Own Mind37:10 Lisa Feldman Barrett & The Science of Emotion43:50 Finding Your "Why" to Stay Disciplined47:15 How Fighters Rewire Fear During Training55:20 The Power of Breath Under Pressure1:01:30 Repetition Changes the Brain1:08:10 Stop Negative Self-Talk1:15:20 Why Greatness Is Built Through Conditioning1:21:00 Final Thoughts: You Control YouLinktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    Your Brain Isn't Broken, Your Conditioning Is

  6. Jul 9

    Tired, Afraid, Discouraged? This Is What Champions Do

    What separates champions from everyone else?It isn't talent.It isn't motivation.It isn't confidence.It's the ability to function when you don't feel like it.In this episode, Coach ShaH breaks down the difference between Coolers, Closers, and Cleaners from Tim Grover's Relentless and explains why emotional control, discipline, and standards create greatness.Using Bri's championship performance as a real-world example, this conversation explores what it means to keep moving forward when you're tired, overwhelmed, discouraged, afraid, or simply not at your best.Champions don't wait for perfect conditions.They do the work anyway.Topics include:• Mental toughness• Emotional control• The Cleaner mentality• Championship mindset• Fear and performance• Leadership under pressure• Discipline and consistency• Building a life you're proud of• Why standards matter more than feelingsIf this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.You Control You.Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    Tired, Afraid, Discouraged? This Is What Champions Do

  7. Jul 9

    Your Reality Is Not Their Reality: The Truth About Accountability

    Are you defined by your past actions or your current choices? Learn how to balance your personal growth by looking at your life.We often struggle to reconcile who we were with who we are becoming. This discussion explores the reality that our character is not fixed, but rather a collection of choices that can change over time. It is for anyone trying to understand how past mistakes coexist with current positive contributions.By viewing your life like a set of scales, you can better understand personal growth and the weight of your decisions. True accountability comes from acknowledging that you are responsible for both the negative actions of your youth and the good you create today. This mindset shifts your focus from guilt to intentional living, helping you improve your moral character through daily habits.Developing a balanced life perspective requires honesty about your history. When you stop labeling yourself as purely good or evil, you gain the freedom to focus on self improvement instead. It is about recognizing that your current impact matters more than the mistakes you made years ago.Subscribe for weekly personal growth breakdowns, and comment below on how you balance your own past and present actions.Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    Your Reality Is Not Their Reality: The Truth About Accountability

  8. Jun 25

    You Want a Life of Purpose? Here Is the Price You Must Pay

    Building a career in MMA coaching is more than just holding pads; it is a full-time commitment to your fighters. Hear the reality of the daily grind.This video explores the path toward becoming a professional fight trainer and the dedication required to run a gym. If you are pursuing a career in combat sports, you understand that the dream of coaching fighters is often balanced against the heavy stress of daily operations. I share the honest perspective of what it takes to show up for your athletes every single day.My journey as a fighting coach is defined by the hours spent on the mats and the responsibility of helping others reach their potential. Whether you are an aspiring MMA coaching professional or just curious about the behind-the-scenes life of a gym owner, this episode provides a candid look at the work happening outside the spotlight.Subscribe for weekly combat sports career insights, and let me know in the comments: what is the biggest challenge you face in your own training or coaching routine?Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    You Want a Life of Purpose? Here Is the Price You Must Pay
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You Control You is a podcast hosted by Mark ShaH Evans, diving deep into personal growth, relationships, and the power of self-discipline. We explore cultural differences, gender perspectives, marriage, and much more. Join us for real conversations, practical advice, and motivational insights to help you take control of your life, one decision at a time. Tune in and discover the strength within—you control you. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

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  • Creator
    ShaH Evans
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    95
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © ShaH Evans
  • Show Website
    You Control You