You Control You

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You Control You is a podcast hosted by Mark ShaH Evans, diving deep into personal growth, relationships, and the power of self-discipline. We explore cultural differences, gender perspectives, marriage, and much more. Join us for real conversations, practical advice, and motivational insights to help you take control of your life, one decision at a time. Tune in and discover the strength within—you control you. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

  1. Your Ego Is Destroying Your Co-Parenting

    4D AGO

    Your Ego Is Destroying Your Co-Parenting

    In this episode of You Control You, I sit down with two women who have played a major role in my life and in the lives of our children. My daughter’s mother Amber and my ex wife Cherrelle join me for a real conversation about co parenting, family, and learning to put the kids first even when life gets complicated.This is not a perfect story. It is a real one.We talk about the early years when things were difficult, the ego battles that can destroy relationships, and the lessons we learned about communication, respect, and emotional growth. Co parenting is not easy, especially when people are trying to rebuild their lives separately while still raising children together. But over time we learned something powerful. When you remove ego and focus on what truly matters, you can create a healthy environment for the kids.In this episode we discuss• The challenges of blended families• Why communication is everything in co parenting• How ego can destroy relationships between parents• Learning to validate each other’s feelings• Why kids should never carry the weight of adult conflict• The importance of patience, understanding, and growthOur journey was not smooth, but it taught us that family can evolve into something stronger when people choose maturity over pride.If you are navigating co parenting, dealing with blended family dynamics, or trying to create a better environment for your children, this conversation may give you a new perspective.Because at the end of the day, no matter what happens between adults, the kids come first.Subscribe to the channel for more conversations about life, leadership, family, and personal growth.Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    1h 46m
  2. Your Son Isn't Supposed to Follow You | He's Supposed to Surpass You

    MAR 9

    Your Son Isn't Supposed to Follow You | He's Supposed to Surpass You

    Being a father isn’t about personal ambition.It’s about leadership.Real leadership means guiding the next generation with purpose.It means discipline.It means self-control.It means building something that outlives you.If all you chase is your own success, you’re building ego.If you build your son to surpass you, you’re building legacy.Your job isn’t to have him follow in your footsteps.It’s to prepare him to level up beyond them.That takes hard work.That takes direction.That takes control.And that’s fatherhood.Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    46 min
  3. Peace Isn't The Goal

    MAR 5

    Peace Isn't The Goal

    Building something meaningful rarely feels peaceful. It feels like pressure, doubt, responsibility, and the constant demand to grow. In this episode of You Control You, Mark ShaH Evans dives into the reality of entrepreneurship and leadership. The truth is simple but uncomfortable: peace is not the goal. Growth is. Entrepreneurship often feels like stepping onto a battlefield. Every day demands resilience, discipline, and the willingness to face challenges head-on. But that pressure is not the enemy. When directed properly, it becomes fuel. The same intensity that creates stress can also build purpose, strength, and momentum. ShaH explores the mindset required to navigate business, family, and leadership without losing yourself in the chaos. Gratitude becomes a grounding force. Structure becomes the weapon that turns effort into results. And embracing the warrior mentality allows entrepreneurs to channel their drive instead of being controlled by it. The conversation also touches on something many leaders struggle with: bringing the right energy home. Winning in business means nothing if you lose connection with the people who matter most. Leadership is not just about building companies; it is about building a life where purpose, family, and responsibility exist together. Peace is not the absence of war. Peace is choosing where to direct the battle. If you are building something, chasing purpose, or learning how to balance ambition with the life around you, this episode will challenge the way you think about success. Subscribe for more conversations about discipline, leadership, mindset, and the journey of becoming the person you are meant to be.

    55 min
  4. Destroy The Boy

    FEB 22

    Destroy The Boy

    When you're pursuing a career and raising a family, prioritizing becomes everything. This video emphasizes the importance of a clear "focus on goals," ensuring that your ambitions don't overshadow what truly matters in your personal life. It's about finding that crucial "parenting balance" and effective "time management" to build the life you want without sacrificing your family.Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    1h 12m
  5. No One Is Coming

    FEB 21

    No One Is Coming

    There is a moment in life where you realize the truth: nobody is coming to save you. No rescue. No perfect timing. No bailout plan. It is on you. And as heavy as that feels, it is also freedom. The second you accept personal responsibility, you stop living in victim mode and you start making moves. This mindset is for men, for fathers, for leaders, and for entrepreneurs. The crown does not get lighter. You just get stronger at carrying it. You control how you react. You control the effort you put in. You control you. This is accountability, discipline, and mental toughness in real time.

    45 min

  6. FEB 1

    The Superior Man

    Personal development doesn’t happen by accident.Men’s self improvement comes from structure, not motivation alone.If you want to change your life, you need systems you can track.That’s why I use a habit tracker instead of relying on how I feel.I build my days intentionally.I review what’s working and what’s not.This Notion tutorial shows how I track habits, stay disciplined, and keep momentum when motivation fades.Motivation starts the work.Structure keeps it going. Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    53 min

  7. JAN 28

    The Real Reason Crying Makes You Stronger

    Being willing to cry is an important part of emotional healing . Letting out emotions can act as a stress reliever , emptying your emotional cup to make space for new experiences. This promotes emotional health and personal growth, but remember to still move forward and not let crying stop your progress. 💧 You control you.🧠 KEY MOMENTS / CHAPTERS (HIGH RETENTION)00:00 – Why men lose themselves02:10 – The truth about “bad boys” and attraction05:40 – Emotional safety vs excitement09:15 – What heartbreak does to men13:30 – Why emotional control matters more than emotions17:50 – Fear, trauma, and avoidance22:10 – Brotherhood and men needing men27:00 – Ambition, purpose, and attraction31:45 – Independence vs interdependence36:20 – Rebuilding the inner man dailyLinktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    1h 19m

  8. JAN 28

    Forgive Yourself or Stay Stuck

    We often hold onto past errors, believing it helps, or we completely ignore our wrongdoing. There needs to be a balance in addressing mistakes, especially in relationships. This video offers valuable relationship advice and dating advice, emphasizing the importance of self improvement and personal growth. Learning how to forgive yourself and how to let go of the past is crucial for healthy relationships. Linktree - https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

    59 min
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You Control You is a podcast hosted by Mark ShaH Evans, diving deep into personal growth, relationships, and the power of self-discipline. We explore cultural differences, gender perspectives, marriage, and much more. Join us for real conversations, practical advice, and motivational insights to help you take control of your life, one decision at a time. Tune in and discover the strength within—you control you. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou

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  • Creator
    ShaH Evans
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    79
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © ShaH Evans
  • Show Website
    You Control You