Zach Watson's Thinkshare Podcast

Zach Watson

I make a bunch of short form educational/personal life story-telling, and my friend told me after listening to me on someone else's podcast that some of my longer form ideas would be really valuable for people to hear in this form, so I'm trusting Frank knows...

  1. FEB 6

    #107: Choreplay - Jordan Carlos DEFENDS his title as I attack it

    Unlocking Better Marriage and Men’s Self-Improvement with Jordan Carlos In this episode, comedian and author Jordan Carlos shares unconventional insights on improving marriage through small but impactful actions, the importance of self-awareness in masculinity, and practical tips for men to step into their optimal roles at home and social settings. Whether you're a partner seeking to support your significant other or a man looking to elevate your own life, this conversation offers actionable wisdom wrapped in humor and honesty. The concept of "Chore Play" and how chores can foster intimacy without manipulationSmall habits to reduce friction and improve household contributionThe significance of mental and cognitive labor often unnoticed by menOvercoming the "recovering man child" mindset and embracing responsible masculinityPractical hacks for daily routines—like managing Tupperware and trash daysThe importance of enjoying your own company and cultivating "unicorn space"Navigating media, books, and role models that shape perceptions of masculinityHow men can self-regulate and avoid proxy arguments over minor issuesThe impact of emotional presence versus just "checking the box" in relationshipsRecognizing invisible labor and amplifying your contributions consciously Fair Play by Eve RodskyChore PlayEsther PerelThe 5AM Club by Robin Sharma Enter to win a hardcover copy of Chore Play by clicking here. Giveaway ends in four days! Key TopicsTimestamps00:00 - Introduction to Jordan Carlos and the premise of "Chore Play"02:00 - My initial reaction to the book title and misunderstanding it as manipulative03:30 - How chores can serve as foreplay and build intimacy naturally05:00 - The low bar: simple daily contributions that make a difference06:30 - The importance of clearing small tasks and routines like trash and toiletries08:00 - Reframing household contribution as a form of contribution to the relationship10:00 - Recognizing mental and cognitive labor that men can start to take on12:00 - Practical tips for managing responsibilities and avoiding proxy arguments14:00 - Building micro-habits: starting small and celebrating progress16:00 - The role of role models like "the Colonel" and the importance of visible masculinity18:00 - Overcoming difficult moments with books like Fair Play and Chore Play20:00 - The benefits of routines like waking early and managing responsibilities consciously22:00 - How media and societal norms influence perceptions of masculinity24:00 - The significance of enjoying alone time ("unicorn space") for mental health26:00 - The importance of consistency and small wins in long-term relationship health28:00 - Recognizing and respecting the invisible labor many men are already doing30:00 - The power of weekly partner meetings to stay aligned32:00 - Personal stories of shifting from reactive to proactive contributions34:00 - How to avoid burnout and keep routines sustainable36:00 - Addressing the challenge of accountability and honest communication38:00 - Media's role in shaping gender roles and how men can redefine their part40:00 - The spectrum of masculinity—from traditional to progressive—men can find their place42:00 - Learning from family models and cultural influences on gender roles44:00 - The critical role of self-awareness and intentionality in embodying masculinity46:00 - Practical advice for beginners: small acts that create big ripples48:00 - Managing social settings—like parties or family gatherings—consciously50:00 - Recognizing and breaking addictive or destructive rituals around sports and leisure52:00 - The value of quantifying your contributions through routines and habits54:00 - Insights into male friendships, masculinity, and modern male identity56:00 - Cultivating self-sufficiency and enjoying your own company58:00 - How media often overlooks the efforts of well-meaning men and their silent contributions

    1 hr

  2. FEB 4

    #106: Live 1 on 2 Coaching Call Implementing Fair Play Method

    This conversation explores the dynamics of emotional communication and task ownership within a relationship. The participants discuss their progress in emotional literacy, the application of the emotional wheel, and the importance of regular family meetings. They delve into the 51% activity, which focuses on redistributing household responsibilities and identifying invisible labor. The discussion highlights the emotional responses tied to task ownership and the significance of establishing routines for accountability. The conversation concludes with reflections on the journey of growth and the next steps for continued improvement. Get your own 1 on 1 (or 1 on 2) coaching call implemnting these tactics at whatever stage you are in: https://zachthinkshare.com/one-on-one-coaching-call587613

    46 min

  3. FEB 2

    #105: SOLO Empathizing with Alyssa's Hurt

    Takeaways Zachary reflects on the emotional weight of conversations in relationships. He emphasizes the importance of empathy in understanding a partner's feelings. Invisible labor is a significant aspect of relationship dynamics. Trust is built over time and can be fragile. Communication is key to navigating responsibilities in a partnership. Personal hygiene standards can affect relationship dynamics. Planning and execution require collaboration and understanding. Mistakes can lead to deeper insights and growth in relationships. Emotional labor is often overlooked but crucial for connection. Zachary encourages ongoing conversations about emotional awareness.

    32 min

  4. JAN 29

    #104: ADHD or Adulting Skills? - Martha Hoffman ADHD Coach

    In this conversation, Martha Hoffman and I explore the complexities of living with ADHD, particularly in the context of adult responsibilities and societal expectations. They discuss the nuances of shame associated with ADHD, the importance of self-awareness, and the strategies that can help individuals manage their symptoms effectively. The conversation also touches on the different expectations placed on men and women with ADHD, highlighting the unique challenges faced by women in particular. Ultimately, the discussion aims to foster understanding and acceptance of ADHD as a part of one's identity rather than a flaw to be fixed. https://marthahoffmancoaching.com/ https://www.instagram.com/marthahoffmancoaching/ Takeaways ADHD can complicate adult responsibilities.Shame often accompanies the experience of ADHD.Visual aids can help with executive function.Lists can be a helpful tool, not a crutch.Societal expectations differ for men and women with ADHD.Self-awareness is crucial for managing ADHD.Strategies should be personalized and sustainable.Emotional reactions to tasks can vary significantly.ADHD is not an excuse, but a different way of processing.Acceptance of ADHD can lead to better coping strategies.

    40 min

  5. JAN 28

    #103: Cultural Conditioning Why men struggle with Emotions

    Summary In this episode, Zach Watson delves into the complexities of emotional awareness, particularly in the context of relationships. He discusses the common defensiveness and anger that arise in men when faced with emotional expectations, exploring the deeper sources of these feelings, such as shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of acknowledging emotions and how cultural conditioning often leads men to view emotions as unnecessary. Zach shares strategies for encouraging emotional expression and provides real-life examples of how recognizing emotions can lead to healthier relationships. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to engage with their emotions and improve their communication skills. Takeaways Defensiveness often stems from a lack of acknowledgment. Men are culturally conditioned to view emotions as unnecessary. Acknowledging emotions can lead to better decision-making. Shame is a deeper source of many emotional responses. Validating emotions helps in clearer thinking. Practicing emotional expression is crucial for men. Avoiding emotions can block effective communication in relationships. Emotions are an unavoidable part of the human experience. Real-life examples illustrate the importance of emotional awareness. Encouraging vulnerability can strengthen relationships.

    28 min

  6. JAN 16

    #102: Laura Danger @thatdarnchat talks Weaponized Incompetence and Domestic Equity

    Zach Watson and Laura Danger delve into the complexities of relationships, domestic labor, and the concept of weaponized incompetence. They reflect on their personal journeys, highlighting how societal expectations and gender roles shape their experiences. Laura shares insights from her book, emphasizing the importance of recognizing invisible labor and the emotional toll it takes on individuals, particularly women. The discussion also touches on the need for open communication and mutual understanding in partnerships, as both speakers recount their own challenges and growth in navigating these dynamics. Zach expresses gratitude for Laura's influence on his work and personal life, illustrating how their friendship has fostered growth in both their professional and personal realms. The conversation culminates in a call to action for listeners to recognize and address the often-overlooked emotional labor in their own lives, encouraging a shift towards more equitable partnerships. Through their candid dialogue, they aim to empower others to challenge societal norms and foster healthier relationships. Get Book Here: https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre

    50 min

  7. 12/29/2025

    #101: Eve Rodsky and Son Paving the way for domestic Equality

    Summary In this engaging conversation, Zach Watson and Eve Rodsky explore the concepts of Fair Play and invisible labor, discussing the importance of communication, emotional labor, and the division of household responsibilities. They delve into how children can learn about these concepts from a young age, the significance of rituals in family life, and the challenges of managing mental load. The discussion also touches on the future of Fair Play and its implications for workplace equity.

    1h 7m

  8. 12/19/2025

    #100: Why Invisible Labor Language is so damn important - SOLO

    Takeaways Invisible labor helps develop empathy and understanding. Articulating invisible labor can enhance communication in relationships. Cognitive and emotional labor are often overlooked in daily life. Scaffolding in education reduces cognitive load for students. Decision fatigue affects our ability to make choices effectively. Using multiple choice questions can ease communication burdens. Understanding different types of labor can improve relationship dynamics. Kin keeping involves managing family responsibilities and emotional labor. Weaponized incompetence can harm relationships and communication. Language is crucial for articulating experiences and emotions.

    48 min
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I make a bunch of short form educational/personal life story-telling, and my friend told me after listening to me on someone else's podcast that some of my longer form ideas would be really valuable for people to hear in this form, so I'm trusting Frank knows...

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