Nobody trains you for this. One day your mom or dad needs help, and suddenly you are the one handling the doctors, the money, the bad news, and the guilt that you are still not doing enough. Frances Hall has spent more than a decade with families in exactly that spot as the founder of ACAP, Adult Children of Aging Parents, which started as a small lunch group in 2012 and is now growing toward 18 chapters nationwide. In this conversation with Dr. Corinne Auman, she talks honestly about the guilt, the sibling fights, the isolation, and what to do when your parent refuses to discuss the future. You will walk away with real ways to take care of yourself in the middle of it, the exact conversations to have with your parents before a crisis hits, and the reassurance that it is okay to not know how to do this. Download my free Well-Being Checklist and get 25 actionable steps to help you thrive in this next chapter of life. - https://bit.ly/43XCD0m Learn more about ACAP! - https://acapcommunity.org/ CHAPTERS 00:00 The parts of caregiving nobody prepares you for 01:44 What thousands of caregiving families all say 04:34 What ACAP is 09:34 Why adult children need their own support 12:31 Guilt, the sandwich generation, and the hidden costs of caregiving 16:09 Real self-care for caregivers, 20:50 Why caregiving today is nothing like it was a generation ago 23:28 What caregivers are actually looking for 28:01 Sibling dynamics 33:10 Bringing in a neutral third party to break a family stalemate 35:36 There is no perfect caregiver and no crystal ball 40:03 The conversations to have with your parents before the crisis 43:56 What to do when your parent shuts the conversation down 46:25 Frances's biggest takeaway 48:18 Where to find ACAP Learn more about Dr. Corinne Auman Buy the Keenagers Book - https://amzn.to/4esquWm Check out my website - https://corinneauman.com/ Subscribe to my instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drcorinneauman/ KEYWORDS caring for aging parents, adult children of aging parents, ACAP, Frances Hall, Keen on Aging, Corinne Auman, family caregiving, caregiver support group, caregiver burnout, caregiver guilt, caregiver self-care, sandwich generation, aging parent conversations, talking to parents about aging, end of life conversations, advance directives, living will, MOST form, medical orders for scope of treatment, power of attorney, sibling conflict caregiving, family caregiving disagreements, care manager, elder care mediation, aging in place, dementia caregiving, long distance caregiving, caregiver isolation, caregiver stress, caregiver resources, senior services, aging parent safety, giving up driving, caregiving costs, chronic conditions aging, caregiver education, older adults, elder care planning, caregiver community, nonprofit caregiver support, aging well