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Does timing really matter in whether a relationship works?

What are healthy ways to deal with a breakup?

Today, let’s welcome back dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew is also a YouTube personality and writer known for offering advice on dating, love, and relationships to both men and women through his online content, seminars, and his book "Get The Guy." His approach typically combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and a bit of psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.

Matthew shares his insights on the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the importance of honest communication. He emphasizes on the significance of creating a peaceful relationship, distinguishing it from a boring one, and the value of embracing vulnerabilities to foster deeper connections. Matthew's reflections on his own experiences, coupled with his expertise, provide a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to cultivate peaceful relationships without boredom

How to deepen connections through vulnerability

How to navigate modern dating with confidence

How to enhance relationships with effective communication

How to enrich love life through self-awareness

Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?

19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?

31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness

51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings

01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?

01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

Episode Resources:


Matthew Hussey | Website
Matthew Hussey | TikTok
Matthew Hussey | Instagram
Matthew Hussey | YouTube
Matthew Hussey | Twitter
Matthew Hussey | Facebook
Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What)
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
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How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to use over thinking for problem-solving

How to manage alarmed responses

How to use physical movement for mental clarity

How to focus on positives and small wins

Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog
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Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

In this interview, you’ll learn:How to overcome fearHow to maintain balance in a hectic lifeHow to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activitiesHow to explore and embrace different aspects of your personalityHow to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

With Love and Gratitude,Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?08:35 Practicing Buddhism13:49 The Lotus Sutra20:16 The 8 Wins26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable36:33 Being Present While on the Edge44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

Episode Resources:


Orlando Bloom | Instagram
Orlando Bloom | Facebook
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Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

How to recognize emotional investment

How to assess emotional security

How to consider financial implications

How to navigate emotional intimacy

This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:10 When to End Your Relationship

04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective
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How can you overcome the fear of failure?

What can you do daily to care less about failing?

Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco for an inspiring conversation about pursuing passions, mentorship, failure, and continuous motivation. Benny has made a huge mark on the music industry contributing to hundreds of millions of album sales worldwide. Benny has worked with A-List artists like Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, and Katy Perry. As a solo artist, his albums "Friends Keep Secrets" and its sequel have amassed over 11 billion streams, featuring multiple platinum hits. Beyond music, Benny has ventured into television and even released a cookbook, "Open Wide," showcasing his diverse talents and interests

Benny shares insight on how to not let failure stop you and getting over imposter syndrome. We also go dive into Benny’s life outside of music, exploring his passion for cooking through his cookbook "Open Wide." Plus, Benny talks about his relationships, how he keeps his creativity flowing, and the small joys that make his life special.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to pursue your passion with limited resources

How to not let failure get in your way of achieving your goals

How to embrace the unexpected in creative work

How to transition your passion into different fields

How to find joy and creativity in everyday moments

Don't miss this intimate look at Benny Blanco's life and maybe learn a thing or two about making your own multi-track masterpiece or the perfect dish to serve at dinner!

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:43 What’s the First Creative Thing You Put Together?

06:15 I Never Cared About Failure

10:33 Developing Amnesia to Failure

14:22 How Did You Meet Your Mentor?

18:10 “The Boy I Mentored” 

23:42 How Do You Show Up After a Rejection?

26:51 Love Can Be Felt Through Music

29:56 What Do You Do When You Wake Up?   

32:02 Why Do You Struggle with Meditation?

33:28 Why I Went to Therapy

38:25 The Pressure of Perfectionism

44:49 Do You Love to Cook?

47:20 Do You Eat Healthy?

48:47 Finding Comfort in Food

54:42 What’s Your Sleep Pattern?

56:40 Friendships Built Over the Years

59:19 Multigenerational Friendships

01:03:44 Better Relationship After Divorce

01:05:52 Benny on Final Five   

01:15:57 What’s Your Vice?

01:17:53 Do You Take Supplements?

Episode Resources:


Benny Blanco | TikTok
Benny Blanco | Instagram
Benny Blanco | YouTube
Benny Blanco | Twitter
Benny Blanco | Facebook
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How does low self-worth stop you from moving forward?

How can you stop self-sabotage and grow personally?

Today, let’s welcome Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie is a New York Times bestselling author, founder of IT Cosmetics, a company she started in her living room and sold to L'Oreal in a billion-dollar deal, becoming the first female CEO of a brand in its 100+ year history. She's also an active philanthropist who has funded leadership training in more than 100 prisons and shelters across the US, and has donated over $40 million in product and funds to help women face the effects of cancer with confidence. 

Jamie and Jay ponder on the meaning of self-worth, distinguishing it from mere confidence and challenging the misguided belief that our value is tied to our physical appearance. We get to hear the detrimental effects of self-doubt and present empowering strategies to transform your relationship with rejection, offering a new perspective that fosters resilience and self-compassion. 

And then the conversation dives deep into personal beliefs, urging us to identify and discard unhelpful misconceptions, while giving emphasis on why authenticity is crucial and its role in conjunction with other factors in achieving success. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to build self-worth

How to distinguish confidence from self-worth

How to handle rejection

How to overcome self-doubt

How to remain authentic

Together, let's learn how to distinguish your worth from external validation, turn rejection into a stepping stone, and live authentically.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:17 Do You Feel Worthy Today?

10:04 Confusing Confidence with Self Worth

17:37 Your Weight Impacts Your Worth is a Lie 

24:03 What Has Self Doubt Cost You?

31:25 How to Change Your Relationship with Rejection

37:02 The 4-Part R to Reframe Rejection

44:00 You Need This Today

48:13 Which Lie Are You Trying to Unlearn? 

56:32 Authenticity Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Success

Episode Resources:


Jamie Kern Lima | TikTok
Jamie Kern Lima | Instagram
Jamie Kern Lima | YouTube
Jamie Kern Lima | Website
Jamie Kern Lima | Twitter
Jamie Kern Lima | Facebook
Jamie Kern Lima | LinkedIn
Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life 
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