In this episode, Darshana is joined by KJ Song for a bold, tender, and deeply thoughtful conversation at the intersection of devotion, kink, spirituality, queerness and erotic aliveness. Together, they explore how faith, doubt, praise, sexuality, and care can coexist, and how reclaiming these connections can open new pathways to healing, belonging, and power. KJ shares their personal journey into music, faith, kink, and ministry, including how embodied experiences in kink spaces mirrored and deepened their experiences of surrender, awe, and presence in spiritual contexts. This conversation invites listeners to question inherited narratives about religion, sexuality, and care, and to imagine what becomes possible when these realms are integrated rather than separated. In this episode, we explore: Reclaiming the word God outside of shame, fear, and exclusionSpirituality as a felt, embodied experience rather than belief alonePraise as an erotic, emotional, and communal practiceDoubt as an essential component of faith rather than its oppositeKink as a form of embodied care and pastoral presencePlatonic kink and non-sexual erotic experiencesSex work beyond narrow cultural definitions of sexErotic aliveness as life force, creativity, and vitalityWhy surrender in kink can mirror surrender in prayerCare as the common thread linking kink, ministry, and healingQueering love, care, and intimacy beyond normative scriptsCommunity singing as a site of repair for religious harmThe lineage of queer, trans, and Black spiritual eldersReturning to ancient integrations of sex, spirit, and healing About KJ:KJ Song (they/them) is a queer music minister, holistic kink practitioner, and Master of Divinity student who leads transformative spaces at the intersection of Spirit, song, and rowdy liberation. As the founder and director of Sing Praise! and The Prayerotic Way, KJ blends Gospel-inspired roots, ritual leadership, and radical welcome to create gatherings that are as joyful as they are healing. They love their piano, bacon, and going to bed at a geriatric hour most of all. Connect with KJ: Voice practice and Sing Praise gatherings: https://www.kjsong.com/singpraiseHolistic kink sessions: https://prayerotic.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kjpraisesongCity of Refuge: https://www.cityofrefugeucc.org/Connect with Darshana:Darshana has supported thousands of people across the world to claim their Erotic Wholeness. Whether you begin with a self paced journey taken from the comfort of your own home or work with her directly for the transformational experience of a lifetime, your path to the pleasure, power and purpose you’re truly made for is just a step away! Learn more: DarshanaAvila.com/offeringsDarshanaAvila.com/communityYouTube.com/@darshana_avila