Hold That Thought

Becca Havian and Taylor Lord
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On this podcast, we investigate those lingering questions stuck in a faraway corner of your mind, or currently collecting dust in your notes app.

Episodes

  1. 6 DAYS AGO

    No Bad Parts: An Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)

    You know the voices inside your head – the one that tells you you’re not good enough, the one that makes you check your teeth for gunk before leaving the house, or maybe the one that has an outsized temper tantrum when slighted. The noise can be unrelenting. But what if you could befriend these chatter boxes, our roommates inside our minds? Enter Internal Family Systems (IFS).  In this episode of Hold That Thought, hosts Becca Havian and Taylor Lord explore the basics of IFS, a model of psychotherapy that helps us better understand ourselves by identifying and getting close to our sub-personalities or “parts.” This episode is the fifth and final episode in the first Hold That Thought mini-series — Building a Home in Your Mind. Come back next week for the start of our second mini-series about connecting to others. Topics Include: Internal Family Systems, IFS, therapy, mental health and wellness, identity, meditation, relationships, personal development, parts work. Resources: The IFS Institute “What is IFS Therapy? | Intro to Internal Family Systems” YouTube video by Dr. Tori Olds "The Huberman Lab" episode with Dr. Schwartz "We Can Do Hard Things" episode with Dr. Schwartz "The Untethered Soul" by Michael Singer “No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model” by Richard Schwartz

    47 min

  2. 6 FEB

    From Secure to Anxious: The Intersection of Attachment Styles and Modern Dating

    Compulsively checking your texts to see if your crush has responded? Always waiting for the other shoe to drop? Caught between relationship labels? Dying to DTR? Been there!!  In this episode, hosts Taylor Lord and Becca Havian explore the psychology of Attachment Styles, a model that characterizes types of interpersonal emotional bonding, trust and behavior. They chat through the modern dating scene to better understand how emotional commitment– or the lack thereof– may be impacting our bonding and behavior and they discuss why healing ourselves often means healing in relationship to others.  This episode is the fourth in the Hold That Thought mini-series— Building a Home in your Mind.  Topics Include: Attachment styles, modern dating, anxious attachment, secure attachment, situationships, relationships, mental health and wellness, identity, personal development. Resources: From the Cradle to the Grave: Age Differences in Attachment From Early Adulthood to Old Age.  Adult Attachment Theory and Research - A Brief Overview. Most women say they are finished with 'situationships', Hint App data shows. Cooperative Agency. If you want the milk, buy the cow: A study of young Black women (Master’s thesis, University of Memphis).  America Is in Its Insecure-Attachment Era: Discomfort with intimacy seems to be on the rise—and no one’s quite sure why.  Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find—and keep—love. Levine, A., & Heller, R. (2010).

    39 min

  3. 30 JAN

    The Placebo Effect: How Belief Triggers the Body’s Healing Response

    The placebo effect isn’t fake—and it isn’t just “positive thinking.” In this episode of Hold That Thought, hosts Taylor and Becca explore the connection between belief, anticipation, and healing. They delve into studies around the placebo effect and the lesser known nocebo effect, unpacking research that points to the power of the body’s own healing mechanism and discussing the power of belief, community, and ritual in treatment and health. This episode is the third in the Hold That Thought mini-series— Building a Home in your Mind. Topics Include: Placebo effect, nocebo effect, clinical research, healing, community, parasympathetic nervous system, medicine. Resources: Dr. Ted Kaptchuk TedMed Talk Placebo Effects Beyond Dopamine The Placebo Effect- Amazing and Real The Power of the Placebo Effect Dr. Lissa Rankin Mind Over Medicine by Dr. Lissa Rankin And, finally, channel your feelings of hopelessness, sadness and anger about the atrocities in Minnesota this week with action against ICE– see the resources below. Support Minnesota Now Call Your Reps! Demand Defunding of Ice Now

    32 min

  4. 23 JAN

    Freedom in a Box: The Psychology of Choice and Decision Paralysis

    Though we’re taught that freedom comes from limitless choice, research shows too many options often leave us feeling stuck, anxious, and disconnected from what we want and our own intuition. In this episode of Hold That Thought we unpack Freedom in a Box, the concept that structure and boundaries can actually unlock clarity and liberate us to make decisions. From adolescence to adulthood, from creativity to control, we unpack why having a “box” can help us take the next right step.  This episode is the second in the Hold That Thought mini-series— Building a Home in your Mind.  Topics Include: Decision paralysis, choice overload, boundaries, creativity, intuition  Resources: Born to Choose: The Origins and Value of the Need for ControlCan Constraints Improve Our Creativity? Structure and Freedom in Creativity: The interplay between externally imposed structure and personal cognitive style Relating to Adolescents: Educators in a Teenage World by Susan Eva Porter The Paradox of Choice (Why More Is Less) by Barry Schwartz

    39 min

  5. 16 JAN

    Tell Me Who I Am: Personality Tests, Diagnoses and the Search for Self

    Why do we crave labels, and when do they fail us?  In the debut episode of Hold That Thought, hosts Taylor Lord and Becca Havian explore our cultural obsession with self-definition. From popular personality tests like Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) and the Big Five Personality Inventory to casual labeling games played with friends, they unpack the rise of self-categorization and the power and pitfalls of self-imposed labels in the search for self. The conversation also dives into the growing desire for formal mental health diagnoses, examining the comfort, clarity and limitations they can bring.  This episode is the first of the Hold That Thought mini-series— Building a Home in your Mind.  Topics Include: personality tests, MBTI, Big Five, identity, mental health diagnoses, self-discovery, labeling, psychology, culture Resources: The New Yorker: “Why We’re Turning Psychiatric Labels Into Identity”Poog: “Poison Has Its Place”A Third Thin Place: “Tell Me Who I Am” A Third Thin Place: “Naked in the Town Square”Granted: “MBTI, If You Want Me Back, You Need to Change Too”MBTI Personality TypesThe Big 5 Inventory The HiTOP modelWhy do you love personality tests?Mary Oliver: “Our World” Listen, rate, comment and subscribe to Hold That Thought wherever you get your podcasts. Your feedback helps more people find the show.

    52 min
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On this podcast, we investigate those lingering questions stuck in a faraway corner of your mind, or currently collecting dust in your notes app.

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    Becca Havian and Taylor Lord
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  • Episodes
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    © 2026 Becca Havian and Taylor Lord
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