Living with your Thoughts

Tracy Moxey
  • 4.5 (2)
  • Mental Health
  • Updated weekly

We live with our thousands of thoughts everyday. These thoughts determine how we live our lives, our success, our downfalls, our illness, our quality of life. Whether we are at peace or at war with ourselves. Join me and explore where your thoughts originate and how you can learn to manage them. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

  1. 2 days ago

    Episode 239 You are more than the experiences that made You

    The central message is that your experiences shape you, but they do not define you. Many of the beliefs we hold about ourselves—such as "I'm anxious," "I'm not good enough," or "I can't trust people"—are often conclusions drawn from past experiences rather than objective truths. Key points include: ​Experiences create survival strategies, not identities. Behaviors like people-pleasing, perfectionism, hypervigilance, or avoiding conflict often develop as ways to cope with difficult situations. They helped you survive, but they are not who you are.​Adaptation can become limitation. What once protected you may eventually hold you back. Growth begins by asking, "Is this who I am, or is this how I learned to survive?"​The stories you tell yourself matter. It's not just what happened that shapes your life, but the meaning you assign to those events. Saying "I experienced failure" is very different from saying "I am a failure."​You can rewrite your story. While you cannot erase your past, you can change how you interpret it. Painful experiences can become sources of resilience, compassion, courage, and wisdom instead of lifelong labels.​Your brain is capable of change. Thanks to neuroplasticity, new thoughts, behaviors, and habits can create new neural pathways. Lasting change happens gradually through consistent, repeated choices.​Understanding your past is empowering, not limiting. Knowing why you react a certain way should lead to self-compassion, not the belief that you'll always be that way.​Your future is built by today's choices. Every decision—to choose courage over comfort, forgiveness over bitterness, or growth over fear—helps write a new chapter in your life.Key takeaway:You are not your trauma, your mistakes, or other people's opinions of you. Your past may have written the opening chapters of your story, but you are the author of what comes next. When you stop seeing your past as a prison and start seeing it as a teacher, your future becomes full of possibility.

    10 min

  2. 25 Jun

    Episode 238 Receptive Filtering: Why We See What We Expect to See

    This episode explores how the brain filters information, helping us focus on what seems important while ignoring the rest. These filters are shaped by our beliefs, emotions, expectations, and past experiences, meaning we often see the world not as it is, but as we expect it to be. Key examples show how the same situation can be interpreted differently depending on our mindset. The episode explains how negative filters such as fear, shame, anger, or anxiety can reinforce limiting beliefs and create self-fulfilling prophecies. Listeners are encouraged to build awareness by asking: What am I focusing on?What evidence am I ignoring?What story am I telling myself?Is there another way to interpret this?The core message: changing your filter can change your experience of life, helping you notice more opportunities, strengths, and connections that may have been there all along.

    8 min

  3. 19 Jun

    Episode 237 Your Future is watching the Choices you make Today

    This episode explores the tension between the past, the future, and the present moment — and how many people become emotionally trapped between old pain and future fear. The core message is that while everyone has a past and a future, true power only exists in the present. The discussion explains how the brain functions as a survival and prediction machine, constantly scanning for past wounds and future threats. Because of this, painful memories become emotional reference points, causing the nervous system to react to previous experiences as though they are still happening. The episode highlights how unresolved identities — such as the rejected child, betrayed partner, or unseen version of ourselves — can weigh down our ability to move forward. Key themes include: Emotional attachment to past experiencesFear and anxiety surrounding the futureNervous system conditioning and survival patternsThe importance of present-moment awarenessHealing versus identifying with painPersonal growth through intentional daily choicesThe episode emphasizes that healing is not denying the past, but refusing to let it define identity. Likewise, growth is not obsessing over the future, but becoming someone today who can meet the future differently. A central takeaway is the shift from asking: “Why did this happen to me?”“What if this goes wrong?”to asking: “Who am I becoming right now?”Ultimately, the episode delivers a motivational reminder that every decision made today shapes the future self waiting ahead.

    7 min

  4. 12 Jun

    Episode 236 Forgiveness Has A Pulse

    Episode 236, Forgiveness Has a Pulse, explores the idea that forgiveness is not a single moment or decision, but an ongoing emotional and psychological process. The episode reflects on how pain, betrayal, shame, and self-blame can remain stored in the body and nervous system long after an experience has ended. It emphasizes that healing is not linear, and that true forgiveness often begins with learning to forgive yourself. Through themes of emotional memory, inner healing, and self-compassion, the episode encourages listeners to stop allowing past pain to define their identity. Rather than focusing on excusing others, the conversation reframes forgiveness as a form of personal release and emotional freedom — one breath, one memory, and one layer at a time. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation Calendar I would be honoured to walk that journey with you.

    8 min

  5. 5 Jun

    Episode 235 Our Sense of Self is Shaped Through Connection

    This episode explores how human identity is formed through relationships and emotional connection. From infancy, our nervous systems learn safety, belonging, love, and self-worth through the responses of others. Positive, emotionally safe relationships help build a healthy sense of self, while inconsistent, critical, or conditional connection can create identities rooted in survival and people-pleasing rather than authenticity. The episode discusses how many people unconsciously become “the achiever,” “the caretaker,” or “the perfectionist” in order to gain acceptance, often leading to exhaustion and disconnection from their true selves. Drawing on neuroscience and the concept of neuroplasticity, it emphasizes that healing is possible through emotionally safe relationships that allow vulnerability, authenticity, and co-regulation. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on who makes them feel calm, valued, and uplifted, while learning to step away from relationships that negatively impact their nervous system. Ultimately, the episode highlights that healing and rediscovering oneself often happens not in isolation, but through safe, supportive human connection.

    10 min

  6. 29 May

    Episode 234 Fulfilment is Found in Engagement, Not Perfection

    Episode 234 explores the idea that fulfillment is not something we achieve at the end of a perfect journey, but something we experience through meaningful engagement in everyday life. So many people chase success, healing, or external validation believing it will finally make them feel complete, yet still feel disconnected once they arrive there. True fulfillment comes from being emotionally, mentally, and physically present in the things that matter — whether that’s deep conversations, helping others, learning, creating, spending time in nature, or simply being fully present with the people we love. This episode reflects on how the brain is wired for connection and engagement, not isolation or perfection. Fulfillment is found in participation, purpose, and presence — not flawless circumstances. It’s about asking yourself not “Am I fulfilled?” but “What am I truly engaged in?” From work and relationships to parenting and personal growth, this conversation is a reminder to bring more attention, connection, and meaning into the moments that already make up our lives.

    10 min

  7. 22 May

    Episode 233 Episode 233 TRUST isn't equal and that is why your team is struggling.

    In this episode, the focus is on a powerful leadership insight: trust should not be applied equally to everyone. Using a simple framework built on two axes — competence and confidence — the episode explores how different people require different forms of leadership, support, and trust to thrive. The episode breaks teams into four categories: ​A Person: Low confidence, low competence — needs structure, coaching, reassurance, and guidance.​B Person: High competence, low confidence — capable but self-doubting; needs encouragement and belief.​C Person: Low competence, high confidence — enthusiastic but inexperienced; needs direction, feedback, and boundaries.​D Person: High competence, high confidence — highly capable and self-assured; needs autonomy, ownership, and freedom.A key message throughout the episode is that effective leadership is not about treating everyone the same — it’s about understanding what each person uniquely needs. The same action or phrase (“I trust you, run with it”) can empower one person while overwhelming another. The episode also emphasizes that trust is not static or equal; it is contextual and should evolve as people grow. Misaligned trust — either too much too soon or too little for too long — often leads to anxiety, disengagement, frustration, or poor performance. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on: ​Where they currently sit within the confidence/competence framework​What the people around them truly need​Whether others actually experience them as trusting leadersUltimately, the episode reframes leadership as the ability to see people clearly enough to lead them differently, reminding listeners that trust is not simply given — it is experienced. Trust Grid

    13 min

  8. 15 May

    Episode 232 You Cannot people Please and Have Inner Peace

    In this episode of Living With Your Thoughts, the focus is on the emotional cost of people-pleasing and why true inner peace cannot coexist with constant self-abandonment. The episode explores the difference between chasing happiness and cultivating peace — emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Drawing on neuroscience and nervous system regulation, the discussion explains how people-pleasing is often a learned survival response rooted in fear of rejection, conflict, or disapproval. When approval becomes linked to safety, saying “no” can feel threatening, even when it is necessary. Key themes include: ​The hidden emotional and physical toll of people-pleasing​How self-abandonment creates internal conflict​Predictive processing and why the brain equates approval with safety​Neuroplasticity and rewiring the belief that honesty is unsafe​Learning to choose authenticity over external validation​Building peace through alignment, boundaries, and self-trustThe episode encourages listeners to reflect on where they are saying “yes” while internally feeling “no,” and reminds them that inner peace begins when they stop abandoning themselves to keep others comfortable. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via Calendar

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We live with our thousands of thoughts everyday. These thoughts determine how we live our lives, our success, our downfalls, our illness, our quality of life. Whether we are at peace or at war with ourselves. Join me and explore where your thoughts originate and how you can learn to manage them. If something in you is ready for change...if you're tired of doing it alone...if you know there's more for you but you're not sure how to access it yet - this is your invitation. I would be honoured to walk that journey with you. Book your session via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1

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  • Creator
    Tracy Moxey
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    242
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Tracy Moxey
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    Living with your Thoughts