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Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.

On Attachment Stephanie Rigg

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 19 Ratings

Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.

    Reflections on Self-Trust, Control & Surrender

    Reflections on Self-Trust, Control & Surrender

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some reflections from my recent experience of pregnancy and birth on self-trust, control and surrender. These are themes that most folks with insecure attachment patterns struggle with, and learning to trust in your capacity to navigate life's ups and downs with confidence and agency is a huge step on the path to building secure attachment. 

    For more episodes on building trust, check out:
    Ep 130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self Ep 124: On Trust, Risk & VulnerabilityEp 111: The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:
    Building Trust Masterclass How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass Better Boundaries Masterclass Sex & Attachment Masterclass Secure Together Relationship Course Higher Love Break-up Course Further Links & Resources
    Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

    • 20 min
    What to Do When a Partner Pulls Away

    What to Do When a Partner Pulls Away

    In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to navigate a partner pulling away. If you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, a partner's withdrawal or disengagement can feel extremely distressing - and yet, many of our go-to strategies for managing that distress can ironically have the effect of pushing someone further away. 

    We'll cover:
    what to do when someone pulls away in an early dating contextwhy we feel drawn to pursuing connections with people who are inconsistent how to navigate a partner repeatedly leaving and coming backwhat to do when a long-term partner is emotionally withdrawn or distant💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:
    Building Trust Masterclass How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass Better Boundaries Masterclass Sex & Attachment Masterclass Secure Together Relationship Course Higher Love Break-up Course Further Links & Resources
    Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

    • 24 min
    Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment

    Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment

    In today's episode, we're talking all about self-soothing and anxious attachment. For most anxiously attached folks, self-soothing and self-regulation can be a real struggle. This typically shows up as an over-reliance on others (often a partner) to be our sole source of safety and reassurance when we experience emotional distress, and an accompanying sense of helplessness and panic if and when they are not available to perform that role. 

    We'll cover:
    why anxiously attached people struggle to self-regulatehow an inability to self-soothe impacts our relationshipsmindset shifts and practices to start building your self-soothing toolkit⭐️ Last chance to sign up for Healing Anxious Attachment ⭐️ 
    💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:
    Building Trust Masterclass How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass Better Boundaries Masterclass Sex & Attachment Masterclass Secure Together Relationship Course Higher Love Break-up Course Further Links & Resources
    Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

    • 21 min
    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 2)

    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 2)

    This episode is part two of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style.  I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.

    ⭐️ JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ⭐️
    💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:
    Building Trust Masterclass How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass Better Boundaries Masterclass Sex & Attachment Masterclass Secure Together Relationship Course Higher Love Break-up Course Further Links & Resources
    Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

    • 23 min
    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 1)

    20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 1)

    Today's episode is part one of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style.  I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns.

    ⭐️ JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ⭐️
    💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:
    Building Trust Masterclass How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass Better Boundaries Masterclass Sex & Attachment Masterclass Secure Together Relationship Course Higher Love Break-up Course Further Links & Resources
    Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

    • 23 min
    From Conflict to Connection with James "Fish" Gill (@james_fish_gill)

    From Conflict to Connection with James "Fish" Gill (@james_fish_gill)

    In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by James "Fish" Gill to talk all things conflict and conscious communication. Fish is a coach, teacher and facilitator whose work offers a compassionate paradigm for relating to and transforming moments of conflict in all of our relationships. 

    We cover:
    why we so easily end up in conflict and opposition with people we lovehow we unconsciously escalate conflict using compassion and curiosity to understand someone else's perspectiveholding both positive intention and unintended impact as truereframing defensiveness, withdrawal and other assumed ill-intent......and so much more!

    Learn more about Fish's work:
    On Instagram: @james_fish_gillVisit his website: leadbyheart.com💸 🎉 50% OFF SALE - use code HEYBABY to save 50% off any of the following:
    Building Trust Masterclass How to Navigate Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Masterclass Better Boundaries Masterclass Sex & Attachment Masterclass Secure Together Relationship Course Higher Love Break-up Course Further Links & Resources
    Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

    • 1 hr 10 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
19 Ratings

19 Ratings

Maraaibio ,

Life-Changing Podcast for Relationship Growth

Your review is heartfelt and conveys your personal journey well, but I can help you refine it to make it even more impactful:

Title: "Life-Changing Podcast for Relationship Growth"

A couple of weeks ago, I found myself in a state of heightened emotion and despair, struggling to connect with my Avoidant partner. I was trapped in the familiar all-or-nothing mindset, fearing the impending end of our relationship. Desperate for a solution, I embarked on a last-resort search for resources to help my partner understand how their avoidance tendencies were affecting me and causing a deep sense of disconnection.

That's when I stumbled upon Stephanie Rigg's podcast. After listening to just a few episodes, I experienced a profound shift in perspective. I realized that I was unwittingly repeating destructive patterns from past relationships and sought guidance on how to break free from this cycle. Surprisingly, I discovered that I had an anxious attachment style, a revelation I never expected.

The impact of these podcasts on my relationship has been nothing short of remarkable. Through Stephanie's insights, I learned to better understand myself and recognize my own self-worth. I discovered how to express my needs and boundaries in a safe and constructive manner. In doing so, I transformed my relationships with both my partner and caregiver.

I now recognize that my past attempts to force or control the relationship were merely defense mechanisms that were actually harming my connections. I cannot recommend this podcast highly enough. It has empowered me with self-assurance and a newfound sense of calm, all thanks to "On Attachment." You've gained a lifelong fan in me.

cathywilliamscapetown ,

Wonderful insights shared with compassion

I’ve listened to a few episodes and already learnt so much. Stephanie’s calm, kind, compassionate approach is helping me understand relationships and myself at a deeper level. Thank you Stephanie. Keep on making a difference 🙏

~Mo- ,

Thank you

The kindness, sincerity and compassion that she shares het knowledge is wonderful. I have already gained so much insight regarding past relationships, current relationships, and definitely communication.

Thank you for the beautiful way all of this is given

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