Self-Selecting

Cory Hageman

A podcast on everything under the umbrella of nutrition, training, PEDs, bodybuilding, and maybe the occasional non-fitness add-on with @cory_fit

  1. 6 hr ago

    E. 169 Does Your Partner Need To Be Into Fitness? The Truth About Relationships & Fat Loss

    Does your partner need to live the same fitness lifestyle as you for your relationship to work? In this episode, I break down one of the most common questions I hear from clients pursuing fat loss, physique development, bodybuilding, and long-term health goals: what happens when your partner doesn't share your passion for fitness? I discuss the relationship dynamics that can either support or sabotage your progress, including communication, boundaries, insecurity, food choices, time commitments, coaching relationships, and differing lifestyle priorities. I also explain why fitness rarely creates relationship problems—it often magnifies existing ones. Whether you're navigating a fat loss phase, contest prep, body transformation, or simply trying to improve your health, this episode will help you better understand what healthy support looks like and how to have productive conversations around your goals. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 02:59] – Do Partners Need To Share The Same Fitness Lifestyle? - [02:59 – 05:46] – What Actually Matters More Than Shared Fitness Goals - [05:46 – 08:49] – When Partners Become Too Involved In Your Fitness Journey - [08:49 – 10:51] – When One Person's Goals Start Controlling The Relationship - [10:51 – 14:13] – Fitness, Competition Prep & Leaning Too Heavily On Your Partner - [14:13 – 17:50] – Food Choices, Dieting & Relationship Friction - [17:50 – 24:27] – Time Commitments, Lifestyle Differences & Shared Expectations - [24:27 – 26:54] – When Your Partner Doesn't Understand Your Fitness Goals - [26:54 – 31:26] – The Biggest Relationship Threat: Insecurity - [31:26 – 36:40] – Understanding The Different Levels Of Support - [36:40 – 41:59] – Unsupportive Behaviors, Sabotage & Relationship Red Flags - [41:59 – 43:44] – What To Do Next & How To Improve Communication Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    44 min

  2. 15 Jun

    E. 168 Why Most Fat Loss Goals Fail (And How to Actually Stay On Track)

    Have you ever had a week where everything fell apart—missed workouts, skipped meal prep, poor food choices, or inconsistent habits—only to tell yourself you'll "be perfect" next week? In this episode, I break down why most people fail to get back on track after a bad week. We discuss the difference between outcome-based goals and behavior-based goals, why motivation isn't the solution, and how to identify the real reasons your nutrition, training, and fat loss habits break down. I explain how to set goals that actually improve adherence, how to assess your behavior objectively without emotion, and why long-term fat loss success comes from improving systems, planning, self-awareness, and decision-making—not trying harder. If you're struggling with consistency, fat loss plateaus, goal setting, emotional eating, alcohol intake, meal prep, or staying accountable to your fitness goals, this episode will help you build a more sustainable approach. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:24] – Why Trying To Be "Perfect" After A Bad Week Usually Fails - [03:25 – 08:55] – Motivation Isn't The Problem: Finding The Real Cause Of Going Off Track - [08:56 – 11:10] – Why Understanding The Root Cause Changes Everything - [11:11 – 16:11] – What Actually Makes A Good Fat Loss Goal? - [16:12 – 21:33] – Meal Prep, Cardio & Planning For Real Life - [21:34 – 24:24] – Setting Goals For Who You Are, Not Who You Wish You Were - [24:25 – 29:19] – What You Actually Need To Have A Successful Week - [29:20 – 31:49] – How To Assess Your Behavior Without Emotion - [31:50 – 39:10] – Alcohol, Boundaries & The Hidden Behaviors Sabotaging Progress - [39:11 – 41:10] – Why Most People Miss Their Step Goals - [41:11 – 44:18] – Why Setting Goals Doesn't Automatically Change Behavior - [44:19 – 48:15] – Building Standards That Make Fat Loss Consistent Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    48 min

  3. 12 Jun

    E. 167 Tianna Weymouth on Olympia Prep, Coach Changes, PEDs & Recovery

    In this episode, I sit down with IFBB Bikini Pro Tianna Weymouth to discuss her first Olympia experience, competing at the Arnold, navigating mental and physical health challenges, switching coaches, and the lessons she's learned as a professional athlete. We dive into the realities of bodybuilding beyond social media, including stage conditioning, blood pressure concerns, electrolyte balance, systemic fatigue, recovery, training execution, coach-athlete relationships, PED use, and the importance of advocating for yourself throughout your fitness journey. Tianna shares her experience dealing with anxiety, depersonalization, burnout, and learning how to prioritize health without losing sight of long-term goals. We also discuss individualized coaching, boundaries, training intensity, recovery, and why sustainable success in bodybuilding requires much more than simply working harder. Whether you're a competitor, coach, or someone pursuing physique goals, this conversation offers valuable insights into performance, health, mindset, and long-term development. Timestamps: - [00:00 - 04:24] - Tianna's First Olympia Experience & Expectations - [04:24 - 11:27] - Olympia Feedback, Conditioning & Bringing the Right Package - [11:27 - 16:30] - Arnold Invitations, Competitive Mindset & Long-Term Development - [16:30 - 22:58] - Switching Coaches, Boundaries & Prioritizing Health - [22:58 - 34:18] - Anxiety, Blood Pressure, Recovery & Rebuilding From Burnout - [34:18 - 39:16] - Outgrowing Coaches, Communication & Athlete Buy-In - [39:16 - 44:16] - Sodium, Potassium, Hydration & Performance Variables - [44:16 - 51:43] - Systemic Fatigue, Cardio Mistakes & Recovery Management - [51:43 - 58:34] - Training Intensity, Execution & Individualized Programming - [58:34 - 01:01:41] - Rest Days, Recovery & Learning to Slow Down - [01:01:41 - 01:08:27] - Self-Awareness, Personal Growth & Showing Up For Yourself - [01:08:27 - 01:22:58] - Coaching Red Flags, Boundaries & Personalized Coaching - [01:22:58 - 01:29:11] - PEDs, Expectations & The Reality of Muscle Growth - [01:29:11 - 01:39:38] - Why You Can't Build Significant Muscle During Prep & Long-Term Physique Development Links & Resources: Follow Tianna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tianna.weymouth_ifbbpro/ Work With Tianna: https://pilyne.setmore.com/ Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    1hr 40min

  4. 8 Jun

    E. 166 Why Your Waist Isn’t Getting Smaller (And What Actually Works)

    Why does your waist still look wide even after losing weight? In this episode, I explain the real factors that influence waist size, including body fat levels, muscle development, genetics, rib cage structure, hip width, abdominal training, and physique balance. I also break down common fitness myths surrounding waist trainers, lifting belts, fat-burning creams, and other popular waist-shrinking strategies. You'll learn how to create a more tapered physique, how to measure your progress correctly, and why building muscle in the right places often has a bigger impact than losing more body fat. If your goal is a smaller waist, stronger hourglass shape, better proportions, or improved physique development, this episode will help you focus on what actually works. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:15] - Why Your Waist May Not Be the Problem - [03:15 – 05:22] - The Two Factors That Actually Influence Waist Size: Fat & Muscle - [05:22 – 10:47] - Rib Cage Structure, Hip Width & Core Training Myths - [10:47 – 16:26] - Core Stability, Glute Training & Why You Can't "Turn Off" Your Abs - [16:26 – 19:30] - Waist Trainers, Creams, Wraps & Popular Waist-Shrinking Myths - [19:30 – 21:50] - Lifting Belts, Abdominal Control & Building a Stronger Core - [21:50 – 25:48] - The Truth About the Hourglass Shape & X-Frame Ratios - [25:48 – 30:29] - Measuring Your Starting Point & Tracking Waist Progress Correctly - [30:29 – 34:48] - Why Building Quads Creates More Curves Than Most Women Realize - [34:48 – 39:24] - Muscle Building Targets for a Smaller-Looking Waist - [39:24 – 40:55] - The Only Trendy Waist Strategy Worth Considering Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    41 min

  5. 1 Jun

    E. 165 Why Accountability Alone Won’t Help You Lose Weight

    In this episode, I break down what accountability actually means in fat loss and why most people misunderstand it. I explain why accountability isn’t someone forcing you to care about your goals, but instead a system that exposes the gap between your actions and the results you say you want. We talk about avoidance behaviors, underreporting food, emotional eating, shame around scale weight, behavior change, self-regulation, and why sustainable progress comes from consistent standards—not external pressure. I also discuss coaching boundaries, the role of awareness in fat loss, and why long-term success requires identity-driven habits instead of temporary motivation. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:43] – Why most people think they need accountability for fat loss - [03:44 – 06:23] – Avoiding check-ins, food logging, and uncomfortable truths - [06:24 – 09:54] – Defining accountability and why awareness creates behavior change - [09:55 – 14:23] – Avoidance patterns, distorted adherence, and self-deception in dieting - [14:24 – 19:56] – The 3 components of accountability - [19:57 – 24:04] – Scale weight, objective data, and why visibility matters in fat loss - [24:05 – 29:58] – Logging food after overeating and creating long-term behavior change - [29:59 – 36:10] – External accountability vs. internal motivation and self-respect - [36:11 – 39:20] – Why fear of disappointing others eventually stops working - [39:21 – 44:40] – Why behavior change takes time and the psychology behind food habits - [44:41 – 46:41] – Coaching boundaries, mental health, and staying within scope of practice - [46:42 – 52:29] – The real limiting factor in fat loss consistency and identity change - [52:30 – 59:30] – What actually drives long-term results Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    59 min

  6. 29 May

    E. 164 How to Stop Hating Yourself & Finally Build Real Confidence With Sue Bush

    Most women don’t struggle with fat loss because they’re lazy — they struggle because they’ve spent years hating themselves, chasing acceptance, and tying their worth to how they look. In this episode, Sue Bush joins me for an honest conversation about body image, confidence, discipline, self-worth, emotional healing, and the mindset shifts that changed her life. We talk about the pressure women feel to be accepted, how negative self-talk destroys progress, and why sustainable transformation starts with learning how to show up for yourself consistently. Sue shares her journey from insecurity, shame cycles, and perfectionism to building true confidence, emotional resilience, and a healthier relationship with herself, fitness, and food. We also discuss competing, social media pressure, boundaries, self-abandonment, therapy, discipline, and how to stop living for other people’s approval. If you’ve ever struggled with body image, self-confidence, emotional eating, perfectionism, or feeling stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, this episode will hit home. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 05:00] – Sue Bush’s fitness journey, coaching philosophy & creating sustainable fat loss - [05:00 – 09:30] – Sue’s viral Instagram series, accountability & calling people “up” - [09:30 – 13:50] – Why losing weight is easy — maintaining results is the hard part - [13:50 – 20:25] – Sue’s body image struggles, insecurity & discovering confidence through fitness - [20:25 – 27:00] – The moment Sue realized she didn’t want to feel miserable anymore - [27:00 – 31:00] – Women, acceptance, comparison culture & changing negative self-talk - [31:00 – 39:40] – Setting boundaries, people pleasing, self-abandonment & personal alignment - [39:40 – 43:50] – Taking care of yourself, emotional depletion & identifying what’s missing - [43:50 – 46:50] – Discipline, self-respect & why life isn’t fair — but your response matters - [46:50 – 51:56] – Healing trauma, changing your mindset & building emotional resilience - [51:56 – 59:30] – Sitting with yourself, finding alignment & creating lasting self-confidence Links & Resources: Follow Sue on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suegainz/ Work With Physique Development: https://physiquedevelopment.typeform.com/to/ToP9TYLE Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    1 hr

  7. 25 May

    E. 163 Why You Keep “Falling Off” Your Diet (And How to Finally Stay Consistent)

    Most people don’t fail fat loss because they lack motivation — they fail because they can’t stay consistent long enough to see results. In this episode, I break down the real psychology behind fat loss adherence, emotional eating, self-sabotage, and why so many people keep “starting over” every Monday. We cover reactive dieting, loose tracking, overeating cycles, motivation dependency, and the hidden behaviors preventing long-term weight loss success. I also explain how to build non-negotiable standards, improve dietary adherence, stop relying on pressure or guilt, and finally create sustainable fat loss habits that actually last. If you feel like you know what to do but can’t stay consistent with dieting, nutrition, or fat loss goals, this episode will help you understand why. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 04:54] – Why fat loss progress keeps falling apart and the hidden reason people lose momentum. - [04:54 – 06:44] – The REAL reason most people can’t stay consistent with dieting. - [06:44 – 11:11] – What dietary adherence actually means and why most people misjudge it. - [11:11 – 14:03] – Why your expectations don’t match your fat loss results. - [14:03 – 20:07] – Emotional dieting, negative motivation, and the toxic fat loss cycle. - [20:07 – 23:41] – Self-image, personal standards, and inconsistent eating behaviors. - [23:41 – 26:00] – Chasing goals vs escaping discomfort during fat loss. - [26:00 – 32:20] – Why your habits are tied to consequences instead of identity. - [32:20 – 34:30] – What real fat loss consistency actually looks like. - [34:30 – 38:49] – Why pressure, urgency, and “starting over” keep you stuck. - [38:49 – 41:00] – Why most people regain weight after dieting phases. - [41:00 – 43:40] – How to actually stay “on track” with nutrition and fat loss. - [43:40 – 48:28] – The biggest fat loss excuses sabotaging your progress. - [48:28 – 51:08] – Why weight loss always works when true adherence is present. - [51:08 – 54:00] – Overtraining, excessive cardio, and hidden self-sabotage behaviors. - [54:00 – 59:23] – How to stop restarting your diet and finally stay consistent. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    59 min

  8. 18 May

    E. 162 Why Your Traps Keep Growing (The Real Problem Isn’t Genetics)

    In this episode, I break down why so many people struggle to actually target the muscles they’re trying to grow—and why poor scapular stability is often the real issue behind trap dominance, neck tension, and upper body imbalances. I explain how instability at the scapula changes muscle recruitment patterns, why many rear delt and shoulder exercises unintentionally become trap exercises, and how improving scapular control can completely change your upper body development. We also cover common misconceptions around trap growth, overhead pressing mechanics, warm-up strategies, and why most people are searching for quick fixes instead of addressing the real problem. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 04:49] – Why trap dominance happens and how scapular stability affects upper body training. - [04:50 – 07:10] – Scapular movement explained and why instability changes muscle recruitment. - [07:11 – 09:44] – Trap growth misinformation, PED myths, and why genetics aren’t the full story. - [09:45 – 14:59] – The real issue: scapular instability, elevation vs depression, and compensation patterns. - [15:00 – 17:44] – The biggest mistakes during lateral raises and rear delt flies that overgrow traps. - [17:45 – 23:55] – Overhead pressing, neurotoxins/Botox for traps, injury risks, and muscle recruitment. - [23:56 – 26:44] – Why people want quick fixes instead of improving scapular control and movement quality. - [26:45 – 33:26] – Warm-ups, mobility drills, scapular holds, and stability exercises that actually help. - [33:27 – 38:19] – Windmills, shoulder stability progressions, and exposing upper body weaknesses safely. - [38:20 – 41:20] – Exercise order, movement prep before compounds, and how to improve upper body targeting long term. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

    41 min
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A podcast on everything under the umbrella of nutrition, training, PEDs, bodybuilding, and maybe the occasional non-fitness add-on with @cory_fit

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  • Creator
    Cory Hageman
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    169
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Cory Hageman
  • Show Website
    Self-Selecting

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