The Circle Project

Mitlé Southey

Exploring the power of sharing Circles as collective care and sacred activism in (r)evolutionary times. Asking how Circles can provide spaces of sanctuary and rebellion in which we can collectively flourish. Deepening into the art of living 'in circle' through seasonal reflections, rituals, and practices for deeper connection with self, nature, and community. Join me in conversation and in Circle with those whose path of contribution includes holding Circles. (This podcast began in 2016 and has changed name a few times!). mitle.substack.com

  1. 21/12/2025

    If the Winter Solstice Were a Question

    Dear Wayfinders If the Winter Solstice Were a Question it might ask this: If darkness is the source of all creativity, imagination, and potential, what is waiting to emerge? Solstice Blessings Last night, River and I shared a candlelit meal in front of the fire; we each wrote a letter to the returning light and released our wishes into the flames. We spoke very little and didn’t share what we’d written. We offered them to the fire with a simple ‘And so it is; and it is so’. The word solstice comes from the Latin solstitium, sol (sun) and sistere or -stitium (to stand still): the sun stands still. At this moment, the sun appears to pause in its long journey across the sky. Winter Solstice marks the shortest day and the longest night of the year. It is both the darkest point, and also the turning. From here, the light begins its slow return. The power of the solstice lies in this paradox: descent and emergence, held together. Before that emergence, there is an invitation to stay with what is offered in the dark to listen, rather than rush ahead. Welcoming the light Our ancestors never took the returning of the light for granted. They encouraged it. They sang it back. They moved their bodies. They wove time together: memory, present moment, future becoming. This morning we trudged, a little wearily (tired and full of a cold) through Hembury Woods and witnessed the sun rise from Hembury Hill Fort. As we looked out on the floating lakes of mist and the clouds forming and reforming, there was a gentle hint of the light and warmth from the sun to come. I’m so glad we made it! There is a story for every season One of the teachings that has most shaped my relationship with seasonal work comes from Sharon Blackie, through her course Sisters of Rock and Root. At each turning of the year, she offers a story to work with that carries the medicine of that season. The invitation is to sit with a story long enough that its themes and images begin to speak directly into our own lives. At Solstice, the story offered is Beira, Queen of Winter, the ancient figure who rules the dark half of the year. Beira is not a gentle archetype. She is the bone woman, the storm bringer, the keeper of what endures. Her presence reminds us that winter is not merely a pause, but a force: one that strips away illusion, tests what is real, and shapes the land, and us, through pressure and time. Alongside story, there is always place. This work asks us to explore where we are, geographically, bodily, seasonally, and who we are in that place. It is a practice of grounding, of mapping ourselves into the living world rather than hovering above it. Over time, this deepens into what Sharon Blackie calls the Eco-Heroine’s Journey: not a quest for transcendence or conquest, but a return to relationship and reciprocity. That framework draws on her book If Women Rose Rooted, which explores these themes in far greater depth, particularly the idea that the journeys we are most in need of now are not away from the world, but back into it. This is why Winter Solstice, for me, is not only about the return of the light. It is about entering the dark with respect.About learning what the season, and the land, are asking of us.About recognising that the dark is not empty, but alive with medicine and meaning. And it is why, when we gather at Solstice, we do not rush toward illumination.We linger.We listen.We allow the Queen of Winter to speak. A Guided Winter Solstice Journey One of the most powerful places to meet the dark is through the image of the cave. In Celtic and land-based traditions, caves appear as places of initiation and transformation. They are womb-like spaces: places of retreat, gestation, and deep listening. Not places of punishment or exile, but of mystery, where the outer world recedes and we are brought into contact with what is essential and enduring. Caves ask us to slow down. To shed what cannot travel further. To meet what remains when the light is absent. What follows is a guided Solstice journey into the imaginal realm; please remember that imaginal does not always mean visual. Some people see images, others sense, feel, or simply know. Before you begin, I invite you to create a space that feels safe and supportive, one where you’re unlikely to be disturbed. You might like to gather a few simple things:a journal and pen,a candle,some water. Make yourself as comfortable as you can. As you read, or listen to the audio of me guiding you, you’ll be invited into a state of gentle relaxation. This is not an altered state of consciousness, but a quieting of attention. A way of listening more closely. This journey offers guidance, clues, and prompts. You may wish to close your eyes and follow it through in one sitting. Or you may prefer to read slowly, pausing to journal when you reach the questions. There is no right way to do this. What matters most is that you give yourself enough space and time for the journey to unfold in the way it needs to. A gentle note on care Please take responsibility for your own wellbeing as you move through this journey. If you are currently experiencing mental health difficulties that make working with imagination, visualisation, or inner imagery challenging, it may be best not to take part in this practice, or to do so with appropriate professional support. This journey is intended to be undertaken while you are fully present and sober. Please do not engage with it under the influence of mind-altering substances, including drugs or alcohol. Trust yourself. You are always free to pause, stop, or return to this practice at another time if it doesn’t feel supportive. When you’re ready, begin. You’re welcome to read the journey slowly to yourself, or to listen to the accompanying audio of me guiding you through it, or record it in your own voice to listen to. Journey Into the Cave Begin by bringing your attention to your breath. There’s nothing to change or control, simply notice the rhythm of your breathing, in and out. If it feels right, take a slightly deeper breath in,and a longer breath out.Do that once or twice more. Allow your body to soften. If it feels comfortable, close your eyes.If not, soften your gaze. Feel your weight being held: by the chair, the floor, the earth beneath you. Bring your awareness down through your body,from the crown of your head,through your shoulders and chest,down into your belly, your hips, your legs, your feet. Let yourself arrive. Now, gently ground your attention. Ground into the earth - the land that holds you, wherever you are.Ground into your ancestors - those whose lives made yours possible.Ground into your body - exactly as it is in this moment.And ground into gratitude - noticing what is already here. You don’t need to hold all of this at once.Simply let your attention rest where it wants to. As you continue to breathe, allow yourself to relax a little more. Nothing is required of you.There is nowhere else you need to be. From here, we begin the journey. We begin by arriving at the door of a winter hut - your inner winter retreat. This is a place of shelter and rest. You are safe here. Take notice of the door. Knock three times and the door opens. You cross the threshold and step inside. Look around you. What do you notice here?What do you see, sense, or feel? Perhaps there are representatives of the elements: earth, air, fire, water.Perhaps there are objects, textures, or presences that bring you comfort.Take a moment to let this place form, in whatever way it does for you. Now you notice something. There is symbol or an image or an object that represents this past year for you, what is it? There’s no need to analyse.Simply notice what arises. Trust you will remember it. Now, you become aware that you are not alone. An old woman appears.She is here to hold you and to guide you. She does not hurry.She does not soothe or placate you. She allows space for your grief and your challenges.She helps you receive the gifts of the dark.She offers you courage, insight, and guidance — as much or as little as you need. When you’re ready, she invites you to follow her. Together, you walk to a well. You sit down beside it.You pause.You sink down. And from here, you find yourself entering a cave. This is a place of depth and stillness.A place of mystery. Inside the cave, you notice three stones. You take the first stone and ask: What has been stripped away from me this year?Beliefs.Illusions.Old myths about who I thought I was. When you’re ready, you take the second stone and ask: What am I still holding on to that needs to be released?The last leaves clinging to the tree. And then you take the third stone and ask: When I remove the layers of all my stories about who I am; what is left? Take your time here.There is no rush. When it feels complete, you notice an opening. You make your way out and back up to the surface.You return to your winter hut. Once again, you look around this space. And now you ask one final question: If there was a symbol or an image or an object that might represent the coming year, what would it be? Let whatever comes be enough. Slowly, gently, begin to return. Notice the feeling of your body.Notice your breath. When you’re ready, open your eyes. Take some time to write down what you received: words, images, sensations, or fragments. Book Suggestions If you’re drawn to working with the seasons in your own circles or personal practice, the Wheel of the Year can offer a meaningful and grounding structure. I love the following books wh

    14 min
  2. 051 Sora Surya No: Mind & Spirit Mastery For Entrepreneurs

    25/11/2019

    051 Sora Surya No: Mind & Spirit Mastery For Entrepreneurs

    Sora Surya No works with sovereign spiritual womxn entrepreneurs to incorporate the art of feeling sacred into our business through earth-based practices. Her mission is to remind spiritual womxn leaders that they have an equitable place in entrepreneurship.What we talked about:  Deep path of spiritual awakening Embracing the archetypal energy of a priestess as a way of realising her full potential to be of great service to herself and her inner work first, and then to her community Honouring and bringing together the divine feminine and masculine in life and business Unpacking preconceived stories we have around ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine’ Sacred masculine is a container. Makes logic and sense and creating amazing action. Divine harmony is when we weave the masculine and feminine together Sovereign Spiritual Women - women who have businesses and use spiritual practices Becoming aware of blocks. When are you in the conflict triangle? What it means to understand our sovereignty What it means to have boundaries How to deal with your triggers Becoming a viewer of yourself and your habitual roles and patterns, such as roles of victim and persecutor Earth-Based Practices helping us return back into our body and feel our emotions and to recognise what is happening in our mind and then our ethereal bodies.  Practices include mindfulness, mediation, yoga, ritual practices to honour what is around you Awareness of collective consciousness Altar Crafts as holograms that connect our internal energy system with the cosmic realm The Emerald Dragon tablet is a map that helps support women-identifying leaders who not only are deep in their spiritual practice but also desire to work in allowing their business to grow. Sora’s mastermind is a place where women can come together in the sacred business mastermind.  Where they are leading from their hearts, being truly tapped into their emotions and then be informed so that they can use their minds to create brilliant strategies that are in integrity with their values.Connect with Sora:WebsiteInstagramFacebookConnect with MitléWebsiteFacebookInstagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mitle.substack.com

    44 min
  3. 049 Kerry Wilde: The Art of Slow Fashion

    02/09/2019

    049 Kerry Wilde: The Art of Slow Fashion

    Kerry Wilde is a Slow Fashion expert bridging the worlds of Spirituality, Sustainability and Adornment.Spending over 25 years in the Fast Fashion industry, she now has one mission and that is to guide through ‘The Art of Slow’, a platform delivering empowering workshops, swap shop events and tailored adornment sessions for those wishing to leave a legacy on the planet.Kerry is set to awaken and inspire a new wave of Buying, Wearing and Loving our Clothes. If more consumers are asking questions, the brand is going to have to break at some point. And as we know with, circle work, it takes what we call the millionth circle to change the consciousness. So it's about that.  That one question that you're maybe asking that brand. Who made it and what were they paid? Because a lot of this comes down to the fact that the £5 or $5 T-Shirt is not real. It doesn't exist. Somewhere,  somebody is being squeezed at the bottom of the chain.What we talked about:Kerry's journey from fast fashion to slow fashionHow our clothes are made and the social and environmental harm that is causedThe lineage of our clothes and accessories and how to connect to pieces in our wardrobesKerry's view of a circular economy and embracing circular living as going beyond recycling and being a good eco tenantHow the #artofslow is the art of becoming more yourselvesThe Art of Adornment - how to create intimate connections with ourselves and our clothes through adornment, spirituality and ethicsThe "Love Story" pieces in your collection Connect with Kerry: To join Kerry's 40 Day Fashion Detox program, send her a message via one of her platforms below. Website www.theartofslow.coInsta: @Art.of.slowFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofslow/Connect with MitléWebsite:  https://mitlesouthey.comFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/mitlesoutheypage/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/mitlesouthey/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mitle.substack.com

    56 min
  4. 048 Sharna O’Sullivan: Near Death & Finding Presence

    10/08/2019

    048 Sharna O’Sullivan: Near Death & Finding Presence

    Sharna's message is one of wholeness. A reclamation of self. An occupation of space. She wishes to share that it all takes to truly be HERE is a moment. Then another. And there are practical steps that can be taken to bring that Presence and space into your life.Sharna is a weaver of stories. Stories of space, presence, awareness. Stories of the Whole self – present self, past life selves, ancestral self. We draw from all the patterns around us. And it is within this acknowledgement that we find ourselves, come to know ourselves, accept ourselves. Sharna is a realist, a pursuer of deep connection, a lover of the vast Universe and daughter of the Goddess Consciousness. She mentors women to create the space to discover a life beyond the stresses, anxieties and pressures of life.What we talked about: All Sharna’s life, she had pushed through obstacles to reach her goals. She pushed through everything in life, as a coping mechanismShe approached the impending birth of her baby boy Daire the same wayShe’d had c-sections with her previous births. She felt this was an indication of an emotional or spiritual block that needed to be healed, which she was determined to discover and overcomeAn emergency c-section for Daire eventuated, despite all Sharna’s work to avoid itComplications from surgery resulted in a Near Death ExperienceSharna described the sense of calm, peace and expansion she experienced before and during this experienceHer reasons for choosing to return to this lifePTSD and the adjustment period that followed reintegrating into her life in this physical realmTurning points in putting her life back together and overcoming anxietySimple techniques she has learned to focus on a single task and be presentUnderstanding, acknowledging and integrating the present self, past life self and ancestral self. How to find clues to who you really are and your purposeIf I could go back and tell myself one thing, it would be just to take and do one thing at a time. In those stressed and frazzled times, there is space to breath for just a moment and have a look at what I can do, one thing at a time. Bringing everything back to one thing at a time. Even to the the point of one thought at a time.  Sharna can be found on Facebook hereSharna has a membership ‘Moment by Moment’ which is run as a circle. You can private message Sharna via her Facebook page to enquire about the availability of spaces.  Sharna’s website can be found here This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mitle.substack.com

    1h 4m
  5. 046 Meg Berryman: You are a social leader

    04/07/2019

    046 Meg Berryman: You are a social leader

    In this podcast we chat to Meg Berryman and talk all things regarding Social Sacred Leadership. Meg’s message is that we are already social leaders and change makers in our families, our workplaces and our communities. She loves to inspire others to step into leadership.  She demonstrates how to cultivate a vision that inspired purpose in the everyday contributes not only to our own vitality and wellbeing, but to a kinder, more sustainable and equitable future for all.We talked about: What is leadership?What are the blocks women have around leadership?The idea that our energy causes change in the worldHow Meg spent 15 years trying to effect change through her actions aloneHow a breakdown and healing process lead to understanding social change on a deeper, more holistic levelThe importance of understanding that we are always causing an effectThe significance of looking in the shadows. Of sitting with the discomfort, in order to heal, grow and shift energyThe importance of having difficult conversationsThe need to do Inner work and how it leads to a ripple effect of outer changeHow to do the inner work, remove the blocks and take inspired actionMeg’s message isAn invitation. There comes a time when we really need to, as a species, as sisters, lovingly help each other to step into action.There are enormous injustices happening in the world.  You are not responsible for changing all of them. However, if there is one issue, one focus, one thing behind you could bring your intentionality, wisdom and resources to, that really feels like it’s in alignment with you and your experiences, my invitation is to think about taking action. Meg’s Leadership Course is ‘Lead(her) - Self Empowerment for Social Leadership’, which you can find on her website http://megberryman.com Her Instagram is https://www.instagram.com/megjberryman/Facebook page is: https://www.facebook.com/megjberryman/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mitle.substack.com

    43 min
  6. 045 Gita Gopalan: Listening to yourself first

    02/07/2019

    045 Gita Gopalan: Listening to yourself first

    I am absolutely delighted and honoured to be joined in this podcast by the one and only Gita Gopalan. We had a really juicy deep dive conversation exploring her heritage, her culture and who she is. Gita is a Senior Executive Search Researcher through her own consultancy business. She has a Graduate Certificate in Philanthropy and Not For Profits. She’s also a Reiki Practitioner and an Intuitive Guide. Gita is on a mission to share with professional men and women how to marry their intuition into their daily lives, and live a life on purpose. We talked about:The importance of honouring one’s self firstHaving ties with multiple countries and navigating finding one’s homeTrusting your own heart and judgement over other people’s opinionsThe importance of education for womenHer support of the organisation ‘Room to Read’Bringing Capitalism, Not For Profit Philanthropy and living on purpose together On living a fearlessly, Gita says we can achieve this By listening to oneself. It’s normal to seek advice and opinions. However, I have always listened to myself. I’ve also had the courage. I created a very different life and it is one I love and cherish and that I’m very grateful for Links: For more information on Room to Read click here  For more about the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence click here  Gita’s business website is here  Link to Gita Gopalan’s article for the Spiritually Fierce Magazine is here This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mitle.substack.com

    47 min
  7. 044 Carlie Maree: Soul Modes

    24/06/2019

    044 Carlie Maree: Soul Modes

    Hello and welcome to this episode of the Spirited Sisters Podcast.  I am beyond excited to be joined today by the one and only Carlie Maree. Carlie is a dear friend and a woman whose work I have dived into since meeting her on retreat. And we’re also in a Mastermind together. She has a capacity to take complex information and teach it in a way that is truly understandable. Her drive and devotion to helping women make a difference in the world is impeccable. She’s building an incredible community of dynamic and powerful women.  Through this she has created Soul Modes, a framework which is really enhancing that community’s capacity to show up, to make a difference and to be all of themselves. Carlie is curious.  She’s inquisitive. She asks absolutely incredible questions.  I am so honoured to have her as a guest today. Carlie, how did you come to understand that we are not one ordinary woman but we are four extraordinary women?Soul Modes is a lifelong research project that I’m a couple of years into playing with. Around 2 years ago, the life plan had I created, that is, to get the husband, the 2 and a half kids, the white picket fence, that dream life I thought I was building was ripped out from underneath me. My marriage broke down and I was not okay. I’d spent a lot of time in my marriage thinking I was crazy. I was always up and down. I felt like I was always a bit all over the place and on an emotional roller coaster. I knew my husband found me a challenge to deal with as a result. I was trying to fix my marriage and I was convinced I was a bit broken. Through the healing process I read lots of personal development books and tried to figure myself out. I started trying to figure out when I felt good and when I didn’t and what was going on. I started tracking the moon, learning about lunar cycles, working with crystals, trying meditation and different healers. I learned about this idea that we cycle through 4 different phases through our menstrual cycle. So I tried tracking the moon and the menstrual cycle and I tried to figure out my pattern. I tried to track my motivation and mood to see if I could ‘hack’ it. I found that nothing was working for me. One day in a meditation I had a very clear voice come to me and say, ‘There is nothing wrong with you.’ So I decided to stop looking outwards and I started looking in. I started journaling each day and figuring out what I needed and I found there was a really clear pattern. Four modes. I gave them 4 nicknames. I realised my moods happened exactly in the same order. I started talking about it. I started finding it was happening to others! And Soul Modes was born!When I first heard this I was skeptical. I track the moon and menstrual cycle. It pushed my buttons as it seemed contrary to that. But I have become a passionate convert. Can you give us an overview?The Four modes together I call a ‘Soul Cycle’. The four modes that make up the Soul Cycle I call the Soul Modes.  They are Wild Mode, Bear Mode, Super Mode and Sparkle Mode. It’s like at any time we have all four women inside us, but only one of them is driving, the others take back seats so that she (the ‘driver’) can get what she needs. We often talk about having to ‘fill our cup’. We don’t just have one. We have four cups. This approach is a radical take on self care. In each mode there’s a deep yearning. When that yearning gets filled, we shift into the next mode.  If you pay attention and track this, you’re going to speed this thing up. So your output will increase, your motivation and growth massively explode. It’s indescribably powerful. So can you explain the four modes? The four woman inside us? WILDShe’s my favourite. She’s a wild woman. She wants to make changes. She’s the CEO of your life. She decides what needs to change for you to move forward to the next level version of you, so that you can grow. That can come out as frustration at the lack of progress. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mitle.substack.com

    54 min

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Exploring the power of sharing Circles as collective care and sacred activism in (r)evolutionary times. Asking how Circles can provide spaces of sanctuary and rebellion in which we can collectively flourish. Deepening into the art of living 'in circle' through seasonal reflections, rituals, and practices for deeper connection with self, nature, and community. Join me in conversation and in Circle with those whose path of contribution includes holding Circles. (This podcast began in 2016 and has changed name a few times!). mitle.substack.com