Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.

Doctor Becc and Kristeen Barker
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In "Am I Doing It Wrong?” Doctor Becc & Kristeen Barker have the vulnerable conversations all doctors need to remind us "You're not crazy, life as a doctor is". You'll feel seen & connected again & you'll also get actionable strategies to be able to show up as your favourite version of you as a doctor regardless of the daily challenges. Dr Kristeen Barker, nephrologist at Alfred Health, runs online medical education courses for physicians & trainees. Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) is coach & host of Dare, Darling—a transformative group coaching program for doctors who are people-pleasers.

  1. 30 APR

    100. Doctors, You’ve Been Lied To About Success (Let’s Redefine It)

    Hello Doctor Humans, Today’s episode is incredibly special for us because it’s our 100th episode, and honestly, it’s been a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. We’re celebrating this milestone by reflecting on what this podcast has truly become, the community we’ve built with you, and a powerful idea that’s been deeply resonating with us lately: redefining success in medicine. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite fit the traditional mold of what a “successful doctor” should be, this conversation is for you. We’re diving into what it really means to be a doctor human and how reconnecting with that might just change everything. In this episode, we explore: We’re celebrating 100 episodes and the power of this shared doctor communityMost definitions of success in medicine are inherited, not consciously chosenDoctors often feel “not enough” despite doing incredible workTrue success isn’t your CV, it’s the impact you make, one person at a timeRedefining success helps you filter out external pressure and reclaim your confidenceYour “human” side is your greatest strength, not a weaknessIf this resonated, we’d love to hear from you. What does success look like for you right now? Leave a review, share your thoughts, or send this to a fellow doctor who needs this reminder. We’re so grateful you’re part of this journey with us 💛 💜 Work with Dr Becc Inside Dare, Darling, Becc makes doctors UNSHAMEABLE to be UNSHAKEABLE. ◽️ Apply for a free consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL 💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ 📚 Study with Kristeen If you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago. 👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lh More study tools coming soon. 🔗 Connect with us & go deeper Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎 📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR 👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF 📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP 👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz

    28 min

  2. 15 APR

    99. Doctors, Take Back Control of Your Energy (Unsubscribe From What’s Draining You)

    Hello Doctor Humans, In today’s episode, we’re diving into something that can genuinely change your day-to-day life. Learning how to unsubscribe from the things that drain your energy. From people, to thoughts, to expectations, to even the words we use, we’re sharing what we’re personally letting go of and how you can start protecting your energy in a more intentional way. This is a fun, honest, and surprisingly powerful conversation that will have you reflecting on what’s no longer serving you and what you’re ready to release. You can unsubscribe from more than just emails—this is a life toolProtect your energy by letting go of draining people and influencesChoose how you engage with the news and external noiseUnsubscribe from imposter syndrome and negative self-talkSmall language shifts can change how you feel (“busy” → “productive”)Filter unsolicited advice, especially in vulnerable momentsSet boundaries with your time, energy, and responsivenessStop shrinking yourself. Unsubscribe from self-deprecating humilityWe’d love to hear from you. What is one thing you’re ready to unsubscribe from after listening to this episode? Share it with us in the comments, and if this resonated, send it to someone who might need a little permission to let go too Inside Dare, Darling, Becc makes doctors UNSHAMEABLE to be UNSHAKEABLE. ◽️ Apply for a free consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL 💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ If you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago. 👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lh More study tools coming soon. 📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR 👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF 📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP 👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz In this episode, we explore:💜 Work with Dr Becc📚 Study with Kristeen🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎

    31 min

  3. 1 APR

    98. How to thrive as a Doctor instead of burning out

    Hello Doctor Humans, Today we’re diving into a powerful (and slightly controversial) truth: why basic wellness alone isn’t enough to protect you from burnout and what actually helps you move into true thriving. We’re sharing a story that sparked some real outrage (in the best, most clarifying way), and using it as a springboard to explore the deeper energetic drains most doctors aren’t taught to see. If you’ve ever felt “technically fine” but still flat, exhausted, or disconnected… this episode is for you. Basic wellness is essential but it’s only the foundation, not the goalThriving is about feeling alive, not just functioningEnergy isn’t just restored, it’s created or drained moment to momentSelf-awareness helps you identify what gives vs. drains your energyAuthentic self-expression builds energy; masking and suppression drain itBurnout can still happen but you can recover faster and spend less time there We’d love to hear from you. What’s one thing that gives you energy, and one thing that drains it? Drop it in the comments (or even just an emoji that reflects how you’re feeling right now) 💛 Inside Dare, Darling, Becc makes doctors UNSHAMEABLE to be UNSHAKEABLE. ◽️ Apply for a free consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL 💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ If you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago. 👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lh More study tools coming soon. 📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR 👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF 📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP 👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz In this episode, we explore:💜 Work with Dr Becc📚 Study with Kristeen🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎

    51 min

  4. 18 MAR

    97. Why High Achievers Are So Exhausted (And How to Fix It)

    Hello Doctor Humans,In today’s episode, we’re diving into something that can completely transform your daily experience: the energy behind your actions. We explore how the mindset and emotional state you bring into everyday decisions—from going to the gym to how you talk to yourself—can shape not only your results but also how you feel moment to moment. We share personal stories about perfectionism, self-talk, healing from disordered eating, and learning to move through life from a place of self-kindness rather than self-criticism.In this episode, we explore: • The energy behind an action matters just as much as the action itself—it influences both results and how we feel while doing it. • Everyday activities (exercise, work, social media, how we dress) can come from either self-criticism or self-love, and that difference changes our experience. • Negative self-talk and perfectionism often come from the belief that we are “not enough.” • Choosing actions from a place of self-kindness and self-respect can break cycles of exhaustion, restriction, and emotional burnout. • Our mindset can even affect physical performance, such as strength and energy levels at the gym. • Judging others often reflects the judgments we hold about ourselves—and shifting our perspective can change our mood and energy instantly. • True personal power comes from learning to hold your own emotional state, even when the outside world feels chaotic. • When we intentionally choose our emotional energy—aligned, generous, and authentic—positive behavior flows naturally.We’d love to hear from you! What’s one area of your life where you’ve noticed your energy changing your results?💜 Work with Dr BeccInside Dare, Darling Coaching, Becc makes women in medicine UNSHAMEABLE. Join us for 3 months and be forever changed. 📆 Book in now for a no-cost consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ📚 Study with KristeenIf you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago.👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lhMore study tools coming soon.🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz

    21 min

  5. 3 MAR

    96: The Big Break I lost when shame hijacked my decisions

    Hello Doctor Humans,In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into something that quietly sabotages so many of us: the belief that we’re not good enough. We share a very personal story about being handed a “big break”… and almost destroying it from the inside out.We unpack how self-sabotage can masquerades as high standards, how opportunities often feel like risk, and why it’s not the lack of opportunity holding us back, it’s our Imposter Syndrome.If you’ve ever felt relief instead of celebration, dread instead of excitement, or like you’re one mistake away from being found out… this one is for you.In this episode, we explore: • Opportunities often feel terrifying because they expose us to possible failure. • External validation doesn’t fix Imposter Syndrome. • Doctors are conditioned to avoid doing “the wrong thing,” which can lead to playing small. • The real skill isn’t confidence, it’s learning how to fail without destroying yourself. • Big opportunities are earned through tiny daily acts of courage. • You build self-trust by practicing risk in low-stakes moments.Where does “not enough” show up in your life? Have you ever sabotaged a beautiful opportunity because you didn’t feel good enough? Drop a comment or send us a DM.💜 Work with Dr BeccInside Dare, Darling Coaching, Becc makes women in medicine UNSHAMEABLE. Join us for 3 months and be forever changed. 📆 Book in now for a no-cost consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ📚 Study with KristeenIf you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago.👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lhMore study tools coming soon.🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz

    41 min

  6. 18 FEB

    95: Why Ward Service Feels So Hard (Even When You’re Good at It)

    Hello Doctor Humans! Today we’re having one of those honest, slightly spicy conversations that we know so many doctors are quietly having in their own heads. In this episode, we’re unpacking why ward service feels so hard - even when the clinical work itself is going well. We talk openly about dread, burnout, loss of freedom, and the confusing mix of loving our work while feeling completely drained by it. This is a vulnerable, reflective episode about choice, autonomy, and what it really means to thrive (or not) in this season of our lives. In this episode, we explore: Why ward service can feel exhausting even when competence isn’t the issueThe role of dread, restriction, and loss of freedom in doctor burnoutHow self-care alone doesn’t always solve the problemThe difference between feeling “forced” and recognising our choicesRedefining failure, success, and thriving during intense work periodsHow naming the real problem gets us closer to meaningful solutionsWe’d love to hear from you. Does this resonate with your experience of ward service or on-call work? What helps you cope - or what still feels unresolved? Drop a comment, share an emoji if it’s a me too moment, or tell us what’s worked (or hasn’t) for you! Inside Dare, Darling Coaching, Becc makes doctors UNSHAMEABLE so they can stop protecting their potential and start showing up fully in their life. ◽️ Apply for a free consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL 💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ If you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago. 👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lh More study tools coming soon. 📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR 👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF 📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP 👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz 💜 Work with Dr Becc📚 Study with Kristeen🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎

    38 min

  7. 4 FEB

    94: Doctors: Why You’re Not Taking Action (Even When You Want To)

    Hello Doctor Humans! Today, we’re talking about shame, mistakes, and the fear of being seen trying. From sending emails without links to small slip-ups that make us cringe, we’ll share real stories and show you how mindset coaching and practical tools can help you move through shame and keep going. Grab a cuppa, get cozy, and join us as we explore being human, fallible, and unstoppable. In this episode, we explore: Everyone experiences shame, especially when putting yourself out there or trying something new.Small mistakes, like forgetting a link in an important email, can trigger big feelings of embarrassment and perceived incompetence.Mindset coaching teaches us to notice thoughts and feelings in real time and respond instead of reacting.Building a “toolbox” helps us reframe mistakes, shake off shame, and take the next action without being held back.Experiential learning—repeatedly taking action, failing, feeling shame, and recovering—is key to mastering resilience.Simple mantras like “I love and accept myself” can be powerful for navigating shame while continuing to act.The ultimate lesson: failure and discomfort don’t stop progress; learning to sit with these feelings is the secret to becoming untamable.If this episode resonates with you, we’d love to hear from you! Share your stories, thoughts, or even your favorite coping tools for handling shame and mistakes! Inside Dare, Darling Coaching, Becc makes doctors UNSHAMEABLE so they can stop protecting their potential and start showing up fully in their life. ◽️ Apply for a free consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL 💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ If you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago. 👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lh More study tools coming soon. 📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR 👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF 📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP 👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz 💜 Work with Dr Becc📚 Study with Kristeen🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎

    32 min

  8. 20 JAN

    93: Bad Career Advice in Medicine — And What Doctors Should Listen to Instead

    Hello Doctor Humans, In today’s episode, we dive deep into one of the most universal struggles we face as doctors: making big life and career decisions when there is no “right” answer. With medicine training us to follow the steps, tick the boxes, and please the people in authority, it’s no wonder we end up overwhelmed when our careers suddenly open into a world of infinite options. Today, we’re unpacking why so many of us feel stuck, how to stop outsourcing our decisions to external validation, and the powerful tools that help you reconnect with your intuition, your values, and your true north. In this episode, we explore: Why so many doctors feel overwhelmed by endless career options.The hidden cost of validation-based decisions.Why intuition is a skill you can build.How relying on others for answers holds you back.How expectations can disconnect you from your true north.Why tolerating uncertainty changes everything.How to use advice without letting it override your voice.What future-visualization tool to use to clarify your next step.We hope you find this episode helpful and if so, be sure to share with a friend who needs to hear this message too. 💜 Work with Dr Becc Inside Dare, Darling Coaching, Becc helps doctors become UNSHAKEABLE. ◽️ Apply for a free consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL 💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ If you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago. 👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lh More study tools coming soon. 📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR 👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF 📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP 👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz 📚 Study with Kristeen🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎

    51 min
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In "Am I Doing It Wrong?” Doctor Becc & Kristeen Barker have the vulnerable conversations all doctors need to remind us "You're not crazy, life as a doctor is". You'll feel seen & connected again & you'll also get actionable strategies to be able to show up as your favourite version of you as a doctor regardless of the daily challenges. Dr Kristeen Barker, nephrologist at Alfred Health, runs online medical education courses for physicians & trainees. Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) is coach & host of Dare, Darling—a transformative group coaching program for doctors who are people-pleasers.

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