Do you love someone suffering from addiction? You're not powerless over this disease. You don’t need to wait for them to get sober. Join us for encouragement, hope, and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be depressing). If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when they've been drinking or using drugs, and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
Staying With Your Loved One Who Struggles With Addiction
When you love someone struggling with addiction, the decision to stay or leave your relationship is ultimately up to you. It's one that you need to have full ownership of.
But if you've decided to stay, what does that look like? And what are some things that you'll need to consider?
Tune in to this new episode where I dive into this (as well as what a wedding dress moment has to do with staying with your loved one).
What You Are Feeling Is A Big Deal
Loving someone with addiction usually means you feel many things: love, anxiety, and frustration (just to name a few). Or even that you're coming unglued. Can you relate?
Just know that what you are feeling and what you're going through is a big deal. It's okay for you to feel all of the feels.
And that's what I share with you in this week's new episode (as well as an 'A-ha!' moment I had after a nightmare recently).
After You Leave: What To Expect
When you love someone struggling with addiction, there's usually a rollercoaster of emotions - feeling hopeful for their recovery, only to then feel disappointed when they can't get sober. Over and over again. Not only is this frustrating, but it's an unhealthy cycle for you, as well.
So if you've finally reached a point where enough is enough, then what?
Tune in to hear why it's time to take ownership of your life and what that may look like.
You Have Control Over Your Decision
Have you gone back and forth (maybe many times) on whether you should stay or leave your relationship with your loved one who struggles with addiction?
Let's be honest: that mental mind game can get pretty exhausting sometimes, right?
It's okay if you don't know right now what you want to do. But remember you DO have control over your decision. And that's what I'm going to dive into today (+ a personal story about a big decision my daughter made recently).
You Are So Much More Than Pretty
Have you ever thought that if you just keep a smile on your face and look pretty and perfectly together (even though you're barely hanging on), that it will be easier than expressing what you're REALLY going through while loving someone struggling with addiction?
But how is that healthy? (Hint: it's not).
Tune in to hear me dive into why it's so important to embrace who you really are and shed the shell of who you think you 'should' be.
Real Talk When They’re Not Getting Sober
You've more than likely tried expressing your feelings to your loved one, right? Like how their drinking or using is affecting you and your relationship. Or that you're at your breaking point in dealing with their behavior.
But has that actually helped to change anything?
Tune in to this week's new episode, where we do some 'real talk,' and I give some loving truths about what YOU can do if your loved one is not getting sober.
Hello Michelle. I have been in recovery for just over 3 years from alcoholism. Stopping drinking has been the easy part, it’s the dry drunk behaviour that has eluded me. Listening to your podcast yesterday morning on the topic of living with a person with addiction was absolutely mind blowing. The first hand knowledge you spoke of with such clarity and honesty hit home to me in such a way like never before. You spoke with such rawness yet delivered with such grace and dignity for the addicted and the long suffering partner and family. You absolutely captured the disease for the alcoholic yet gave me such an insight into the life of the suffering partner it gave me such clarity like have never experienced before. I have spent so many years suffering from the disease of alcoholism and contributing my dry drink behaviour towards others actions; my partners in particular. If only you would have acted this way, if only you had said this I wouldn’t have behaved so appalling towards you. I wouldn’t feel triggered by the need to control. Your podcast yesterday gave me the ultimate moment of clarity, a spiritual awakening for me like I have never experienced before and it was in the moment you said ‘I have no control over his addiction. I do not choose whether he drinks or does not drink. My ex husband choose to drink I am not responsible for his addiction.’ It was at that moment that I had the spiritual awaking ‘I control my addiction. I control my actions. I, as the addict control my behaviour, no one forces me to drink, no one owns my behaviour but me.’ I am responsible for my actions, thoughts and behaviour. I have spent 52 years shifting my alcoholism onto the behaviour of others. Their behaviour has caused me to feel anxious and stressed. No my thoughts and interpretations about the situation have resulted in my behaviour. I choose my behaviour. I had the choose to remain a dry drunk or change my thought process and own my behaviour. I have the choice to choose a different behaviour, a different outcome. From today onwards I control and own my behaviour, today I choose to change the outcome. Today I choose not to relapse, not to display dry drunk behaviour. Today I choose to finally own my thoughts and behaviour. Today Michelle, I believe you have saved my life, my marriage and have finally given me the power and belief to own my thoughts and behaviour. Today I take ownership and responsibility for my behaviour. Thank you, Frankie
This is my second review, I mentioned how each week your episodes are so timely, I like to think they are sent to me as a sign from my late mother in times of need. My son who is 29 hit rock bottom this week and has now admitted he has a problem and has put his hand up for help. We have been struggling with his dad’s and my now ex-husbands addiction for probably 15 years now. I wish I knew then what I know now. As you say in the latest podcast “How to have a Real Conversation with your Kid”, it is never too late to talk to your child about addiction. Thank you again, I needed this today.
Thank you sooooo much Michelle for doing this podcast. You have helped me pull through some really dark times in the past few months. I have found so much knowledge, truth & compassion in each episode & they have helped me more than you’ll know. Xx