Love Over Addiction

5 years in Love Over addiction, I’ve been guided to detach healthily from my AH and it’s been 4 years on.. I was already 1 foot out the door for at least 10 years before that. Each conscious peaceful moment I make now is because I’ve discovered this program. It was exactly what I needed, I was constantly in trauma state but listening to this opened my insight of how I got entwined in someone else's pain and troubles. Now I understand I can choose for me and align myself with my decision - that’s the only control I truly have. These profound, honest and confronting podcasts ( and the programs ) have allowed me to be real with myself - not to continue the finger pointing or feeling constantly in upheaval because of what AH did it didn’t do. And I’m writing this as each month I get a new lesson even though it has been 4 years since separating- this week I realised that I stayed because I was waiting for the ‘good person ‘ to show up and that would mean it would have all been worth it. So I waited and waited supported, suffered, tolerated all kinds of messed up behaviours. I do not regret any of it as I could not be any different at the time. But each lesson, these God sent knowings & offerings from Michelle continued to keep me in check with other relationships and new relationships I have formed. There’s one common ingredient ME ! All I know my self preservation is front and foremost now for me and my children. Turns out my joyful disposition never went away and my positivity just got stronger. I started to feel beautiful in my body again and my true smile showed up. Thankyou Love Over Addiction team for your impactful and vital content.

Hi Michelle I have been on this roller coaster ride for ten years with my husband. He has just gone through detox and is now trying to turn his life around. Your podcast is my sanity when I drive for work on a daily basis. Thank you for what you do. You have helped me understand so much and given me such hope.

Hello Michelle. I have been in recovery for just over 3 years from alcoholism. Stopping drinking has been the easy part, it’s the dry drunk behaviour that has eluded me. Listening to your podcast yesterday morning on the topic of living with a person with addiction was absolutely mind blowing. The first hand knowledge you spoke of with such clarity and honesty hit home to me in such a way like never before. You spoke with such rawness yet delivered with such grace and dignity for the addicted and the long suffering partner and family. You absolutely captured the disease for the alcoholic yet gave me such an insight into the life of the suffering partner it gave me such clarity like have never experienced before. I have spent so many years suffering from the disease of alcoholism and contributing my dry drink behaviour towards others actions; my partners in particular. If only you would have acted this way, if only you had said this I wouldn’t have behaved so appalling towards you. I wouldn’t feel triggered by the need to control. Your podcast yesterday gave me the ultimate moment of clarity, a spiritual awakening for me like I have never experienced before and it was in the moment you said ‘I have no control over his addiction. I do not choose whether he drinks or does not drink. My ex husband choose to drink I am not responsible for his addiction.’ It was at that moment that I had the spiritual awaking ‘I control my addiction. I control my actions. I, as the addict control my behaviour, no one forces me to drink, no one owns my behaviour but me.’ I am responsible for my actions, thoughts and behaviour. I have spent 52 years shifting my alcoholism onto the behaviour of others. Their behaviour has caused me to feel anxious and stressed. No my thoughts and interpretations about the situation have resulted in my behaviour. I choose my behaviour. I had the choose to remain a dry drunk or change my thought process and own my behaviour. I have the choice to choose a different behaviour, a different outcome. From today onwards I control and own my behaviour, today I choose to change the outcome. Today I choose not to relapse, not to display dry drunk behaviour. Today I choose to finally own my thoughts and behaviour. Today Michelle, I believe you have saved my life, my marriage and have finally given me the power and belief to own my thoughts and behaviour. Today I take ownership and responsibility for my behaviour. Thank you, Frankie

Hi Michelle, This is my second review, I mentioned how each week your episodes are so timely, I like to think they are sent to me as a sign from my late mother in times of need. My son who is 29 hit rock bottom this week and has now admitted he has a problem and has put his hand up for help. We have been struggling with his dad’s and my now ex-husbands addiction for probably 15 years now. I wish I knew then what I know now. As you say in the latest podcast “How to have a Real Conversation with your Kid”, it is never too late to talk to your child about addiction. Thank you again, I needed this today.