158 episodes
Pillow Talks Vanessa & Xander Marin
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- Health & Fitness
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4.8 • 37 Ratings
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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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Maybe It’s Not Low Libido…
When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido.
But is libido actually the problem?
In this episode, we reveal the truth about sex drive and ask a big question, “does libido even matter?”
Links & Resources:
Ultimate Foreplay Guides
Next Level Intercourse
Art of Initiation
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Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)
Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us!
You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure you listen all the way through to get the scoop on which one of us comes out on top.
Afterwards, you can play your own version of Know Ya Boo with your partner. DM us with how it went, and if you beat our scores!
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What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)
What do you do when it’s been a while…
When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are.
In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on the horse. We’ll even answer the big question… do we NEED to have sex?
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Am I The A*****e? In-Laws Edition
We’re back again with another edition of Am I The A*****e. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations.
We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more.
If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the a*****e when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes are here to help you decide.
Links & Resources:
Visit our Homepage
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
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How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no!
Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship.
We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it in your relationship.
Links & Resources:
Guide: Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)
Visit our Homepage (http://vmtherapy.com/)
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! -
The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About
Imagine this… you’re crawling into bed at the end of the night, thinking, “Hmmm sex sounds nice.”
We hate to break it to you, but you’re too late! You needed to have been planning for this much earlier in the day. You needed to be using our unique approach to foreplay.
Most of us think of foreplay as the stuff we do for 30 seconds before we move on to intercourse, but it’s so much more than that. Today we’re telling you about the magic of all-day, non-sexual foreplay.
Links & Resources:
Course: Art Of Initiation
Challenge: The Connection Challenge
If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.
Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.
Customer Reviews
Thank you for encouraging me to talk to my partner
For years I’ve struggled with pain and feeling self conscious about my body and not knowing how it works. I’ve compensated by focussing on my partners pleasure. Since listening to your podcast I’ve had the confidence to start conversations about our intimate relationship and how we might be able to make it even better. Thank you for giving me the language to start the conversations, practical tips to try when I didn’t know where to start. Finally, thank you for your generosity in sharing your own experiences. It really helped me feel less alone, less of a personal failure. Thank you.
Easily accessible and friendly advice
I feel very similar to Xander in this space. I’m what I would consider a regular dude with a long term partner. A slight difference is that we have a 3 1/2 yr old child together (which I don’t think Xander or Vanessa does….) 😬
My partner and I have had many rough patches in intimacy and sexual desires etc. This podcast, the courses and the social media community are very friendly and helpful with the easily accessible and practical advice which we’ve tried to put in place in our relationship. I don’t feel like many guys would lean towards listening to something like this, but I recommend it to my mates in similar situations and they’ve responded well.
Keep it up guys and keep the laughs coming. That’s what genuinely makes it worth listening to.
Cheers, from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
Great podcast and content
I have loved Vanessa and Xanders content since I found them on Instagram a long time ago, I love their podcasts even more. They have such a refreshing way of delivering quality content and they almost seem like having a chat with close friends. I would love to give them 5 stars however their staff blocked me or stopped responding to me on Instagram because I said I was disappointed in a response I received to a query on stockists for their book. It was one message to say I was disappointed not rude in any way, and the next time I tried to send the emoji for a link to one of their offers it seems I had been blocked. I’m sure Vanessa and Xander wouldn’t treat their listeners like this so I’m going to believe it’s a staff member who is not great at customer service. Other than that great content and great chemistry, keep it up.