The You Project Craig Harper

As I type this (April 27, 2024), I've been alive for 22,127 days and if I'm 'statistically typical', I have about 8,000 days left. And once again, if I'm statistically typical, a lot of those days will be sh*t, due to poor health. Obviously, my goal is to be atypical and to enjoy a long health-span but then, none of us know with certainty what the future holds. I believe this episode is one of the most important and powerful instalments of TYP I have ever recorded; not because of me or my skill as a thinker or speaker, but because of the content. Because of the important ideas, strategies, questions and information that get unpacked. After countless conversations over four-plus decades as a Coach, Educator, Scientist and Professional Speaker, it's my belief that many of us are living unnecessarily unfulfilling, unrewarding, unproductive and unhappy lives. I hope you enjoy this.
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The title is in no way indicative of the majority of the conversation but Carly used the term in our chat and it made me laugh. Apparently, it's what she does when her husband (Paul) is away. And in more serious news... Carly and I chat about dealing with their son’s rare medical condition, raising an entrepreneurial daughter who started a proper business at 14 (and is now 18), the concept of can't vs. won't, good old-fashioned hard work, finding the ‘right medicine' (diet, psychotherapy, exercise program, lifestyle) for you, stoicism in the home, preparing for the inevitable sh*t-storm (it comes for us all), re-training in your 60's and the inspirational woman who just finished her nursing degree (and started nursing) at 70! Enjoy.
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Did you know that, while psychopaths can understand the theory of empathy (that's a weird term isn't it?) and the social currency of being 'seen' as a kind and caring person, they don't actually have the capacity to experience empathy for others. That is, they can have the intellectual understanding (of it) but not the emotional experience (of it). Accordingly, they will often use their intellectual insight to 'role play’ (fake) empathy, all-the-while orchestrating some kind of social, emotional and psychological manipulation for their own benefit. Not scary at all! As David and I take a leisurely stroll down 'Psychopath Lane', we talk about gaslighting (and the origin of the term), the most-read book in the US prison system, a thing called consensus effect, the tell-tale signs of psychopathy and he offers five strategies for surviving personal and professional interactions with your garden-variety psychopath. Enjoy.

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Let’s be honest, some of us have been waiting for the mystical, magical, mysterious ‘right time’ to change our lives (situation, circumstance, lifestyle, career, habits, health, outcomes) for decades. Wanting to change our reality for the better, while simultaneously doing stupid sh*t that actually makes our situation worse. Wasting time, talent, energy and opportunities in the ultimate act of self-sabotage and self-destruction. Maybe it’s time to stop?
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This chat with Gavin McCormack and Dan Lakis about how to inspire, encourage, support and guide kids through an optimal learning experience is both enlightening and inspiring. They're both great blokes doing great work, having a big impact and shaping young lives in a powerful way. I love how they think, I love their energy and intent and I feel like we’re kindred spirits. Enjoy.
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There's 'self-help' the product (book, program, course) and then there's 'self-help' the process; literally helping yourself by making brave choices, doing hard things, asking great questions, owning up to your BS, being resilient, getting back up when most would give up, being consistent with your effort and completely committing to the practical process of changing yourself and your life for the better, no matter how uncomfortable, uncertain, unfamiliar or inconvenient that journey may be.
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