Dads And Daddies

Brian Rubin-Sowers and Judson Morrow

Dads and Daddies features frank, unrehearsed conversations between one Gen X Dad of two and one Millennial self-identified ‘Daddy,’ with a focus on their personal stories of sex, love and marriage, plus topics spanning parenthood, Daddyhood, family, friendship, identity, money, addiction & recovery, and so many more that reveal the deeply intimate details of what it means to live life as adult gay men today.

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    Brian and Judson hookup with The Disappointments creator and star Rich Burns and talk regrets after 50, the path from connection to kink, who decides who’s a Daddy, scheduling sex and more

    Judson unlocks a new marital kink. Brian provides an update on his solo afternoon at the hotel where the two recorded the previous episode. Judson sees Cats: The Jellicle Ball for his first time. Brian undergoes cataract surgery. The Hookup of the Week tells the story of a non-binary femme listener who meets someone on the apps and Daddies him until it’s time for the roles to reverse. Brian and Judson are then joined by Rich Burns, writer, creator and star of the Humanitas Prize-winning comedic digital series “The Disappointments.” The show’s second season is out now and follows three gay friends in their 60s who are single, broke and desperately trying to turn their disappointing lives around. Rich shares how the series came out of the realization that a number of his friends found themselves in their 50s with their dreams unfulfilled, talks about the disparate reactions to the show from different generations of gay viewers, and dispels certain myths about the differences between himself and Ray, the character he plays on the show. Rich also shares his thoughts on open relationships, dating younger, the presumption by most that he’s a Daddy, the success of his slutty Instagram account, how his sexual exploration derives from connection and trust, and so much more. Rich then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is finding himself so busy that he has to schedule hookups weeks, if not months, in advance and is concerned that it’s a problem he needs help solving.  Watch Seasons 1 and 2 of “The Disappointments” on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@thedisappointmentsseries Find Rich on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heyrichray Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 32min
  2. 28 APR

    Brian and Judson celebrate 100 episodes with Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Sydney James Harcourt and talk sex with straight men, preferring faceless Grindr profiles, his affair with Andy Cohen, recognizing realness as a trauma response, and more

    It’s Dads and Daddies 100th episode! Judson and Brian reminisce about the days before they were open to the idea of non-monogamy. They attend the LGBTQ Community Center of New York’s annual fundraising gala. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who shares the details of a recent session with a regular of more than a decade that he describes as being one of his best hookups ever. Brian and Judson are then joined by the sexiest cat on Broadway, Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Rum Tum Tugger himself, Sydney James Harcourt! Sydney talks about his journey from a childhood in Michigan spent hiding in the closet, feeling unattractive, uncool, unmanly and seeking comfort in food, to moving to New York and feeling othered as a minority man in the mainstream gay scene, to the person he is today exuding sex and confidence on a Broadway stage eight times a week. He tells them about the role that connections and community played in his transformation, how he found the sexiness of Rum Tum Tugger, and about how “Realness,” Tugger’s ballroom category that showcases a person’s ability to pass as straight, is, at its core, a trauma response to homophobia. Sydney gets even more personal and talks about some of the various reasons he likes to have sex, the demise of finding hookups on Craig’s List, his “mad, passionate lust affair” with Andy Cohen, why we should have sex with the straight men on the apps, and his preference for faceless Grindr profiles. Sydney then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener in his 30s who is newly out of the closet and wants to know what the three consider must-have experiences for a gay man. Find Sydney James Harcourt on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sydneyharcourt/  Check out Austin Naked Yoga camp to join Judson for his “Dial into Daddy” workship at https://www.nakedyogacamp.com/  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 24min
  3. 21 APR

    Brian and Judson hookup with Claybourne Elder and talk growing up Mormon and gay, wanting to be evil, aging in the public eye, and gay wedding planning

    Brian returns from a complicated week celebrating Passover in Hawaii. Judson’s libido surges with the change in the weather and guides him to a pair of pleasurable parties. The Hookup of the Week finds the submitter reclaiming his sexuality after abstaining for 15 years, and entering into an intricate roleplay scenario. Brian and Judson ponder whether or not the tagline of the show needs to evolve as they approach the podcast’s 100th episode next week. The two are then joined by Broadway’s favorite DILF, Claybourne Elder. The Gilded Age star and Grammy, Screen Actors Guild Award, Drama Desk and Lucille Lortel Award nominee tells Brian and Judson about the origin of his City of Strangers initiative that provides free tickets to Broadway shows for people who might not have the means, and takes them through the process of recording his debut album out now, If the Stars Were Mine. He also talks about growing up gay and Mormon, his time as a performing missionary in the Nauvoo, Illinois Historic District, getting kicked out of Brigham Young University for being gay, how he met his Jewish husband, their path to parenthood, and how they address religion with their son. Claybourne shares his Daddy Issue, which is around aging, and particularly how he wrestles with whether or not, as an actor, he should be considering any procedures to maintain his youth. He then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener wanting advice on planning a wedding that is true to him and his partner. Find Claybourne Elder on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/claybourneelder/  Get Claybourne’s debut album, If the Stars Were Mine at https://www.broadwayrecords.com/products/claybourne-elder-if-the-stars-were-mine-cd  Donate to Claybourne’s https://www.cityofstrangers.org/ to provide theater tickets to individuals and community organizations who may not otherwise be able afford them.  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 38min
  4. 14 APR

    Brian and Judson hookup with John Paul Brammer and talk about giving advice to the international LGBTQ community, choosing between religions, hookup etiquette, managing queer-specific anxieties, and more

    Judson shares a fashion sensibility with Brian’s ten year-old daughter and celebrates a victory at work. Brian prioritizes scheduling a surgery over attending his favorite sex party and responds to some online hate about his parenting that he can’t ignore. The Hookup of the Week paints a detailed picture of a sub’s annual trip to New York to see his dom. Brian and Judson then launch the Dads and Daddies Book Club with the arrival of guest John Paul Brammer, famed LGBTQ+ advice columnist and author of ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. John Paul tells Brian and Judson all about the origin of his ¡Hola Papi! advice column, how he overcame the feeling that he didn’t have the authority to give advice, and shares how he feels now that he’s retired his column after eight years. He also provides a sneak peek at his next two books, and responds to Brian’s ask for advice by giving his thoughts about steeling oneself against internet commenters. John Paul then goes all the way to the top to discuss his Daddy Issue, which is his recent fascination with Jesus, particularly the comforting discovery that he may not have been attractive, and talks about the time he almost converted to Judaism for a boyfriend. The episode ends with the renowned advice giver joining Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is curious about the etiquette of hooking up when one is hanging out with friends. Find John Paul Brammer on Substack at https://johnpaulbrammer.substack.com/  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 45min
  5. 7 APR

    Brian and Judson hookup with Bright Light Bright Light and talk career building as an independent artist, befriending your heroes, hypocrisy within the queer community and whether sex is an interesting subject for music

    Judson considers moving in with Brian. Brian and his family make a return visit to Cats: The Jellicle Ball now that it’s on Broadway. Judson sets out on an adventure to find his misdelivered phone. Brian and his husband participate in their neighborhood’s annual progressive dinner. The Hookup of the Week comes from a repeat submitter who takes some lessons from the podcast into his latest encounter. The two are then joined by Rod Thomas, aka electro-pop music artist and DJ Bright Light Bright Light! Rod sits down with Brian and Judson just two days before kicking off his co-headling Cosmic Light tour with “Queen of the Universe” winner and “Drag Race Brasil” host, Grag Queen, and talks about his mission with this and every one of his tours to bring joy and build community during these dark and divisive times. He teaches Brian and Judson all about his home country of Wales and its connection to music, he goes deep into his friendships and collaborations with Elton John and Scissor Sisters, and talks about how he has made a name and career for himself without ever signing with a label. They discuss the prevalence of misogyny in the gay community, they share thoughts on maintaining youth and taking risks throughout one’s life, and they debate the importance of sex as a subject of artistic expression. Rod then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a 50 year-old listener in a 25-year open relationship who has never used the gay hookup apps and wants advice about how to start.   Find Bright Light Bright Light on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/brightlightx2, on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@brightlightx2 and at his site https://www.brightlightx2.com/ See Bright Light Bright Light on his co-headling Cosmic Light tour with Grag Queen: https://www.brightlightx2.com/cosmiclight   Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com   Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social   Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson   Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 17min
  6. 31 MAR

    Brian and Judson hookup with Grey Henson and talk the sexual appeal of Bigfoot, the challenges of dating as an actor, Daddy physique vs energy, and moving past the fear of new connections

    Judson and his husband escape to the warm weather getaway of Playa Del Carmen. Brian feels his age during back to back nights on the town, but the outings also inspire a night of youthful sex with his husband. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener trying out The Blowers after hearing about it on this podcast, and finding new joy in receiving oral sex. Brian and Judson are then joined by Broadway musical theatre star Grey Henson! Grey takes Brian and Judson through his nonstop career that took off immediately upon leaving college with his casting as Elder McKinley in the first national tour and Broadway productions of The Book of Mormon, through his Tony-nominated performance as the iconic role of Damian in Mean Girls, to 2023's surprise hit musical, Shucked, to starring as Buddy the Elf in the recent revival of Elf,to now playing the title role in the current off-Broadway show, Bigfoot The Musical. Grey also gets personal and talks about his search for a partner since moving to New York twelve years ago, the struggle of people making assumptions about who he is as a person based on how they perceive him on the stage, and the absence in his life of his father, both now that he has passed, but also even while he was alive. He also talks about existing at the paradox of having Daddy physique, but without feeling he possesses Daddy energy. Grey then helps Brian and Judson address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has become paralyzed with fear about making new connections. Find Grey Henson on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/greyhenson Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 32min
  7. 24 MAR

    Brian and Judson hookup with Eric Williams and talk being slut podcasters comparing coasts, making bad money, and sleeping with friends

    Judson goes to San Francisco and reconnects with an old flame from fifteen years ago. Brian goes to DC and spends the weekend with friends of more than 25 years who he credits with making him the adult gay man he is today. They talk about how the conversations they have every week on the podcast have impacted their sex lives. The Hookup of the Week follows a listener’s birthday adventures at his favorite bathhouse. Brian and Judson are then joined by comedian, actor and host of the immensely popular “That’s a Gay Ass Podcast,” Eric Williams. Eric talks about the origins of both his hit podcast and his open marriage, how his mom came to find out he and his husband are open, how his gay life is blossoming after a move from New York to L.A., and the truth behind the gay marriage question. He also tells Brian and Judson about “Why All the Drama,” the solo show he’s currently touring around the US and his aspirations for the future of his life and career. Eric then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener asking about having sex with friends, and the difference between repeat hookups with friends versus strangers. Find Eric Williams on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/ericwillz/ Find That’s a Gay Ass Podcast on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/gayasspodcast/ Find Confession Hole on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/confession.hole/ Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 39min
  8. 17 MAR

    Brian and Judson hookup with John-Andrew Morrison and talk being husband to Jane, Jinkx, Hannah and John Cameron, careers reclaimed through sobriety, afternoon nookie, and loving yourself enough to be late for your house

    Judson prepares for one of the biggest moments of his professional career. Brian recounts a hookup that took him to the cleaners in more ways than one. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener living out the fantasy of hooking up with the hot nurse attending to him in the ER, and inspires Judson and Brian to share their own stories of doctor’s office hookups. The two are then joined by Broadway actor John-Andrew Morrison, currently on the boards as Mary’s Husband in Oh, Mary! John-Andrew talks about how he came to play our 16th president in Broadway’s most outrageous play, how he was able to make the role his own, and the differences between his four leading ladies since he took office–Jane Krakowski, Hannah Solow, Jinkx Monsoon and John Cameron Mitchell. He also celebrates 18 years of sobriety, the community he has found through recovery, and how being sober helped him reclaim his career. John-Andrew details his decade-long journey with A Strange Loop, winner of both the Pulitzer Prize and the Tony Award, and the show for which he also received a Tony nomination. He then shares three Daddy Issues–one sexy, one practical and one literal–before helping Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener curious about strategies for saying no and making sure boundaries are respected. Find John-Andrew Morrison on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jandymorri Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    1hr 29min

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Dads and Daddies features frank, unrehearsed conversations between one Gen X Dad of two and one Millennial self-identified ‘Daddy,’ with a focus on their personal stories of sex, love and marriage, plus topics spanning parenthood, Daddyhood, family, friendship, identity, money, addiction & recovery, and so many more that reveal the deeply intimate details of what it means to live life as adult gay men today.

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