You Are Not Crazy

Jessica Knight

You’re exhausted from over-functioning. Always managing the chaos. Always trying to keep the peace. You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you. You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you’re the problem. You’re not. This podcast helps you understand emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationships, and trauma bonds—so you can stop doubting yourself and start trusting what you already know. I’m Jessica Knight, emotional abuse coach and survivor. I help people make sense of confusing, destabilizing relationship dynamics—including gaslighting, manipulation, intermittent reinforcement, and post-separation abuse. Here, you’ll learn to recognize the patterns of narcissistic abuse, understand the psychology of trauma bonding, and rebuild your sense of clarity, stability, and self-trust. This podcast is especially for you if you are: • Leaving or recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship • Navigating divorce or post-separation coercive control • Trying to co-parent with a high-conflict or manipulative partner • Questioning your reality after gaslighting • Rebuilding yourself after psychological abuse You are not crazy. Your nervous system adapted to survive something real. This is your space to understand what happened, reclaim your truth, and heal—on your terms. 🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com

  1. 4 days ago

    When Co-Parenting Becomes Coercive Control

    If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right — showing up, advocating, holding it together — and still somehow ending up as the problem, this episode is for you. Int his episode, I get honest about what it actually feels like to be in the cycle: the exhaustion of defending yourself against false narratives, the way every act of good parenting gets twisted into evidence against you, and the invisible toll of a system that wasn't designed to recognize coercive control.  So many protective parents are living through isn't just "a difficult co-parent." It's post-separation abuse — and it has a name. I break down how coercive control shows up after separation: the counter-parenting, the gotcha moments, the forced engagement loops, the way silence doesn't end the cycle — it just changes the channel.  I also talk candidly about my own experience navigating this, what keeping myself regulated actually looks like, and why being the safe parent is one of the heaviest gifts you can carry. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    25 min
  2. 6 May

    How I Actually Healed (And Why It Didn't Look the Way I Expected)

    People ask me how I healed all the time, and the honest answer is that there is no clean framework I can hand you.  In this episode, I share the specific practices that actually made a difference for me — and they are not always the ones you would expect. I talk about why I stopped healing on everyone else's timeline, how I gave myself permission to grieve on a schedule as a single parent, and the journaling practice that helped me separate what was real from what had been distorted.  I also share why I stopped bringing my situation to my friends, what I did instead, and how I learned to stop outsourcing my recovery to other people's opinions. Your healing does not have to look like mine.  I hope something here helps you give yourself permission to do it in the way that you actually can. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    15 min
  3. 29 Apr

    What I Did When I Couldn't Trust My Own Mind

    Before I knew what a trauma bond was, I was hiding my phone under my mattress. I deleted his number, wrote it on a piece of paper, folded it into a journal, and made myself work to find it.  At the time I thought I was being ridiculous. Looking back, I was surviving. In this episode, I talk about what it actually looks like to break a trauma bond when you can't go cold turkey — the messy, imperfect, sometimes embarrassing strategies that create just enough friction between the craving and the action.  I also talk about what to do with the evidence, why archiving is different from deleting, and how to write yourself a letter that protects you when your rational mind goes offline. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    11 min
  4. 22 Apr

    BPD Splitting in Relationships: What It Feels Like and How to Heal

    If you've ever felt adored one moment and suddenly on the wrong side of a wall you didn't see coming, this episode is for you. I open with my own experience of being in a relationship where warmth could vanish in an instant — where I replayed conversations trying to find the moment I slipped, and where I slowly became someone whose entire focus was managing another person's emotional state. In this episode, I break down splitting — what it is clinically, what it feels like to be on the receiving end of it, and how it moves from a psychological defense mechanism into a tool of control. I walk through the patterns I lived: idealization to devaluation, emotional shifts with no warning, the refusal to repair, and the way my own distress was turned against me. This isn't just about understanding a term. It's about recognizing the cycle that made you question your perception of reality, shrink yourself down, and chase approval you were never actually going to get — and beginning to understand that none of it was yours to fix. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    23 min

About

You’re exhausted from over-functioning. Always managing the chaos. Always trying to keep the peace. You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you. You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you’re the problem. You’re not. This podcast helps you understand emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationships, and trauma bonds—so you can stop doubting yourself and start trusting what you already know. I’m Jessica Knight, emotional abuse coach and survivor. I help people make sense of confusing, destabilizing relationship dynamics—including gaslighting, manipulation, intermittent reinforcement, and post-separation abuse. Here, you’ll learn to recognize the patterns of narcissistic abuse, understand the psychology of trauma bonding, and rebuild your sense of clarity, stability, and self-trust. This podcast is especially for you if you are: • Leaving or recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship • Navigating divorce or post-separation coercive control • Trying to co-parent with a high-conflict or manipulative partner • Questioning your reality after gaslighting • Rebuilding yourself after psychological abuse You are not crazy. Your nervous system adapted to survive something real. This is your space to understand what happened, reclaim your truth, and heal—on your terms. 🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com

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