Estranged and Deranged

Chris Workman and Candi Morris
  • 5.0 (3)
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Estranged and Deranged is the podcast for parents who were cut off, shut out, rewritten, and then told to “work on themselves.” Hosted by Chris Workman and Candi Morris, we talk about adult child estrangement the way no one else will, blunt, honest, darkly funny, and done tiptoeing. We unpack grief, guilt, silence, therapy buzzwords used like weapons, and what it’s like to lose a child who’s still alive… and still blaming you. This is not a redemption tour. It’s not kid-bashing. And it sure as hell isn’t about staying quiet to keep the peace. It’s about reclaiming your voice, your sanity, and your life without apologizing for existing. If you’ve been erased, labeled the problem, or told your pain doesn’t count because you’re “the parent”… welcome. You’re not deranged. You’re just done swallowing b******t.

Episodes

  1. The Dangerous Lie: That Estrangement Equals Abuse | Estranged & Deranged Ep. 9

    5 HRS AGO

    The Dangerous Lie: That Estrangement Equals Abuse | Estranged & Deranged Ep. 9

    In this episode of Estranged & Deranged, Candi and Chris take on one of the most damaging and oversimplified narratives in estrangement conversations: the idea that if an adult child is estranged, they were automatically abused or neglected by their parents.Sparked by real comments, social media posts, and statements made by licensed professionals online, this episode challenges the growing belief that estrangement and abuse are interchangeable. Candi and Chris explain why this mindset is not only inaccurate, but harmful, especially to those who experienced real, severe abuse.Drawing from lived experience, decades of professional work in child welfare, and years of supporting estranged parents, this conversation explores how the word abuse has been diluted, misused, and applied without context, nuance, or individual examination.In this episode, we discuss:Why estrangement does NOT automatically equal abuseHow social media and therapy culture have blurred critical definitionsThe difference between abuse, conflict, hardship, and imperfect parentingHow perception and memory shape lived experienceWhy estranged parents are often labeled the villain by defaultThe impact of misusing the word abuse on those who truly need helpWhy accountability, reflection, and grief can exist at the same timeThis episode is not about denying pain.It is about restoring meaning, logic, and humanity to a conversation that has become extreme and polarized.If you are an estranged parent, an adult child trying to understand complex family dynamics, or someone navigating ambiguous loss, this episode offers perspective that is often missing from mainstream discussions. 00:00 Welcome to Estranged & Deranged01:45 The Comment That Sparked This Episode05:10 Why Estranged Parents Are Labeled the Villain08:20 Does Estrangement Automatically Mean Abuse?11:40 When the Word “Abuse” Loses Its Meaning15:30 Therapy Culture and Defining Abuse19:40 Real Abuse vs Hard Family Life23:30 Extreme Examples and Where the Line Gets Crossed27:40 Perception, Memory, and Different Childhood Experiences31:00 Accountability, Dialogue, and Final Thoughts33:40 Support Groups, Resources, and Where to Find Us 🎧 Listen or Watch on Your Favorite Platform 🎥 YouTubehttps://youtu.be/I4kvdb3Vbjs 🎧 Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/6TNAH4oNdGKE6cCCvW7r6C 🍎 Apple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/estranged-and-deranged/id1865706449 🎶 Amazon Musichttps://music.amazon.com/podcasts/84d2c2d7-6b9f-4744-abf0-a7b361107acf 🌐 Connect With Estranged & Deranged Website:https://estrangedandderanged.net Patreon (early access, bonus content, and community support):https://www.patreon.com/cw/EstrangedandDeranged Stan Store (resources, links, and recommended content):https://stan.store/candilcan_328 🔔 Subscribe for more conversations about:family estrangement, estranged parents, parental grief, ambiguous loss, accountability, healing, communication, and navigating complex family relationships.

    35 min
  2. Society Says You Don't Get to Have Pain When You Are Estranged

    FEB 5

    Society Says You Don't Get to Have Pain When You Are Estranged

    Episode Overview In Episode 8, Chris and Candi return with a refreshed setup and introduce an exciting new chapter for the podcast, welcoming their new producer, Maranda Taylor. The conversation quickly moves into one of the most difficult and misunderstood aspects of estrangement: the belief that parents should carry their pain quietly, take full blame, and remain silent. Chris and Candi speak openly about what it feels like to be challenged publicly, judged without context, and told that parental grief is invalid. This episode explores the damaging cultural narrative that estranged parents are automatically at fault and therefore do not deserve empathy, voice, or grief. Together, they challenge the idea that accountability and pain cannot coexist and affirm that multiple truths can exist at the same time. 🕒 Episode Breakdown & Key Moments (0:00–1:30) Welcome to Episode 8New setup and improved productionIntroduction of the podcast’s new producerLighthearted banter about the show’s name(1:30–3:30) Explanation of the weekly “Comment of the Week”Why these comments matterThe importance of parents having a voice(3:30–9:00) Candi shares a public comment that crossed the lineAssumptions about accountability and parentingAddressing the myth that estranged parents refuse reflectionClarifying that one estranged relationship does not define all relationships(9:00–12:00) Accountability, therapy, and introspectionEmotional impact of being publicly labeled and dismissed(12:00–16:00) Core topic: what society thinks parents should do with their painWhy the narrative demands silenceHow multiple truths can exist at once(16:00–19:30) Society’s discomfort with complexityPressure on parents to “just move on”Why estrangement grief is different(19:30–21:30) Mental and emotional toll of estrangementIdentity loss as a parentWhy silence can be dangerous(21:30–24:30) Why parental pain is minimizedGuilt, shame, and the villain narrative(24:30–28:30) Therapy expectations and responsibility dynamicsAdult-to-adult communicationAccountability as a shared responsibility(28:30–End) Final reflections on boundaries and humanityAffirmation that parents are allowed to feel painClosing thoughts on voice and healing💬 Key Themes Parental grief and ambiguous lossAccountability versus automatic blameSociety’s discomfort with parental painIdentity loss after estrangementHealing without silenceThe right to speak your truth🤍 Support the Podcast & Stay Connected If Estranged & Deranged resonates with you and you want to support the podcast and stay connected, there are a few ways to join us. 🔗 Visit the official website:https://estrangedandderanged.netLearn more about the podcast, upcoming episodes, resources, and the mission behind the conversations. 🤍 Join us on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/cw/EstrangedandDeranged?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLinkPatreon is where you can directly support the podcast, access exclusive content, and help sustain this space for estranged parents who deserve voice, compassion, and community. 🤍Check Out Our Stan Stores: https://stan.store/griefandhealingwithchrishttps://stan.store/candilcan_328 🎧 Listener Takeaway You can take accountability and still grieve.You can reflect and still feel pain.Silence is not healing, and grief does not require permission.

    37 min
  3. Estranged and Deranged: Ep 7 What Therapy Is Telling Our Kids and Why Parents Are Alarmed

    JAN 29

    Estranged and Deranged: Ep 7 What Therapy Is Telling Our Kids and Why Parents Are Alarmed

    Chris and Candi are back for Episode 7, and they are digging into one of the biggest recurring themes they hear from estranged parents: therapy language being used as a weapon instead of a tool. Starting with a real TikTok message about therapists letting clients “define” abuse, toxicity, and narcissism, they unpack why that approach can leave adult children confused, entrenched in labels, and less likely to move toward real healing or reconciliation. They talk about the rise of therapy buzzwords, the difference between validating feelings and treating feelings as facts, and why good therapy should challenge thoughts, add context, and help someone move forward with clear goals. They also discuss how public platforms and high-profile conversations can shape the narrative, why bias matters in any helping profession, and what ethical, effective therapy should actually look like for families on both sides of estrangement. As always, they remind listeners they are not anti-therapy, they are pro-accountability, pro-clarity, and pro-healthy healing for everyone involved.

    39 min

  4. JAN 22

    Estranged and Deranged: Ep 6 The Things Estranged Parents Aren’t Allowed to Say Out Loud

    Chris and Candi are back with a raw, funny, and brutally honest conversation about the phrases estranged parents get judged for even thinking, let alone saying. Inspired by a viral post and the reactions it sparked, they dig into six “forbidden” truths, from “I didn’t deserve to be cut off like this” to “working on myself didn’t fix it,” and why mixed emotions like anger and grief can exist at the same time. Along the way, they talk about silence, boundaries on both sides, the myth that estrangement automatically brings peace, and why society would rather avoid discomfort than make room for the parent perspective. They also share resources for support, including their Facebook community “When They Walk Away,” and tease the next episode on therapy and why it can help or harm the path forward.

    37 min

  5. JAN 15

    Estranged and Deranged Ep 5 OK, This Is Happening. Now What?

    Chris and Candi talk to the parents who are in the first days and months of estrangement and feel like the floor just disappeared. They unpack the shock, the grief that feels like loss but is harder to explain, and the spiral so many parents fall into trying to get answers, cling to crumbs, or “fix it” through constant contact. With honesty, humor, and a whole lot of real talk, they discuss what helps, what hurts, and why rebuilding your identity matters whether reconciliation happens or not. They also share how their support community works, why no one should go through this alone, and how to find a place to land when you are in the thick of it.

    40 min

  6. JAN 8

    Estranged and Deranged Ep 4 When Estrangement Steals the Grandkids Too

    Some losses do not come with funerals. They come with silence, blocked numbers, and birthdays you only hear about afterward. In this episode, Candy and Chris talk about the particular heartbreak of being a grandparent in an estranged family system, where access to the kids becomes leverage and love gets treated like something that can be revoked. They name the ache that sits in the body when you are left wondering how they are doing, what they have been told, and whether they will remember you the way you remember them. With honesty, dark humor, and a whole lot of lived experience, they explore the emotional whiplash of seeing your grandchild in passing, the impossible pressure of wanting to protect the child from adult conflict while also refusing to disappear quietly, and the anger that rises when boundaries are used as a shield for cruelty. This is not a conversation about winning or being right. It is about the reality that there are no winners here, especially when the smallest people in the story do not get a vote. If you have ever felt the grief of being erased from a child’s life you deeply love, this episode will feel like someone finally said the quiet part out loud.

    40 min

  7. JAN 1

    Estranged and Deranged Episode 1: Our Stories, Our Why

    In the first episode of Estranged and Deranged, Chris and Candi finally hit record and share the story behind the show. Connected by family and by deep loss, they talk about how grief and parental estrangement intersect, why so many parents feel silenced, and what they are building through their growing online community and weekly support group. This podcast is not about bashing adult children. It is about giving parents a voice, making space for the layers, and helping people move forward with identity, joy, and support.

    53 min

  8. JAN 1

    Estranged and Deranged Episode 3 The Toxic Parent Bingo Card

    In this episode of Estranged and Deranged, the conversation tackles how labels like toxic, narcissistic, and abusive are being flattened into slogans and shortcuts. Using a viral “toxic parent bingo card” as the lens, the hosts examine perception versus reality, sarcasm as a coping tool, and how validation culture can replace real dialogue. The episode creates space for estranged parents to question narratives, laugh where appropriate, and feel less alone while navigating a deeply personal and often misunderstood experience.

    38 min

  9. JAN 1

    Estranged and Deranged Episode 2 Types of Estrangement and Why It Happens

    Episode two breaks down the common reasons adult children become estranged and the different ways estrangement can show up inside a family. Candy and Chris talk through the layers that often get ignored, including unresolved childhood pain, adult conflict that hits a breaking point, the influence of therapy culture and social media, peer validation, and mental health factors. They also explain the most common “types” of estrangement, from one-parent cutoffs to whole-family splits, silent ghosting, and on again off again cycles. Along the way, they address the hate comments, the misconceptions, and why their focus stays on support, honesty, and helping estranged parents move forward with their lives.

    48 min
  • 9 Episodes

Ratings & Reviews

5
out of 5
3 Ratings

About

Estranged and Deranged is the podcast for parents who were cut off, shut out, rewritten, and then told to “work on themselves.” Hosted by Chris Workman and Candi Morris, we talk about adult child estrangement the way no one else will, blunt, honest, darkly funny, and done tiptoeing. We unpack grief, guilt, silence, therapy buzzwords used like weapons, and what it’s like to lose a child who’s still alive… and still blaming you. This is not a redemption tour. It’s not kid-bashing. And it sure as hell isn’t about staying quiet to keep the peace. It’s about reclaiming your voice, your sanity, and your life without apologizing for existing. If you’ve been erased, labeled the problem, or told your pain doesn’t count because you’re “the parent”… welcome. You’re not deranged. You’re just done swallowing b******t.

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  • Creator
    Chris Workman and Candi Morris
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    9
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Chris Workman and Candi Morris

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