126 episodes

Life isn't always bright and shiny, as Kate Bowler knows. Kate is a young mother, writer and professor who, at age 35, was suddenly diagnosed with Stage IV cancer. In, warm, insightful, often funny conversations, Kate talks with people about what they've learned in difficult times. Kate teaches at Duke Divinity School and is author of Everything Happens for a Reason (And Other Lies I've Loved) and No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear). Find her online at @katecbowler.

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler Duke University

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 353 Ratings

Life isn't always bright and shiny, as Kate Bowler knows. Kate is a young mother, writer and professor who, at age 35, was suddenly diagnosed with Stage IV cancer. In, warm, insightful, often funny conversations, Kate talks with people about what they've learned in difficult times. Kate teaches at Duke Divinity School and is author of Everything Happens for a Reason (And Other Lies I've Loved) and No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear). Find her online at @katecbowler.

    The Season of Waiting (And Waiting... And Waiting...)

    The Season of Waiting (And Waiting... And Waiting...)

    We are going to practice the season of Advent together. Download a free Advent guide, here.
    At the end of today's episode, we asked you what your traditions were for remembering the people who we've lost. Share yours on my Instagram or Facebook account. Whether it is the 1st or 4th or 22nd year without someone you love, the holidays can be especially difficult. We need practical ways to bring their memory into our special days. Making family recipes. Playing their favorite song. Putting their ornaments on the tree. Traditions that keep their love alive year after year after year.
    What traditions does your family practice to honor and remember your loved one each year? Share yours on Instagram or Facebook.
    Thank you for sharing your heartbreak and hope with us all. Bless you as you navigate another year dear one. You aren't doing it alone.
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    No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) is now available in PAPERBACK. Order your copy, today.
    Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection. Available wherever books are sold.
    Introducing THE LIVES WE ACTUALLY HAVE: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days (releasing February 14, 2023). Learn more, pre-order, and receive a free pennant, here.

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    • 21 min
    Fred Penner: Music That Makes Us

    Fred Penner: Music That Makes Us

    Fred Penner is a Canadian sensation whose television show and hit songs like “The Cat Came Back” was part of so many of our childhoods. But what few of us knew was how much he understood the pain of growing up. He lost his alcoholic father and his 12-year-old sister in the same year. He turned to music. And his gentle wisdom and songs have invited us—children and adults alike—to stay curious and kind in a hard world.
    In this episode, Kate and Fred discuss: 

    Music as the language of the heart 

    How to speak to the heart of a kid

    Plus, we get to hear Fred sing some of his favorite songs


    I have so many memories singing along to Fred’s music as a kid and felt so lucky to get to speak to him today. 
    CW: alcoholism, death of sibling
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    Find Kate on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter.
    Subscribe to receive blessings in your inbox every week.
    No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) is now available in PAPERBACK. Order your copy, today.
    Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection. Available wherever books are sold.
    We are going to practice the season of Advent together. Download a free Advent guide, here.
    Introducing THE LIVES WE ACTUALLY HAVE: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days (releasing February 14, 2023). Learn more, pre-order, and receive a free pennant, here.

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    • 38 min
    Kate Bowler Joins We Can Do Hard Things

    Kate Bowler Joins We Can Do Hard Things

    Today, I have a very special BONUS episode for you all.
    Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed, watched in awe as this simple phrase from Untamed – WE CAN DO HARD THINGS – the mantra that saved her life twenty years ago, became a worldwide rally cry.
    Life is freaking hard. We are all doing hard things every day – we love and lose; we forge and end friendships; battle addiction, illness, and loneliness; care for children and parents; struggle in our jobs, our marriages, our divorces; we try to set and hold boundaries – and we fight for equality, purpose, joy, and peace right in the midst of all the hard.
    On We Can Do Hard Things, Glennon, her wife Abby Wambach, and her sister Amanda Doyle, do the only thing that has ever made life easier: They talk honestly about the hard. They laugh and cry and help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, free-er, less alone.
    And they asked me to join them for a conversation on We Can Do Hard Things about navigating illness and other hard things that this community knows how to dig into with such courage. I can't wait for you all to listen.
    CW: some spicy adult language :)
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    Listen to Part 2 of my conversation with Glennon and Amanda, "Walking Our People Through Hard Things," on Apple Podcasts or on Spotify. We talk about what to do and say to people in pain and how to accept that sometimes there is nothing we can do to fix people's problems (and how to live with that helplessness).
    Find Kate on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter.
    Follow Glennon on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter.

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    • 1 hr 2 min
    Julia Samuel: Every Family Has A Story

    Julia Samuel: Every Family Has A Story

    Julia Samuel is a psychologist in the UK who specializes in working with families who have experienced complicated stories of loss and love. So often we can feel overwhelmed by our histories – our family histories – and need a boost to confront dysfunction, speak the truth, and find trusted people to help us look back and look forward. 
    In this episode, Kate and Julia discuss: 

    What to do when we’ve inherited the pain of our parents or grandparents and when our own problems might be the pain we pass down

    How we navigate generational divides especially around how we express our feelings

    How to not pass down inherited trauma by understanding our bigger family webs


    This conversation also is a much-needed reminder that you in all your actual problems and actual pain are far better than any idealized version of you. And maybe that is the exact honesty that might offer us and our families the freedom we long for.
    CW: mention of suicide, some spicy adult language :)
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    Find Kate on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter.
    Subscribe to receive blessings in your inbox every week.
    No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) is now available in PAPERBACK. Order your copy, today.
    Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection. Available wherever books are sold.
    We are going to practice the season of Advent together. Download a free Advent guide, here.
    Introducing THE LIVES WE ACTUALLY HAVE: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days (releasing February 14, 2023). Learn more, pre-order, and receive a free pennant, here.

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    • 45 min
    Priya Parker: The Art of Gathering

    Priya Parker: The Art of Gathering

    How do we gather in meaningful ways? After the pandemic took apart so many of our favorite ways of hanging out, we might be out of practice. Or too tired or overwhelmed. 
    Priya Parker is an expert facilitator who encourages us all to practice being together for different reasons. And they don’t have to be nearly as fancy or predictable as we might think…
    In this episode, Kate and Priya discuss: 

    How do we show up for other people and ourselves in creative ways 

    How to know when a change might be needed in a regular gathering 

    Risk and the awkwardness of needing people


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    Find Kate on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter.
    Subscribe to receive blessings in your inbox every week.
    No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) is now available in PAPERBACK. Order your copy, today.
    Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection. Available wherever books are sold.
    We are going to practice the season of Advent together. Download a free Advent guide, here.
    Introducing THE LIVES WE ACTUALLY HAVE: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days (releasing February 14, 2023). Learn more, pre-order, and receive a free pennant, here.

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    • 47 min
    Katherine and Jay Wolf: Wounded Healers

    Katherine and Jay Wolf: Wounded Healers

    Jay and Katherine Wolf were 26 years old, newly married, and brand new parents when Katherine survived a brain stem stroke that upended their lives. That was fifteen years ago. Today, they continue to live with the enduringness of recovery, caregiving, and care-receiving, all while trying to maintain hope. Theirs is a story of commitment and love in the face of tremendous odds. 

    In this episode, Kate, Jay, and Katherine discuss: 


    Why, in the face of impossible circumstances, sometimes the best we can do is to learn to love what must be done

    How to talk to your kids about the difficulties they might face

    The different experiences of being a caregiver and care-receiver over the long haul

    The story of hope and love that Jay and Katherine live into

    Why you are worth caring for—no matter how broken your body or mind or heart is


    I felt so grateful to speak with them fifteen years after the original crisis. This tender conversation offers a wide view of their story of hard-won hope.

    P.S. If you are someone for whom people didn’t stick around after your crisis, we see you. We love you. I hope you will hear Katherine’s words: “You are worth it.” 

    CW: stroke survivor

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    Looking for some short spiritual reflections and blessings? Check out GOOD ENOUGH: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection. Available wherever books are sold.

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    • 57 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
353 Ratings

353 Ratings

itsthesamemeasalways ,

Having Honest Conversations You Didn’t Know You Craved

I found Kate’s work during a dark time and Kate’s voice was the exact honest yet hope filled voice I needed. I told everyone about her book Everything Happens for a Reason (with its cheeky subtitle - and other lies I’ve loved) including my nephew who had just been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. It created a safe space and held us all during the hardest of time. And I still seek out Kate’s voice and conversations. She has the hardest and best conversations and I am just so grateful to have found them. Thank you Kate. So glad you’re here.

ntashv1 ,

Lovely

Such an interesting mix of people that she interviews. And I love Kate’s interview style. Also she has a great laugh. And also sometimes I use her podcasts to help me fall asleep because her voice is so soothing. Thanks for “everything”, Kate.

Jumpers9865 ,

Wonderful

This podcast is a must! Add it to your library and listen. You will not be disappointed.

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