Girls with Grafts

Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors

Girls with Grafts is a podcast hosted by Amber Wilcox and Rachel Kudlak, Burn Survivors, and supporters of the nonprofit, Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors. The Girls with Grafts podcast is for burn survivors, caregivers, hospital staff, and corporate partners in the burn community. Hear in-depth conversations about burn survivor stories, gain resources for managing a burn injury, hear up-to-date information about Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors community news, and listen in on burn prevention and advocacy information.

  1. Finding Strength in Connection: Ariadna’s Journey from Survivor to Supporter

    5D AGO

    Finding Strength in Connection: Ariadna’s Journey from Survivor to Supporter

    In this episode of Girls with Grafts, Rachel talks with Ariadna Bernal about her journey after a gas explosion left her with burns over 90% of her body. Ariadna describes her early days, starting with treatment in Mexico and then continuing her care at Shriners Hospitals for Children in California. She also shares how important her mom was, always staying by her side through everything. ❤️ Together, they explore the emotional and mental side of recovery, including the moment Ariadna first connected with another burn survivor and realized she wasn’t alone. That connection became a turning point, inspiring her to give back through peer support. Ariadna explains how community, empathy, and shared experiences helped her heal in ways that medical care alone could not. Now a dedicated Phoenix SOAR Peer Supporter, Ariadna is actively involved in the Spanish Phoenix SOAR program, helping expand access and connection for Spanish-speaking survivors and families. She is also studying Psychology, hoping to work in a clinical setting, ideally at Shriners, to support children and teens after burn injuries. Her story shows how connection can turn pain into purpose. 🌟  #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!     Meet Our Guest A few years ago, Ariadna Bernal life changed completely after an explosion in her home caused by a gas buildup, which left her with severe burns over 90% of her body. It was a long and painful journey, but the unconditional support of her family and access to psychological care were key in helping her heal both physically and emotionally. Over time, she discovered the power of community by connecting with other burn survivors. Through a social worker at the hospital, she was introduced to this support network and given the opportunity to become a peer supporter. Since then, she has been actively involved, offering support through empathy and lived experience while accompanying others on their path to recovery. Ariadna is passionate about reading, music, painting on canvas, and spending time with family and friends. She is currently pursuing a degree in Psychology, with the goal of specializing in the clinical field. Her biggest dream is to one day work at Shriners Hospital for Children, where she is also a patient, so she can support children and teenagers who, like her, have faced the impact of burn injuries.   Links Learn more about Phoenix SOAR: https://resources.phoenix-society.org/phoenix-soarExplore Phoenix Society’s Spanish resources: https://www.phoenix-society.org/spanish Read “Ariadna's Path from Pain to Purpose:” https://www.phoenix-society.org/resources/ariadnas-path-from-pain-to-purpose   Podcast Sponsor Today’s podcast is powered by the National Fire Protection Association! NFPA is a nonprofit that seeks to save lives and reduce loss with information, knowledge, & passion. Learn more about fire safety and explore their educational resources by visiting www.nfpa.org. Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    40 min
  2. Your Injury Doesn’t Define You—It Can Be a Catalyst for Change with Kelsay Parrott

    APR 21

    Your Injury Doesn’t Define You—It Can Be a Catalyst for Change with Kelsay Parrott

    This week on Girls with Grafts, Rachel talks with burn survivor Kelsay Parrott about healing that goes beyond the physical and finding purpose in pain. 🩷 Kelsay shares her story of being burned at four years old and how, for many years, she focused on physical recovery without fully addressing the mental and emotional effects of her injury. She explains what it was like to finally start deeper healing and how it changed her life. The conversation shows the power of connection, from the community she found at burn camp to the time she secretly signed herself and her mom up for Phoenix World Burn Congress. That choice became a turning point, giving her a sense of belonging, support, and a place where she felt understood. Kelsay also explains how her experiences led her to earn a Master’s degree in Christian Ministry focused on trauma and disability. Now, she uses her story to support others in recovery. She believes that even the most painful experiences can lead to purpose. ✨  #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!     Meet Our Guest Kelsay Parrott is a burn survivor whose story began at the age of four when she was severely burned in a candle accident and given less than a 5% chance of survival. After enduring the physical trauma of her injuries, she later faced the unseen battle of the mental and emotional aftermath. Through finally receiving the support and care she needed, Kelsay began a journey of healing that transformed her pain into purpose. Today, she strives to be a beacon of hope for others walking through trauma and recovery. Kelsay holds a Master of Arts in Christian Ministry with a focus on trauma and disability. She regularly writes on her blog, *Healing a Burned Soul*, where she shares encouragement, faith, and insights for those navigating the complexities of trauma. She is also currently working toward launching a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing care and support for trauma survivors, caregivers, first responders, and others impacted by trauma. Kelsay's life motto is "if my pain can change one person's life, it was all worth it." Links Read Kelsay’s blog: https://www.healingburnedsoul.com/ Learn more about Phoenix World Burn Congress: https://www.phoenix-society.org/phoenix-wbc Join our Facebook group for burn survivors and loved ones: https://www.facebook.com/groups/phoenixsocietypeersupport Find a burn camp near you: https://iaburncamps.org/   Podcast Sponsor Today’s podcast is powered by Buses by the Beach! Buses by the Beach is a community of VW bus enthusiasts based in West Michigan. They come together to camp, host amazing events, and raise funds to support Phoenix Society. And mark your calendars for the 2026 Bus Benefit, happening May 22nd-25th in Trufant, Michigan.  Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    52 min
  3. The Magic of Showing Up: Volunteerism & Burn Camp with Madeleine Carson

    APR 21

    The Magic of Showing Up: Volunteerism & Burn Camp with Madeleine Carson

    In this special National Volunteer Week episode of Girls with Grafts, we welcome Madeleine Carson, Director of Programs at Burns Recovered and our Volunteer of the Month. We talk about the power of community, connection, and supporting others. 🤝 Madeleine shares how she became involved in the burn survivor community—including a full-circle moment where Amber, who works at United Rentals, became part of a meaningful connection: United Rentals reached out to Madeleine at Burns Recovered to support a survivor, Amber was looped into the conversation, and together they helped move the project forward. It’s a fun, unexpected example of how small connections within our community can come together to make a real impact. Rachel and Madeleine also talk about the many programs Burns Recovered offers, including pediatric burn camps, adult retreats, and family events. They also talk about Madeleine’s role as Board President of the International Association of Burn Camps (IABC) and how working together across the burn community helps more people access these important experiences. 🏕️ The heart of this episode is the special feeling of burn camp. These camps help people form lifelong friendships, build confidence, and remind survivors they are not alone.  Whether you are a volunteer, a survivor, or someone interested in helping, this conversation shows how powerful it is to show up, support others, and be part of something bigger. 💛 #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!     Meet Our Guest Madeleine Carson is originally from Maryland but has called St. Louis, Missouri her home for the past 16 years. She is a clinically trained social worker and has been serving as the director of programs with Burns Recovered since 2019. Madeleine was drawn to the burn survivor community after learning about the existence of burn camps for pediatric burn survivors.  Madeleine is a camp kid at heart, having attended and then worked at the same day camp in suburban Maryland for 14 consecutive summers. Madeleine is not a burn survivor herself, but she understands the healing power of being part of a community of people with shared lived experience. Since joining Burns Recovered in 2019, she has made it her mission to create open and compassionate spaces for burn survivors of all ages to gather and support one another such as a week-long pediatric burn camp, weekend-long retreats for adult burn survivors and young-adult burn survivors and a weekend-long family camp. In her free time, Madeleine serves as the Board President of the International Association of Burn Camps (IABC). Madeleine enjoys baking bread, reading, and lounging on the couch with her old dogs, Enzo and Tesla. She is so excited to watch World Cup Soccer this summer and to attend a game in Kansas City for her 40th birthday!    Links Get in contact with Madeline Carson at: https://brsg.org/contact-us/ Learn more about Burns Recovered: https://brsg.org/ Learn more about their upcoming “Adult LIFE Retreat:” https://brsg.org/events/adult-retreat/ Learn more about the IABC: https://iaburncamps.org/ Explore the IABC’s directory: https://iaburncamps.org/camp-directory/ Get involved with Phoenix Society: https://resources.phoenix-society.org/phoenix-volunteer-week    Podcast Sponsor Today’s podcast is powered by Jensen Hughes! Since 1939, Jensen Hughes has been a global leader in fire protection engineering and safety solutions. Jensen Hughes combines expert knowledge, innovative strategies, and groundbreaking research to help clients protect lives, property, and reputations—making the world a safer, more resilient place. Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    51 min
  4. Connection Beyond the Hospital: A Girls with Grafts x H.E.A.L. Collaboration

    APR 7

    Connection Beyond the Hospital: A Girls with Grafts x H.E.A.L. Collaboration

    In this special episode, Girls with Grafts joins forces with the H.E.A.L. Changed by Fire Podcast for an important conversation about connection, healing, and the resources that help burn survivors after they leave the hospital. 🏥 Rachel, Lori, and Jen talk about how groups like Phoenix Society and Change by Fire are helping to close the gap between medical recovery and long-term healing. Their goal is to make sure survivors and their families can find support wherever they are in their journey. They talk about how peer support programs like Phoenix SOAR can make a big difference, and how digital spaces and podcasts help more people find community. Sharing survivor stories is also shown to be an important part of healing. The conversation points out that when organizations in the burn community work together, more survivors can get the support, resources, and care they need. ❤️ #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!   Meet Our Guests Lori Janik is a holistic trauma therapist and mother of three who serves as Secretary and Community Outreach Director on the Board of Directors for Changed by Fire. She discovered her “why” for supporting the burn community years ago while working with burn survivors in an inpatient setting. There, she witnessed the deep emotional and social struggles survivors and families face long after physical injuries begin to heal. Lori brings clinical expertise, compassion, and advocacy to Changed by Fire. She is committed to helping survivors reconnect with their bodies, rebuild their lives, and find community. Lori is proud to lead these conversations on the H.E.A.L. Podcast, highlighting the voices of survivors, families, and burn care professionals. In 2017, Jen Severance experienced a life‑changing burn injury after collapsing while cooking at home. She spent a month in the burn unit undergoing multiple surgeries and a long, challenging recovery. Jen documented her journey through photos and explored countless healing modalities, from scar massage to physical therapy, compression garments, and cupping. Today, Jen’s life is richer because of the love and inspiration she found in the burn survivor community. As guest host of the H.E.A.L. Podcast, Jen brings empathy, courage, and authenticity to each episode, helping others feel understood and supported as they navigate life after burn injury. Links Listen to the H.E.A.L Podcast: https://www.changedbyfire.org/podcastVisit Changed by Fire’s website: https://www.changedbyfire.org/ Learn more about Phoenix World Burn Congress: https://www.phoenix-society.org/phoenix-wbc Explore our STEPS tools: https://resources.phoenix-society.org/getting-back-out-there-tools-for-social-empowerment Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    59 min
  5. Selfish for Survival with Chris Akin

    MAR 24

    Selfish for Survival with Chris Akin

    In this episode of Girls with Grafts, Rachel talks with Chris Akin, a burn survivor, entrepreneur, and media personality. Together, they discuss resilience, determination, and how to make the most of each day. Chris tells the story of the industrial explosion that caused his burn injury and describes his early days recovering in the hospital and how his determination shaped his recovery. 💪 Rachel and Chris also chat about the mindset that helped him move forward. Chris shares that he had to be selfish during recovery, focusing on whatever he needed to heal and return to life, even after being told he had little chance of survival. They also talk about Chris’s book and his journey as a writer, including what inspired him to share his story and how the experience changed his life. Chris doesn't necessarily see the accident itself as positive, but he explains that the lessons he learned from surviving it led his life in a positive direction. 💛  #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!     Meet Our Guest Chris Akin is a burn survivor, author, and media personality whose life changed dramatically after a catastrophic industrial explosion in 1994 left him with burns over 69% of his body. Given little chance of survival and facing predictions of amputation and lifelong disability, Chris defied the odds and fought his way through an intense and painful recovery. In his memoir, Call Me Chris: A Tale of Healing, Recovery, Selfishness and Resolve, he shares a brutally honest account of surviving severe burns, navigating the emotional and physical realities of recovery, and rebuilding his life after trauma. Known for his candid storytelling and dark humor, Chris offers a powerful perspective on resilience, identity, and the determination it takes to move forward after a life-altering injury.  Links Read “Call Me Chris: A Tale Of Healing, Recovery, Selfishness and Resolve:” https://www.amazon.com/Call-Me-Chris-Recovery-Selfishness/dp/152398838X Learn more about Akin IT Services: https://www.akinitservices.com/  Learn more about Chris’s pinball arcade: https://www.pinballpa.com/Visit Chris’s substack: https://cmspn.substack.com/ Listen to “Liming Out of the Fire:” https://cmspn.substack.com/s/limping-out-of-the-fire  Podcast Sponsor Today’s podcast is powered by the Donor Alliance Foundation & the Brookby Foundation! Both of these foundations play a critical role in supporting Phoenix Society and our programs. Their partnerships help us continue to create spaces for healing, connection, and advocacy—and we couldn’t do it without them!  Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    1h 1m
  6. Love Is Blind… But Scars Aren’t: Ashley Nelson on Dating with Hidden Burns

    MAR 10

    Love Is Blind… But Scars Aren’t: Ashley Nelson on Dating with Hidden Burns

    This week on Girls with Grafts, Amber and Rachel sit down with Ashley Nelson for an honest conversation about identity, confidence, and dating after a burn injury. Ashley shares how she changed her mindset from seeing herself as a “burn victim” to a “burn survivor,” and how this new perspective changed how she views herself. She also talks about her dating experiences, including how she tells her story, the support she received, and the tough moments that helped her grow. ❤️ Ashley also describes small acts of courage, like getting a pedicure at a nail salon while people stare, and reminding herself that her scars do not define her worth. 💅 We also talk about Love Is Blind Season 10, Emma Betsinger, and how pop culture can start important conversations about vulnerability, being seen, and handling tough topics in relationships. This episode is real, relatable, and reminds us that confidence isn’t about hiding your scars. It’s about owning your story. ✨  #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!     Meet Our Guest Ashley Nelson is 33 years old and sustained burns over 35% of her body at the age of 24. She currently works as a Sales Account Manager and holds a degree in Psychology.   Links Find fire blankets on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=fire+blankets&crid=2LOKE71OU1MNK&sprefix=fire+blanket%2Caps%2C171&ref=nb_sb_noss_1Learn more about Phoenix World Burn Congress: https://www.phoenix-society.org/phoenix-wbcExplore Dateability: https://info.dateabilityapp.com/Watch “In Sickness and In Health: A Modern Dating App for Disabilities, Introducing Dateability:” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32N8Lzp0yno Read “Love Is Blind’s Emma Admits She ‘Felt So Isolated’ Going into the Pods Due to Her 'Unique Story':” https://people.com/love-is-blind-emma-admits-she-felt-so-isolated-going-into-the-pods-due-to-a-unique-story-exclusive-11908197   Podcast Sponsor Today’s podcast is powered by Gropper & Nejat, a personal injury firm dedicated to supporting burn survivors in New York and New Jersey. They understand the physical, emotional, and financial challenges that come with burn injuries and fight tirelessly to secure justice and compensation for their clients. Receive a free consultation today by visiting groppernejat.com. Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    49 min
  7. How to Decide if Reconstructive Scar Surgery Is Right for You with Dr. Cliff Sheckter

    MAR 3

    How to Decide if Reconstructive Scar Surgery Is Right for You with Dr. Cliff Sheckter

    In this episode of Girls with Grafts, Rachel talks with burn surgeon and researcher Dr. Cliff Sheckter about how to give survivors better tools and information when they are thinking about reconstructive scar surgery. 🩺 We discuss the Decision Aid for Reconstructive Scar Surgery, a new resource to help survivors decide if surgery is right for them. Dr. Sheckter explains why this tool was made, what questions it helps answer, and how it helps survivors think about both practical results and quality of life. ❓ We discuss why some survivors may feel let down even after a successful procedure and look at how expectations, identity, and healing are all closely linked. Rachel and Dr. Sheckter also look at the bigger picture, including gaps in research about scar outcomes, how “quality of life” is measured in burn recovery, and what future studies may focus on. This episode offers practical and encouraging advice to help you make choices that feel right for you.   #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!     Meet Our Guest Dr. Cliff Sheckter is the Burn Center Director at Santa Clara Valley Medical Center, which serves the San Francisco Bay Area in burn and trauma care. He is double board certified in plastic/reconstructive surgery and surgical critical care and dedicates his practice to burn patients and survivors. He completed his medical/surgical training at USC, Stanford, and the University of Washington. Dr. Sheckter is an Assistant Professor of Surgery at Stanford University and teaches medical students and residents comprehensive burn care. He is also a health policy researcher and has published multiple articles related to burn survivor quality-of-life and health economics in burn care. Links Read Dr. Sheckter “Is Scar Surgery Right for Me? A New Tool Guides Decisions Around Reconstructive Scar Surgery for Burn Survivors:” https://www.phoenix-society.org/resources/is-scar-surgery-right-for-me-a-new-tool-guides-decisions-around Explore the American Burn Association's survivor support and aftercare resources: https://www.ameriburn.org/patients/burn-survivor-support-and-aftercare-resources Learn more about Phoenix Society’s Virtual Support Group: https://www.phoenix-society.org/what-we-do/virtual-support-groupJoin Phoenix Society’s Facebook Group for survivors and caregivers: https://www.facebook.com/groups/phoenixsocietypeersupport  Podcast Sponsor Today’s podcast is powered by AlloSource! AlloSource is one of the largest human tissue providers, honoring tissue donors by creating innovative skin allografts to help burn surgeons heal patients. Learn more about AlloSource and their continuing education hours by visiting their Resource Marketplace Listing directly on Phoenix Society’s website.  Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    58 min
  8. Healing Is a Journey, Not a Destination with Mikki Rothbauer: Why Support Group Needs You

    FEB 17

    Healing Is a Journey, Not a Destination with Mikki Rothbauer: Why Support Group Needs You

    This week on Girls with Grafts, Rachel talks with Mikki Rothbauer, a psychotherapist who has spent over twenty years helping burn survivors and their families at Regions Hospital Burn Center. Mikki talks about what she has learned from years of supporting burn survivors, from the first days after injury to long-term healing. 💛 She leads burn support groups and coordinates a hospital-based Phoenix SOAR program. Mikki often reminds patients, “support group needs you.” In this episode, she explains why letting survivors choose to join peer support can be an important part of recovery. Rachel and Mikki discuss the emotional impacts of burn injuries, how to know when it may be time to get professional mental health help, and how resilience and confidence support healing. 💪 We also talk openly about topics that are often overlooked, like body image, sexuality, and intimacy after a burn injury, sharing both survivor and caregiver perspectives with honesty and care.   #BurnSurvivor #GirlsWithGrafts #Podcast #SurvivorPodcast #BurnSurvivorStories ⭐️ Enjoyed the show? Tell us by leaving a 5-star review and sharing on social media using hashtag #GirlswithGrafts and tagging Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors!     Meet Our Guest Mikki Rothbauer, MSW, LICSW, is a pediatric and adult burn and trauma psychotherapist who has worked with burn survivors and their families in a Level 1 trauma center for more than 21 years. She is deeply passionate about supporting survivors of burn and trauma injuries and considers it a privilege to be part of each patient’s healing journey. Recognizing that burn and trauma injuries impact the entire family, Mikki works closely with patients and their support systems from the onset of injury through the months and years that follow. She emphasizes cognitive behavioral strategies to help address acute stress and PTSD symptoms, and her clinical focus also includes grief and loss, cosmetic differences, hidden burns and injuries, survivor’s guilt, and work-related injuries. Mikki enjoys working with patients of all ages and uses a collaborative, patient-centered approach to support individuals as they return to living full and meaningful lives. She facilitates burn support groups, coordinates her center’s SOAR peer support program, and has a special interest in addressing body image and sexuality concerns during recovery. In addition to her clinical work, Mikki has contributed to the field through published articles and book chapters related to trauma and burn recovery. She considers it a true honor to walk alongside patients and their loved ones as they navigate recovery after traumatic injury. Links Learn more about Phoenix SOAR: https://resources.phoenix-society.org/phoenix-soar Request a peer support visit through Phoenix Society: https://resources.phoenix-society.org/peer-support-request Read “Understanding Intimacy and Sexuality After Burn Injury:” https://phoenix-society.org/resources/understanding-intimacy-and-sexuality-after-burn-injury   Podcast Sponsor Today’s podcast is powered by the Bert Martin Foundation! The Bert Martin Foundation was established to assist those who help others and provide financial support for nonprofit organizations. We’re honored to have the Bert Martin Foundation as a long-standing Phoenix Society Partner.   Interested in becoming a sponsor of the show? Email us at info@phoenix-society.org.

    59 min

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Girls with Grafts is a podcast hosted by Amber Wilcox and Rachel Kudlak, Burn Survivors, and supporters of the nonprofit, Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors. The Girls with Grafts podcast is for burn survivors, caregivers, hospital staff, and corporate partners in the burn community. Hear in-depth conversations about burn survivor stories, gain resources for managing a burn injury, hear up-to-date information about Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors community news, and listen in on burn prevention and advocacy information.

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