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Posptartum Depression is real. And it's only part of the story. We dig in to ALL of the stuff that no tells you about, but you NEED to know. Dr. Kat, Psychologist and specialist in perinatal mental health, interviews moms, dads, experts and advocates about how to cope, manage and recover from perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. We talk about postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety and SO MUCH MORE! We get real. We get honest. We put on our stigma crushing boots and address the realities of the transition to motherhood and parenthood. Learn about it before you find out about it the hard way! You don't have to suffer! www.momandmind.com

Mom and Mind Katayune Kaeni, Psy.D., PMH-C

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Posptartum Depression is real. And it's only part of the story. We dig in to ALL of the stuff that no tells you about, but you NEED to know. Dr. Kat, Psychologist and specialist in perinatal mental health, interviews moms, dads, experts and advocates about how to cope, manage and recover from perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. We talk about postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety and SO MUCH MORE! We get real. We get honest. We put on our stigma crushing boots and address the realities of the transition to motherhood and parenthood. Learn about it before you find out about it the hard way! You don't have to suffer! www.momandmind.com

    255: Sexual Abuse Survivors and Perinatal Mental Health with Deborah Flam

    255: Sexual Abuse Survivors and Perinatal Mental Health with Deborah Flam

    Today’s show is about the effects of sexual abuse on pregnant, birthing, and postpartum people. This topic may be difficult for some, even though we are not discussing specific details of sexual abuse events; please determine for yourself whether you are ready to listen to this episode or not. You can find all of our episodes available for you whenever you are ready at www.momandmind.com. If you are ready, join us to learn more in today’s episode!
    Deborah Flam is a reproductive therapist in New Jersey. She is also a volunteer support group facilitator and a NJ Support Coordinator for Postpartum Support International. She is on the board of PSI-NJ as the Community Outreach and Engagement Board Member. Her training is in perinatal mental health, infertility, birth trauma, perinatal/infant loss, and compassionate/bereavement care. Deborah also has specialized training on the impact of sexual abuse on childbearing individuals. She has volunteered for the Ocean County Sexual Response Team as a Confidential Sexual Assault Advocate and provided training for nursing and social work students on issues related to sexual abuse. In sharing her personal story, Deborah explains how her trauma history impacted her pregnancy and postpartum experience. She also shares how clinicians can help prepare sexual abuse survivors for their baby’s birth and how medical professionals can provide trauma-informed care. 

    Show Highlights:

    Deborah’s story of anxiety that began with her positive pregnancy test and escalated to depression–even though she was already seeing a therapist

    How she was in complete denial about her pregnancy, feeling like the baby was a parasite in her body

    How her labor began at 35 weeks in an unexpected way–and she didn’t feel anything and was eventually sent home

    How her 37-week appointment found her in labor again—and her son was born a few hours later

    How Deborah’s postpartum anxiety, depression, OCD, avoidance, and intrusive thoughts plagued her after giving birth

    How she learned that the pregnancy and postpartum experience can feel terrible

    What the statistics say about the likelihood of women experiencing physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime

    Why many sexual abuse survivors feel shame, fear, and fragility related to pregnancy and their medical care

    How the gender of the baby can trigger fears and strong emotions among survivors, along with the common medical practices related to pregnancy and birth

    How some survivors are triggered by fear and shame around bodily functions and bodily fluids during labor and delivery

    How even the sights, sounds, and smells of the hospital can be triggering for survivors

    Why nursing personnel should be attentive to the passive patient who seems calm and perfect, the patient who is completely dissociated from the experience, and the “difficult” patient

    Deborah’s tips for how medical providers and therapists can show up better for sexual abuse survivors in very simple “workarounds”

    How Deborah’s PMADs experience has led to beautiful healing


    Resources
    Connect with Deborah
    Website
    Resources mentioned in this episode and recommended by Deborah:
    RAINN
    Black Mamas Matter Alliance
    Time’s Up
    FORGE
    Anti-Violence Project
    The Network La Red
    Survivor Moms' Companion
    When Survivors Give Birth book by Penny Simkin
    It's OK That You're Not OK book by Megan Devine

    Visit www.postpartum.net for resources! I’d love to hear from you!
    Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.  
    Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!
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    • 52 min
    254: Mental Health Challenges through Miscarriages, Pregnancy, and Postpartum with Megan Monds, LCSW

    254: Mental Health Challenges through Miscarriages, Pregnancy, and Postpartum with Megan Monds, LCSW

    Many people experience some kind of mental health condition through pregnancy and postpartum. The reproductive journey brings many challenges, and today’s guest gives us a glimpse into her story of recurrent loss, pregnancy, postpartum, and how she came to self-advocacy and empowerment through her challenges. Join us to hear Megan’s story!
    Megan Monds fills many roles in life, none more important to her than mother to her two small children, ages 5 and 3. She is a highly-sensitive person who works as a mental health therapist for children, adults, and families. Her passion is working with children and adults with complex trauma histories, and she has her own lived experience with anxiety, depression, and trauma. By sharing her story, she hopes to empower and validate others who are facing a challenging journey to parenthood. 

    Show Highlights:

    How Megan’s story includes three miscarriages before giving birth to her first child

    How Megan coped with her first miscarriage by using avoidance–and carried on with her very busy life

    How two more miscarriages occurred during the next two years, and they didn’t seem as emotionally jarring as the first one even though childhood trauma reappeared

    How her first full-term pregnancy was hard, making it difficult to connect to her baby

    How her induction and all the medical interventions did not follow her birth plan at all–again, feeling like it was all happening TO her and beyond her control

    How Megan saw a therapist and did the work on herself after her daughter was born

    How she felt more whole, healthy, and understanding during her next pregnancy with her son–much different than her pregnancy with her daughter

    How her son’s birth played out in a much more peaceful way than the raw and intense birth of her daughter

    How Megan’s sensitivity and anxiety contributed to her trauma response and impacted every aspect of her emotional experience

    How Megan realized with her second birth that she could have more control over her environment and her mental state

    What Megan wants others to know about mental health and getting support

    Why it is empowering to realize that your experience is more important than what any expert or provider might say, especially when “there isn’t research to support your experience”

    Why it’s OK if your needs and preferences don’t make sense to others

    Why it’s important to come at your challenges from a place of curiosity instead of rigid expectations


    Resources:
    Connect with Megan: Instagram
    Visit www.postpartum.net for resources! I’d love to hear from you!
    Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.  
    Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!
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    • 47 min
    253: Healing Through Trauma from Birth and the Pandemic

    253: Healing Through Trauma from Birth and the Pandemic

    Those trained in perinatal mental health can still struggle with perinatal mental health conditions. Having professional knowledge of the issues doesn’t make someone immune from any mental health problems. I’m grateful that today’s guest is sharing her story to show that those in the helping professions can experience the same struggles that any other person does. Join us to hear Kelsie’s story!
    Kelsie Hammons is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Perinatal Mental Health Therapist in Arkansas. She became a mother in early 2020, which meant that her entire postpartum experience took place during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic. Although she was trained and knew about the supportive tools to mitigate postpartum stressors, she struggled with the additional unpredictable layers of stress in healing from her traumatic birth experience while the pandemic was raging. She attempted to find her own rhythm during the isolation as she felt that she was mothering against the current. Kelsie’s experience lit a fire within her to work to support women during these transition times and help them feel more connected and regulated.

    Show Highlights

    Kelsie’s professional career launched about the same time as her pregnancy with her baby, born in February 2020

    Her birth didn’t go as planned and required an emergency C-section–and then her postpartum coincided with the pandemic shutdown

    A struggle to find her new identity as a mother while feeling isolated and unsupported

    What supports Kelsie had in place before her birth

    Gaslighting herself and her feelings of anxiety until she reached out for help when her daughter was several months old

    Kelsie coped with what she knows now was a trauma response

    Healing has to come at its own pace–and how Kelsie learned this through therapy work

    Why it was monumental for Kelsie to process her birth experience

    How Kelsie is able to offer regulation tools to women with understanding because she knows what worked best for her

    Problems occur when external pressures interrupt internal values for new moms

    Kelsie’s work has transitioned to Heart Led Mental Health


    Resources
    Connect with Kelsie Website (coming soon!) and Instagram
    Thrive Counseling and Wellness  
    Visit www.postpartum.net for resources. I’d love to hear from you!
    Click HERE for information on the grief course.  
    Visit my website for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!
    Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!
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    • 47 min
    252: Preparation and Prevention of Perinatal Mental Health Conditions with Kayce Hodos, LCMHC, PMH-C

    252: Preparation and Prevention of Perinatal Mental Health Conditions with Kayce Hodos, LCMHC, PMH-C

    Today’s focus is on thinking ahead in your perinatal mental health journey. Most of us learn about our problems as they are happening, and we have to learn how to cope along the way. When someone who has “been there” is open and honest about their experience, we can plan ahead and be better prepared. Join me to hear the journey story of today’s guest.
    Kayce Hodos has spent the better part of her 20+ year career in mental health focused on loss and life transitions. After having her son in 2012, her coping skills were put to the test as she struggled through the darkness of postpartum depression and anxiety. With the help of her therapist and supportive husband, Kayce was able to climb out of her pit of despair. When she was healthy again, she had a newfound passion for supporting women through their adjustment into motherhood. Today, she works to empower new mothers with real life strategies for thriving while caring for a tiny human. 

    Show Highlights:

    An overview of Kayce’s journey into motherhood from 2012 until now

    How she struggled with breastfeeding, sleep deprivation, and the overall transition into motherhood–even though she had a great support system

    How crawling out of the pit of depression inspired Kayce to help other mothers

    Why prevention of mental health problems is missing in preparing new parents for the birth of their child

    How we can help people learn about perinatal mental health–and prepare them for the possible difficulties

    How preparation and prevention of mental health problems can happen during three phases: pregnancy, problem-solving, and parenting

    Why it’s important to build in practices and local resources to support your mental health

    Why there is a BIG need for providers to be honest with women about perinatal mood and anxiety disorders so they aren’t so scary to encounter


    Resources
    Connect with Kayce
    Website and Instagram

    Visit www.postpartum.net for resources! I’d love to hear from you!
    Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.  
    Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!
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    • 39 min
    251: No More Shame: Therapists Need Help, Too

    251: No More Shame: Therapists Need Help, Too

    Talking about your own mental health can be even more difficult if you work in the mental health field. There is shame and stigma attached to a therapist who admits that they need help because the assumption is that therapists don’t need help with mental health. My guest shares her story of postpartum struggles and the effect on her relationships and life as she experienced stress, anxiety, and isolation when her second child was born during the pandemic. Join us to hear her perspective.
    Laura Galindo is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California, New York, and Connecticut, where she currently resides. She has been in the field for over a decade, providing therapy for individuals who have chronic mental illness, and she works with those who are actively serving in the US military. She runs her private practice in Connecticut, where she is certified in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), EMDR, and perinatal mental health. 
    Show Highlights:

    How Laura’s second daughter arrived just days before the world entered the COVID shutdown

    How Laura’s maternity leave ended up not going according to the plan, along with feeding problems with her newborn 

    How the pandemic shutdown prevented Laura from receiving the help she needed and left her feeling very isolated

    How Laura felt “mom guilt” very deeply and still feels resentment about the pandemic

    Why it was hard for Laura, the therapist, to admit that something was wrong with her

    How seeing a therapist for EMDR and using “movement as medicine” began to help Laura in many ways

    Why Laura was torn and conflicted about returning to work and felt guilty about cutting her maternity leave short

    How Laura finally realized that she had to “fill her own cup” before trying to be a good wife, mom, and therapist

    How Laura faced the questions from coworkers about shortening her maternity leave– and handled the additional anxiety of learning the new telehealth system 

    Why Laura questioned her therapy skills and knowledge because of her unrealistic expectations for herself

    Why Laura became certified in perinatal mental health as a result of her experiences

    How Laura first realized that it was time for her to seek help

    What Laura would say to struggling parents


    Resources:
    Connect with Laura: Website and Instagram
    https://www.thrivecounselingandwellnessgroup.com  
    Visit www.postpartum.net for resources! I’d love to hear from you!
    Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.  
    Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!
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    • 48 min
    250: Coping with Holiday Burnout

    250: Coping with Holiday Burnout

    Welcome to another episode and a New Year! A new year brings times of reflection, especially with all that we’ve been through over these last few years with the pandemic, and some people are still struggling with getting back to “normal.” Wherever you are, it’s OK to be integrating into this new normal in whatever ways you can, and every decision is part of a more complex dynamic. Today’s focus is on the burnout that comes with holiday celebrations and the reintegrating we are doing around social gatherings and traditions. Let’s talk about these issues that might affect you wherever you are in your reproductive journey. Join me!
    Show Highlights:

    Why decisions are especially tough when they might affect the health and safety of your family

    Why holiday burnout is a very specific type of burnout with multiple layers

    Why the overwhelm that was suppressed during the holidays may be showing up now

    How feeling like a failure is a common emotion after the holidays–both from the way OUR holidays played out AND from what we see on social media from others

    Why perfection needs to come out of the conversation and expectations

    Why I hope normalizing these post-holiday feelings can bring a new perspective

    Why taking time for rest and recovery can take the pressure off–Give yourself permission to rest! 

    Why awareness and naming things are big parts of taking care of ourselves

    How to check in with yourself by asking, “How am I doing? What do I need TODAY?”

    Why making changes to shift things for the better will usually cause stress and discomfort at first—but attending to yourself in this way is essential


    Resources:
    Visit www.postpartum.net for resources! I’d love to hear from you!
    Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.  
    Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!
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    • 32 min

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