In a world where nearly 28% of older adults in the U.S. identify as solo agers—those aging independently by choice or circumstance—a groundbreaking program is helping participants redefine their futures. Hosted by Steve Gurney of the Positive Aging Community, a recent online panel featured Claire Solomon Nisen, a social worker and program manager at DOROT, and Pat Estess, a facilitator and solo ager herself. The discussion spotlighted "Aging Alone Together," a free, six-week initiative designed to equip older adults with tools for intentional aging, while fostering connections that combat loneliness. DOROT, a New York-based organization founded in 1976 by social work students to support isolated seniors, draws its name from the Hebrew word for "generations." As Nisen explained, intergenerational connection is at its core, though the nonprofit serves a diverse community beyond Jewish traditions. "We promote social connection, friendship, and community," she said, noting that all programs are offered at no cost, thanks to donors and partners. The term "solo aging," coined by Sara Zeff Geber, refers to those who expect to make decisions about their future independently—whether due to no children, estranged family, divorce, or other reasons. According to census data shared by Nisen, 22.1 million Americans over 65 fall into this category, a number growing amid declining birth rates and rising divorces. Solo agers face unique challenges, from healthcare planning to a lack of caregivers, but Nisen emphasized empowerment: "Our constituents are the experts of their own experiences." Launched in June 2021 as "Aging Solo" in collaboration with Iona Senior Services in Washington, D.C., the program quickly drew over 80 participants weekly, revealing a deep need. Renamed "Aging Alone Together" and revamped in August 2024 with input from gerontology experts and over 200 alumni, it has now served more than 1,500 people across 36 cohorts. Partnerships include LGBTQ+ organizations, faith-based groups, and the National Village to Village Network. The curriculum unfolds over six sessions, blending presentations, videos, polls, and small-group discussions. Topics include: Introducing solo aging concepts.Building and maintaining community.Aging in place or relocating.Healthcare and end-of-life decisions.Financial and legal matters.Next steps for ongoing planning.Three mantras guide participants: "Solo aging doesn't mean aging alone," "Choose to start now," and "Take small steps." As Estess, who facilitates sessions, noted, "Pat yourself on the back—perhaps have some ice cream—for beginning this work." Sessions last 90 minutes online or two hours in person, with trained leaders facilitating breakout groups of six to eight. A national resource guide and workbook provide tools, from nonprofits to government agencies, without endorsing specific practitioners.
