The Adoption Files

Ande Stanley
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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate. We will not only talk about the laws and the challenges they create, but also the ways that the mythology around adoption impacts the way we move through our lives, as adopted people and as mothers and other family members.

  1. 1D AGO

    Coping Strategies; Finding Ways to Live with Loss Pt 2 of my conversation with mom Cindy Shultz

    Please join me as I continue my conversation with mother of loss to adoption Cindy Shultz. We talk about how the loss of a child can lead to substance use, and how the love of a child can lead to sobriety. Cindy Shultz is a mother of church-coerced child loss who transforms lived experience into advocacy. Raised in the shadow of poverty and stigma, Cindy was a mother in crisis when Catholic Charities pressured her into relinquishing her son in a process she felt powerless to stop. This experience of unnecessary child loss is the foundation of her mission to support the systematically oppressed. As the founder of Cindy's Family Preservation Alliance and a volunteer for Saving Our Sisters, she provides pregnant women the education and resource navigation she was once denied. Professionally, Cindy serves as a Wellness and Services coordinator at two local shelters, providing holistic case management for unhoused women. She is a certified Holistic Life Coach, Recovery Coach and Laughter Yoga Leader creating healing centered environments that honor the intersections of trauma, substance use, and family separation. Her work is a living testament that healing is possible and that family preservation is a fundamental human right that must be protected. If you are interested in Coaching or the healing power of Laughter Yoga, join her free Skool community Love Our Laughter. https://www.facebook.com/familypreservationalliance/ https://www.skool.com/love-our-laughter-wellness-5520/about https://savingoursistersadoption.org/ Mentioned in the episode https://www.aa.org/ https://sherecovers.org/ https://recoverydharma.org/ https://celiacenter.org/ https://mentalhealthhotline.org/ The opinions of the host and the guest are just that, our opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional Thank you for listening!

    1h 2m

  2. 4D AGO

    Control: figuring out how spiritual forms of control have played out

    Please join Dani and I as we continue to grapple with how spiritual and religious trauma have impacted our lives both through the lens of adoption and in our lives in general. Our conversation is being guided by the book Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/ Dani can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy https://www.apa.org/topics/crisis-hotlines The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, our opinons. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening.

    1h 21m

  3. MAR 23

    All Tied Up: Spiritual and Religious Trauma

    Join Dani Joy and I as we talk about what we have learned so far as we finish Chaper 2 of Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L McBride PhD Dani Joy can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/ https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions The host is not a therapist, a lawyer or an adoption professional

    1h 6m

  4. MAR 19

    Tiny, Little Happy Bows: How Trauma Lives in the Body. Continuing the conversation on Spiritual Trauma and Adoption

    Please join Dani Joy and I as we continue to talk about spiritual trauma and adoption, using the book Holy Hurt: Understadning Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L McBride, PhD Dani Joy can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/ https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

    1h 16m

  5. MAR 12

    Beyond the Band-Aid: going Deeper into the Examination of Spiritual Trauma and Adoption

    Please join Dani Joy and I as we continue our conversation about spiritual trauma and adoption, using the book Holy Hurt: Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing, by Hillary L McBride, PhD. We have reached page 28, and are talking about McBrides' lists of the physical, social, relational and spiritual symptoms of spiritual trauma. Dani Joy can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy Holy Hurt: https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/ https://concernedunitedbirthparents.org/ https://www.facebook.com Adoption Trauma Network https://rainn.org/ https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

    1h 35m

  6. MAR 8

    Finding Our Way: Continuing the Conversation Concerning Spiritual Trauma and Adoption

    Please join Dani and I as we continue to explore the intersection of adoption and spiritual trauma. We continue to use the book Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L McBride, PhD as a framework for our conversation. Today we cover material from pages 37-48 Dani Joy is a first mom. She can be found at https://medium.com/@danijoy I am a Late Discovery, Intercountry, Former Foster Child adopted and brought to the USA when I was a toddler. https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/6392-stress-coping-with-lifes-stressors https://www.apa.org/topics/crisis-hotlines https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ https://rainn.org/ https://savingoursistersadoption.org The opinions of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions The host is not a lawyer, therapist or an adoption professional

    1h 42m

  7. MAR 4

    Adriana Calin is still fighting to be recognized as a person: A Romanian Adoptee/ Human Trade Victim

    Please join me and Adriana Rockefeller as we talk about what has happened in her fight to be recognized as a person since we spoke early last year in a two part interview here on the podcast. Adriana is still fighting to be recognized by Romania and Canada as a legal person. You can be a part of making that happen, as her court case continues. Adriana was raised as Roxana Pamela. Two years ago, she discovered that she had been adopted to Canada from Romania using another infants birth certificate. She subsequently discovered that this invalidates her own legal identity, leaving her in limbo, and without a state. You can help Adriana achieve personhood by purchasing her book and by donating to her fundraiser for legal funds. In a time where we often feel powerless, this is an opportunity to do something concrete for a victim of human trafficking. Her book Ne M'appelez pas Roxana: https://www.indigo.ca/en-ca/ne-mappelez-pasroxana/9782897612764.html Instagram: @adriana.citizenofnowhere gofundme.com/f/Help-Adriana-Reclaim-Her-Identity tiktok: @adriana.citizenofnowhere https://www.journaldemontreal.com/2024/12/07/adoption-et-trafic-denfants-en-roumanie-une-quebecoise-part-a-la-recherche-de-sa-veritable-identite TVA JE Episode: Adoption ou Trafique Humain? Available in Canada or if you have a VPN

    1h 21m

  8. MAR 1 ·  BONUS

    The Mom Myth: thoughts on my conversation with Cindy Shultz

    Just a short episode sharing some of what came up for me after talking with mom Cindy Shultz. Reconciling the reality of how the adoption industry uses coercion to separate families with the stereotypes and the myth of Rescue that is presented to adopted people is an ongoing struggle for me. As my (now retired) therapist used to ask: How is that story serving you? The opinion of the host is just that, their opinion. The host is not a lawyer, a therapist or an adoption professional. Thank you for listening! Please rate and review, as this helps to make the podcast more visible.

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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate. We will not only talk about the laws and the challenges they create, but also the ways that the mythology around adoption impacts the way we move through our lives, as adopted people and as mothers and other family members.

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  • Creator
    Ande Stanley
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    143
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Ande Stanley
  • Show Website
    The Adoption Files

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