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Honest dating advice for single men from two women. Dating expert Gracie Pleschourt (@datingwithgracie on IG) and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt break down real dating questions, real struggles, and what actually works in modern dating. Each week, they dive into listener-submitted questions about their toughest dating challenges and deliver unfiltered, constructive feedback. Submit yours here: https://forms.gle/34JLMADMcxhqdb7X7

  1. 13 HR AGO

    Dating After Divorce: Confidence, Self-Trust & Starting Over (Ep.74)

    Dating after a long-term relationship can feel overwhelming—but how do you actually know when you're ready to start again? In this episode of Just Ask Her, we break down dating after divorce, confidence, and how to rebuild your identity in relationships. We respond to real listener questions about starting over after a 20+ year relationship, dating with disabilities, and navigating long-distance relationships without losing connection. If you’ve ever felt unsure, behind, or stuck in your dating life, this episode will give you a new perspective. Whether you're getting back out there or trying to build confidence from scratch, this conversation will help you approach dating with clarity, self-trust, and intention. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Use Coupon SMMAN20OFF when purchasing Journal for 20% off. Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Dating after divorce questions 00:27 Podcast intro + episode setup 02:55 Listener submission: 20+ year relationship & divorce 06:11 “How do I know if I’m ready to date again?” 07:11 Why readiness isn’t a clear signal 10:46 Talking about your past without centering your ex 14:39 Protecting yourself vs. building discernment 17:35 Trusting yourself in dating again 19:11 Dating with disabilities: listener question 20:07 Worth vs. circumstances explained 23:21 Best ways to meet women (beyond apps) 28:30 Long-distance relationship question 36:17 How to maintain connection long-distance 40:30 Depth vs. frequency in communication 43:01 Avoiding neediness in long-distance dating 47:02 Final advice + wrap-up #DatingAdvice #DatingAfterDivorce #LongDistanceRelationship Keywords: dating after divorce, how to know if ready to date, dating confidence for men, long distance relationship advice, how to talk about your ex, dating after long relationship, rebuilding confidence dating, dating with disabilities, modern dating advice men, how to trust yourself dating, relationship mindset tips, emotional maturity in dating, dating advice podcast, how to start dating again, long distance dating tips,

    52 min

  2. 22 APR

    Stop Overthinking After a Great First Date (Do This Instead) (Ep. 73)

    That amazing first date felt perfect—but does it actually mean anything? In this episode of Just Ask Her, we break down why long, intense first dates can create a false sense of connection, how overthinking ruins early dating stages, and what to do when you’re stuck waiting for a second date. If you’ve ever replayed a date in your head, wondered if she’s losing interest, or struggled to meet women outside of dating apps—this episode is for you. We also dive into whether you should ask for feedback after rejection, and how to actually improve your dating life without relying on apps. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Use Coupon SMMAN20OFF when purchasing Journal for 20% off. Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Why now is the best time to meet women offline 00:32 Podcast intro + episode setup 01:11 Submission: 7-hour first date story 03:13 Planning the second date + texting concerns 06:07 Why long first dates create false connection 09:03 The psychology of overthinking dating 11:06 Managing expectations after a great date 13:03 Why spacing out dates builds attraction 15:04 The texting mistake that signals insecurity 17:14 Why you’re getting “friend zoned” 18:30 What to do next (without chasing) 23:33 Should you ask for feedback after rejection? 32:57 How to improve your dating without external validation 33:24 How to meet women with a busy lifestyle 38:59 The “exposure effect” explained 42:19 Why meeting women in real life is easier now 45:16 Final advice + mindset shift #DatingAdvice #MensDating #Confidence Keywords: dating advice for menoverthinking first datehow to get a second datedating anxiety tipshow to meet women offlinefirst date mistakes men makewhy she stopped textingdating mindset for menemotional intelligence datingmodern dating advicedating apps alternativesattraction building tipshow to stop overthinking dating

    1hr 3min

  3. 15 APR

    Why You’re Not Getting Dates (Even If You “Have It Together”) (Ep. 72)

    Struggling with dating even though you have your life together? This episode breaks down why being “a good guy” isn’t enough—and what actually makes you stand out. If you’ve been putting yourself out there, using apps, staying active, and still getting no results, this episode will help you understand what’s missing. We dive into how women perceive profiles, why identity matters more than checklists, and how to create real attraction both online and in person. We also cover how to handle dating multiple women without overthinking—and why trying to “do it perfectly” might be holding you back. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Use Coupon SMMAN20OFF when purchasing Journal for 20% off. Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Stop Overthinking Dating Decisions 00:00 Welcome + Podcast Intro 00:40 Hawaii Trip Recap & Behind the Scenes 02:18 Collaborating on a Dating Podcast 03:30 Sourdough, Passion & Attraction 06:17 Unique Hobbies That Make You Stand Out 09:58 Dating Problem: 5 Years, Zero Dates 11:32 Why “Having It Together” Isn’t Enough 13:19 Why Women Skip “Normal” Men 16:07 How to Describe Yourself Attractively 18:27 Passion vs Checklist Energy 22:18 Building a Magnetic Identity 26:09 Dating Dilemma: Multiple Women 29:42 Scarcity Mindset in Dating 34:38 How to Date Multiple Women Respectfully 39:32 Stop Trying to Be Perfect in Dating 43:01 Speed Round Dating Questions 52:08 Listener Feedback + Outro #DatingAdvice #MensDating #confidence Keywords: dating advice for men, why am I not getting dates, how to stand out in dating, dating apps not working, how to attract women naturally, dating mindset for men, how to be more attractive to women, dating confidence tips, why women ignore men, how to get more matches, dating strategy for men, modern dating challenges, how to meet women in real life, dating identity and attraction

    53 min

  4. 8 APR

    Mixed Signals in Dating: Why It Feels Real (But Isn’t) (Ep. 71)

    Mixed signals in dating can leave you confused, frustrated, and questioning everything. In this episode of Just Ask Her, we break down why emotional intimacy doesn’t always mean romantic interest—and how to stop getting stuck in “almost relationships. ”If you’ve ever felt like things were going somewhere… only for it to fall apart, this episode will help you understand what actually happened—and how to move forward with confidence. We also dive into why early intensity can be misleading, how to avoid getting attached too fast, and what healthy pacing in dating actually looks like. Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Future-tripping after great first dates 00:41 Intro to Just Ask Her 01:53 Listener story: Emotional intimacy vs friendship 03:16 Confusion: Mixed signals and “platonic” label 04:53 Key questions: grief, anger, and clarity 05:36 Are you always being evaluated in dating? 08:05 Why intimacy means different things to different people 09:18 Why you must communicate intentions early 11:16 Is it fair to feel “assessed”? 16:34 Why anger shows up after misalignment 18:48 Grieving what you thought it would be 21:21 When taking space is healthy 24:13 Second story: Long-distance and fast attachment 28:13 Peaks vs patterns in relationships 30:22 Why relationships take time to build 33:49 Stop fixing inconsistency—observe it 36:25 Future-tripping explained 39:14 Myth: “Love finds you when you stop looking” 44:41 Curiosity vs desperation in dating Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Use Coupon SMMAN20OFF when purchasing Journal for 20% off. Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 #DatingAdvice #MixedSignals #ModernDating Keywords: mixed signals dating advice, emotional intimacy vs romantic interest, almost relationship meaning, why she pulled away suddenly, dating confusion men, how to slow down dating, attachment in early dating, long distance dating pacing, dating patterns vs chemistry, modern dating problems, how to stop chasing potential, dating mindset for men, future tripping relationships, inconsistency in dating

    48 min

  5. 1 APR

    Why Men Freeze in Dating (And How to Build Real Confidence) (Ep. 70)

    If you freeze up around women you’re attracted to, this episode of Just Ask Her breaks down why it happens and how to handle it. Gracie and Tracy share practical dating advice for men on nervous-system regulation, self-trust, first-date conversation, and building real connection without trying to be perfect. This episode is for single men who overthink, go blank in the moment, or feel intense pressure to say the “right” thing. Instead of giving you scripts to memorize, they focus on what actually helps: smaller goals, more reps, better presence, and less performance. They also unpack a complicated real-life dating scenario involving values, guilt, and emotional honesty, then close with a discussion on quality first-date topics and how to create stronger connection through better questions. Book Recommendation: Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Use Coupon SMMAN20OFF when purchasing Journal for 20% off. Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Attraction isn’t built on performance 00:24 Intro: dating confidence for single men 01:03 Listener question: “I freeze around women I like” 02:20 Separate the facts from the story 05:25 Why freezing is your brain trying to protect you 08:20 Reframing nervousness and shrinking the goal 12:49 Practice reps and micro-exposure in daily life 15:01 Presence vs. performance in attraction 18:08 Storytime: the storytelling event and public-speaking nerves 23:01 Submission two: dating someone still married in memory care 27:35 Values, guilt, and honest communication 35:08 Instagram question: quality first-date topics 39:38 The 3 C’s: compliment, connect, contrast 46:12 Should politics and religion come up on a first date? Hashtags: #DatingAdviceForMen #FirstDateTips #datingconfidence Keywords: how to stop freezing up, freezing around women, dating confidence for men, first date conversation tips, what to talk about first date, how to talk to women, approaching women anxiety, nervous system in dating, self trust in dating, social anxiety dating advice, first date topics for men, attraction vs performance, dating overthinking help, authentic confidence in dating, how to stay present on a date

    52 min

  6. 25 MAR

    What “Not Ready for a Relationship” Really Means (Ep. 69)

    If she says she’s “not ready for a relationship,” what does that actually mean—and what should you do next? This episode breaks down one of the most confusing dating signals men face. Gracie and Tracy unpack real listener submissions to explain why waiting, hoping, or trying to “time it right” often keeps you stuck. You’ll learn how to interpret mixed signals clearly, protect your standards, and stop over-investing in situations that aren’t aligned. This episode is for men who want clarity, confidence, and control in their dating lives—without second-guessing every interaction. Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Why “not ready for a relationship” isn’t what you think 00:32 Intro + episode overview 03:48 Listener submission: sudden change after 2 dates 07:12 Is it timing or loss of attraction? 09:18 Why “right person, wrong time” is misleading 10:54 The danger of hope in dating 14:15 Why confusion keeps you stuck 15:20 Submission #2: emotional availability vs healing 20:57 The truth behind “I’m not ready right now” 22:12 Are you unconsciously trying to earn the relationship? 24:04 Processing rejection vs holding onto hope 27:01 When patience becomes self-abandonment 29:45 Submission #3: dating with a disability 34:59 How to communicate it confidently 38:24 Final takeaways + outro Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Use Coupon SMMAN20OFF when purchasing Journal for 20% off. Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 #datingadviceformen #ModernDating #relationshipadvice Keywords: not ready for a relationship meaning dating advice for men mixed signals dating meaning how to move on from rejection emotional availability dating right person wrong time meaning dating mindset for men self abandonment in relationships how to stop overthinking dating modern dating advice for men how to know she’s not interested dating clarity tips confidence in dating men handling rejection in dating

    39 min

  7. 18 MAR

    Dating After Divorce, Trusting Someone With a Past & Approaching Women IRL (Ep. 68)

    Dating after divorce, trust after infidelity, and how to approach women in real life without being creepy—this episode of Just Ask Her tackles three of the biggest dating questions men are asking right now. Gracie and Tracy respond to real listener submissions about reconnecting with a high school crush after separation, dating someone with a sexual history that feels hard to accept, and figuring out how to gauge a woman’s age respectfully in person. The conversation is honest, practical, and grounded in emotional maturity, self-trust, and intentional dating. If you're a single man trying to date with confidence, navigate modern relationships, and stop overthinking every interaction, this episode will help you slow down, think clearly, and make stronger decisions. Self-Made Man Dating Journal: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Dating Dilemma Submission form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Opening insight: why people go back to what feels familiar 00:26 Welcome back to Just Ask Her 04:01 Listener 1: Reconnecting with an old high school crush after separation 05:59 Is this real connection or just comfort after a breakup? 09:06 Dating with kids 50% of the time 12:13 Are you choosing her—or just wanting to be chosen? 15:55 Quick rating and sharing reminder 16:12 Listener 2: Dating someone with a sexual past and infidelity history 19:19 Facts vs. the story your brain is telling 23:21 Can you date who she is now without punishing her for her past? 29:16 Listener follow-up and community shoutout 30:34 Self-Made Man Dating Journal announcement 32:01 Listener 3: How to ask a woman’s age without being creepy 44:17 Closing thoughts Hashtags: #DatingAdviceForMen #DatingAfterDivorce #RelationshipAdvice Keywords: dating after divorce dating after separation reconnecting with an old crush dating with kids single dad dating advice trust after cheating dating someone with a past relationship anxiety in men self confidence in dating emotional maturity in relationships how to ask a woman her age approaching women in real life dating advice for men modern dating for single men post-divorce dating advice

    45 min

  8. 11 MAR

    Dating Anxiety, Rejection & Texting: How to Stop Spiraling and Stay Confident (Ep. 67)

    Dating anxiety, rejection, and texting after a first date can feel brutal—but this episode reframes the whole process through one core idea: life is 50/50 (wanted feelings and unwanted feelings). In Episode 67 of Just Ask Her, Gracie and her mom/co-host (certified life coach Tracy) answer three listener submissions—from age preferences and family timelines, to repeated first-date rejection, to anxious spiraling between texts. You’ll learn how to separate facts from sabotaging thoughts, communicate intentions early, and stop making dating outcomes mean something about your worth. If you’re dating with the goal of a real relationship (and you’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster), this episode will help you build steadier confidence—without shutting down your feelings. Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Pain vs suffering: life is 50/50 00:25 Welcome + episode setup (Episode 67) 02:34 Submission 1: Paul (35) wants kids later—age range dilemma 03:54 Biological clock vs staying open-minded 06:24 Facts vs sabotaging thoughts: “what else could be true?” 11:00 Average age of first-time mothers rising (Ireland/Europe mention) 14:04 Filtering for alignment vs filtering for control 21:07 Submission 2: Kurt (40), divorced + sober, burned out by dating 24:17 Why rejection feels so painful (and how thoughts amplify it) 28:34 Rejection activates pain pathways + worthiness reframes 41:31 “What if nothing has gone wrong?” + early dating dissolves 47:14 Self-made man dating journal promo (Amazon link mentioned) 48:05 Submission 3: texting anxiety after an incredible first date 56:23 Texting: connection vs outsourcing emotional regulation 01:02:27 Distress tolerance + “become someone who doesn’t panic” 01:07:17 Wrap-up + how to submit your question #DatingAdvice #DatingAnxiety #Relationships Keywords: ​​dating anxiety help stop spiraling in dating texting after first date how much to text early dating taking rejection personally dating rejection mindset emotional regulation dating distress tolerance dating anxious attachment texting dating over 30 advice dating over 40 advice dating with confidence men age preferences in dating family timeline dating alignment vs control dating

    1hr 8min
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Honest dating advice for single men from two women. Dating expert Gracie Pleschourt (@datingwithgracie on IG) and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt break down real dating questions, real struggles, and what actually works in modern dating. Each week, they dive into listener-submitted questions about their toughest dating challenges and deliver unfiltered, constructive feedback. Submit yours here: https://forms.gle/34JLMADMcxhqdb7X7

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