What’s up legends? In this episode, I sit down with Aaron Doughty for a deep, honest conversation about why so many of us lose ourselves in relationships and how people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and unexpressed emotion quietly drain attraction, polarity, and connection. We explore how childhood conditioning shapes adult identity, why tension isn’t something to avoid but a necessary catalyst for growth, and how the pursuit of approval keeps us disconnected from our authentic power. This episode weaves together inner child dynamics, masculine and feminine polarity, self-acceptance, neutrality, and the subtle ways urgency, ego, and validation run our relationships, business, and sense of self-worth. We unpack why worthiness is a concept rather than a feeling, how embracing discomfort restores respect and desire, and why becoming more yourself is the real path to intimacy, leadership, and freedom. If you’ve ever felt drained in relationships, stuck in people-pleasing patterns, or caught between self-development and self-acceptance, this conversation will challenge the way you see love, identity, and what it actually means to come home to yourself. WORK WITH ME🌎 Want personalized 1-1 coaching from me to unlock more presence, peace, and joy in your life? Apply for a clarity call to see if we're a good fit to work together by clicking here Join the Relationship SKool: 👉🏼 https://www.skool.com/relationshipskool/about JOIN MY COMMUNITY 📸 Instagram: @Jordancandlish01 🐦 Twitter: JordanCandlish 🎵 TikTok: @jordancandlish01 🤳🏽 Telegram: https://t.me/+9seMDl336tQ0MTY1 ABOUT ME As a coach with over a decade of experience, I am committed to helping men unleash their full potential and live fulfilling lives. On my Podcast channel, I interview world-class leaders and experts and share with you the strategies and rituals you need to go to the next level.