You can do everything right. You can love someone with everything in you. But if you built that love on a misrepresentation of who you really are, the moment they discover the real you is the moment everything starts to fall apart. In this raw, deeply insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with John Michael, social worker and development consultant, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build a relationship that lasts, why love is a feeling and not a decision, and the uncomfortable truth that marrying your dream girl means she becomes real and you'll discover she snores, farts, and wears grandma panties during her period. John Michael holds nothing back. He breaks down why love is a feeling that goes beyond just liking someone, why you can't even put a finger on why you love some people you just know that you do, and the one thing most people refuse to accept: when the feeling is true and it's real it doesn't ever go away. He reveals why love and lust are interdependent, how it is possible for a person who loves you to want to sleep with you but it is also possible for a person who doesn't love you to want to sleep with you and that is when it becomes lust, and the moment you realize that there's a lot you can tell even with how a person makes love to you because are they aggressive are they attentive do they touch you in the way you want to be touched. He also explains why the ultimate reason there's a breakdown in marriage is not necessarily the feeling disappearing but when a decision was made to be with somebody based on a misrepresentation of themselves, how in today's social media world most people have an alter ego that represents them and they're partying popping bottles smoking weed but in reality what they cherish is staying at home cooking and watching Netflix, and the one question every couple needs to answer before they say I do: is the person I'm presenting during dating the person I can maintain for the rest of my life. This isn't just about love. It's a masterclass in understanding why love, boundaries, and emotional intelligence are first cousins, why getting close to people also revolves around who they are what they like what they do not like and what defines their boundaries, and how emotional intelligence is being able to understand even their silence even when they smile when they look at you what's going through their head and what's their thought process. John Michael dives into why when you more than like somebody you love them, how a feeling is harder to go away than a decision because a decision can go away when the circumstances that led to the decision change, and the uncomfortable reality that if you saw a girl in a Lamborghini and felt like wow she probably has a lot of money and then found out it's her boyfriend's car that attraction could very easily go away. He also tackles why the thing about marrying your dream girl is she becomes real, how when you idolized her you thought she doesn't snore at night she doesn't poop she doesn't fart she's always in hot sexy lingerie, and the one thing every man needs to prepare for: when you get married you find that actually she does all those things and in the middle of the night she raises her leg and just farts and you're thinking oh my days. If you're in a relationship, wondering whether love is a feeling or a decision, or asking yourself why the person you fell for seems different now that you're living with them, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop misrepresenting who you are and start building a relationship where both of you show up as exactly who you are from day one. Guest: John Michael ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you 📤 SHARE with someone who NEEDS to hear this
