Now That I'm Back

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Welcome to 'Now That I'm Back' hosted by BJ, a podcast that delves into the intricate and often humorous realities of single life after divorce. BJ shares her personal journey of healing, rediscovery, and the daunting yet exhilarating dive back into dating after years of being off the market. This show offers a gallery of true-life stories mixed with guest insights. Listeners are invited to join in, share their experiences, and community among those who truly understand the rollercoaster of being single again.

  1. 26/12/2024

    Let's Unpack Necessary Endings

    In this heartfelt final episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ reflects on the theme of necessary endings. She discusses the importance of recognizing when it's time to close a chapter, sharing insights from her own journey and the stories of transformation featured on the podcast over the past six months. BJ opens up about the emotional toll of hosting the show and the significance of endings as opportunities for new beginnings. While saying goodbye to the podcast, BJ emphasizes the lasting impact of the shared experiences and offers her gratitude to the listeners and guests who have made the journey meaningful. She also encourages those facing their own necessary endings to embrace them with courage and trust in the future. IG & Threads: isp3ak_my_mynd

    15 min

  2. 26/12/2024

    Let's Unpack "No Contact"

    In this episode, host BJ discusses the misuse of therapy terms like 'toxic' and 'gaslighting' on the internet and dives into what truly constitutes a toxic relationship, emphasizing patterns of manipulation, intentional harm, and power dynamics. BJ critiques the current trend of using 'no contact' as a quick fix for minor conflicts and stresses the importance of communication and conflict resolution. The segment also includes a discussion on the movie 'The Best Man' and how friendships handled intense drama without falling apart. BJ concludes with practical strategies for evaluating whether a relationship needs work or should end, like the 'three conversation rule' and checking intentions. Listeners are encouraged to assess their relationships thoughtfully instead of making hasty decisions.

    27 min

  3. 06/12/2024

    Let's Unpack: Emotional Eating

    In this episode, host BJ returns from a November break to discuss emotional eating and her personal weight loss journey. After sharing her own story of losing 12 pounds through portion control and dietary changes, BJ explores how food became a coping mechanism during stressful periods, particularly following her divorce. She reflects on her relationship with food and how emotional distress influenced her eating habits. BJ also gives practical tips for healing one's relationship with food, including keeping a food and feelings journal, creating new food memories, and practicing mindful eating without judgment. The episode emphasizes self-love and understanding the emotional triggers behind eating habits.

    37 min

  4. 09/11/2024 · BONUS

    Let's Unpack This Election

    In this heartfelt episode, host BJ shares candid reflections on a tough week, acknowledging the emotional challenges faced by many listeners. BJ emphasizes the importance of community, particularly the supportive 'sistering' among black women, and shares personal coping strategies. The episode highlights the necessity of protecting one's joy, taking care of oneself unapologetically, and finding strength in small acts of kindness and connection. Listeners are encouraged to reach out to loved ones, honor their feelings, and do something that would make their ancestors proud. BJ provides a message of solidarity and resilience, reminding listeners that their existence and joy are forms of resistance.

    15 min

  5. 01/11/2024

    Let's Unpack Desperation: Lenny Williams' Cause I Love You

    Let’s Unpack Desperation: Lenny Williams' Cause I Love You In this heartfelt episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ presents a special full-length segment of 'Split Happens' to explore Lenny Williams' iconic song 'Cause I Love You.' BJ delves into the deep emotions of desperation and unwavering love expressed in the song, sharing personal anecdotes and analyzing the powerful lyrics. The episode touches on themes of love, loss, longing, and vulnerability, providing insights into Williams' raw emotional journey and its impact. BJ also reflects on their own experiences, connecting the audience through shared feelings of heartbreak and the struggle to let go. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their emotions as a healing process, understanding that love sometimes means letting go, and it's okay to feel everything deeply.

    38 min

  6. 25/10/2024

    Let's Unpack Parasocial Relationships

    In this episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' BJ hosts Dr. Umieca Hankton to dive into the world of parasocial relationships and the impact of social media. The discussion covers how online interactions influence our sense of intimacy and connection, introducing terms like 'friendship mirage' and 'virtual VIP syndrome.' Emphasizing balance, the video explores the necessity of genuine in-person relationships alongside digital engagements. Practical advice is shared on building authentic connections offline, including tips for engaging activities and inviting online friends to meet in person. The episode also touches on a well-being retreat for Black women, focusing on self-reconnection and empowerment. Listeners are encouraged to embrace real-world interactions for personal growth and meaningful support. Guest Details Dr. Umieca Hankton is a brilliant Clinical Psychologist and founder of UNH Counseling Services. She is also an author of five self-help workbooks. THRIVING ON PURPOSE: Reflect. Meditate. Plan. Implement.: 26-Week Commitment to Self, B.R.A.V.I.N.G. the Grief Journal , The Courage to Trust Love Again: Journal and her latest “heart’s work”, Thriving with G.R.I.T.: Gratitude, Resilience, Intentionality, and Tenacity and Thriving UP! Workbook: Thriving Unapologetically & Purposefully. Dr. Hankton is also co-hosting a Well-Being Retreat soon! Learn more at www.essenceofselfretreat.com Dr. Hankton's social media handles are: Instagram - @unh_phd , Facebook - Dr Umieca Hankton and TikTok - @drumiecahankton.  You can also visit her website at ⁠unhcounselingservices.com⁠.  In the words of Dr. Hankton, “be well.”

    56 min

  7. 04/10/2024

    Let's Unpack the Exit Strategy

    Unpacking the Exit Strategy: Navigating Emotional Challenges of Leaving In this episode, host BJ explores the emotional complexities of leaving situations that no longer serve us, such as jobs, relationships, or living environments. BJ shares personal experiences and discusses the significance of having an exit strategy to diminish the heaviness of leaving. Key reasons for staying too long in unfulfilling situations are examined, including fear of judgment and self-doubt. BJ emphasizes the importance of gentle honesty, careful planning, and curiosity in making informed decisions to move on. Through the lens of relationships and iconic breakup songs, the episode encourages listeners to reclaim their time and power by effectively navigating the journey of letting go. 00:00 Empowerment Anthem 00:15 Introduction and Episode Theme 00:58 The Emotional Challenges of Leaving 05:33 Facing the Fear of Judgment 06:26 Personal Story: Marriage and Appearances 09:28 Self-Trust and Decision Making 11:56 Analyzing 'End of the Road' by Boyz II Men 16:05 The Cognitive Dissonance of Leaving 28:32 Practical Steps for Leaving 40:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    42 min

  8. 28/09/2024

    Let's Unpack Relocation

    In this episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ delves into the complex emotions tied to relocating after a breakup or divorce. Sharing personal experiences from her move to Atlanta, BJ discusses the challenges and benefits of changing environments, emphasizing the importance of emotional growth and self-discovery. She offers practical advice on making a successful move, including researching the new area, building a support system, securing financial stability, and giving oneself grace during the transition. The episode also features a segment analyzing the breakup storyline of Birdie from the movie ‘Hope Floats.’ 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 01:15 The Emotional Journey of Relocating 03:12 Personal Experiences and Challenges 05:03 The Reality of Moving to Atlanta 06:13 Reflecting on the Move 10:14 Split Happens: Analyzing Breakups in Media 16:55 The Toolkit: Practical Advice for Moving 21:59 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    24 min
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Welcome to 'Now That I'm Back' hosted by BJ, a podcast that delves into the intricate and often humorous realities of single life after divorce. BJ shares her personal journey of healing, rediscovery, and the daunting yet exhilarating dive back into dating after years of being off the market. This show offers a gallery of true-life stories mixed with guest insights. Listeners are invited to join in, share their experiences, and community among those who truly understand the rollercoaster of being single again.

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  • Creator
    BJ
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    20
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © BJ
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    Now That I'm Back