Seeing Other People

4.9 (17)
Relationships
Updated twice weekly

Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.

22 hr ago

What Choosing Yourself Actually Looks Like

Amanda Katz joins the podcast to share the story of ending a long-term relationship after realizing her partner never fully grasped that she truly did not want children. We talk about the difference between "maybe someday" and knowing something about yourself since you were eleven years old, why having a child to save a relationship never actually saves it, and the quiet, undramatic weeks when she finally decided the choice was hers to make. Amanda opens up about financial independence as a form of freedom, why she educated herself early even before she had money, and how watching women stay trapped in relationships because "nothing is in their name" shaped her own priorities. Plus, we discuss the emotional toll of staying in a "gray zone" with someone you live with, why prenups are an act of love and not distrust, the lessons marathon training taught her about choosing herself under pressure, and why she considers choosing to remain childfree just as valid — and just as loaded with judgment — as choosing motherhood. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
3 days ago

Why You Keep Dating the Same Person in Different Fonts

Jordanne Sculler, licensed mental health counselor and relationship therapist, joins the podcast to unpack why so many of us keep repeating the same dating patterns—even when we know they're not working. We talk about the psychology behind unhealthy relationship cycles, why your "type" may actually be keeping you stuck, and how childhood experiences and old stories shape the way you approach love. Jordanne explains why dating with rigid checklists can limit real connection, how to stop people-pleasing on dates, and why learning to tolerate discomfort is essential for building healthier relationships. We also discuss ghosting, dating "rules," healing after heartbreak, and whether you really need to be fully healed before starting a new relationship. Plus, we answer listener questions about awkward first dates, overthinking, dating anxiety, and the powerful mindset shift from chasing butterflies to seeking emotional regulation instead. Follow Jordanne: Website: jordannescullerlmhc.com Instagram: @jordannesculler ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
3 days ago

Stop FaceTiming Someone You Haven't Even Met Yet

This week, a 4am pregnancy craving for a discontinued pasta dish spirals into one of the wildest nights of our lives, ending in a comped multi-course meal at Moriah, NYC's #1 Italian seafood restaurant, care of the original chef himself (Chrissy Teigen even weighed in). We check back in on Christmas Party guy, and the update isn't the one we were hoping for. A listener asks how engagement ring shopping actually works, from where to start looking to how long a guy typically waits once the ring is in hand, and how to stop comparing your relationship timeline to everyone else's. And we dig into a FaceTime-only situation: three weeks of daily calls with a guy she hasn't even met in person yet, and whether that's genuine chemistry or something else entirely. Send us your questions any time, the link's in our show notes and Instagram bio, and if you love the show, share it with a friend and leave us a five-star rating and review. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
30 Jul

Stop Asking Your Friends These Dating Questions (Ask Yourself These Instead) | Part 2

After the response to Part 1, we had to do a Part 2. In this solo episode, I'm diving into even more questions that can help you make better dating decisions before you turn to your group chat. I talk about breaking unhealthy patterns, separating your worth from rejection, the difference between closure and wanting a different ending, knowing whether your standards are actually standards or just preferences, building a life you love while you're single, recognizing when a relationship gives you energy versus drains it, and asking whether your needs are actually unreasonable, or simply unmet. My hope is that these questions help you trust yourself a little more and remind you that the best dating advice often starts by asking yourself the right question. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
28 Jul

Finding Love After Hitting Rock Bottom

Courtney Kocak joins the podcast to share the unbelievable story behind her memoir Girl Gone Wild and the many rock bottoms that ultimately changed her life. We talk about surviving toxic relationships, chasing impossible dreams in Hollywood, the lessons she learned from heartbreak, why she kept repeating the same dating patterns, and the unexpected traffic ticket that completely changed her love life. Plus, we discuss letting go after breakups, finding confidence outside of relationships, healing your self-worth, and why the healthiest love often feels the easiest. ig & website ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
27 Jul

Am I Pregnant or Are We Pregnant? Jake and I Cannot Agree

Are we pregnant or am I pregnant? Jake says we. Ilana says she's the one with a baby in her belly. We also have to tell you about the TikTok that went viral, because Ilana posted a green screen video about her biggest pregnancy craving, a shrimp scampi from a restaurant that closed years ago, and the original chef DMed her and invited us to his Michelin star restaurant to make it off menu. Three listener questions this week: how to handle a boyfriend whose friend group uses drugs at every hangout, how to get closer to your guy friends' girlfriends without coming across as flirting, and how to support a close friend going through a breakup in her mid-30s when she really wanted this relationship to work. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
23 Jul

Cancelling My Wedding Was the Best Decision I Ever Made

Corinne joins the podcast to share the story of calling off her engagement just four months before her wedding after eight years with the person she thought she'd marry. We talk about the pressure of leaving when your lives are completely intertwined, why wedding planning doesn't fix relationship problems, recognizing the difference between a hard relationship and the wrong relationship, and the terrifying moment she finally walked away. Corinne opens up about rebuilding her life from scratch, navigating mutual friends, grieving the future she thought she'd have, dating again after heartbreak, and finding a relationship that showed her love doesn't have to feel so difficult. Plus, we discuss codependency, premarital counseling, accepting people for who they are instead of trying to change them, and why the "80/20 rule" isn't the relationship advice people think it is. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
21 Jul

How to Stop Mistaking Anxiety for Chemistry

Dr. Darcy Sterling, licensed therapist, relationship expert, and host of We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling, joins the podcast to unpack why so many people confuse anxiety with chemistry—and how our relationship patterns often keep us stuck dating the same types of people over and over again. We talk about why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar, how childhood experiences shape attraction, and why emotional consistency is often mistaken for a lack of spark. Dr. Darcy also explains the importance of learning your relationship patterns, repairing conflict instead of avoiding it, managing anxiety without making it your partner's responsibility, and why authenticity will always attract healthier relationships than playing games. Plus, we answer listener questions about impossible dating standards, feeling disconnected in healthy relationships, and the three questions everyone should ask before getting serious with someone. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are overdue for a refresh, now is the time. Go to zenni.com/podcast and use code podcast15 for 15% off your first order The best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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This is Seeing Other People

Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles. Real people, real stories, real life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4.9

out of 5

17 Ratings

Empathetic dating experience podcast

16/06/2022

MariaHildy

Ilana Dunn is the epitome of an empathetic listener and she always asks the most interesting questions of her guests leading to eye-opening and in-depth conversations about modern dating, life and the drama that comes with it! Thank you for all your hard work💗

Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.