In this episode of F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups, Callie and Jayne talk about the strange joy of organising when your brain is finally in the mood for it, and why 'out of sight, out of mind' is not always an ADHD tax. Sometimes it is an ADHD bonus. They unpack the emotional lift that comes from sorting cupboards, rediscovering forgotten treasures, and building systems that actually work for the way neurodivergent people live. From colour-coded towels and linen hacks to craft supplies, fabric finds, and childhood memories, this episode is equal parts practical, funny, and deeply familiar. They also respond to a listener question about rejection sensitivity and bosses, exploring how much of workplace discomfort is about perception, how much might be a real shift, and why the relationship with your immediate manager can shape your whole experience at work. That conversation opens into a bigger reflection on leadership, vulnerability, responsibility, and the loneliness that can come with being the person expected to hold it all together. To close, Callie shares a brand-new poem inspired by spoon theory, written in a hyperfocus burst and read aloud for the first time on the podcast. It is tender, sharp, funny, and likely to hit home for anyone who has ever been told they were inconsistent when really they were just running low on spoons. Timestamps00:11 Welcome back and chaotic bestie energy 01:49 Post-Sydney crash and the need to recover 02:38 ADHD bonus: organising the linen cupboard 04:46 Linen and quilt set hack: store sets inside a pillowcase 05:27 Why organisation brings joy when the timing is right 06:10 Designing homes and systems around how people actually live 07:17 Guest linen standards, stained sheets, and household rules 09:18 Offering tea, sandwiches, and emotional support to everyone 10:21 Cleaners as support, not luxury 11:24 Back to the cupboard: forgotten fabric and the ADHD memory bonus 14:11 Jayne’s craft reorganisation and rediscovering treasured fabrics 15:57 Buttons, pendants, sewing memories, and childhood signs no one spotted 18:50 Surprise podcast stickers and octopus merch joy 19:50 Love Hearts, nostalgia, and disappointing lolly messages 21:46 Listener question: how do I handle RSD with my boss? 23:42 Why your relationship with your manager matters so much 24:53 Perception, assigning intention, and scripting hard conversations 26:27 Looking at your boss with empathy without losing yourself 29:35 Leadership can be lonely 31:13 Boundaries, vulnerability, and leading as a human 33:10 What leaders owe people in moments of uncertainty 35:41 Why people look for someone who can hold the line 38:57 Creating the authorising environment for others to thrive 39:28 The emotional weight leaders carry behind the scenes 40:12 Hyperfocus, songwriting, and the origin of the spoon poem 42:05 Callie reads I’m Out of Spoons 45:47 Jayne responds: “I feel seen” 47:08 Where the poem might live next on socials 47:41 Wrap-up and goodbye Connect with us Find us on YouTube, Instagram and TikTok at F Them Fish AuDHD for Grownups Send questions, stories, poetry, songs, or kind thoughts to FThemFish@gmail.com AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
