Rewired Sober

Kate Vitela
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Rewired Sober is a sobriety and recovery podcast for women who are tired of surface-level self-help and ready for real change. Hosted by psychiatric nurse, addiction specialist, and recovery coach Kate Vitela, RN, this podcast explores the neuroscience of addiction, emotional sobriety, mindset change, and the messy, honest reality of rebuilding your life after quitting drinking. This is not a preachy recovery podcast full of toxic positivity or shame. It’s real conversations about: women and alcohol gray area drinking anxiety and emotional regulation perfectionism and people pleasing cravings and habit loops neuroplasticity and brain rewiring identity in midlife anger, grief, and healing creativity, fashion, and self-expression in recovery relationships, boundaries, and self-trust learning how to feel your feelings without numbing them Kate combines clinical insight, lived experience, humor, and a feminist lens to help women understand why they drink, not just how to stop. Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, or years into recovery and wondering “now what?” — this podcast is designed to help you build a life that actually feels good to live. If you’re looking for a sobriety podcast for women that blends science, soul, psychology, emotional honesty, and a little dark humor, welcome to Rewired Sober. You quit drinking. Now let’s rewire the rest.

  1. EP. 75 Sober Feminist Punks: Creativity & Self-Expression as a Way Home in Recovery With Susi Milne

    6 days ago

    EP. 75 Sober Feminist Punks: Creativity & Self-Expression as a Way Home in Recovery With Susi Milne

    What if the thing you’ve been calling boredom in sobriety… is actually a lack of expression? In this episode, I sit down with Susi Glenna Milne to talk about creativity not as a hobby—but as a lifeline in recovery. We get into what happens after you stop drinking and realize… okay, now I actually have to feel my life. And instead of numbing out, what if you created your way through it? We talk about how creativity in sobriety and recovery: brings you back online when everything feels flatgives you language for emotions you didn’t even know you hadrebuilds self-respect, not just self-controlconnects you to community in a way that actually sticks Because recovery isn’t just about removing alcohol. It’s about building a life that feels worth staying for. And let’s be clear about something— Art is not reserved for a select, tortured, gallery-approved few. It’s accessible. It’s human. It’s yours. Everyone is an artist. Not in a cheesy “everyone gets a gold star” way— but in a real, grounded, you have something inside of you that needs expression kind of way. We talk about breaking down gatekeeping and elitism in the art world, and why creativity in sobriety and recovery isn’t about being good… It’s about being honest. We also go there on bigger cultural conversations— Like why women have historically been left out of the arts, had to fight harder for recognition, and are still reclaiming space in creative leadership. We talk about Maria Grazia Chiuri, the first female creative director at Dior, and her documentary Her Dior—and why that matters more than people think. We get into feminist punk energy, rebellion, and why creating—especially as a woman in recovery—is a quiet (and sometimes loud) act of resistance. Yes, even against the current cultural climate that can feel… let’s just say icky. And we talk about something that changed both of our lives: The community we found through She Recovers Foundation. A space where sobriety and recovery aren’t about shame or labels— but about strength, voice, and rebuilding self-esteem from the inside out. That kind of community doesn’t just support recovery. It restores identity. This episode is for you if: you’re sober or in recovery and feel flat, lost, or disconnectedyou’re tired of white-knuckling and want to actually feel aliveyou’ve told yourself “I’m not creative” (we’re calling b******t on that)you’re craving connection, expression, and something that feels real KEY TAKEAWAYSSobriety gives you your life back—but creativity shows you how to live itNumbing shuts you down. Creating brings you back onlineYou don’t need talent—you need willingnessExpression is how we process emotion in recoveryCommunity is where self-esteem gets rebuiltArt is not elite—it’s accessible, and it belongs to everyone CONNECT + WORK WITH MEIf you’re in that in-between space— Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com Guest Info: Susi Milne @susimilne777artwork @susimilneartist777

    40 min

  2. 19 May

    EP 74 Trying to Quit Drinking But Feeling Stuck? - You Might Be Using a Strategy That Shuts Your Brain Down

    My solid guess is this: You didn’t drink because you were weak. You drank because your brain adapted. In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest lies in recovery culture: that shame will somehow motivate you into becoming a better version of yourself. Spoiler: it won’t. In fact, it does the opposite. Using both neuroscience and real-life, messy-human examples, Kate is walking you through why shame keeps you stuck in the exact patterns you’re trying to escape—and what actually creates lasting change instead. We’re talking about: Why alcohol “worked” (and what it was actually doing for you)The internal war that starts for many women in sobrietyThe difference between eliminating parts of yourself vs. integrating themWhat shame does to your brain (hello, survival mode)Why your prefrontal cortex basically clocks out when you’re in self-attackHow safety—not punishment—is the key to rewiring your brainThe real difference between suppressing behavior and actually changing itWhy encouragement works (and why punishment backfires)How to interrupt the shame spiral in real time This isn’t about letting yourself off the hook. It’s about finally using a strategy that actually works. Because: You cannot hate yourself into a new identity. But you can understand yourself into one. If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of: Trigger → shame → escape → repeat This episode will show you how to shift into: Trigger → awareness → safety → choice → change And yeah… we’re also calling out the very human tendency to try and fix your life by bullying yourself into submission. (How’s that been working for you?) KEY TAKEAWAYSYour brain is not moral—it’s efficientShame activates survival mode, not growthSafety is what allows real change to happenEncouragement reinforces behavior; punishment suppresses itThe part of you that drank was trying to help—not destroy youIntegration > elimination, every time Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com

    33 min

  3. 12 May

    EP 73: The Words You Speak Are Wiring Your Identity- Stop Introducing Yourself By Your Wound

    What if the way you introduce yourself… is keeping you stuck? In this episode, we’re diving into something that’s deeply normalized in recovery spaces—but rarely questioned: The words you use to describe who you are. Because when you repeatedly say: “I am an alcoholic” “I am broken” “This is just who I am” Your brain listens. Not emotionally. Neurologically. And it starts wiring your identity around those words. But what if there’s another way? A DIFFERENT WAY TO APPROACH RECOVERYAs a SHE RECOVERS coach I love their guiding principle: We lead with our strengths, not our defects. Not denial. Not bypassing. Not pretending the past didn’t happen. But choosing to orient your identity toward: what’s workingwhat’s true about your resiliencewho you are becoming Because that’s how people actually change. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODEWhy identity language in recovery matters more than you thinkThe neuroscience behind repetition, language, and neuroplasticity“Neurons that fire together wire together” (and how your words reinforce patterns)Why your brain doesn’t fact-check you—it patterns youThe difference between a fixed identity vs. an evolving oneHow leading with your “wound” can keep you looping in itThe power of the spoken word (science + something deeper)Why some recovery language helps—and some quietly limits growthHow to shift your identity without denying your past THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:You’ve ever felt stuck in a label that no longer fitsYou’re sober… but still identifying with your lowest pointYou want to rebuild your identity—not just remove alcoholYou’re ready to think for yourself instead of blindly following recovery scripts KEY TAKEAWAYSYour brain wires what you repeat—not what is objectively trueIdentity is not fixed—it’s built through language and behaviorLeading with your strengths creates expansion, not denialYou can honor your past without living in itThe way you speak about yourself directly shapes your future Work with Kate: Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com

    25 min

  4. 5 May

    EP 72: Its Giving Recovery On The Runway: Sobriety, Fashion, and a Bolder Life (Hint: Announcement Incoming)

    Every year, the first Monday in May, the world watches the Met Gala—a spectacle of fashion, identity, and storytelling through art. And this year? I’m not on that carpet. But I am building something that matters a hell of a lot more. Because the version of me who used to drink herself into invisibility… is now creating a life out loud. In this episode, I’m taking you inside the real plot twist of sobriety—what happens when you don’t just quit drinking… you actually start living. We’re talking about: Why sobriety is not small, safe, or boring (it’s actually disruptive in the best way)How rock bottom can strip you down and make you unexpectedly fearlessThe identity shift that happens when you stop numbing and start noticing everythingMidlife power, body neutrality, and the freedom of no longer performing for approvalThe psychology of fashion, creativity, and self-expression in recoveryWhy “escaping” doesn’t go away—you just start escaping into things that expand youThe stigma around addiction and what happens when you tell the truth out loudWhat it’s like to exist in spaces (like fashion) where sobriety “doesn’t belong”… until it doesHow following small “breadcrumbs” led to building something bigger than I ever plannedThe vision behind the Vitela Runway Project—fashion, recovery, creativity, and community Because here’s the truth no one tells you: Sobriety doesn’t shrink your life. It expands it. And yeah—it’s inconvenient. Because now you actually have to show up for it. This episode is for the woman who: Quit drinking and is now thinking… “okay, but now what?”Feels more alive, more curious, and slightly overwhelmed by itIs ready to stop playing small and start experimenting with who she actually isWants more than just “not drinking”—she wants a life You don’t need a perfect plan. You need a breadcrumb. KEY TAKEAWAYSSobriety doesn’t remove desire—it brings it back onlineRock bottom can create grounded fearlessnessMidlife can be your most powerful era—not your declineCreativity is a powerful replacement for numbing and suppressionInternal validation > external approvalYou don’t need clarity—you need curiosity and action If you’re in that space— you’ve quit drinking, but you’re not interested in a small, controlled life— Come sit with us. Inside Rewired Sober, we don’t just talk about not drinking. We talk about building something with your life. Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com

    33 min

  5. 28 Apr

    EP 71: Sacred Rage: The Truth About Anger, Women & Sobriety

    Mama- You’re not too angry. You’re finally paying attention. In this episode, we’re talking about something that gets misunderstood, minimized, and straight-up pathologized—especially in women: Rage. Not surface-level irritation. Not “I need a bubble bath.” I’m talking about the kind of anger that makes you look at your life and go: “Are you kidding me?” This isn’t a “calm down and regulate” conversation. This is about sacred rage—what happens when you stop suppressing yourself, stop numbing out, and start seeing things clearly. We’re getting into: Why anger often explodes in early sobriety (and why that’s normal)The difference between anger and resentment (one moves, one traps you)How women are conditioned to suppress anger—and why that’s not accidentalWhy “look at your part” can actually backfire for womenWhat anger is really protecting (hint: it’s not just anger)How triggers aren’t problems—they’re informationThe connection between rage, grief, shame, and heartbreakWhy humor might be one of your most underrated tools in recoveryHow to actually work with your anger instead of bypassing it Because here’s the truth: Anger isn’t dysfunction. It’s data. And when you stop trying to eliminate it—and start understanding it—it becomes something else entirely: Clarity. Power. Direction. This episode is for the woman who: Feels more intense since getting soberIs tired of being told to “just let it go”Knows something isn’t right—but hasn’t fully trusted herself yetIs done being agreeable, quiet, and easy to manage You don’t need to become unbothered to heal. You need to become honest. KEY TAKEAWAYSAnger is activating and truth-telling; resentment is looping and drainingWomen’s anger has been historically minimized to maintain controlEarly sobriety removes the buffer—so emotions come back louderAnger is often a secondary emotion (underneath = grief, shame, hurt)Triggers reveal unmet needs, not personal flawsYou can feel rage and still be grounded, self-aware, and in control If this episode hit a nerve—good. That’s not a problem. That’s information. And if you’re ready to stop suppressing, bypassing, or second-guessing yourself… and actually learn how to work with your mind, your body, and your emotions in a way that builds self-trust— Come sit with me inside Rewired Sober. We're not numbing it out. We're not bypassing it. We ARE learning how to use it. Begin. Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com

    46 min

  6. 21 Apr

    EP: 70: Playing Follow The Leader: Red Flags of Cult Mentality in Sobriety, Friendships & Business

    What if the problem wasn’t just alcohol… but the way you were taught to stop thinking for yourself? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something bigger than recovery culture. Deprogramming from AA dogma forced me to confront a deeper pattern—cult mentality—and how it shows up everywhere: sobriety spaces, religion, spiritual healing circles, coaching communities, friendships, and even romantic relationships. We’re not talking about extreme, fringe groups. We’re talking about everyday environments that: reward obediencepunish questioninguse fear, shame, or belonging to keep you in lineslowly disconnect you from your own voice I break down the actual psychological characteristics of cult-like systems, including: thought reform and control dynamicsloaded language and black-and-white thinkingwhy questioning gets labeled as “resistance” or “ego”how doctrine can override your lived experienceand how self-trust quietly erodes over time We also go deep into something that doesn’t get talked about enough: spiritualized gaslighting. You know the vibe: “you’re not manifesting hard enough”“your energy is off”“you’re low vibe”“you’re blocked” When everything becomes your fault, even your pain. I share honestly about why I was vulnerable to this—early sobriety, early business, high school (yikes), and relationships where I needed validation because underneath it all, I didn’t trust myself. This is not about blaming groups or shaming people. It’s about understanding how smart, capable women lose themselves in systems that promise healing, certainty, and belonging. And more importantly—how we get ourselves back. If you’ve ever: felt afraid to question something you were told was “the answer”noticed your mental health decline in a space that was supposed to help youfelt like you had to perform, comply, or stay quiet to belongor realized you were outsourcing your identity, intuition, or worth This episode is for you. Because recovery isn’t about following the leader. It’s about learning how to trust yourself again. ⬇️ READY TO GO DEEPER? Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com Deprogramming AA Tools w/ Kirsten: https://www.sobrietybestie.com/

    39 min
  7. EP 69: Diving In To The Black Hole Of Pain & Numbness: Nervous System Regulation With Amyee Oen

    14 Apr

    EP 69: Diving In To The Black Hole Of Pain & Numbness: Nervous System Regulation With Amyee Oen

    ⬇️ READY TO GO DEEPER? Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Connect with Kate @rewiredsober on all social media platforms: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/ Email: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com Everyone is talking about nervous system regulation—but what does that actually look like in real life? In this episode, Kate sits down with nurse coach Amyee to talk about emotional numbness, why so many women feel disconnected from themselves, and what’s really happening in the body after years of stress, trauma, and dysregulation. They explore the idea of numbness as a “black hole”—something many women avoid through coping behaviors like drinking, scrolling, shopping, overeating, and overworking. But what if those behaviors aren’t failures… and are actually attempts to regulate an overwhelmed nervous system? This conversation breaks down: why numbness happenshow the nervous system drives coping behaviorsthe difference between mindset work and somatic workwhy proper training matters in somatic coachingand how to start reconnecting with your body in practical, real-life ways If you’ve ever felt checked out, flat, or like you’re just going through the motions—this episode will help you understand why… and what to do next. Key TopicsNervous system regulation in everyday lifeEmotional numbness and disconnectionTrauma, chronic stress, and dysregulationThe “black hole” of avoided emotionsWhy women numb out (alcohol, scrolling, food, shopping, overworking)Somatic work vs. mindset workThe importance of training and expertise in somatic coachingPractical tools for grounding and staying present What We Get IntoNumbness Isn’t Random Why feeling flat, disconnected, or “off” is often the result of a chronically overwhelmed nervous system—not a personal failure. The Black Hole The uncomfortable truth: many women avoid deeper pain, grief, or unresolved emotions by staying busy, distracted, or numbed out—and what it takes to actually face that space. Coping Isn’t the Problem Drinking, scrolling, eating, shopping, overworking—these aren’t just bad habits. They’re attempts to regulate stress when your system doesn’t feel safe. Why Mindset Isn’t Enough You can’t think your way into feeling safe. This episode explores why empowerment has to include the body—not just thoughts. Somatic Work That Actually Helps What real nervous system support looks like (and why training matters if someone is guiding others through this work). Practical Regulation (Without Escaping Your Life) Simple, realistic ways to stay grounded, aware, and connected to your body throughout the day. Connect with the guest Amyee Oen: www.amyeeoen.com IG/FB @amyeeoen @findyourtruenorthcoaching

    50 min

  8. 7 Apr

    EP: 68 Good Girl No More: What I’m Shedding and Why I’m Embracing My Angry Feminist Era

    Connect with Kate at Rewired Sober on All Social Media Platforms Book a Discovery Call with Kate: https://calendly.com/katevitelacoaching/deep-dive-1-1-w-kate Email the Podcast: katevitelacoaching@gmail.com In this solo episode, Kate shares what she can feel falling away in her life—and what she’s consciously choosing to embrace instead. Inspired by a meditation on the goddess Kali from the work of Meggan Watterson and the spiritual teaching of choosing love over fear from A Course in Miracles, Kate reflects on the identities, beliefs, and systems she’s outgrowing. From recovery dogma and online hustle culture to “good girl” conditioning, this episode explores what it looks like to stop shrinking—and start living with honesty, courage, creativity, and unapologetic feminist energy. Kate reflects on a powerful question that emerged during a meditation inspired by the work of Meggan Watterson and her Divine Feminine oracle deck. The card of the goddess Kali invites a confronting but liberating intention: release all that doesn’t serve you and become the truth of who you are. This episode explores what it means to consciously choose love over fear, a concept also central to the teachings of A Course in Miracles. Kate shares several areas of life where she can feel old identities, beliefs, and structures naturally falling away—and what she is embracing instead. This conversation is about honesty, growth, and the courage to outgrow what once felt necessary. In this episode, Kate talks about:• Shedding the pressure of the online business “hustle culture” model and embracing authentic connection with real communities of women in recovery • Letting go of recovery dogma, fear-based thinking, and outdated rhetoric while embracing neuroscience, feminism, soul work, and self-trust • Releasing the “good girl” conditioning that keeps women quiet about politics, injustice, and women’s rights—and finding the courage to speak honestly • Redefining fashion and creativity as personal expression rather than trend-chasing or external validation • The spiritual practice of allowing old identities to fall away so a more authentic life can emerge This episode is an invitation to ask yourself: What in my life is an old skin? What am I holding onto out of fear? And what might happen if I chose love instead?

    39 min
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Rewired Sober is a sobriety and recovery podcast for women who are tired of surface-level self-help and ready for real change. Hosted by psychiatric nurse, addiction specialist, and recovery coach Kate Vitela, RN, this podcast explores the neuroscience of addiction, emotional sobriety, mindset change, and the messy, honest reality of rebuilding your life after quitting drinking. This is not a preachy recovery podcast full of toxic positivity or shame. It’s real conversations about: women and alcohol gray area drinking anxiety and emotional regulation perfectionism and people pleasing cravings and habit loops neuroplasticity and brain rewiring identity in midlife anger, grief, and healing creativity, fashion, and self-expression in recovery relationships, boundaries, and self-trust learning how to feel your feelings without numbing them Kate combines clinical insight, lived experience, humor, and a feminist lens to help women understand why they drink, not just how to stop. Whether you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, or years into recovery and wondering “now what?” — this podcast is designed to help you build a life that actually feels good to live. If you’re looking for a sobriety podcast for women that blends science, soul, psychology, emotional honesty, and a little dark humor, welcome to Rewired Sober. You quit drinking. Now let’s rewire the rest.

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  • Creator
    Kate Vitela
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    78
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Kate Vitela
  • Show Website
    Rewired Sober

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