LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
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I’m Jessica Da Silva—a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Attachment Coach, and author—here to help you transform the way you experience love through practical, relatable insight. Along with breaking down attachment styles in an easy-to-understand way, I share my own personal journey of moving toward secure attachment, real client stories, conversations with guest experts, and tools you can use to heal and create healthier relationships. Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/ Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com

  1. 5月12日

    The Paradox of Avoidant Healing: Learning to Lean Into Intimacy Despite the Fear

    In this episode, we explore the paradox of avoidant healing and why intimacy can feel both deeply comforting and deeply threatening at the same time. We talk about: why avoidant attachers often push away the very connection they desirethe fear of dependency, vulnerability, and losshow hyper-independence has disconnected many of us from healthy emotional reliancewhy intimacy is so much more than sexand how safe relationships can biologically reshape the way we experience love over timeThis is a raw and honest conversation about fear, closeness, healing, and learning how to slowly lean into intimacy despite the risk. Learn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching here. Get the Secure Self Kit here.

    12分

  2. 4月21日

    Building Connection From Stability, Not Emotional Need

    Why do we crave connection so deeply… yet feel so unstable in relationships? In this episode, I dive into the difference between seeking love from emotional need versus a grounded, secure place within yourself. I share my personal journey—from feeling anxious, reactive, and lost in relationships to developing what I now call the Secure Self—and how this shift changed everything. We’ll explore how your past experiences shape your attachment patterns, why your needs aren’t the problem, and how self-sabotaging behaviors like overthinking, chasing, or shutting down are often driven by insecure parts of you trying to stay safe. Most importantly, I’ll walk you through practical ways to begin building emotional stability so you can show up in relationships without losing yourself. **Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

    16分

  3. 3月29日

    The Avoidant Experience: Love, Numbness & Inner Conflict With Bilnita Armstead

    In this episode, I sit down with Bilnita Armstead, a listener of the podcast, who shares her experience navigating a dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment style. We talk about how early relationship patterns, often learned from our parents, shaped her view of love and connection, and how getting hurt in relationships led her to become emotionally numb and avoidant. She opens up about the push-pull dynamic, feeling secure when single but deeply triggered in relationships, and the mental torment that can come with it—including overthinking, relationship OCD, and constantly questioning feelings. We also explore how things like intense butterflies, cheating as a coping mechanism, and black-and-white thinking played a role in her patterns. Most importantly, this conversation normalizes these experiences and highlights the shift into learning how to sit in the “gray space,” develop self-awareness, and begin showing yourself grace as you heal and move toward more secure ways of relating.

    37分

  4. 3月20日

    The Attachment Rollercoaster: How to Feel Without Losing Control

    In this episode, we explore why love can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—full of intense highs and painful lows. You’ll learn how different attachment styles shape your reactions in relationships and, more importantly, how to stay grounded, self-regulate, and feel deeply without losing yourself in the process. Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

    16分

  5. 2月24日

    Feeling Like You’re the Problem in an Anxious–Avoidant Relationship

    In this episode, we unpack why anxious attachers often feel like they’re “too much” in relationships — especially when paired with avoidants. I break down how this dynamic creates a distorted sense of responsibility, why you’re not actually the problem, and how unmet needs drive anxious expression. We’ll also cover how to find balance, when it’s time to walk away, and what both anxious and avoidant partners can do to create healthier, more secure connection. Work with Jessica 1-1 HERE.

    13分

  6. 2月17日

    Anxious & Avoidant: The Intellectual Intimacy Trap

    In this episode, we explore the intellectual intimacy illusion — the trap many anxious and avoidant pairings fall into when deep conversations and shared ideas feel like emotional connection, but something essential is still missing. I unpack the difference between feeling mentally understood versus emotionally seen, why anxious and avoidant dynamics often bond through intellect, and how this can create confusion about real compatibility. I also share personal reflections from my own relationship experience and explain why insight alone isn’t enough to create emotional safety. If you’ve ever wondered why a connection felt so strong but still left you feeling unseen, this episode is for you. Book a free Clarity Call to learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

    17分

  7. 2月9日

    From Insight to Real Change in Attachment Patterns

    A grounded conversation about why insight alone doesn’t change attachment patterns, and how real healing happens through consistent, embodied action. Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

    18分

  8. 1月12日

    Secure Dating vs. Survival Dating

    Modern dating is exhausting because most people are dating from nervous-system survival mode instead of from their Secure Self. In this episode, I break down the difference between survival dating and secure dating, why swipe culture keeps anxious and avoidant patterns alive, and what it actually looks like to date from clarity, safety, and self-trust. You’ll learn how to recognize when your attachment system is running the show, why chemistry alone can keep you stuck in burnout cycles, and practical ways to shift into values-led, regulated, secure dating — even in today’s dating landscape. Download Satya here. Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

    12分
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番組について

I’m Jessica Da Silva—a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Attachment Coach, and author—here to help you transform the way you experience love through practical, relatable insight. Along with breaking down attachment styles in an easy-to-understand way, I share my own personal journey of moving toward secure attachment, real client stories, conversations with guest experts, and tools you can use to heal and create healthier relationships. Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/ Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com

情報

  • クリエイター
    Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
  • 配信期間
    19年 - 26年
  • エピソード
    150
  • 制限指定
    不適切な内容を含まない
  • Copyright
    © Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
  • 番組のWebサイト
    LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS

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