Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

  1. Same Home, Different Childhoods: Sibling Dynamics | Mid Week Tease

    17 HR AGO

    Same Home, Different Childhoods: Sibling Dynamics | Mid Week Tease

    What happens when siblings grow up under the same roof, but carry very different emotional experiences into adulthood? In this Mid Week Tease episode, inspired by Hekaya’s story on the Legally Clueless podcast, we explore the quiet complexity of sibling dynamics, birth order roles, comparison, and emotional safety within families. Many of us were raised believing that shared parents automatically meant shared childhoods. But psychology tells a different story. Drawing from the work of trauma-informed physician Gabor Maté and psychologist Alfred Adler, this episode gently unpacks why siblings can experience the same household in entirely different ways and why naming your truth doesn’t make you disloyal or ungrateful. In this episode, we explore: Why siblings raised in the same home often have different emotional realitiesHow birth order and invisible family roles shape adult identityThe long-term impact of sibling comparison and quiet competitionWhat it means when siblings aren’t emotionally safeHow to honor your experience without villainizing your familyThis episode isn’t about blame. It’s about permission, to tell the truth, to protect your inner world, and to understand yourself with more compassion. If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or conflicted about your sibling relationships, this conversation is for you. Listen & Connect with Legally Clueless Africa 🌍 Join our community & sign up for the newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ 📸 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ 🎵 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica ▶️ YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube 📝 Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    14 min
  2. Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself | Legally Clueless Ep359 Part 1

    3 DAYS AGO

    Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself | Legally Clueless Ep359 Part 1

    In this first episode of 2026, we open the year with Part One of Hekaya’s story, a deeply reflective and honest conversation about family, identity, and the long road toward becoming yourself. Hekaya  shares what it was like growing up as the last born in a family where expectations, religion, and control shaped how safe she felt to express who she truly was. She reflects on sibling dynamics, loneliness within family systems, creativity as a lifeline, and the subtle ways shame can be inherited and internalised. This episode lays the emotional foundation for a larger story, one that also touches on Hekaya's experience with terminating a pregnancy, the guilt that followed, and her journey toward healing and self-compassion. That part of her story continues in Part Two, which will be released next week. This is a conversation about understanding yourself beyond the roles you were assigned, and about recognising that even siblings raised in the same home can experience entirely different childhoods. If you’ve ever questioned your place within your family, felt unseen by those closest to you, or found safety in chosen family instead, this episode is for you. KEY THEMES Sibling relationships and emotional safetyBirth order and identity formationFamily expectations vs self-expressionCreativity as survival and self-definitionShame, religion, and control in African householdsBeginning the journey toward healingCOMING NEXT 🔔 Part Two of Hekaya’s story drops next week, where she speaks more deeply about reproductive choice, guilt, healing, and reclaiming her voice. JOIN THE LEGALLY CLUELESS COMMUNITY  🌍 Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/📸 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/🎵 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica📺 YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube✍🏾 Share Your Story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8If this episode resonated, please share it with someone who might need it, leave us a review, and come back next week for Part Two. You are not alone and your healing matters.

    53 min
  3. Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 358

    28/12/2025

    Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 358

    In episode 358 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares Part 2 of her story, a powerful journey of leaving an unsafe marriage, rebuilding life as a single mother, navigating fear and displacement, and eventually experiencing deep love and devastating loss. Picking up from childhood trauma and survival patterns explored in Part 1, this episode focuses on healing, agency, community support, and what it means to choose life after years of endurance. In this episode, we explore: Leaving an unsafe marriage with childrenRebuilding life from scratch during COVIDCommunity support and dignity-centered helpNavigating co-parenting and safety fearsFinding love after traumaGrief, loss, and continuing to live fullyVictoria’s story is a reminder that healing is not about perfection, it’s about persistence, courage, and choosing yourself again and again. Listen to Part 2 now. Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube

    40 min
  4. This Year Asked A Lot Of You: A Gentle Closing Before The New Year | Mid Week Tease

    24/12/2025

    This Year Asked A Lot Of You: A Gentle Closing Before The New Year | Mid Week Tease

    As the year comes to a close, there’s often pressure to reflect, reframe, and rush into hope. This final episode of Mid Week Tease offers something different: a pause. In this episode, Adelle invites you into a soft, honest moment of witnessing, not to extract lessons or tidy the year up neatly, but to honor what the year truly held. This is a conversation for anyone who feels emotionally tired, quietly proud of surviving, or unsure how to carry this year forward. In this episode, we explore: When the year didn’t turn out the way you expected and why that doesn’t mean it failedThe invisible things you survived without recognitionRelationships you outgrew or quietly grievedReleasing versions of yourself that could no longer keep upFatigue that comes from carrying too much, not from lazinessThe episode closes with a gentle reflective ritual no homework, no fixing, just presence: Three things you’re laying downOne thing you’re proud of survivingOne truth you’re carrying forwardThis is not a wrap-up. It’s a deep exhale. Listen when you need permission to pause before moving on. Join the Legally Clueless Africa Community If you’d like to stay connected, share your story, or explore more conversations like this, here’s where to find us: ✉️ Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/📸 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/🎵 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica▶️ YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube📝 Share Your Story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    11 min
  5. Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 357

    21/12/2025

    Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 357

    In Episode 357 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares part one of her powerful life story, growing up away from her mother, navigating multiple homes and boarding schools, and learning independence at a very young age. From her childhood in Nyeri, Karatina, and Garissa to her school years and early adulthood, Victoria reflects on how emotional absence, instability, and silence shaped her sense of belonging and connection. In this episode, we explore: • Growing up separated from primary caregivers • Childhood loneliness and emotional neglect • Boarding school experiences at a young age • How early instability shapes adult survival patterns • The quiet ways trauma takes root Share your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community: Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube

    55 min
  6. From Suitcase to Store: Zia on Building a Fashion Brand, Trusting Instinct & Doing It Afraid | For Mannerless Women

    18/12/2025

    From Suitcase to Store: Zia on Building a Fashion Brand, Trusting Instinct & Doing It Afraid | For Mannerless Women

    What does it really take to build a sustainable fashion brand in Kenya, without overnight success, investor hype, or a perfect plan? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Zia Nyamari, fashion entrepreneur and founder & creative director of Zia Africa, for an honest conversation about building a business from the ground up, fear, faith, intuition and all. Zia takes us back to her very first business idea at 10 years old (selling popcorn on the street), through years of importing clothes in suitcases, quitting employment, navigating family pressure, and eventually opening a flagship store at Village Market. She shares the behind-the-scenes realities of growth, the fear of dead stock, imposter syndrome, and why consistency matters more than speed. This episode is especially for women who are: Thinking about starting a businessGrowing slowly and wondering if they’re “behind”Learning to trust their intuition alongside logicNavigating fear, faith, and self-beliefIn this episode, we talk about: Starting a business with what you haveWhy growth is rarely overnightThe fear of dead stock and financial riskQuitting employment to bet on yourselfConsistency as a business strategyTrusting intuition and feminine leadershipSustainability and slow fashionAffirmations, faith, and doing things afraidZIA’s reminder is simple but powerful: “Believe in your idea so much it has no choice but to materialize.” 🔗 Connect with Zia Africa@nandigirl_ on instagram @zianyamari on TikTok @ziafrica on both IG & TikTok website: www.ziaafrica.com. Physical location: Village Market, New Wing, 1st floor. 🔗 More from Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8If this episode resonates, share it with a mannerless (or almost mannerless) woman in your life and don’t forget to follow or subscribe so you never miss a new episode.

    35 min
  7. When Your Light Makes People Uncomfortable: How to Stop Dimming Yourself in Relationships | Mid Week Tease

    17/12/2025

    When Your Light Makes People Uncomfortable: How to Stop Dimming Yourself in Relationships | Mid Week Tease

    What happens when your growth starts to shift your relationships? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango explores the quiet, often painful realization that not everyone in your life knows how to sit with your light. This episode unpacks how dimming yourself can show up subtly, why some relationships struggle when you expand, and how to let go without bitterness, blame, or drama. It’s a reminder that you don’t need to make yourself smaller to belong and that release can be an act of self-respect. In this episode, we explore: Why personal growth can make some people uncomfortableThe subtle ways we dim our joy, confidence, and presenceHow to recognize relationships that require self-erasureLetting go without villainizing people you outgrowGrieving relationships that can’t meet you where you areChoosing yourself without guilt🔗 Stay Connected with Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

    10 min
  8. My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 356

    14/12/2025

    My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 356

    In this final episode of Gachambi’s three-part story on Legally Clueless, we sit with the quiet, life-altering chapters that come after survival, grief, sobriety, faith, and the ongoing work of becoming. After being admitted to the bar in November 2023, Gachambi reflects on navigating unemployment, rebuilding her legal career at her own pace, and confronting the reality that being without work is often a systemic failure, not a personal one Gachambi 3. But the heart of this episode lies in the personal. She speaks openly about grief, losing her father, realising years later what “life without dad” truly means, and learning that grief does not have a timeline. Instead of trying to heal “correctly,” she chooses to honour her father by living fully and truthfully Gachambi 3. Gachambi also shares her sobriety journey, quitting alcohol in 2022 after years of heavy drinking, alcohol-induced health issues, and emotional numbing. She reflects on the clarity, discipline, and emotional presence sobriety brought into her life, and why choosing to be sober became one of the most life-affirming decisions she’s ever made. This episode is a powerful reminder that: Grief doesn’t end, it changes shapeSobriety is about choosing presence, not punishmentYou’re allowed to reinvent yourself at your own paceYour best version is still ahead of youFaith, community, and self-honesty can carry you through seasons that feel unbearableIf you are grieving a loved one, rebuilding your life, questioning your relationship with alcohol, or learning how to live again after loss, this story will meet you gently. Plug into the Legally Clueless Africa ecosystem Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Submit your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube (For Mannerless Women): www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube

    33 min
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Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790

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  • Creator
    Legally Clueless
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    469
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Legally Clueless
  • Show Website
    Legally Clueless

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