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Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.

2 DAYS AGO

Taking the Pressure Off Dating

In this episode, I’m joined by Dana Joy, host of Not That Deep, to talk about sober dating, letting go of pressure, and why modern dating doesn’t have to be so complicated. Dana shares how stopping drinking changed the way she approaches dating, why coffee and walk dates feel more intentional, and how shifting to an "it's not that deep" mindset helped her stop overthinking every interaction. We also talk about dating without apps, saying yes to more opportunities, and learning to prioritize connection over perfection. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

49 min
4 DAYS AGO

Are They a F*****y or Just Not That Into You?

In this episode, I’m joined by Andie P, creator of Ask a F*****y, to break down mixed signals, emotional unavailability, and the behaviors that leave you confused in modern dating. We talk about the difference between a f*****y and someone who’s just not that into you, translating common “f*****y” texts, why even smart people fall for mixed signals, when to communicate versus walk away, how technology has made modern dating more confusing, and whether situationships can actually turn into relationships — so you can stop guessing and start choosing what you actually want. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

48 min
5 DAYS AGO

Not Liking Their Friends, Moving For Love and Dating Wins

This week we’re catching up on everything from a very full week, including a Boys Like Girls concert, Ilana’s new sewing hobby, and Jake questioning whether anyone actually needs to know how to spell anymore. We get into a listener follow-up about not liking the person you’re dating’s friends and what it actually means if they act differently around them. We also answer a question about moving cities for a relationship and how to know if you’re doing it for the right reasons. Plus, we share your dating wins, from great first dates to big relationship milestones ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

46 min
2 APR

"I Didn’t Expect This Relationship To Break Me"

After reconnecting with her high school sweetheart years later, this anonymous guest believed she had found the love that was always meant to be. But what followed was a three-year relationship filled with emotional neglect, anxious attachment, resentment, and a version of herself she barely recognized.In this unfiltered conversation, she shares how unresolved grief, abandonment wounds, and mixed signals kept her stuck and why the hardest part of the breakup wasn’t forgiving him, but forgiving herself. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

53 min
31 MAR

Life Happens: The Dating Mindset Shift You Didn’t Know You Needed

Life happens, and when it does, how you respond can change everything. In this episode, Dr. Rachel returns to talk about her new book When Life Happens, and why small, intentional shifts, not major life overhauls, are often what create the biggest change. We talk about dating burnout, confidence, body image, reacting vs. responding to stress, and why connections don’t always spark instantly. Dr. Rachel also shares the unexpected story of how she met her husband, and why a “boring” first date can still turn into something meaningful. Learn more about When Life Happens and get the book here: whenlifehappensbook.com Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram: @DrRachelNYC ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

54 min
30 MAR

Mixed Signals, Red Flags and Dating Wins

On this week's Cohosts for Life episode, we're answering your dating questions and talking through some of the situations that come up when you’re getting to know someone. We get into everything from communication to overthinking to figuring out what actually matters early on. We also share your dating wins, from putting yourself out there to big relationship milestones. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

51 min
26 MAR

"I Found My Life Partner At 42"

After years of dating, heartbreak, and learning what she truly needed in a partner, Jess shares how she finally met the man she hopes to marry at 42. From relationships that lacked communication, to staying too long in something that wasn’t right, to navigating health challenges and dating later in life — every chapter led her to a slow-burn connection through matchmaking. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

58 min
24 MAR

You're Not Unlovable

In this episode, I’m joined by Therapist and Secure Attachment Coach Trevor Hanson to breaks down what anxious attachment really looks like in dating—and why feeling “not enough” can quietly shape your relationships. We talk about self-sabotage, chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and how to shift from fear to security. If you’ve ever felt unlovable or stuck in patterns you can’t explain, this one will hit home. Connect with Trevor: Instagram: @theartofhealingbytrevor Website: The Art of Healing by Trevor See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

51 min

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This is Seeing Other People

Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles. Real people, real stories, real life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week. Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.