Finding Love After 30

Shonda Howard
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Finding Love After 30 is a podcast for women that are ready to have their big, amazing love story. Dating Coach and Hypnotherapist Shonda Howard will teach you exactly how to find your too-good-to-be-true Man. Every week you can expect simple how to’s and heart to heart conversations that will help you navigate dating and find your soul-mate relationship. Follow Shonda on instagram @shondahowardlove for more inspiration. Subscribe and share with any other women you know still want to believe that their love story is waiting for them!

  1. 26/12/2025

    Ep 41: You're not bad at manifesting love - you're in the belief gap

    If you’ve tried visualizing, journaling, affirmations, or “manifesting” your dream relationship, and you’re still attracting the same type of men or relationship pattern, this episode is for you. In this episode, Shonda introduces a concept she calls The Belief Gap: the space between what you want in love and what your nervous system and subconscious actually believe is safe and possible. You’ll learn why manifestation doesn’t happen from desire alone, and how to gently close the gap between where you are and the relationship you want, without forcing belief or gaslighting yourself. In This Episode, We Cover: Why manifesting love often feels frustrating or ineffectiveWhat The Belief Gap is and how it blocks real changeWhy your subconscious cares more about safety than desireThe “CD player” metaphor for why affirmations get rejectedThe money analogy that explains why big desires bounce off the nervous systemWhy your ideal partner list isn’t the problem—it’s diagnosticHow to turn desires into believable mantras that actually workWhy belief is built incrementally (and why that’s enough)How closing the Belief Gap changes how you show up in dating Podcast Episodes Mentioned: Episode 5 How to get what you want with "the list" Ready for More Support? If 2026 is the year you want to call in real love then come find me on Instagram and DM me the word CUSTOM and I’ll send you a personalized dating strategy video. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    25 min

  2. 19/12/2025

    Ep 40: Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain: Why Being Single Feels So Triggering (And How to Stop Spiraling)

    If being single feels especially triggering for you (engagement announcements, weddings, breakups, or the pressure of feeling “behind,”) this episode is for you. Today I'm breaking down a concept I teach all of my coaching clients: clean pain vs. dirty pain, and how confusing the two is what keeps so many women stuck in anxiety, shame, and dating spirals. In this episode, we cover: The difference between clean pain and dirty pain, and why it mattersWhy seeing other people get engaged or married can send you into a spiralHow your brain creates fear-based stories about your future without you realizing itWhy breakups hurt more when you make them mean something about youA simple way to validate your feelings without letting them run your lifeHow to stop dating from urgency, panic, or comparisonWhat it looks like to return to dating from a grounded, confident place This is a powerful mindset shift you can use anytime you feel triggered around being single, especially during the holidays. And if you are ready to stop spiraling, regulate your nervous system, and date with intention in the new year, send me a DM on Instagram (@shondahowardlove) with the word CUSTOM and I’ll send you a personalized dating strategy. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    19 min

  3. 02/12/2025

    Ep 39: Meet Men IRL, Protect Your Energy & Stay in the Game with Lindsay May

    In this episode, I’m joined by marketing expert and single gal in Denver, Lindsay May, for a super honest convo about what it actually looks like to keep dating when you’re tired, triggered, or over the apps. In this episode, we cover: How Lindsay healed from a toxic relationship and eased back into datingWhy dating apps can feel so draining—and how to treat them as a neutral toolMeeting men in real life: pickleball, grocery stores, and being presentThe power of your presence and magnetic energy when you’re out in the worldHow to “market” yourself in your dating profile so it actually sounds like youSimple mindset shifts to keep you in the game without burning out Connect with Lindsay on Instagram HERE If you’re ready to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men and call in a secure, committed relationship 👉 Join my free masterclass “How to Stop Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men and Attract Your Soulmate in 6 Months.” SIGN UP HERE. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    45 min

  4. 21/11/2025

    Ep 38: A Thanksgiving Message for the Woman Who Feels Left Behind

    In this Thanksgiving episode of Finding Love After 30, Shonda gets real about how hard the holidays can feel when you’re single, surrounded by couples, and dodging questions like “So…are you seeing anyone?” She walks you through why gratitude is not pretending everything is fine, but a grounding practice that helps regulate your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and actually make you more available for healthy love. You’ll hear how Shonda used daily gratitude on her own journey to meeting her husband, how this ties into the cognitive model from CBT, and a simple three-part gratitude practice you can start today, even if you’re feeling lonely or behind. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why holiday comments about your love life sting so much (and why it makes sense you feel anxious).How gratitude supports nervous system regulation and secure attachment.A simple daily gratitude/appreciation ritual you can do in a few minutes, morning or night. If you’re ready to go beyond gratitude and want personalized support with nervous system regulation, attachment healing, and dating strategy, send Shonda a DM on Instagram with the word CUSTOM and she’ll send you a free custom dating strategy with the exact steps to take based on where you are right now. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    17 min

  5. 14/11/2025

    EP 37: How to Confidently Navigate the Holidays as a Single Woman w/ Elyse Conroy

    If you're heading into the holidays single and already dreading the “So… are you seeing anyone?” questions, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. I sat down with my friend, confidence coach Elyse Conroy, for a raw, hilarious, and honest conversation about navigating the holidays when you’re the only single one in the room. We talk about: Why those invasive questions from Aunt Mildred feel so triggeringHow to answer them with confidence (and shut them down with grace)What to do if you were just ghosted or broken up with before the holidaysWhy you keep dating the same emotionally unavailable guy on repeatHow to regulate your nervous system so you stop spiraling in datingAnd how to actually enjoy being single this season instead of feeling behind You’ll walk away with scripts, mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you feel grounded, worthy, and secure — no matter what’s happening in your love life right now. JOIN MY FREE MASTERCLASS: Ready to stop dating emotionally unavailable men and attract a committed partner in the next 6 months? Grab your seat RIGHT HERE or DM me the word TRAINING on Instagram. CONNECT WITH ELYSE ON INSTAGRAM Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    44 min

  6. 29/10/2025

    Ep 36: How to Attract love Instead of Chasing it

    If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything to find love — dating apps, social events, staying “open”— yet it still feels like nothing’s working, this episode is for you. In today’s episode of Finding Love After 30, Shonda shares how to shift from chasing love to attracting it by becoming the woman who’s already a match for the kind of relationship she wants.  In this episode, you’ll learn: The difference between chasing love and attracting itWhy trying harder in dating can actually push men awayThe nervous system truth behind “chasing energy”The key mindset shift that makes you magnetic to secure menA simple journaling practice to align with the version of you who already has the relationship you want Resources & next steps: DM Shonda the word MAGNETIC on Instagram @shondahowardlove for a free dating strategy call.Subscribe to Finding Love After 30 for more episodes that help you find the relationship you’ve been dreaming of. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    18 min

  7. 08/05/2025

    Ep 35: Flow Over Force — Dating from a Regulated Nervous System

    You can’t swipe your way into secure love if your nervous system is stuck in survival mode. This week, I’m getting real about what happened when I was forced to slow down — and what it revealed about my own patterns around productivity, self-worth, and why "resting" in life or taking a break from dating can feel so damn triggering… especially if you’re someone who’s always doing the most. We’re talking about: The sneaky ways hustle culture shows up in your dating lifeWhat happens when your nervous system doesn’t know how to flow (hello, overthinking every text)Why taking a break from dating might actually speed up your timelineThe subconscious fears that surface when you finally pauseAnd the most magnetic energy you can bring into your love life right now If you’ve been feeling burnt out, anxious, or like love is taking too long to arrive — this episode is for you. RATE & REVIEW!! If this episode resonated, leave a review or share it with someone who needs to hear this reminder today. And if you’re taking a dating break, DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove — I wanna hear about it 💗 Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    20 min

  8. 01/05/2025

    Ep 34: Meagan Norris on Turning Divorce Pain into Power in Dating and Life

    What if your greatest heartbreak could become your most powerful transformation? In this raw conversation, I sit down with my dear friend Meagan Norris – former lawyer turned life and divorce coach who revolutionized her entire life after her divorce. She shares how she left a marriage that looked perfect on paper but felt deeply wrong in her body, and transformed that pain into purpose. But this isn't just a divorce story. It's a masterclass in the exact emotional alchemy required to find extraordinary love at any age. Meagan reveals how the same skills that helped her create a peaceful divorce against all odds – managing emotions, validating herself, and focusing relentlessly on her vision – are precisely what create magnetic attraction in dating. Her journey illuminates why so many women struggle to find authentic partnership when they're unconsciously outsourcing their worth to potential partners. Whether you're healing from heartbreak, stuck in situationships, or simply ready to call in a deeper love, Megan's wisdom offers the roadmap to becoming the woman who naturally attracts what she desires – by becoming complete in herself first. In This Episode You'll Discover: The subtle red flags your body recognizes before your mind catches upHow to stop "leaking energy" through validation-seeking behaviors that repel healthy partnersThe counterintuitive practice of using your anxiety as "sacred fuel" instead of a problem to solveWhy becoming a match for extraordinary love requires radical self-leadershipThe exact process for trusting your timeline instead of forcing relationships out of fearHow to distinguish between genuine change and temporary appeasement in partnersThe transformational mantra: "I hate this, and that's okay" – and why it's more powerful than toxic positivityWhy Megan is intentionally not dating yet – and the wisdom in deliberate seasons of being single About Meagan Norris: Meagan is a single mom to three children who transformed her life through radical self-responsibility. After leaving her law career in 2010, she discovered life coaching in 2019, which gave her the tools to navigate her divorce with unprecedented speed and grace. Now, she helps women rewrite their divorce stories through her signature programs: The Divorce Accelerator and Beyond Divorce membership. Connect with Megan: Follow Meagan and learn more about working with her on Instagram: @MeganNorrisCoaching Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

    49 min
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Finding Love After 30 is a podcast for women that are ready to have their big, amazing love story. Dating Coach and Hypnotherapist Shonda Howard will teach you exactly how to find your too-good-to-be-true Man. Every week you can expect simple how to’s and heart to heart conversations that will help you navigate dating and find your soul-mate relationship. Follow Shonda on instagram @shondahowardlove for more inspiration. Subscribe and share with any other women you know still want to believe that their love story is waiting for them!

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  • Creator
    Shonda Howard
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 null All Rights Reserved.
  • Show Website
    Finding Love After 30

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