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Julia Rangiheuea
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Stories from everyday people sharing their darkest moments that led to sobriety. Shedding light on our struggles to help those still finding their way out. 

  1. Lucy's Story Part Two: How the System Failed Her and She Saved Herself (Subscriber Exclusive)

    17 HR AGO • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Lucy's Story Part Two: How the System Failed Her and She Saved Herself (Subscriber Exclusive)

    JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking When we left Lucy’s story, she had a broken cheekbone, a fractured eye socket, and two black eyes that took months to fade. She was still protecting the man who put them there. This episode is part 2 and it picks up in the aftermath. Lucy moved through a world that had very little to offer someone in her situation. She found a kind of safety in criminal circles. She started working in the sex industry at 16. She eventually found herself spending $500 a day on heroin, and earning it back by nightfall. What stays with me is how clearly she sees all of it now. No bitterness, no performance. She talks about the industry with more care and nuance than most people ever would. She talks about addiction the same way. She’s been sober since the 31st of July, 2019. This is what it took to get there. Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of child abuse and neglect, sexual abuse, and domestic violence. Ready to share your story? Email: hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    41 min
  2. "I'm Buying Friends" - Alex Wired Corporate Funds to Feed His Gambling Addiction

    3 DAYS AGO

    "I'm Buying Friends" - Alex Wired Corporate Funds to Feed His Gambling Addiction

    Growing up as a second-generation Chinese Australian in Canberra, Alex spent much of his childhood wanting to be anything but himself. At just eight years old, he made a quiet but powerful connection: success, titles and money equals love. That belief followed him into adulthood and when COVID hit, the pressure, boredom and loss of identity converged into a gambling addiction that quietly took over his life. He was placing sports bets in the middle of the night, lying to his partner about missed bills and rent, borrowing money from friends and slowly losing the relationships that mattered most to him. Then came the moment everything unravelled. He had been stealing funds from his employer and one ordinary day, he was called into an office and told he was under internal investigation. As frightening as that moment was for Alex, it was also the first day of the rest of his life.  Gambling Help Online  gamblinghelponline.org.au Online counselling available 24/7, including live chat and email support Creator & Host: ⁠⁠@JuliaRangiheuea Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    54 min
  3. Lucy's Story Part One: How the System Failed Her and She Saved Herself (Subscriber Exclusive)

    24 MAR • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Lucy's Story Part One: How the System Failed Her and She Saved Herself (Subscriber Exclusive)

    JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking Lucy was taken from her mother at seven years old. Not removed. Ripped. She uses that word, and it’s the right one. She was pulled from her mother’s arms in a courthouse while her entire family stood and watched, and not one of them went to comfort either of them. What followed was years of placements that never stuck. Grandparents, her father, an aunt and uncle, strangers. She was a gifted kid, smart enough to be placed in advanced academic programs. None of that protected her from what was coming. By 14, Lucy was in residential care and being groomed by a man she now calls what he is... a paedophile. He wasn’t a boyfriend. There was nothing mutual about it. What he did set a template for the relationships that followed. The next one left her with a broken cheekbone, a fractured eye socket, and his foot imprints on her body. She was still a teenager. This is Part 1 of Lucy’s story. It covers the system that was supposed to protect her, and everything it didn’t do. Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of child abuse and neglect, sexual abuse, and domestic violence. Ready to share your story? Email: hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    42 min
  4. A Young Life of Crime: Raj

    22 MAR

    A Young Life of Crime: Raj

    Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of sexual assault.Raj's earliest memory is of his father leaving him on the side of the road to teach him a lesson. It was the first of many moments that taught him emotions weren't safe to show. By his teens, he was selling and using. What began at parties didn't stay there and one line led to another until he was moving large amounts of drugs and dealing weapons. Two stints in jail later, the reality of that life had nothing left to romanticise. Now in his twenties, Raj is starting over. In this episode, he talks about how he got in, what it cost him and why he's adamant about one thing: there's nothing gangster about it. Follow Raj on Instagram: @Emceerajj_ Creator & Host: ⁠⁠Julia RangiheueaReady to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    45 min
  5. What Childhood Sexual Abuse Does to Your Brain and Body (Subscriber Exclusive)

    18 MAR • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    What Childhood Sexual Abuse Does to Your Brain and Body (Subscriber Exclusive)

    JOIN THE UNSPOKEN: https://patreon.com/SoberlySpeaking What happens to a child's brain during sexual abuse doesn't stay there. It shows up in their relationships, their bodies, and their sense of self, often without them ever knowing why. Melissa Beaton is a psychotherapist specialising in trauma. In this episode, she breaks down the neuroscience behind trauma responses, why arousal during abuse is biological and not a choice, and why freeze and fawn are survival mechanisms, not failures. She unpacks how childhood sexual abuse shows up later in life through hypersexuality, hyposexuality, chronic illness, self-sabotage, and broken intimacy, and what real healing actually looks like. Julia and Melissa also get into the difference between childhood and adult sexual abuse, what a regulated nervous system looks like in practice, and why healing has to happen in relationship, not isolation. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of childhood sexual abuse, trauma, PTSD, and its psychological and physiological effects. Listener discretion is advised. Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know needs support in Australia, you can contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit https://www.1800respect.org.au Creator & Host - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Melissa on Instagram @melissabeaton.psychologist In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    30 min

  6. 15 MAR

    [DOCUMENTARY] When a Child Is Assaulted: A Survivor's Truth. A Psychologist's Insight.

    Trigger warning: this episode contains detailed discussion of sexual assault.  Stacey was 14 years old when two strangers assaulted her. One night. A warehouse. An experience no child should ever survive. She did. And then she did something even harder. She took them to court as a child, and won. She has never spoken publicly about it. Until now. Melissa Beaton is a Clinical and Forensic Psychologist who works with high-performing women who hold everything together are ready to take back control over their lives.She specialises in spotting the moment a woman overrides herself. For example, when anger turns into anxiety, when responsibility becomes control, and when “being capable” becomes self-abandonment.Her work combines intensive psychodynamic therapy and physiology-based breathwork to help women build boundaries, regulate their nervous systems and stop shrinking to keep the peace.She is the founder of Zenso House, a premium breathwork and retreat studio on the Gold Coast. www.zensohouse.com Follow Melissa Beaton on Instagram: @melissabeaton.psychologist Follow Stacey on Instagram: @Staasi_ Creator & Host: ⁠⁠Julia RangiheueaReady to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    33 min
  7. Cracking the Code on Addiction: Inside a Women's Rehab Prison (Subscriber Exclusive)

    11 MAR • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Cracking the Code on Addiction: Inside a Women's Rehab Prison (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Most women who leave mainstream prison walk out with a plastic bag and nothing else. No plan, no housing, no support. Just the same world that broke them, waiting on the other side of the gate. The re-offending rate reflects that. 43% are back inside within two years. In a women's rehabilitation prison, that number drops to 6-10%. Olivia is a provisional psychologist with five years in the addiction field, two and a half of them counselling women inside Australia's only women's rehabilitation prison. She's seen what it looks like when someone arrives broken and leaves with something to live for. She knows what makes the difference and where the system is still failing. The question is whether anyone in charge is listening. Ready to share your story? Email: [⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠](mailto:hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au) Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline Creator & Host- ⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule Follow Olivia on Instagram: @mindsovermatters_ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    39 min
  8. Sian’s Drug Abuse Almost Cost Her Comedy Career

    8 MAR

    Sian’s Drug Abuse Almost Cost Her Comedy Career

    “Comedy is a hotbed of mental illness"  Sian Smyth is a stand-up comedian whose past includes domestic violence, drug abuse, sex addiction, and sex work. After leaving an almost decade-long violent relationship in which she saw the devil himself, Sian finally felt free to take control of her body and experiment with every drug imaginable. Her addiction cost her every friend, derailed her career, and led to psychotic episodes overseas. After hearing a voice telling her to go to a meeting, Sian is now almost a year clean and making comedy again. Trigger warning: This episode discusses domestic violence, sexual assault, substance use disorder and mental health including psychosis. Buy tickets to Sian's show HERE Follow Sian on Instagram: @siansmythcomic Creator & Host: ⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    36 min
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Stories from everyday people sharing their darkest moments that led to sobriety. Shedding light on our struggles to help those still finding their way out. 

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  • Creator
    Julia Rangiheuea
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    126
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Julia Rangiheuea
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    Soberly Speaking
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