The Grace Fueled Wife | Communication, Intimacy, Separation, Reconciliation, Christian Marriage

Beatriz Vargas | Marriage & Family Therapist
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Are you sitting in a marriage that feels empty? Struggling to connect with your husband? Maybe you’re telling yourself you’re just sticking it out for the kids, and what really keeps you in the marriage is God. If this is you, I’ve been there. My story is your story. I want to help you reconnect in marriage and feel cherished again. Hey, I’m Beatriz, a Jesus loving wife and mom I’ve been married for 15 years, but for the past 10, I’ve actually had the affectionate and connected marriage I’ve always dreamed of! What happened the first five years? Well, I was busy telling my husband all the things he was doing wrong, like how he needed Jesus and he needed to do to make me happy. We tried marriage counseling, small groups, and all the things we were told would make our marriage better. Nothing worked and we separated. How did I turn it around? That’s what you’ll learn in this podcast - proven to communicate better, create more intimacy, and be a Godly wife. So if you’re ready to finally communicate effectively with your husband, so you can stop fighting and be on the same team again, this podcast is for you. Now grab that journal and let’s jump right in.

  1. 5 MAR

    E193// Why is it easier to talk to my bestie than my husband?

    In this episode, I share insights gained from my recent experiences in therapy training, highlighting the importance of emotional safety in relationships. I discuss how a clinician's listening approach influenced my willingness to share and how this relates to fostering emotional intimacy in marriage.  I further explore how being a safe spouse means being present and non-judgmental, which requires self-awareness and understanding of what safety feels like. Join me as I reflect on my personal journey and offer practical advice on how to model this crucial aspect of a healthy marriage. 02:32 Personal Reflections and Training Insights 03:34 Understanding Emotional Safety 06:29 Applying Emotional Safety in Marriage 07:59 Restoration and Final Thoughts Wait!!! Before you go!    Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community!   Not ready to work with me yet? These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

    12 min

  2. 10 JAN

    E192// Why I scrapped my most popular episode and what's new for 2025!

    In this episode, I address my hiatus from the podcast and the reasons behind it. I discuss my evolving perspective on marriage therapy, shaped by both personal experiences and professional training. Join me as I share insights from my journey, touching on the importance of working on personal issues before tackling couples therapy. This year, my goal is to provide you with tools for achieving security and intimacy in your relationships. Follow along every week as we embark on this journey together. Until next week, my friends!   Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some other ways you can become a part of my community! Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity

    9 min

  3. 01/10/2024

    E191// How to be accountable for change in your marriage WITHOUT being a doormat!

    Understanding Grace, Boundaries, and Wisdom in Marriage   In this episode, we revisit episode number two, where I discuss how we can't change our husbands, only ourselves, and the importance of offering grace. Taking it a step further, I address common concerns about feeling like a doormat and emphasize the difference between silence and wisdom. Silence is fear-driven while wisdom involves choosing the right moment to express oneself. We delve into practical steps such as using effective communication, setting boundaries, and regulating emotions to foster a healthy marital environment. Through empowering ourselves, we build stronger, more loving relationships. Join me in our community for more discussions!   02:29 Reflecting on Episode Two 03:08 Understanding Grace in Marriage 04:19 The Difference Between Silence and Wisdom 05:25 Biblical Insights on Fear and Wisdom 08:00 Practical Steps to Change and Communication 11:13 The Power of Boundaries 11:46 Emotional Regulation and Final Thoughts 12:46 Building Community and Closing Remarks   Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can become a part of my community! Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

    14 min

  4. 23/09/2024

    E190// How to regulate your emotions and be less reactive w. Samantha Skelly

    Harnessing the Power of Breathwork to Regulate Emotions and Trauma This week's episode features an enlightening conversation with Samantha Skelly, founder and CEO of Paws Breathwork. Samantha shares her journey from battling anxiety and an eating disorder to discovering the transformative potential of breathwork. She explains how breathwork can help regulate emotions, reduce trauma responses, and create space between triggers and reactions, which can be particularly beneficial in relationships. We explore the science behind breathwork, its spiritual connections, and its practical applications. Samantha also guides us through a brief breathwork exercise, demonstrating its immediate impact. For those interested in further exploring breathwork, Samantha offers resources through her Breathwork app and facilitator training. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve emotional regulation and overall mental well-being.   00:00 Introduction to Emotional Control 02:03 Meet Samantha Skelly: Breathwork Expert 03:52 Samantha's Journey to Breathwork 07:16 The Science and Impact of Breathwork 11:05 Breathwork in Relationships 24:21 Practical Breathwork Exercise 34:16 Final Thoughts and Resources Learn more about our guest here! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samanthaskelly/   Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

    40 min

  5. 18/09/2024

    E189// Is that normal? Discerning through marital disappointment vs. destructive abuse

    Understanding Emotional Abuse: Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages In this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I'm delving into the critical difference between disappointing and destructive marriages. Building on last week's discussion about emotional abuse, I reference Leslie Vernick's book, 'Emotionally Destructive Marriage,' to provide clarity. We explore what it means to feel emotionally unsafe and identify when it crosses into abuse. We'll also discuss the importance of fully disclosing your situation to a therapist for proper guidance and support, even if it means going alone. This episode aims to offer insights and resources for those struggling in emotionally abusive relationships and emphasizes that you do not have to live in such a nightmare, even as a Christian. Stay tuned as we navigate these heavy but essential topics together.   00:00 Introduction: The Fear of Speaking Up 00:29 Understanding Emotional Abuse 02:44 Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages 03:36 Real-Life Examples and Quotes 05:24 Therapist's Role and Client Disclosure 10:59 Mandated Reporting and Emotional Safety 15:14 Concluding Thoughts and Resources Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

    19 min

  6. 16/09/2024

    E188// I want to go to marriage counseling but he refuses. What should I do?

    Navigating Marriage Therapy: Tips for Encouraging Your Spouse to Participate This week, we dive into communication strategies, using 'I-statements,' and how to approach the topic with your spouse in a way that makes them feel safe and understood. I'll also share insights on clarifying what you want to achieve in therapy and the common issues couples face, like miscommunication, mistrust, and lack of emotional safety. Plus, we'll discuss options for those whose spouses refuse to go to therapy. Tune in as we explore how to make marriage counseling a more approachable and effective process.   00:00 Introduction and Personal Confession 02:24 Common Issues in Relationships 04:47 Challenges in Seeking Marriage Counseling 06:16 Effective Communication Strategies 12:16 Clarifying the Core Issues 18:37 Taking Action and Seeking Support 21:38 Conclusion and Community Engagement Wait!!! Before you go!    Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news and ways to work together.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

    23 min

  7. 05/08/2024

    E187// How to be less Critical and communicate gracefully w. Deborah Smith Pegues

    In this episode of the Gracefield Wife Podcast, I have the distinct honor of hosting Debra Smith Pegues. Debra is a best-selling author, global inspirational speaker, CPA, MBA, certified John Maxwell leadership coach, and Bible teacher who shares 45 years of marital wisdom. We discuss her journey, the secrets to her successful marriage, and the importance of communication and confrontation in maintaining a healthy relationship. Debra provides invaluable insights on how to approach difficult conversations lovingly and respectfully, the significance of prayer alongside confrontation, and the balance between submission and self-respect in marriage. We also touch on practical tips from her book, '30 Days to Taming Your Tongue,' and her guide, '10 Commandments for a Heavenly Marriage.' This episode is packed with wisdom for any woman navigating the complexities of marital relationships. 04:43 Secrets to a Successful Marriage 06:16 Navigating Spiritual Differences in Marriage 08:40 The Power of Words in Marriage 13:22 Effective Communication Strategies 20:34 The Importance of Confrontation 21:14 Effective Communication Techniques 23:02 Setting Boundaries and Consequences 25:22 Balancing Submission and Confrontation 33:06 The Role of Prayer in Conflict Resolution 36:55 Final Thoughts and Resources   Did you love our guest? Here is where to learn more: Website: https://confrontingissues.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deborahsmithpegues/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeborahSmithPegues/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DeborahSmithPegues   Wait!!! Before you go! These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com

    40 min

  8. 29/07/2024

    E186// The 3 C's to standing for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation

    Hello, and welcome back to the Grace Field's Wife podcast! After a brief hiatus due to my training as a marriage and family therapist, I'm excited to bring fresh insights to our podcast. This week, we tackle the pressing question: 'How do you stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation?' I'll share three essential Cs: Clarity, Commitment, and Community. We'll discuss identifying whether your relationship is abusive or just disappointing, understanding your and your husband's commitment levels, and the importance of having a supportive community. These steps will equip you with the practical tools to navigate through marital struggles effectively. Join our Facebook group or become an insider to stay connected and find more resources. Until next week!   00:00 Welcome Back to the Grace Field's Wife Podcast 03:53 The Importance of Clarity in Marriage 12:16 Understanding Commitment in Marriage 14:40 The Power of Community Support 20:54 Conclusion and Next Steps   Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some other ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! These are some ways to learn about me for free.  Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity

    22 min
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Are you sitting in a marriage that feels empty? Struggling to connect with your husband? Maybe you’re telling yourself you’re just sticking it out for the kids, and what really keeps you in the marriage is God. If this is you, I’ve been there. My story is your story. I want to help you reconnect in marriage and feel cherished again. Hey, I’m Beatriz, a Jesus loving wife and mom I’ve been married for 15 years, but for the past 10, I’ve actually had the affectionate and connected marriage I’ve always dreamed of! What happened the first five years? Well, I was busy telling my husband all the things he was doing wrong, like how he needed Jesus and he needed to do to make me happy. We tried marriage counseling, small groups, and all the things we were told would make our marriage better. Nothing worked and we separated. How did I turn it around? That’s what you’ll learn in this podcast - proven to communicate better, create more intimacy, and be a Godly wife. So if you’re ready to finally communicate effectively with your husband, so you can stop fighting and be on the same team again, this podcast is for you. Now grab that journal and let’s jump right in.

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