The Intimacy Inquiry

Andrew Phipps
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Welcome to The Intimacy Inquiry. Join us for open, curious, and non-judgmental conversations exploring the vast landscape of intimacy and sexuality. We delve into everything, including but not limited to, the value of good sex education to the importance of exploring and understanding our own bodies, overcoming trauma, and how to forge deeper connections with your partner, . Our expert guests include sex therapists, adult content creators, sexologists, authors, somatic healers, porn addiction specialists, marriage and family therapists, intimacy therapists, trauma-informed counselors, and many more. Using explicit language with respect, we fearlessly tackle topics like love, desire, passion, relationships, sexuality and gender, BDSM, tantric sex, massage, touching, kissing, and masturbation – essentially, anything and everything related to intimacy. If you're ready to explore the complexities and nuances of human connection and desire in a respectful and insightful way, you've found your space. Subscribe to The Intimacy Inquiry and join the conversation.

  1. Alexandra Beller on Body Image, Somatics, and Creating Embodied Art

    6 APR

    Alexandra Beller on Body Image, Somatics, and Creating Embodied Art

    Alexandra Beller on Body Image, Somatics, and Creating Embodied Art Choreographer, educator, and author Alexandra Beller discusses her early experiences coming of age in the 1980s amid intense diet culture, bullying, and body shaming, while finding wholeness and spiritual aliveness through dance. She describes how her body type limited casting and training opportunities, the power critics once held, and how joining choreographer Bill T. Jones’ company broke industry norms but increased public scrutiny of her body. Beller reflects on building chosen family in dance, developing internal guardrails for self-worth, and learning to receive praise without taking criticism as truth. She explores menopause as a neurological and personal rewiring that strengthened consent and self-advocacy, and shares creating a pivotal work based on her preverbal child’s developmental movement. She explains her somatic approach to helping clients access body-held emotion and why she wrote a book to support artists, creativity, and inner-critic work. 00:00 Meet Alexandra Beller 01:09 Teen Years and Body Image 04:38 Disordered Eating Pressures 06:08 Rejection and Breaking In 09:42 Critics Then and Now 11:58 Dance Community and Self Worth 16:06 Learning to Receive Praise 19:31 Love Mirrors and Self View 21:22 Menopause Rebellion and Renewal 25:22 Healthcare Gaps and Finding No 29:10 Starting a Dance Company 31:41 A Work Where Words Fail 34:03 Baby Movement as Spiritual Research 38:04 Inner Child Onstage 40:25 Why We Stop Moving 42:26 Undoing School Body Locks 45:51 Nature As Sensation 47:56 Breastfeeding And Wholeness 51:16 Helping Clients Embody 53:38 Somatic Patterns And Emotion 56:43 Why Write The Book 58:32 Writing Flow And ADHD 01:02:19 Vulnerability In Print 01:04:39 Pruning Ego And Therapy 01:06:14 Next Decade And Good Life 01:08:22 Closing Thanks https://www.alexandrabellerdances.org/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.beller.73/ https://www.youtube.com/@alexandrabeller9868 https://www.instagram.com/alexandrabellerdances/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandra-beller-0a56a57/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thelabanista?lang=en

    1hr 9min
  2. Embodying Pleasure: Patty Alfonso on Erotic Innocence, Nervous System Healing, and Expanding Intimacy

    30 MAR

    Embodying Pleasure: Patty Alfonso on Erotic Innocence, Nervous System Healing, and Expanding Intimacy

    Embodying Pleasure: Patty Alfonso on Erotic Innocence, Nervous System Healing, and Expanding Intimacy Patty Alfonso, an “erotic priestess” and creator of the Embody Her mentorship, explains her trauma-aware, body-based approach to helping women integrate pleasure, power, and truth by reconnecting with the body rather than living solely “from the neck up.” She and the host discuss somatic healing for trauma responses, technology-driven disconnection, and how patriarchy and mixed cultural messages shame women’s sexuality while exploiting it. Patty shares her personal path from a sex-silent upbringing to feminine embodiment through S Factor movement, and reframes erotic energy as creative life force connected to nature and “womb wisdom.” They explore expanding the definition of sex beyond penetration, introduce erotic blueprints as a framework for pleasure, and emphasize communication, community support, and discernment in relationships, including ethical polyamory. Patty offers resources at pattyalfonso.com/innocence. 00:00 Meet Patty Alfonso 00:43 What Is An Erotic Priestess 02:08 Living In Your Head 05:44 Trauma Lives In The Body 08:37 Her Path To Sensual Movement 12:12 Patriarchy And Pleasure 21:06 Grounding Orgasmic Energy 24:47 Erotic Living Everyday 32:39 Redefining Sex As Pleasure 34:24 Erotic Blueprints Explained 37:45 Shame And Self Exploration 41:18 Can Women Have It All 43:04 Rebuilding Community Support 44:47 Feminine Values and Balance 46:49 Womb Wisdom Beyond Motherhood 49:30 Erotic Innocence Mindset 50:04 Monogamy vs Polyamory 59:45 Kink and Safe Sex Talks 01:04:04 Erotic Energy Fuels Life 01:08:24 Sensual Blueprint Senses 01:12:08 Discernment in Partnership 01:17:58 Future Visions and Pilgrimage 01:21:57 Closing and Listener Offer https://www.youtube.com/@PattyAlfonsoTV https://www.pattyalfonso.com/innocence https://www.facebook.com/pattyalfonsohealer https://instagram.com/thepattyalfonso

    1hr 23min
  3. #118 Cidney Green: Unfiltered, non-monogamous, empowered, and sexually liberated

    26 MAR

    #118 Cidney Green: Unfiltered, non-monogamous, empowered, and sexually liberated

    Cidney Green on Sexual Liberation, Non‑Monogamy, and Power On Intimacy Inquiry, the host speaks with Cidney Green, creator of viral Atlanta alt orgy events, the P***y Over Pain Movement, and author of the upcoming book All Three In Me. Green describes her private self as playful and affection-seeking, contrasts her teenage prudishness and dependence on male validation with an early fascination with sex, and discusses porn as entertainment rather than education. She argues society’s comfort with violence but discomfort with sex stems largely from religion and that sexual shame suppresses personal power, especially for women. Green explains her path into polyamory via a poly Facebook group and an open relationship, framing monogamy as illogical and historically tied to property and womb control. She shares why she wrote the book, reactions to her sex-party notoriety, her views on nudity, self-care practices, sex magic/manifestation, fantasies she hasn’t fulfilled, and her long-term desire for a compound with two to three husbands. 00:00 Meet Cidney Green 00:41 Who Is Cidney Really 01:45 Teen Years And Validation 03:58 Early Sexual Awakening 06:31 Why Violence Wins 11:43 Porn As Entertainment 17:18 Sexual Shame And Power 20:19 Defining Sexual Freedom 22:41 Discovering Non Monogamy 28:13 Monogamy And Womb Control 31:35 Writing All Three In Me 35:20 Backlash And Going Viral 40:18 Book Cover Meanings 42:11 Nudism And Authority 44:41 Body Shame Learned Early 46:33 Europe vs UK Nudity 48:29 Strip Clubs and Odd Laws 51:09 Private Sex Shops Era 51:56 Evolving Sexual Needs 53:39 Sex Magic Manifesting 58:02 Porn Preferences Unfiltered 01:00:11 Fantasies Threesomes and Anal 01:04:56 Pleasure Patriarchy and FGM 01:09:04 Religion Rape Culture and Orgasm Gap 01:14:55 Self Care and Saying Yes 01:17:31 Hollywood Casting and Poly Love 01:20:37 Wrap Up and Farewell https://www.all3inme.com/ https://x.com/thecidneyg https://www.youtube.com/@thecidneyg https://www.instagram.com/cidney_green?igsh=MTRlczF5eGpvOHcxaA== https://www.tiktok.com/@cidneygreen?_r=1&_t=ZP-94wGESSy5D4

    1hr 22min
  4. #117 Radical Honesty, Modern Intimacy, and Sex Work

    23 MAR

    #117 Radical Honesty, Modern Intimacy, and Sex Work

    Radical Honesty, Modern Intimacy, and Sex Work: Elizabeth Romanova on Stigma, Boundaries, and Independence London-based escort and adult content creator Elizabeth Romanova, a single mother to a 15-year-old, discusses her decade-plus in sex work, her choice of “radical honesty” at home, and how she navigates stigma and judgment by avoiding online comments. She describes exploring different parts of the industry (escorting, porn, webcamming, OnlyFans) and valuing creator control, travel, and flexible work. Romano explains client motivations—from married men seeking intimacy to lonely single men wanting companionship—and how she sets boundaries, including refusing condomless sex and blocking unsafe requests. She reflects on trust, spotting lies, and the difficulty couples have discussing desires, which she links to cheating. She outlines self-care, peer support among sex workers, the business side (marketing, tax, accountants), legal caution when touring, and her focus on supporting her daughter toward university while feeling happy and independent. 00:00 Meet Elizabeth Romanova 01:38 Why She Stays 02:14 Exploring Sex Work 03:49 OnlyFans Control 04:53 Porn Industry Shift 06:06 Honesty With Daughter 07:59 Handling Stigma Online 10:51 Married Clients Needs 14:13 Emotional Boundaries 16:24 Dating As Sex Worker 19:06 Safety And Hard Limits 22:28 Trust And Intimacy Talk 27:13 Dating Men vs Women 27:45 Redefining Masculinity 28:58 Equality and Independence 30:42 Intimacy Beyond Sex 32:18 Self Care Routines 33:23 Industry Friendships 35:34 Business Side of Sex Work 38:23 Setting Boundaries 41:00 Staying Legal on Tour 42:05 Future Plans and Parenting 45:31 AI and Career Security 46:14 Happy Ending and Farewell https://www.vivastreet.co.uk/escort/gb https://www.adultwork.com/dlgExtRatings.asp?U=4386722

    48 min
  5. #116 From Sexual Shame to Sovereignty with Jocelyn Silva

    19 MAR

    #116 From Sexual Shame to Sovereignty with Jocelyn Silva

    From Sexual Shame to Sovereignty: Pleasure, Communication, and Unlearning Conditioning with Jocelyn Silva Empowerment coach and sex educator Jocelyn Silva shares how growing up Catholic in the San Fernando Valley shaped intense shame-based messages about sex, and how a positive first sexual experience and feminist activism led her to leave the church and become a sex educator with Coochie La, teaching comprehensive sex ed in low-income communities. She and the host discuss how shame and political forces restrict bodily sovereignty, why online information and porn can mislead young people, and how reframing “sex” as “pleasure” reduces performance pressure. Silva explains signs of performative sex, how stress and lack of emotional safety affect desire, and how clients can shift limiting beliefs using a thoughts-feelings-actions framework. She emphasizes scripts and mediated conversations to help couples speak desires, build distress tolerance, and address compatibility, and she outlines hopes to keep traveling, create retreats, write a book, and expand her community. 00:00 Meet Jocelyn Silva 00:43 Catholic Shame Messages 03:10 Is Sex Education Improving 04:56 Power Shame Control 07:13 Porn Information Overload 11:48 From Repression To Educator 16:12 Redefining Sex As Pleasure 19:44 Performative Sex Signs 22:44 Feeling Broken And Healing 26:49 Sex Differences Myth 27:52 Social Conditioning Clash 29:12 Same Gender Dynamics 31:33 Breaking Cultural Scripts 33:18 Rewiring Beliefs CBT 37:06 Aging Bodies New Sex 38:59 Speak Your Desires 41:13 Sharing Kinks Safely 43:38 Vulnerability Money Sex 44:59 Place Shapes Intimacy 47:50 Disconnecting Tech Era 50:04 Coach Boundaries Self Care 52:17 Future Vision Wrap https://www.jocelynsilva.com/ https://www.instagram.com/iamjocelynsilva/ https://substack.com/@therelentlesslover

    53 min
  6. #115 Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori Jenae

    16 MAR

    #115 Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori Jenae

    Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori Jenae Trauma-informed relationship and confidence coach Tori Jenae shares how complex childhood trauma shaped her nervous system and dating patterns, including perfectionism, control, low-grade anxiety, and avoidant “push-pull” intimacy. She explains how early attachments create “love maps,” why trauma is stored in the body, and critiques talk therapy that stops at the mind, emphasizing somatic work and safety in relationship as key to healing. Tori recounts leaving home at 17, breaking a family lineage of addiction, and finding safety with her ex-husband, with whom she was married for 20 years. The conversation also covers antidepressants and holistic health factors, the loneliness epidemic and monetized intimacy, what healthy intimacy feels like, ways couples rebuild connection, and her “Reclamation Method” and ABCs of healing: awareness, beliefs, and clearing. 00:00 Meet Tori Jenae 00:48 Early Trauma Signs 02:57 Love Maps and Attachment 05:07 Breaking Family Cycles 09:32 Resilience and Purpose 12:40 Learning to Trust 16:56 Healing Through the Body 21:43 Holistic Mental Health 28:38 Loneliness and Lost Intimacy 32:14 Loneliness Needs People 32:31 Dating Apps Reality Check 34:08 What Matters Most 35:04 Stop Living Through Phones 37:33 Success Yet Unworthy 40:33 Happiness Inside You 43:06 Reclamation Method Basics 45:34 ABCs of Healing 51:08 Therapist Boundaries 54:12 Healthy Love Today 55:41 Rekindling Long Term Intimacy 01:02:16 Never Stop Dating 01:03:17 Planning the Future 01:04:44 Closing Thanks https://www.torijenae.com/opt-in-d7dec567-5a03-4245-b2fa-929599de006a https://www.torijenae.com/ https://www.instagram.com/tori.jenae/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/tori-jenae-ma-psych-a6051766/

    1hr 5min
  7. Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting Intimacy

    13 MAR

    Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting Intimacy

    Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting Intimacy Elana Auerbach, a sensuality guide and educator, discusses her book and “The Sure Thing” love experiment: a simple weekly pleasure practice designed to help couples replace sex struggles and performance pressure with reliable intimacy, desire, and joy. She shares her personal history of dissociation, sexual awakening, and her purpose as a “priestess of love and connection,” explaining how a 12-year desire mismatch with her spouse shifted after they committed in December 2020 to a weekly Saturday practice focused on connection rather than goals or orgasm. The conversation covers redefining sex beyond penetrative acts, addressing shame as “the elephant in the bedroom,” building the ability to ask for what you want, and how regular pleasure practices can improve relationships, family life, and community well-being. She also touches on consent, solo practice, non-monogamy as a choice, and future plans to expand the book’s reach and create audio guided visualizations. 00:00 Meet Elana Auerbach 00:57 Book Arrival Surprise 03:05 Teen Years Awakening 06:54 Calling and Priestess Path 07:56 Creating Weekly Practice 14:30 Why It Works 19:50 Redefining Sex and Pleasure 26:46 Practical How To Start 29:00 Preparing and Rituals 32:28 Requests and Knowing Wants 34:09 Inviting Partner In 34:39 Inviting Your Partner 35:54 Solo Pleasure Practice 36:46 Shame In The Bedroom 38:37 Naming And Healing Shame 42:35 When Desire Changes 46:46 Ask For What You Want 50:00 Pleasure Changes Everything 54:38 Designing Your Sure Thing 59:17 Monogamy Or Choice 01:01:21 Whats Next And Closing A special gift for listeners to the podcast: A guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire! https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self Website: https://surethingexperiment.com/ FB: facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor IG: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elana-auerbach-387875b3/

    1hr 8min
  8. Embodiment, Consent, and Leaving a Sexless Marriage

    11 MAR

    Embodiment, Consent, and Leaving a Sexless Marriage

    Embodiment, Consent, and Leaving a Sexless Marriage: Skylar Lyralen Kaye on Queer Intimacy and Self-Love Non-binary, gender-fluid writer and solo performer Skylar Lyralen Kaye discusses their work on intimacy, queerness, and mental health, and describes a day-to-day life grounded in solitude, meditation, yoga, hiking, and paddleboarding after moving from the US to Portugal, which they find safer, more peaceful, and less achievement-driven. They redefine success as quality of life, joy, love, and inner peace, and explain how embodiment practices and theater training helped release trauma-held “armor,” highlighting limits of talk therapy and the importance of somatic work. Skylar recounts leaving a 35-year sexless marriage in their sixties after recognizing asexuality, grief-related disconnection, and awakening sexual energy, then navigating queer online dating, boundaries, and consent. They share how they handle vulnerability in memoir/performing through craft, distance, and universality, and emphasize self-love through integrating shadow and inner parts while embracing a quieter, happier future. 00:00 Meet Skylar Kaye 00:45 Daily Life and Solitude 02:15 Portugal vs America 05:02 Redefining Success 09:37 Embodiment Breakthrough 13:20 Somatic Healing Beyond Talk 19:24 Social Media and Self Worth 22:01 Leaving a Long Marriage 29:12 Dating Again and Boundaries 32:56 Consent Culture in Practice 38:57 Sharing Intimacy on Stage 39:52 Gut Check Boundaries 41:57 Memoir Not Diary 43:36 Queer Story Duty 46:04 Learning Self Love 52:11 Nature Connection 57:16 Aging Wisdom Access 01:04:23 Bridging Generations 01:09:48 Why Publish Memoir 01:15:36 One Step Unstuck 01:19:42 Future In Portugal https://lyralenkaye.com/ https://www.instagram.com/lyralenkaye/?hl=en https://lyralenkaye.substack.com/

    1hr 22min
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Welcome to The Intimacy Inquiry. Join us for open, curious, and non-judgmental conversations exploring the vast landscape of intimacy and sexuality. We delve into everything, including but not limited to, the value of good sex education to the importance of exploring and understanding our own bodies, overcoming trauma, and how to forge deeper connections with your partner, . Our expert guests include sex therapists, adult content creators, sexologists, authors, somatic healers, porn addiction specialists, marriage and family therapists, intimacy therapists, trauma-informed counselors, and many more. Using explicit language with respect, we fearlessly tackle topics like love, desire, passion, relationships, sexuality and gender, BDSM, tantric sex, massage, touching, kissing, and masturbation – essentially, anything and everything related to intimacy. If you're ready to explore the complexities and nuances of human connection and desire in a respectful and insightful way, you've found your space. Subscribe to The Intimacy Inquiry and join the conversation.

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  • Creator
    Andrew Phipps
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    118
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Andrew Phipps
  • Show Website
    The Intimacy Inquiry