You can do everything right. You can love your spouse with everything in you. But if you don't understand that sex is not just an act but an art that must be learned, if you don't create a mental picture of your partner's body in your mind, and if you're not intentional about throwing the clock away and stopping the pressure to perform, you'll miss the foundation that holds everything together. In this deeply vulnerable, profoundly insightful episode of Unbroken Podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with Angela from Angel Consult, a sex therapist and relationship coach, for an unfiltered conversation that will challenge everything you think you know about what it takes to build sexual intimacy in marriage, why you need to close your eyes and see your partner in your mind's eye, and the uncomfortable truth that we don't spend time creating mental pictures of our partners because sex has become heterotic instead of pleasurable. Angela holds nothing back. She breaks down why sex is an act and an art that you have to learn to perform well, why you need to sit down together naked and close your eyes and feel each other's body to create a mental picture of your partner, and the one thing most couples refuse to accept: no matter where you are in the world you should be able to close your eyes and see your partner in your mind's eye so you know your wife's body offhand and can tell when something is off. She reveals why these preliminaries are more pleasurable than even the act itself, how before you get into the act your mind your body your nerves everything should be relaxed so the woman is ready to receive you and the man is ready to come to you, and the moment that changes everything: when you stop rushing it and start investing in each other and having time for each other instead of taking something to boost yourself. She also explains why it's usually people who are not taking their partner serious or just want to eat some and go or a partner who is cheating who rush through sex, how when you throw the clock away and don't count the minutes you remove unnecessary pressure and can enjoy the moment, and the one thing every couple needs to know: it can be one minute but it will hit you hard it can be two minutes but it will sound like you will praise God because God made sex in such a way that we have no choice but to say oh my God. This isn't just sex education. It's a masterclass in understanding why an hour or an hour and a half of penetrative sex is not pleasure but enduring it, why if you really take time and work on each other and love on each other with foreplay included it can get to one hour and both of you are satisfied before you get to penetration, and how where it is just casual sex or friends with benefits or just hit and run there's no pleasure and that's where people count the minutes. Angela dives into why the young ones unfortunately think that a man who can go longer means the man is good in bed forgetting that he's pumped his system with drugs to do that, how if you want proper intimacy you throw the clock away and nobody should be checking how long it will take, and the uncomfortable reality that so many factors affect intimacy and it should be talked about because society has placed a stigma on talking about sex so people can't openly say that they struggle with this. She also tackles why seeking help from therapists like herself is not something to be ashamed of, how she walks couples through sexual visualization in front of her for them to work on each other's mind and right then you could see the tension between them and they can't wait to get out of the office and go home, and the one thing every person needs to understand: we are doing this not because it is sin but for Christians and children of God to see that it is proper to seek knowledge and do it the right way so you benefit from it. If you're married, wondering why sex feels like a chore instead of a joy, or asking yourself how to create a mental picture of your partner's body so you can visualize them no matter where you are in the world, this conversation will give you the clarity, the language, and the courage to stop counting the minutes and start throwing the clock away so both of you can invest in each other and learn the act and the art of sex and experience the intimacy you were meant to enjoy. Guest: Angela from Angel Consult ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journ
