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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together. Hosted by Tera Wages of the I Get It podcast. For free resources to a better marriage go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    The Hidden Gut Issues Hijacking Your Emotions (& How To Fix Them) | With Allison Jordan

    What if your anxiety, anger, or depression isn't a mental health issue—but a gut health issue? In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Allison Jordan, a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and founder of Better Bellies Therapies, who reveals how hidden infections, digestive dysfunction, and mineral imbalances can hijack your emotions and leave you feeling broken. Allison shares her groundbreaking "Five Toxin Trap" framework that has helped hundreds of clients come off anxiety medications, eliminate chronic pain, and finally understand why traditional medicine keeps missing the root causes of their symptoms. You'll discover: Why C. diff infections can cause chronic anxiety by blocking dopamine conversionHow H. pylori in your stomach prevents you from absorbing the nutrients needed for neurotransmittersThe shocking connection between copper toxicity and 50% of divorcesWhy your "stress" diagnosis might actually be parasites, food sensitivities, or poor detoxificationHow one client's sugar cravings disappeared in 3 days after removing hidden food sensitivitiesThe at-home baking soda test to check your stomach acid levelsWhy hormone imbalances aren't the root cause—and what is This episode is for you if: You've been told "it's just stress" or "it's all in your head"You're struggling with anxiety, depression, or anger that won't budge despite therapy or medicationYou have chronic health issues like IBS, acid reflux, insomnia, or unexplained painYou've tried "everything" but still don't feel like yourselfYou're tired of being told you lack willpower when it comes to food cravings or emotional regulationAllison's approach is different from conventional medicine—she uses specialized testing that hospitals don't run to find infections like chronic low-grade C. diff, H. pylori, parasites, mineral imbalances, food sensitivities, and liver congestion that are driving your symptoms. The best part? Many of these issues are completely reversible when you address the actual root cause instead of just managing symptoms. Keywords: anxiety root causes, gut health and mental health, emotional health solutions, functional medicine for anxiety, gut-brain connection, hidden infections causing anxiety, food sensitivities and mood, copper toxicity symptoms, H. pylori emotional symptoms, natural anxiety treatment, digestive health and emotions, chronic fatigue root causes, IBS solutions, emotional regulation strategies, holistic mental health RESOURCES MENTIONED: Allison Jordan's Resources: Better Bellies Therapies Website: betterbellytherapies.com/constipation (Free baking soda test recipe)Free Training on the 5 Toxin Trap: betterbellytherapies.com/trainingThe Better Belly Podcast: Episode 159 (Copper Toxicity) & Episode 267 (Best Food Sensitivity Test)Connection Codes Resources: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesExplore Connection Codes Programs: www.connectioncodes.co ABOUT ALLISON JORDAN: Allison Jordan is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner who has been helping clients heal chronic gut and health issues since 2018. After experiencing her own health crisis—including losing her period for two years, chronic pain, insomnia, IBS, and anxiety—she discovered the root causes conventional medicine missed and now teaches others how to do the same. Allison hosts the Better Belly Podcast and has helped hundreds of clients reverse conditions like chronic constipation, anxiety, autoimmune diseases, and unexplained symptoms through her signature "Five Toxin Trap" framework. CONNECT WITH ALLISON: Website: betterbellytherapies.comPodcast: The Better Belly PodcastInstagram: @betterbellytherapies CONNECT WITH CONNECTION CODES: Website: www.connectioncodes.coInstagram: @connectioncodesSchool of Connection: www.connectioncodes.co/school

    47 min

  2. 27 JAN

    Walking Through Difficulty Over & Over Again - How Creativity Heals Identity When Life Falls Apart

    What happens when you lose your identity in a new country, face 65 consecutive rejections, and your creative voice gets buried under the weight of just surviving? Lara Pilcher, actress, author, and ICF-certified coach, shares her raw journey from Melbourne to America—and how creativity became her lifeline when everything else fell apart. In this deeply vulnerable conversation, Lara reveals: Why creativity isn't just for artists—it's a life force everyone needs to surviveHow she rewrote her entire book after getting dropped by her literary agentThe difference between grief and depression (and why most creatives are actually grieving)Why we shut down creativity during pain—and how to awaken it againThe "mansion with many rooms" approach to finding your creative voiceHow rejection taught her resilience and audacity in a saturated worldThis episode is for you if: You've lost touch with your creative self and don't know how to find it againYou're processing grief, loss, or major life transitionsYou feel stuck in the "acquisitions track" and disconnected from who you really areYou need permission to be a beginner again—to skip, dance, paint, or create badlyYou're afraid of judgment and need to "embrace the cringe"Glenn and Phyllis explore how creativity connects directly to identity, emotional health, and relationship wellness. This isn't about becoming an artist—it's about reconnecting with the part of you that says "there I am." About Lara Pilcher: Lara Pilcher is an actress, author, and ICF PCC-certified coach who has performed on London's West End and now helps creative souls reclaim their voice. Her debut book Audacious Artistry: Reclaim Your Creative Identity and Thrive in a Saturated World releases through a London publisher after a journey of resilience that included 65+ rejections and completely rewriting her manuscript. Mentioned in this episode: Brené Brown's research on creativity as life forceDr. Echo Hill on grief vs. depressionWill Palomo on creativity as "connecting the seemingly unconnected"Diane Collards' I Choose to ForgiveResources: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesFind Lara's book Audacious Artistry at Barnes & Noble, Waterstones (UK), Blackstone's (Australia), and all major booksellersLearn more: www.larabiancapilcher.comKeywords: mental health, emotional wellness, creativity and identity, overcoming rejection, marriage communication, grief vs depression, emotional regulation, relationship coaching, creative identity crisis, finding yourself again, emotional health tools, leadership development, creative resilience

    46 min

  3. 20 JAN

    From Judgment to Curiosity: What Judgment Is Costing You and What Changes When You Get Curious

    What if the harshest critic in your life isn't someone else—it's you? We judge ourselves constantly. Our fears, our bodies, our parenting, the way we show up in relationships. And while we think judgment is motivating us to change, it's actually keeping us trapped in cycles of shame, anger, and disconnection. In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill, and Tera Wages unpack the destructive patterns of self-judgment and reveal the powerful alternative that transforms everything: curiosity. You'll discover: Why toddlers don't judge themselves and what we can learn from their natural self-acceptanceThe shame-anger cocktail that fuels judgment and keeps you stuckHow 10 seconds of curiosity can completely change any interaction or internal struggleWhy keeping your struggles secret feeds shame and makes judgment growThe question that stops judgment cold and opens the door to compassionHow to recognize your personal trigger topics so you can respond differently next timeWhy social media has created a judgment epidemic and how to protect yourselfReal-life examples of shifting from judgment to curiosity in marriage, parenting, and everyday momentsWhat to do when someone shuts down (the "still face" phenomenon) and you feel flooded with shameWhether you're battling negative self-talk, living in fear of others' opinions, or finding yourself quick to criticize people around you, this conversation will give you practical tools to break the judgment cycle and step into genuine emotional freedom. What you'll walk away with:The understanding that judgment isn't helping you grow—it's keeping you isolated. But when you get curious about yourself and others, everything shifts. Compassion replaces criticism. Connection replaces division. And you finally get the space to be your authentic, vulnerable self. Keywords: self-judgment, mental health, emotional regulation, marriage counseling, shame and anger, curiosity vs judgment, self-compassion, relationship communication, emotional intelligence, breaking negative patterns, therapy tools, mental wellness, emotional freedom, self-criticism, Nashville therapist

    56 min

  4. 13 JAN

    When Pain Becomes Home: Breaking the Pattern That Keeps You Stuck

    Have you ever noticed how easy it is to stay in painful patterns—even when you know they're hurting you? In this powerful episode, we explore why pain becomes a "home base" for so many people, how depression and emotional suffering can feel safer than joy, and what it actually takes to break free. In this episode, you'll discover: Why homeostasis keeps us returning to painful patterns (even when we desperately want change)The psychological phenomenon of anhedonia—the inability to experience joy—and how to recognize it in your own lifeHow pain can become a badge of honor and part of your identityThe three essential ingredients for lasting transformation: pattern disruption, new environment, and timeWhy all eight core emotions (including pain AND joy) are designed to protect and guide youReal stories of radical pattern breaking—from career changes to selling everything and starting overHow to recognize when you're living in emotional survival mode versus thrivingKey insights from this episode: Glenn shares his experience of living with depression as his baseline for decades, where his daily goal was to "claw my way up to zero." Phyllis reveals the moment she knew their marriage pattern had to break—when she told Glenn to quit his construction job and go back to school, even though she'd never supported the family before. Tera opens up about her own relationship with pain, realizing she wore it as a badge of honor—even laughing through physical pain because she wanted to be seen as strong, not weak. The message of pain is simple: there's a problem. But too many of us have become numb to it, accepting suffering as "just the way it is." This episode will help you identify where pain has become your comfort zone and give you the courage to disrupt the pattern. Keywords: emotional health, mental health, depression recovery, marriage transformation, breaking patterns, emotional regulation, identity crisis, joy and pain balance, relationship coaching, emotional processing, therapy tools, mental wellness, overcoming depression, emotional awareness, self-discovery Resources mentioned: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesSchool of Connection (starts Jan 20): www.connectioncodes.co/school

    46 min

  5. 6 JAN

    Why Your Emotions Are Throwing a Temper Tantrum (And What to Do About It)

    What if the "temper tantrums" in your life—whether from your kids, your partner, or even yourself—aren't misbehavior at all, but a desperate cry to be heard? In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill and Tera Wages unpack a powerful truth: our emotions are pitching a temper tantrum when they're not being acknowledged. From the three-year-old crying over a scraped knee to the adult who shuts down completely, we explore what happens when our emotional energy is resisted instead of received. In This Episode: Why saying "you're okay" to a crying child creates two problems instead of solving oneHow emotional resistance shows up differently in adults (yelling, shutting down, or exploding)The powerful three-phrase framework that stops tantrums in their tracksReal stories of transformation when couples learn to follow each other's energyWhy our culture teaches us that suppressing emotions is mature (and why it's actually destroying us)Whether you're parenting young children, navigating marriage conflict, or trying to understand your own emotional patterns, this episode will help you recognize when energy is being resisted—and how to create connection instead. Key Concepts: Emotional regulation and emotional healthThe "ooh" response and following energyTemper tantrums in children and adultsMarriage communication and conflict resolutionParenting with emotional intelligenceMental health and self-awarenessLeadership through emotional presenceResources Mentioned: Connection Codes Three-Phrase Magnet (available on our website)The Core Emotion WheelFoundations CourseReady to stop resisting and start connecting? This episode will change how you see every "temper tantrum" in your life. Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches

    37 min

  6. 30/12/2025

    The Monday Mindset: Breaking The Cycle & Actually Starting Fresh in 2026

    What if the secret to actually starting fresh in 2026 isn't about making better resolutions—but about stopping to process what 2025 is trying to tell you? In this transformative year-end episode, marriage and family therapist Dr. Glenn Hill shares why he loves Mondays, New Year's, and fresh starts—and the framework that makes them actually work. Glenn and his wife Phyllis get vulnerable about their year of burnout, chronic pain, and the pivotal moments that changed everything. Tera Wages guides them through a reflection process that goes beyond surface-level goal-setting to create real, lasting transformation. You'll discover: The "Monday Mindset" approach to fresh starts that actually creates changeWhy your high pain tolerance is keeping you stuck (and how to recognize it)The year-end reflection framework: what went well, what didn't, and what to do about itHow to stop the cycle of ignoring pain and hoping things will "just get better"The difference between processing pain and managing pain (one leads to breakthrough, one leads to burnout)Why "letting bygones be bygones" guarantees you'll repeat the same patterns in 2026How to identify what to replicate vs. what to eliminate as you enter the new year Key Topics: New Year goals, fresh starts, emotional health, mental health, marriage counseling, burnout recovery, chronic pain management, year-end reflection, goal setting, emotional intelligence, relationship coaching, leadership development, self-care, mental wellness, therapy tools, emotional processing, work-life balance, New Year's resolutions alternative Powerful Moments: Glenn opens up about barely celebrating the holidays a year ago due to burnout—and where he is todayPhyllis shares her journey from standing at the Grand Canyon unable to walk to reclaiming her body and futureThe "hot stove competition" analogy that will change how you view pain tolerance foreverWhy Echo's confrontation became the catalyst for Phyllis's transformationThe truth about psycholation (psychological isolation) and why "don't air your dirty laundry" is destroying usHow Connection Codes is expanding in 2026 with the School of Connection and more in-person events The Framework: Look backward - What went well? (Find your bullseye to replicate)Process the pain - What didn't go well? (Identify what needs to shift)Take action - What specific steps will eliminate the pain and pour gas on what's working? Resources Mentioned: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesSchool of Connection (Enrollment Open - Starts Jan 20): https://www.connectioncodes.co/school-of-connectionClarity Reset (Perfect for fresh starts): https://www.connectioncodes.co/clarity-resetFoundations Masterclass: https://www.connectioncodes.co/foundationsIf you're tired of the same cycle of New Year's resolutions that fade by February, this episode will give you the Monday Mindset framework to make 2026 actually different. Because fresh starts only work when you stop ignoring what your emotions are telling you. Connect with us:Instagram: @connectioncodesWebsite: www.connectioncodes.co

    56 min

  7. 23/12/2025

    Shrimp Rings & Silver Trees: The Holiday Traditions That Made Us Who We Are

    What do a silver Christmas tree, a shrimp ring, and a pen from a Pringles can all have in common? They're all part of the wild, wonderful, and sometimes ridiculous Christmas journey of Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill! In this fun and festive episode, Glenn, Phyllis, and Tera open up about their favorite Christmas traditions—from Phyllis's magical German childhood with St. Nicholas bringing candlelit trees on Christmas Eve, to Glenn's silver tree with a spinning color wheel, to their hilariously humble first married Christmas together. They share how they've created over-the-top holiday magic for their kids and now 12 grandkids, including elaborate scavenger hunts, cousin extravaganzas, and Glenn's famous Christmas plays. In this episode, you'll hear: Phyllis's German Christmas traditions (so different from American ones!)Glenn's confession about thinking Velveeta was "real cheese"Their first married Christmas story (you won't believe what they gave each other)The legendary "shrimp ring years" their kids still talk aboutHow they create magical experiences for 12 grandkidsThe evolution of their family Christmas celebrationsWhat happens when your adult kids start their own traditionsEveryone's favorite Christmas songs, foods, and moviesPerfect for: Anyone who loves Christmas, families creating traditions, parents and grandparents who go all-out for the holidays, anyone curious about international Christmas celebrations, couples building their own family culture Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches Keywords: Christmas traditions, holiday memories, family celebrations, German Christmas, creating family traditions, grandparenting, Christmas magic, holiday joy, marriage and family, festive season, cultural differences, Christmas stories

    56 min

  8. 16/12/2025

    When Humor Hurts: Navigating Experiencing the Same Situation Differently

    Why do the same moments bring one person joy and another person pain? And how can we stop letting those differences destroy our relationships? In this powerful episode, Glenn, Phyllis, and Tera unpack a transformative truth: we all enter the same situations with completely different backstories, and those differences create conflict faster than anything else—especially during the holidays. Tera shares a vulnerable story about feeling hurt by Glenn's teasing, only to discover they have polar opposite beliefs about what jokes mean. Glenn grew up believing you only joke about things that aren't true, while Tera learned that every joke contains truth. Same behavior. Completely different experiences. Glenn and Phyllis walk through real-life examples—from music preferences to days off—showing how our childhood experiences shape what brings us joy or pain today. They share practical tools for conveying your experience without attacking your partner, and how to create curiosity instead of conflict. In this episode, you'll discover: Why the holidays amplify relational disconnection (and how to navigate family gatherings without losing yourself)The simple phrase that stops emotional flooding before it creates an "emotional dam"How one couple discovered why the husband's day off was his most dysregulated day of the weekWhy saying "I felt hurt" is completely different than "that hurt me"The secret to making space for both people's experiences without anyone being "wrong"How to recognize when you're losing your identity and what to do about itFeatured Story: A client discovers his day off triggers fear because he doesn't know his worth outside of work—and the powerful moment when he finds himself through the Core Emotion Wheel. This episode will transform how you approach conflict, whether it's with your spouse, your kids, your coworkers, or your extended family. Because the goal isn't to change what you like or agree on everything—it's to see each other. Resources mentioned: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesPrograms referenced: Clarity Reset (for identity work and emotion processing): https://www.connectioncodes.co/clarity-resetFoundations Masterclass: https://www.connectioncodes.co/foundationsLate Night Program: https://www.connectioncodes.co/late-night

    59 min
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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together. Hosted by Tera Wages of the I Get It podcast. For free resources to a better marriage go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/

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    Connection Codes
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    203
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