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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD, discuss the following listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld.
1. What do you make of the common description that narcissistic/highly disagreeable people “wear a mask.” Do high disagreeables go around actively and purposefully fooling people about their true feelings and intentions any more than other people do? We all try to put on a good face for the most part, but is this actually more true for certain personalities types?
2. I discovered your podcast a while ago, and I've been fascinated. However, something sat not quite well with me, and that is that I couldn't integrate my experience of trauma within your framework. I've been raised by Narcissistic people, and ever since then, I found myself regularly in Close relationships with various narcissistic people. As far as I understand you, this is purely because those can be attractive people and has nothing to do with my upbringing. And I think it does; I think that simply my cost benefit analysis has been skewed that way: that I would consider my parents being worth my while and to avoid cognitive dissonance, I would also accept bad treatment from other people. Or is Cognitive dissonance not a thing in evolutionary psychology? I'd be glad if you could comment on that.
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Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              
Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D.
Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org
True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us
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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses a listener question with host, Nathan Gershfeld.
In episode 328 dr lisle answered a questioner who was frustrated about their lower income relative to friends. One aspect of that question was that life isn’t always about making money or climbing dominance hierarchies. In fact the very same instincts to keep pursing more can lead you to being unhappy. How then does one navigate when to pursue more and when to beat the genes? Are there any rough approximations for gauging this?
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Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              
Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. 
Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org
True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us
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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss twin studies, behavioral genetics, and the logic of evolutionary psychology with host, Nathan Gershfeld
Paper mentioned : https://tinyurl.com/j3c7tbt7
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Watch this episode on Youtube!   @BeatYourGenes
Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              
Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D.
Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org
True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us
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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discuss the following listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld
1.  I’m a 29 year old economics major and I’m frustrated because I see friends who have gone into investment banking, big law or medicine on track to make 5-10x my yearly salary. I’m making a decent living on 60k a year but I feel like an idiot for choosing my major and now it feels too late to change. What would you have to say for someone in my position? It feels like I squandered an opportunity. I know life is not just about making money but it’s a hard thing to ignore.
2.  My daughter is a good student and athlete, but she has low self-esteem. How can I help her increase her confidence?
 
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Watch this episode on Youtube!   @BeatYourGenes
Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              
Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D.
Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org
True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us
 
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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld
Today's question: 
Is psychology doomed to remain a pseudoscience based on the crowd of people who self select to go into psychology? Im a university student and it from what i can tell, the vast majority of my peers and lecturers have no interest questions like why are we this way, how did we get here? Could it have happened any other way? Instead they are mainly just interested in having self serving theory that make them feel comfortable. With one of my lecturers, i was having a conversation about Norway's adoption studies showing that adopted children had their income, criminality and income correlated with their biological parents and not their adoptive parents. My lecturer said to me “i wouldn’t want to live in a world where genes are all that matter”. It feels to me that the major obstacle to psychology is the 90% of psychologists who think this way, and that no matter how solid the arguments from the other side will be, they will just keep thinking what makes them comfortable and call it a “scientific consensus”.
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Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD & social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD  discuss the following situation with host, Nathan Gershfeld:
I cheated on my husband three years ago while traveling for work.  It was a one-night stand and we didn't exchange numbers or keep in contact.  I don't even know his last name.  Until last month, I've never told anyone about this event.  At the time I cheated, I didn't really care because my marriage was rocky and I felt unappreciated.  But my huusband and I reconnected during quarantine and I started to feel extremely guilty.  Last month, I thought I would try going to confession with my parish priest. He said I need to tell my husband as part of my penance.  I wasn't really sure how to do that, so I've sat on it.  Last weekend, I came home to my husband throwing all of my stuff out of the bedroom and trying to kick me out of the hoouse. He knows everything. Apparently, the priest followed up to see if I'd told my husband, and when my husband said he didn't understand what the priest was talking about, he told my husband about the affair.  My whole world is exploding because I thought confession was supposed to be private. Does the priest have any kind of liability or responsibility? What can I do?
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Watch this episode on Youtube!   @BeatYourGenes
Host: Nathan Gershfeld                              
Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D.
Podcast website:  http://www.BeatYourGenes.org
True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us
 
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