I Guess I’m an Adult Now...

Chizi

If you’ve ever felt like you’re just winging this whole “being an adult” thing… same. In a digital landscape filled with perfectly curated content, join Chizi Duru as she unpacks the messy, hilarious, and sometimes chaotic realities of growing up. From the lies we were told about adulthood to the sneaky ways trauma shows up in everyday life, nothing is off-limits. Expect deep convos, unfiltered rants, words of faith, wisdom, and the occasional mental breakdown (because, let’s be real we’ve all been there).  Hit play, and let’s figure it out together.

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    Dating, Love, & Marriage: Honest Advice from my African Dad - Ep 15

    Text us and share your adulting stories! My African dad is BACK — and this time we’re talking dating, relationships, marriage, culture, red flags, green flags, and everything in between. 😂 We unpack the conversations immigrant kids never have with their parents, including why he never asked about boyfriends, his evolving views on interracial dating, and what he believes women (and men!) should look for in a serious partner. This episode is honest, funny, and surprisingly vulnerable. Get ready to take notes. CHAPTERS 1:00 Growing Up African & Avoiding Dating Conversations 5:10 Cultural Expectations Around Marriage 8:00 Would Dad Accept a Non-Nigerian Partner? 12:50 Black Women & Marriage Statistics 16:00 Are Men Falling Behind? Masculinity Today 18:20 Successful Women & Men’s Insecurity 21:00 What Women Need to Know About Men 23:45 Dad’s Advice to Successful Women 26:30 Do Men Need to Work Harder? 27:30 When I Started Dating (Dad Is SHOCKED) 29:50 My Dating Experiences Now 32:00 The “Pick You Up In My Heart” Disaster 35:30 Standards, Initiative & Red Flags 37:00 What My Dad Thinks I Should Work On 39:30 Understanding My Anger & Communication Style 41:00 Should Women Date Multiple Men? 43:00 Green Flags in a Serious Partner 45:30 Financial Support & Intentionality 47:40 Men: How to Pursue a Successful Woman 48:40 Women: Watch His Actions, Not His Words 49:40 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore 51:00 What Men Should Look for in Women 52:20 How Fast Should Marriage Be Discussed? 54:00 Love Bombing & Moving Too Fast 55:10 Why Your Gut Matters in Dating You can also listen on: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e  Catch up on: The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️ I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01  https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c You might like ⬇️ An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09 https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc There's more for Season 2⬇️ Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12 https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11 https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5- Let's Be Friends! Instagram➟  https://www.instagram.com/chiziduru https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod Tiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduru Pinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/ TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=en The DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/ Business Inquiries? Music Submissions?  info@chiziduru.com (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/ Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    58 min

  2. 6 NOV

    I’m a Depressed Christian on Medication. Let’s talk about it – Ep 14

    Text us and share your adulting stories! In this episode, I open up about my mental health journey! Starting antidepressants as a Christian, unlearning the stigma around medication, and finally feeling normal for the first time in my adult life. Chapters 0:30 — Early Signs of Depression & Anxiety 6:20 — Finding My First Therapist 8:30 — Understanding Anxiety and Compulsive Habits 10:00 — Learning to Name My Emotions 11:20 — 7 Years of Therapy and Still Learning 13:00 — When Faith Meets Mental Health 14:00 — “I’m on Medication Now, and I Feel Great” 16:00 — Sobriety, Isolation, and Facing Myself 18:00 — Taking the Depression & Anxiety Assessment 22:00 — The Stigma Around Medication 23:30 — “I Didn’t Realize I Had Bias Against Meds” 31:00 — Can Christians Take Medication? 34:00 — Choosing Yourself Over People’s Opinions 36:00 — Why Faith and Meds Can Coexist 38:00 — A Year Later: Peace, Clarity, and Balance 39:20 — “This Is My First Normal Year” You can also listen on: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e  Catch up on: The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️ I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01  https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c You might like ⬇️ An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09 https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc There's more for Season 2⬇️ Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12 https://youtu.be/ahU5uaDd7DM?si=PNVY2iRoYlYmFn_d Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - S2 Ep 11 https://youtu.be/xymT216OLOE?si=cjGS2QQXJjPBkB5- Let's Be Friends! Instagram➟  https://www.instagram.com/chiziduru https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod Tiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduru Pinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/ TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=en The DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/ Business Inquiries? Music Submissions?  info@chiziduru.com (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    40 min

  3. 23 OCT

    Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Life's Uncertainty | Ep 13

    Text us and share your adulting stories! Life doesn’t always go as planned, and sometimes, the hardest moments end up teaching you the most. In this episode, my dad and I talk about what it really means to fail, start over, and find peace when life throws you curveballs. From losing loved ones and dealing with financial setbacks to learning how to pivot and keep going, he opens up about lessons that shaped his life and changed the way I see mine. It’s honest, emotional, and a reminder that failure isn’t the end. It’s just part of growing up. Chapters 3:00 – Losing a Parent & Dealing with Grief 6:30 – Building “Committee of Friends” 10:30 – Preparing for Life’s Inevitable Moments 15:00 – Financial Struggles & Learning to Save 18:30 – Losing a Job & Finding Hope 21:00 – Comparison, Social Media & Self-Worth 25:00 – Knowing When It’s Time to Pivot 28:00 – Choosing Between Law School & America 33:00 – The Curveballs That Lead to Purpose 37:00 – Faith, Family, and Hard Decisions 41:00 – Lessons on Growth & Resilience You can also listen on: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e  Catch up on: The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️ I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01  https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c You might like ⬇️ An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09 https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc There's more⬇️ I’m Tired of Pretending Money Isn’t a Big Deal - Ep 02 https://youtu.be/87F1-0fT7hw Should I Freeze My Eggs? Do I Even Want Kids? - Ep 03 https://youtu.be/RS0I-5fq6Zs Let's Be Friends! Instagram➟  https://www.instagram.com/chiziduru https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod Tiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduru Pinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/ TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=en The DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/ Business Inquiries? Music Submissions?  info@chiziduru.com (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    45 min

  4. 16 OCT

    Am I still Christian? Navigating Religion as an Adult - Ep 12

    Text us and share your adulting stories! Three years ago, I had a life-changing encounter with Jesus Christ. Since then, I’ve been on a journey of faith — full of lessons, doubts, and hard truths. In this episode, we're discussing whether I'm still a Christian, navigating religion as an Adult, and what faith really means to me. If you’ve ever questioned your beliefs, struggled with organized religion, or tried to reconcile faith with adulthood, this one’s for you. Chapters 0:00 – Intro  1:00 – How I Found Christ 3:40 – The Good Side of Christianity 6:30 – Miracles & Spiritual Gifts 11:00 – False Teachings 12:00 – Why Some Christians Struggle 14:00 – Falling Into False Teachings 21:00 – Prophecy, Manipulation & Money 26:30 – When the Church Feels Like Witchcraft 33:00 – Faith vs. Fear 38:00 – Relearning Simplicity 40:00 – Am I Still a Christian? You can also listen on: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e  Catch up on: The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️ I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01  https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c You might like ⬇️ An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09 https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc Let's Be Friends! Instagram➟  https://www.instagram.com/chiziduru https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod Tiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduru Pinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/ TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=en The DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/ Business Inquiries? Music Submissions?  info@chiziduru.com (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    42 min

  5. 9 OCT

    Should you be a Content Creator in 2025? - Ep 11

    Text us and share your adulting stories! The podcast is back with Season 2, and we’re starting off with a real one. In this episode, I open up about what it actually means to be a content creator, the pressure, the uncertainty, and the parts no one really talks about. From chasing purpose to questioning stability, I share what I’ve learned about building a creative life in a world that doesn’t always understand it. If you’ve ever thought about becoming a creator/Influencer or wondered what it’s really like behind the camera, this one’s for you. Free Live Masterclass for Aspiring Content Creators (Sign up) - https://join.teachly.ai/chiziduruwebinar/?mcp_token=eyJwaWQiOjE2ODk4OTcsInNpZCI6MjEzNzM5MTI2MywiYXgiOiJlN2E4MWUzMDQ5ZjMyMGIyYmQxZjJmNDRlNzU4OTEzYSIsInRzIjoxNzU5Njg5NzA4LCJleHAiOjE3NjIxMDg5MDh9.TJnbuKxeJgCIXUoClE5DvPgxdKg2K6alpWcFSo5u67o&fbclid=PARlRTSANPm0tleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp40xrlxy6qc7hwV-ZFTqUq5XS2oFtjy0qk_pc8Owz9uQcYQINAdGsI-4seUP_aem_Kx1D5XCTGfIfUuA7w6Bxyw  You can also listen on: Apple:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-guess-im-an-adult-now/id1810057948  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RTnICKr8KoafopcFoOLqR?si=ef446f1c3802432e  Catch up on: The very first episode of Season 1 ⬇️ I’m Starting Life Over at 29 - Ep 01  https://youtu.be/rucAJBDkc3c You might like ⬇️ An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09 https://youtu.be/_j8TtWodLcc There's more⬇️ I’m Tired of Pretending Money Isn’t a Big Deal - Ep 02 https://youtu.be/87F1-0fT7hw Should I Freeze My Eggs? Do I Even Want Kids? - Ep 03 https://youtu.be/RS0I-5fq6Zs Let's Be Friends! Instagram➟  https://www.instagram.com/chiziduru https://www.instagram.com/iguessimanadultnowpod Tiktok➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiziduru Pinterest ➟ https://www.pinterest.com/chiziduru/ TheDuruFamily TikTok ➟ https://www.tiktok.com/@thedurufamily?lang=en The DuruFamily IG ➟ https://www.instagram.com/thedurufamily_/ Business Inquiries? Music Submissions?  info@chiziduru.com (SERIOUS INQUIRIES ONLY) Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    31 min

  6. 1 AUG

    My African Dad’s UNFILTERED Take on This Generation - Ep 10

    Text us and share your adulting stories! In this episode, my dad and I reflect on growing up in two very different worlds— his analog Gen X upbringing vs my digital Nigerian-American life.  We talk dating then vs now, his reaction to me walking away from med school, and what it means to parent across cultures. He also drops timeless wisdom that goes beyond generations. Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    1h 9m

  7. 11 JUL

    An Honest Conversation with my African Dad on Addiction - Ep09

    Text us and share your adulting stories! For the first time ever, I sat down with my dad to talk about my struggle with weed addiction. I wanted to know—did he know? Did he ever suspect? And what was it like for him, watching me go through life while secretly battling something I couldn’t talk about? The conversation takes an unexpected turn when Papa Duru shares his own experimentation with marijuana after immigrating to America from Nigeria—a story he'd never told his daughter before this recording.  His vivid description of cultural shock moving from a Nigerian village where drug use was heavily stigmatized to New York during the crack epidemic provides crucial context for understanding immigrant perspectives on substance use. Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    46 min

  8. 26 JUN

    How I Broke Free of Weed Addiction after 8 years | My Story (Part 2) - Ep 08

    Text us and share your adulting stories! In this episode, I talk about how I got addicted to w*ed in college, the mental and emotional spiral that came with it, and what healing looked like for me. And if you’ve ever felt like something had a hold on you, maybe this one’s for you, too. If you’d like to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you can right now. Confess your sins and ask for forgiveness Decide in your heart to turn away from living a life not pleasing to God Acknowledge the sacrifice Jesus made for you - that he died, resurrected, and is alive today. Accept Him as your Lord and Savior Ask to receive the power of the Holy Spirit to transform you from the inside out and that he will rule and reign in your heart Resources for understanding the Gospel of Jesus video - https://youtu.be/xQkyuyE0vQk?si=Ds3sUNxfa36CY2lo  (disclaimer: I am not affiliated with this ministry at all, just a good explanation of the gospel!) Resources for mental health: https://www.cdc.gov/mental-health/caring/index.html Find a therapist -  https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Subscribe now and join our community as we figure out this adulting thing together, one conversation at a time. Watch Video Podcasts YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ChiziDuru Follow 'Chizi Duru' Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/p/DIwi7l0PwfZ/

    35 min
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If you’ve ever felt like you’re just winging this whole “being an adult” thing… same. In a digital landscape filled with perfectly curated content, join Chizi Duru as she unpacks the messy, hilarious, and sometimes chaotic realities of growing up. From the lies we were told about adulthood to the sneaky ways trauma shows up in everyday life, nothing is off-limits. Expect deep convos, unfiltered rants, words of faith, wisdom, and the occasional mental breakdown (because, let’s be real we’ve all been there).  Hit play, and let’s figure it out together.

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