Anger Management

Alastair Duhs
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The Anger Management Podcast is your weekly guide to mastering your anger and creating the calm, happy and loving relationships you’ve always wanted. Join anger expert Alastair Duhs as he shares practical tips, proven techniques and game-changing strategies to help you control your anger, master your emotions and transform your relationships into sources of calm, happiness and respect. This podcast is for anyone who’s ready to break free from anger’s grip and create a life filled with peace and connection. If you're ready to take the next step toward a calmer, more fulfilling life, tune in each week and start your journey to true anger mastery. Want to learn more? Visit AngerSecrets.com.

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    67 - Why Blaming Others Keeps You Stuck

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever said, “You made me angry” , and felt completely justified in the moment… only to be left with distance, regret and the sense that your anger is running your life? In this powerful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs is joined by Jake and Sarah for a deep dive into one of the most important skills in anger management: taking responsibility. You’ll learn why blaming others for your anger quietly gives away your power, why responsibility can feel so uncomfortable (and even frightening), and how owning your reactions is not weakness, but the single most empowering step you can take to change your relationships. This episode doesn’t just explain why responsibility matters. It gives you a clear, practical three-step process you can start using immediately to regain control and break long-standing anger patterns. Key Takeaways: Blaming others for your anger feels natural — but it silently hands away your control.Taking responsibility doesn’t mean excusing others or beating yourself up; it means owning your response.Many people resist responsibility because of fear, family conditioning, entitlement, or shame — not because they’re “bad.”Healthy guilt leads to change; shame keeps you stuck.Real change happens through a clear three-step process:Acknowledge your actionsAccept the consequencesCreate a concrete plan for future changePromises don’t change behaviour — plans and accountability do. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

    15 min

  2. 1 FEB

    66 - Why Therapy Rarely Helps With Anger: Katie's Story

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever realised your anger isn’t just affecting your relationship, but shaping the kind of parent you’re becoming? In this powerful case-study episode, anger management expert Alastair Duhs speaks with Katie, a mother who recognised that long-standing anger patterns were beginning to impact her relationship and her child. Despite trying therapy and in-person anger management, Katie still felt stuck, until she learned the right tools to manage anger in the moment it actually shows up. Katie shares her journey of breaking generational anger patterns, rebuilding trust at home and making real change within weeks. Not through perfection, but through awareness, practical skills and consistent practice. Key Takeaways: Talking about anger isn’t the same as managing it. Real change comes from learning what to do in the moment when anger starts to rise.Awareness is the turning point. Noticing early warning signs and using tools like the Tension Scale creates space to respond instead of react.Breaking generational cycles is possible. Recognising how anger is passed down can become a powerful motivation for lasting change.Progress isn’t linear — and that’s normal. Setbacks don’t mean failure; they’re part of building a new pattern.Practical tools beat theory. Techniques like positive self-talk, early disengagement, and the Anger Diary helped Katie make measurable progress quickly. Katie’s story is a reminder that you don’t need to eliminate anger — you need to learn how to work with it, early and effectively, before it causes damage. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

    14 min

  3. 25 JAN

    65 - The One Habit That Quietly Destroys Relationships

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Have you ever won an argument, only to walk away feeling tense, disconnected and strangely empty? In this insightful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger management expert Alastair Duhs explores one surprisingly common habit that quietly destroys relationships: the need to be right. Joined by AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, this deep-dive conversation reveals how the urge to win arguments fuels anger, escalates conflict and slowly erodes trust and emotional safety, even in otherwise loving relationships. Through real-world examples and practical strategies, this episode shows why being “right” often comes at a far higher cost than we realise. Rather than focusing on blame or suppression, the discussion highlights a powerful alternative: choosing understanding over ego and calm over correctness. If you’ve ever felt stuck in repeating arguments, defensive reactions or lingering resentment, this episode offers simple, practical shifts that can dramatically change how your conversations, and relationships, feel. Key Takeaways: The need to be right is one of the biggest hidden drivers of anger and relationship breakdown.Winning an argument often makes the other person feel wrong. And that feeling damages trust.Many arguments shift from problem-solving to ego defence without us realising it.Catching the moment you start defending your ego is a crucial early warning sign.Letting go of being right doesn’t mean giving up your values — it means choosing understanding.Asking curious, open-ended questions lowers defensiveness and improves communication.Prioritising calm over correctness reduces stress and creates safer, healthier relationships. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

    15 min

  4. 18 JAN

    64 - The 3 Relationship Skills Most People Are Never Taught

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Do you ever feel like you’re having the same argument over and over again? In this practical episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger management expert Alastair Duhs is joined by AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah to explore three essential relationship skills most people are never taught, yet desperately need. This episode breaks down why conflict keeps repeating even in relationships where both people care, and why struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Instead it usually means no one ever taught you the right tools. Drawing on over 30 years of real-world anger management experience, this conversation focuses on what actually helps couples reduce conflict, communicate more effectively and rebuild connection. If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of frustration, defensiveness or emotional distance, this episode gives you clear, practical strategies you can start using immediately. Key Takeaways: Conflict isn’t the problem — how you handle it is what determines whether a relationship grows or erodes.Trying to “win” arguments quietly destroys trust, connection and emotional safety over time.Active listening means understanding first, not preparing your defence — and it changes everything.Asking open, non-judgmental questions lowers defensiveness and invites real connection.Healthy relationships require intentional maintenance, not just crisis management.Small, consistent habits like quality time and appreciation matter far more than grand gestures.Struggling in relationships often reflects a skills gap — not a personal failure. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

    18 min

  5. 11 JAN

    63 - 3 Hidden Reasons You Snap So Quickly

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Do you ever feel like your anger explodes out of nowhere? In this transformative episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives deep into why anger often feels instant and uncontrollable. Through powerful insights and practical tools, you'll learn how to spot hidden tension, unlearn old habits and stay calm even in the most stressful moments. Key Takeaways: -Your anger isn’t sudden—it’s the result of hidden tension building throughout the day. -Simple body cues like tight jaws and shallow breathing can help you spot anger early. -Anger is often a learned habit, not a fixed personality trait—and habits can be changed. -Cognitive reframing lets you swap out explosive thoughts for calmer, more helpful ones. -Even in a heated moment, your brain has time to choose a new response—if you train it to. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

    16 min

  6. 4 JAN

    62 - 6 Easy Ways to Stop Anger Before It Starts

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Ever feel like your anger takes over before you even realise it’s happening? In this practical and encouraging episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares six simple but powerful tips to help you stay calm in the heat of the moment. From spotting early warning signs of anger to using empathy, these tools will help you break old patterns and respond with calmness, not conflict. Key Takeaways: -Your body gives early signs of anger, like tension and quickened breath, that you can learn to recognise and manage. -The real cause of anger isn’t what happens. It’s your thoughts about what happens. -Using the “Tension Scale” helps you catch anger before it spirals out of control. -Deep breathing, positive self-talk and short breaks can help defuse intense emotions. -Empathy and Time-Out strategies are essential tools for handling conflict in relationships. -Taking ownership of your anger empowers you to choose healthier responses, and create stronger, more respectful connections. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

    19 min

  7. 28/12/2025

    61 - 5 Hidden Excuses That Keep You Stuck in the Anger Cycle

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. If you know your anger is hurting your relationships, but you keep putting off getting help, this episode is for you. In this eye-opening conversation, anger expert Alastair Duhs unpacks the five most common objections that stop people from taking action on their anger. Whether it’s fear, pride, doubt or simply feeling “too busy,” you’ll learn how to overcome the internal resistance that keeps you stuck - and discover why change is simpler and closer than you think. Key Takeaways: -Avoidance isn’t laziness—it’s fear. But naming that fear can take away its power. -Believing you should “fix it on your own” is a trap—real strength is knowing when to ask for help. -You’re not uniquely broken—anger follows a predictable pattern that can be changed with the right tools. -Lasting change doesn’t require years of therapy—it often starts with 10 minutes a day and consistent effort. -The cost of doing nothing—damaged relationships, missed opportunities and emotional pain—is far higher than the cost of change. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

    16 min

  8. 21/12/2025

    60 - When Anger Destroys Your Relationship: Paul’s Story

    For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. What happens when the people you love start to fear your anger? In this deeply personal episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Paul’s story - a father and partner whose uncontrolled anger nearly cost him everything. Through honest reflection and powerful insights, Paul reveals how one simple tool helped him break the cycle of anger, communicate with compassion and rebuild trust with the people who matter most. Key Takeaways: -Anger is rarely random-it's often a buildup of stress, hurt and old emotional habits that go unexamined. -Recognising physical warning signs like a pounding heart or tight chest can help you pause before you react. -Awareness is the foundation for change-it allows you to step back and make conscious choices rather than defaulting to old patterns. -Expressing sadness or hurt with calm words like “that comment hurt” can create connection instead of conflict. Real change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a gradual process that starts with one decision and builds through daily effort. Links referenced in this episode: angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

    18 min
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The Anger Management Podcast is your weekly guide to mastering your anger and creating the calm, happy and loving relationships you’ve always wanted. Join anger expert Alastair Duhs as he shares practical tips, proven techniques and game-changing strategies to help you control your anger, master your emotions and transform your relationships into sources of calm, happiness and respect. This podcast is for anyone who’s ready to break free from anger’s grip and create a life filled with peace and connection. If you're ready to take the next step toward a calmer, more fulfilling life, tune in each week and start your journey to true anger mastery. Want to learn more? Visit AngerSecrets.com.

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  • Creator
    Alastair Duhs
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    66
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Alastair Duhs
  • Show Website
    Anger Management

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